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Mr. Roselli.Diana Yomtobian, owner of Monte
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closures of six, even eight but-tons, as opposed to
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look with something for everyone. A man cannot go to a function
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Colors are also very big with suits available in royal blue and
other shades rather than merely grey, blue and black, she said.
And dont think that the snug look is only meant for the young
guy with a 34-inch waist and a six-pack.
While these men may have them cus-tom-made, the big guys, such
as the football Super Bowl stars, were sporting lean suits in an
array of colors, such as red, and fabrics, like velvet.
To set off the new look from the bot-tom up, Mr. Roselli said
that wing-tip shoes are very popular.
And add to that socks in a rainbow of funky colors and wild
patterns, which are being worn by men who want to express a little
bit of personality when the sock peeks out from under.
When it comes to their clothes or at least their socks said Mr.
Roselli, dont think boys dont want to have fun, too.
Even the most conservative Wall Street guy might be doing a
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The big 80th birthday was in the not too distant future. My plan
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and early to bed. My wife Sharon thought otherwise.
Lets take the whole family to Disney World, she effused.
By that you mean airfare, hotel, food and theme park tickets for
11 people?
Right. We must start planning now. Its just six months away.
Immediately three problems came to mind: (1) the calendar, how
to go when its not too hot, too expensive, too crowded, and the
grandchildren are free from school; (2) food that is certified
kosher not only by a mashgiach, but also by my son, Yossie; (3)
and, oh, yes, money.
We ruled out July and August because of Florida heat, vacation
mobs and high season expense. We finally settled on June when the
scorching weather and massive crowds are just beginning and the
school absences would be mini-mized.
Our son, Jake, a Marine Corps reserv-ist, was able to ease some
of the pain by getting military discounts for the hotel and tickets
to the theme parks.
Arranging meals for our kosher fam-ily was like planning the
Allied inva-sion of North Africa. We agreed break-fast would be
juice, cold cereal, fruit, yogurt, milk and coffee in our rooms,
which would have refrigerators and cof-fee makers.
For lunch everyone would be on his own, because we learned that
each of the theme parks had at least one eatery that offered
limited kosher food.
We would regroup for dinner, the one time each day we would all
be together. Disney can provide full kosher meals on request, and a
great cloud of concern
was lifted when we learned that the Dis-ney kosher caterer was a
friend of Sha-rons nephew, Michael.
However, eating kosher food in a non-kosher restaurant created
the wrong impression, said Yossie, so our dinners together were
either in seclud-ed corners or, on two occasions, in ele-gant
private rooms.
Our hotel would be the new Animal Kingdom Lodge. Its vast
interior was fashioned like the headquarters of a royal African
chieftain. Carved pillars of polished wood adorned the huge
atri-um. Tribal masks and other African-style
decorations were throughout the lobby. But the most dramatic
sight was when we entered our beautiful room. Outside
Devorah and Grandpa Ed at his 80th birthday in Disney World.
The Silberfarb family celebrating Eds 80th birthday in Disney
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our windows were giraffes, zebras and long-horned deer.
Granddaughter Alina, then age three, thought they were pic-tures
until she saw them move.
Our first day we went to the Magic Kingdom, the jewel of the
Disney crown, where Cinderellas castle looms above and tourists
swirl about to await Peter Pans Wild Ride, to join Pirates of the
Caribbean and to learn that Its a Small World After All.
Granddaughter Devorah, age 11, announced that I was to be her
escort throughout Disney World. I was flat-tered until I learned
that my move-ments would be restricted. She rejected Splash
Mountain where a harrowing roller coaster ride ended in a
cold-water dunk, refreshing for a hot day. Instead we experienced
more sedate activities like a concert by animated bears playing
country music instruments and singing in a western drawl.
But nothing could match the charm of the Disney light parade
with floats twinkling in phantasmagorical designs down Main Street
of the Magic King-dom.
Overriding all was the birthday, not only my 80th, but also
nephew Michaels 50th. He and his family and Sharons sister, Joan,
joined us for part of our stay. Disney anointed me with a
saucer-size Mickey Mouse Happy Birthday, Ed button that evoked
greet-ings from all passersby. Loneliness was never a problem when
I wore it.
