Goal Setting and Implementing

8/8/2019 Goal Setting and Implementing

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Setting Goals

and Implementingthem

Exploring the tremendous power of goalsfor Personal Change

Presentation by:S K Jaiswal

DGM, IIPM

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Goal Setting

97% people dont set their Goals

Why?


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5 reasons why people dont settheir goals

1. People dont take 100%responsibility for their life

2. People dont understandimportance of goal setting

3. People dont know how to set goals

4. People have fear of rejection


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Why Life Goals, and not justcareer Goals?

In 1923, 8 richest men met at one place.Their combined wealth was more than thetotal wealth of US govt. that time

1. Charles Schwab, the Steel tycoon

2. A president of largest gas company

3. A greatest commodity trader

4. President, New York Stock Exchange

5. A Member of Presidents Cabinet6. Greatest bear on Wall Street

7. A President of worlds largest monopoly, Kruger

8. A President of the bank of International Settlement.

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25 years later

1. Charles Schwab, president of largeststeel company, lived on borrowedcapital for 5 years before his death.

2. Howard Hubson, President of largestgas company went insane.

3. One went insolvent.

4. 2 were in jail

5. Remaining three committed suicide.-(from Shiv Khera You Can Win)

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Habit # 1

Be ProactiveThe need to design ourlife in balanced manner

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WHATS MY LOCUS OF

CONTROL?

High Internal I am the master of

my fate High External I am a pawn to

my fate

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Are we the pawns of Fate?

1. Perception from social mirrorparadigms

a. Genetic determinism (DNA),

b. Psychic determinism (yourupbringing),

2. Environmental determinism (your

environment, your boss, yourfamily).

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Circle of Concern

Circle of Influence

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Circle of Concern

Circle of Influence

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Making and KeepingCommitments

At the very heart of our Circle ofInfluence is the ability to make andkeep commitments and promises.

The commitments we make toourselves and others, and our integrityto those commitments is the clear

manifestation of our Proactivity.

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Expanding the Circle ofInfluence

Be a better listener

Be more loving

Be a better learner Be a dedicated worker

Be Happy - genuinely Smile

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Viktor Frankl Story


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The Proactive ModelThe Last of the Human

Freedoms.

Stimulus Response


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Freedom

to

Choose

Stimulus Response

IndependentWill

ConscienceImagination

Self-Awarness

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HABIT 1 - BE PROACTIVE

It is in contrast to deterministictheory of life.

1. Response ability Decision of howto react. Not being reactive.

2. Choosing our response to

particular circumstances.

3. Circle of Concern and Circle ofInfluence.

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Taking the Initiative: Act or Be Acted Upon

Our basic nature is to act, and not be actedupon

Listening to Our LanguageReactive Language Proactive Language

There is nothing I can do Lets look at our alternatives

Thats just the way I am I can choose a different approach

He makes me so mad I control my own feelings

They wont allow that I can create an effectivepresentation

I have to do that I will chose an effective response

I cant I choose

I must I prefer

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App cat on exerc ses


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App cat on exerc ses:

1. For a full day, listen to your languageand that of the people around you .How often do you hear reactivephrases like

: if only, I cant, I have to ?

2. Select a problem from your work or

personal life that is frustrating to you .Determine whether it is a direct , indirector no control problem. Identify the first

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Habit 2: Begin withthe end in mind.

Control your own destiny orsomeone else will.

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HABIT 2 BEGIN WITH THEEND IN MIND

All things are created twice- Firstmental creation and then physicalcreation.

Mental Creation Involves:1. Personal mission statement.

2. Centers of life are source of security,guidance, wisdom and power.

3. Center based on principles.4. Concept of Life Grid

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Begin with the end in mind

Means..

Developing a clear picture ofwhere you want to go with your life

What your values are and

Setting goals

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The road to

anywhere is reallya life to

nowhere.