We ordered massive birthday cakes with suitable decorations for
each of the four celebratory dinners, marking my 80th, Michaels
50th, grandson Naftalis recent bar mitzvah and Devorahs
forth-coming bat mitzvah.
Disneys newest theme park was the Animal Kingdom, which we
explored on our second day. Featured was the Safari Ride where a
one-hour wait attested to its popularity. We climbed aboard an
all-terrain vehicle with oversized wheels and jungle markings. We
rolled along rutted roads, over shallow creeks and through
occasional swamps. Along the way we saw herds of elephants, hip-pos
taking mud baths, both black and white rhinos, a lone cheetah,
giraffes, zebras and various species of grazing African deer, while
a narrator told us about unseen animals hidden in the deep
brush.
A walking tour brought us past a pompous-looking silver back
gorilla and a regal lion. Less exotic animals were in a petting zoo
where Alina fed sheep and goats.
We devoted a day to EPCOT, known to the cognoscenti as the
Experimen-tal Prototype Community of Tomorrow. There one could
learn, among myriad other findings, the secrets of manufac-turing a
car in fact creating your own virtual car, computerizing its
design, engine type, color and other details. Then six of us
Sharon, Jake, Naftali, Devorah, Yehuda and I got in a simu-lated
version of the car and went for a hair-raising test drive.
Our main meal that day was in the dramatic Seven Seas restaurant
where one entire wall was a tank with dazzling coral reefs and
tropical fish. Among the scores of pictures from the trip is one
showing grandson Eli appearing to be part of the seascape.
The EPCOT lagoon is surrounded by pavilions of Mexico, Norway,
China, Germany, Italy, Japan, Morocco, France, the United Kingdom,
Canada and the U.S. The nations strive to tell their story, show
off their spectacular scenery, offer their exotic food and, not
incidentally,
entice you to buy their unique, pricey goods.
After sunset the EPCOT lagoon was the scene of exciting
fireworks, but before sunset there was another activ-ity. Yossie
and Michael rounded up a minyan for mincha behind the Canada
pavilion. There is, after all, a higher call-ing that surpasses
even Disney World.
And why Disney World anyway, a commercial complex, for an 80th
birth-day? It was, after all, a sentimental jour-ney to a place we
had visited 36 years earlier. Yossie was three, Jake five, and
Disney World itself was only four years old. I had seen Orlando in
my distant past when it was a land of lakes and orange groves,
later replaced by the Magic Kingdom, the monorail and a great
man-made lagoon.
Now at age 80, in this fantasyland, keeping pace with five
lively grandchil-dren, there were still moments of nos-talgia.
Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen Re-cord in New
Jersey, then the New York Herald Tribune where he was City Hall
bureau chief. Later, he was a public information officer for the
New York City Transit Authority and editor of one of its employee
publications.
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matrimonial money mattersPut financial issues on the table
before stepping down the aisle
marriage is a milestone in life, yet, many enter into the next
phase without asking their spouse some vital questions about money.
If you are among the soon-to-be wed, consider
starting a conversation using the questions below. Couples who
plan their expenses ahead of time are more likely to enjoy their
earnings, and less likely to need credit repair intervention.
meN, womeN aND weDDiNGSWomen erroneously are portrayed as the
ones who go over-the-top when it comes to spending on their big
day, but recent Harris Poll findings tell a different story. The
online study found that twice the number of men said they would or
did go into debt to pay for their dream wedding.
The study also found that both men and women valued financial
responsibility. In fact, 91 percent indi-cated a preference for
entering marriage debt-free as opposed to having a dream
wedding.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment built on trust, clear
communication and honesty, said John Heath, directing attorney for
Lexington Law. While some may find financial discussions
unnecessary, under-standing each other intimately in terms of what
you both bring to the table be it wealth or debt will strengthen
your relationship and help to avoid poten-tially serious friction
to your marriage down the road.