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Habit 1 said you arethe driver of your lifenot the passenger

Habit 2 says: sinceyoure the driver,decide where youwant to go and draw a

map to get there.

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Alternative Centers

Spouse centered

Family centered

Money centered

Possessioncentered

Pleasure centered

Friend/Enemy

centered Church centered

Self centered Principle Centered

Centers provide us our concepts of:

Security, Guidance, Wisdom & Power

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How our Centers Affect OurAttitudes?

Center Security Guidance Wisdom Power

Spouse How spousetreats you

Needs ofSpouse/ Self

Thingsaffectingrelationship

Limited byweakness ofspouse

Family Acceptance/Expectation ofFamily

What familywants

Life seenw.r.t. family

Limited byfamilytradition andweakness

Money how much

money u hv

Profits Everything

thru lens ofmoney

Restricted by

the money uhv

Possession

Religion

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The Principle Center

Security Guidance Wisdom PowerCorrect Principlesdont change

Correct map of life is available We are:Self-Aware,Knowledgeable,Proactiveindividualsunrestricted byexternal peopleand circumstances

Principles dont

discriminateagainst us

We can make meaningful

decision in totality, as theprinciples give balancedperception of the things

Principles are

bigger thanpeople orcircumstances

Meaningful implementation of all

our decisions is possible

Limitation is the

principle itself. Wecan choose theaction butconsequences isnot under ourcontrol

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Habit 2: Begin with the End In MindA Principle Center

Family

Spouse

Self

Church

Enemy

Friend

Pleasure

Possessions

Work

Money

Principles


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Habit 2: Begin with the End In MindPersonal Mission Statement

You could call a personal mission statement apersonal constitution: it is changeless

It should define your values and goals andbecome a standard to measure yourself

against To begin, define what is at the center of your

Circle of Influence


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Habit 2: Begin with the End In MindPersonal Mission Statement

Frankl: We detect, rather than invent ourmissions in life.

Identify Roles and Goals:What are all of the roles that you play every day

What are the goals that you have for each of theseroles?


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How do we get to theend in mind?

Write a personal missionstatement!

A personal credo or motto

that states what your life isabout.

Acts like the deep roots of a tree

that keep you stable and helpsyou to survive all the storms oflife

Puts your values into words to

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BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OFBASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF


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Developing a mission statement isfoundational to Habit 2, Begin with the

End in Mind.

It sets general guidelines for our life

based on our values and our roles and

goals.

There are four basic characteristics of

good mission statements, whether they

be personal, family, or organizational

BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OFGOOD MISSION STATEMENTSBASIC CHARACTERISTICS OFGOOD MISSION STATEMENTS



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1. A mission statement should be timeless and

changeless.

Because goals are not timeless, they should not beincluded.

Mission statements should be based uponunchanging core principles that operate regardlessof present realities or situations.

This changeless core will enable us to live with

changes inside other people and inside theenvironment.

As our consciousness grows and we mature, wewill gradually strengthen, deepen, and improve

our mission statement. Nevertheless, we should




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2. A mission statement should deal withboth ends and means.

Ends have to do with what we are about.

Means have to do with how we go aboutachieving those ends.

Principles are what we implement to achieve

those ends. Ends and means are inseparable. In truth,

ends preexist in the means. Youll neverachieve a worthy end through unworthy

means.




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3. A mission statement should deal with allfour of our basic needs:

a. To live (our physical and economic needs)

b. To love and to be loved (our cultural andsocial ends)

c. To learn (our needs to grow, develop, be

recognized, and be useful)

d. To leave a legacy (our spiritual need formeaning, for feeling that life matters, that we

add value and make a difference.




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4. A mission statement should deal with all the

significant roles of our life,

such as a parent, teacher, manager, neighbour,etc..

Internalizing our mission statement will also helpus get a clear understanding of what is trulyimportant.

Goethe once said, Things which matter most

must never be at the mercy of things whichmatter least.