DiScuSSiNG moNey maTTerSSo how does one go into a marriage with
a solid finan-cial standing? Those soon-to-be-wed couples who
converse openly about their finances are more likely to enjoy their
big day with an understanding of their mates views on money. The
experts at Lexington Law offer these questions every newly engaged
couple should ask before the big day:
1. how Do you view moNey?This is a loaded question, but your
fiancs answer will help you understand their perspective and how it
aligns with yours. Here are a few conversation starters on the
subject:
How do you budget your money? Are you meticulous about your
bills and expenses,
or are you comfortable to just wing it? Whats the most you would
ever spend on a home,
car, piece of clothing, etc.?
2. how ShoulD we BuDGeT For a Family?Children are expensive,
especially if you havent planned for them. Talk to your partner
about how many children you would both like to have. Plan for child
living expenses and how they will impact your budget, i.e. clothes,
food, activities, medical expenses, schooling, etc.
3. how ShoulD we commuNicaTe aBouT moNey?Some couples are
content to let one person handle the finances, and others like to
split up the bills and share household responsibilities. Regardless
of what you
decide, it is important to have a plan in place before getting
married.
4. whaT ShoulD we Do wheN we DiSaGree aBouT SPeNDiNG?You and
your spouse wont agree on everything. In fact, you may completely
disagree on how to spend, save, and generally manage your money.
The question is: What should you do when these disagreements arise?
Avoiding the subject will put you at greater risk for financial and
marital trouble. Theres no easy answer for this one, but presenting
the topic during your con-versation is a good start.
5. Do you have aNy DeBTS ThaT i ShoulD Be aware oF?Secrets are
not the best addition to a marriage, espe-cially when it comes to
debt. Be sure you and your soon-to-be put the credit cards on the
table before walking down the aisle. Marriage is a life
partnership; start by dealing with your debt together.
Youll head into your new life as a married couple with ease when
you have an open and honest dialog about your financial situation.
For more tips for man-aging your money, or your credit, visit
www.Lexington-Law.com.
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how eaSy really?The concept of a pop-up wedding may seem
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In my opinion, a flash or pop-up wedding takes quite a bit of
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Traditional wedding planning can be exhausting for a couple,
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barely even con-necting with the couple in the months or days
leading up to it, and thus, the couple can relax and instead get
excited about the surprise, instead of stressed about the lead-up
to the actual wed-ding, she said.
Smith-Garcia agrees, explaining pop-up weddings are for couples
looking for a truly unconventional wedding.
The GueST liSTWhile weddings are all about the bride and groom,
their respective families want to be a part of the celebration,
too. Some guests, including family mem-bers, are okay with flash
weddings, while others are not so enthusiastic.
Much like a destination wedding to a far-flung spot that
requires expen-sive travel plans, not everyone is up for the
concept of a pop-up wedding that requires secretive planning and in
some cases subdued attire so you blend into the crowd in a very
public space, said Smith-Garcia.
Be careful not to hurt family mem-bers feelings if possible, and
share your plans in advance with a family insider
for both the bride and groom.My one big piece of advice is to
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someone on both sides of the family know to make sure they are
able to help get the right people to the wedding,
said Martinson. You would hate some-one important to miss it
cause they arent sure what is going on.
PlaNNiNG a PoP-uP ParTyDont be fooled into believing flash
weddings really happen spontaneously. Hosting a pop-up wedding does
take work, especially if the ceremony is going to be at an offbeat
location.
For example, Gaubert plans wed-dings in Paris, where the legend
is you can literally organize your friends and
get married on the street.Sometimes these on-the-fly wed-
dings work, but not always. In various metropolitan areas, you
really need to check first with the city to ensure there arent any
permits necessary or to secure the necessary permit, she said.
If guests are invited, its essential everyone arrive in time for
the ceremo-ny.
I recommend that couples say there is a big announcement at a
certain time, said Gauber. Itll leave guests guessing and ensures
they arrive on time.
BuDGeTThink a pop-up wedding is budget friendly? Maybe, maybe
not.
Permits can be costly, as can some of the other big-day
logistics, such as your clothing, food for the party, flow-ers,
photography, videography and hir-ing a coordinator.
Much like a destination wedding, there are hidden costs and
hurdles that need to be considered, said Smith-Gar-cia, noting that
time spent planning the wedding adds up, too.
You may find that you set yourself up for more work than you
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