This means- we learn how to say no at appropriatetimes.

Ever time we sa es to somethin that is of little



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This is personally yours

There is no right or wrong

The important question to ask yourselfis

Does it inspire me?If your answer is yes, than you did it

right.

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Take the time

Over the next few weeks to add toand edit your mission statement.

Continue to develop it until it issomething you are proud of

and put it where you can read itoften.

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What next?

Put your mission statement where youcan easily access it, like in yourjournal, agenda or mirror.

Print it, laminate it , carry it in yourpurse or wallet

Refer to it often, maybe evenMEMORIZE it.

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When your discouraged or youlose sight of the end you havein mind.

Go back to your missionstatement and read it often toget your mind back to thehaving

THE END IN MIND.39


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Life Grid- An alternative

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Goals

Long - Term Organizing

RolesMission

Statement

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Plans

Weekly Organizing

Schedule

GoalsRoles

Delegate

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Habit # 3

Put FirstThings First

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HABIT 3 PUT FIRSTTHINGS FIRST

1. It is the practical day-to-daymethod of implementingproactive and principle centeredgoals.

2. The Quadrant matrix Avoid

focusing energy on non-important matters.

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Time Management Matrix

NotIm

po

rtant

Important

Urgent Not Urgent

I II

III IV

Activities:Crises

Pressing ProblemsDeadline Driven Projects

Activities:Interruptions, some calls

Some mail, some reports

Some meetings

Proximate, pressing matters

Popular activities

Activities:Prevention, PC activities

Relationship buildingRecognizing new opportunities

Planning, recreation

Activities:Trivia, busy work

Some mail

Some phone calls

Time wasters

Pleasant activities

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Setting Goals:Why It Works!

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Reticular Activating System orRAS

The RAS filters through all these pieces of

input and decides which messages receive top

priority and full attention.

If a person repeatedly thinks about, and re-

writes a goal, the brain is focused and suddenlybecomes aware of related matters and needed

resources which are important in the realization

the goal.


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Effective Goal Setting Summary:

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1.Positive Statement2.Be Precise3.Set Priorities4.Write Goals Down5.Keep Operational Goals Small

6.Set Performance Goals7.Set Realistic Goals8.Avoid Setting Goals Too Low

1.Positive Statement2.Be Precise3.Set Priorities4.Write Goals Down5.Keep Operational Goals Small6.Set Performance Goals7.Set Realistic Goals8.Avoid Setting Goals Too Low

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Use of Neuro LinguisticProgramming for Goal Setting

1. Stating the goal in positive terms.

2. Specify the goal in sensory-based terms.

3. Specify the goal in a way that you find compelling.

4. Run a Quality Control check on the goal to ensure balance in

all areas of your home/work life.5. Ensure the goal can be self-initiated and maintained.

6. State the context of the goal.

7. State the resources needed to achieve the goal.

8. Evidence procedure

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Quote

Things which matter mostmust never be at themercy of things which

matter the least.

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Making theGoals Happen

Habit # 7

Sharpen the Saw52


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RenewalThe Seventh Habit

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HABIT 7 SHARPEN THE SAW


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HABIT 7 SHARPEN THE SAW(PRINCIPLE OF BALANCED SELF

RENEWAL)

1. Renewing the four dimensions of your nature

Physical Exercise, nutrition

Mental Reading, writing

Spiritual Value clarification & commitment, meditation

Social/emotional- Service, empathy, synergy

2. Balanced Self-Renewal synergistically makes allother habits possible.

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FOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWALFOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWAL


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PHYSICALPHYSICALExercise,Nutrition,

StressManagement

MENTALMENTALReading,

Visualizing,Planning,Writing

SOCIAL/EMOTIONALSOCIAL/EMOTIONALService, Empathy,Synergy, Intrinsic

Security

SPIRITUALSPIRITUALValue

Clarification

& Commitment,


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