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www.p ra c t i c a l -‐ t h i nk i ng . comThink Different, Think PracticalPractical Thinking Group
Effective Relationships with
Stakeholders
Agnieszka Gasperini, PMP -‐ SDI Facilitator Managing Director EMEA
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AGNIESZKA GASPERINI, COACH, MENTOR AND SDI FACILITATOR
• 17 years experience in multi-‐international projects • Master in Project Management in George Washington
University and Master in Economics at the University of Warsaw
• Large experience as Project Manager, Coach and Trainer / Speaker in Project Management and Interpersonal Skills
• Large experience in Telecom, Financial Services, Private and Public Sectors
• Managing Director for EMEA at Practical Thinking Group • Recipient of the “PMI Distinguished Contribution
Award” in 2012 • Founding member of PMI Poland Chapter (2002), Part of
PMI Global -‐ BVAC (Board Volunteer Advisory Committee) and Regional Mentor for PMI Central Europe
• Recognized speaker at international events in Europe, Asia Pacific and America
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The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to
get along with people.
Theodore Roosevelt
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The strength of a project is determined by the quality of the relationships….
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UNDERSTAND STAKEHOLDERS
• Who are our key stakeholders?
• What motivations do we think they have?
• What types of behavior will they be looking from us?
• How to communicate to stakeholders?
• What may you need to do differently in order to meet their requirements?
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ELIAS H. PORTER1914-‐1987
• Prominent Psychologist • Founder of Personal Strengths
Publishing • Developer of Relationship Awareness
Theory • Author of the Strength Deployment
Inventory • Blue (Altruistic-‐Nurturing)
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“The more a personality theory can be for a person rather than about a person the better it will serve that
person”
Elias H.Porter, Ph.D
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This theory is not about people… ….. it is for people! -‐ paraphrased from Dr. Porter
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RELATIONSHIP AWARENESS®
When things are going well During conflict
A theory of relationships based on motivation under two conditions:
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THE FOUR PREMISES OF THE RELATIONSHIP AWARENESS THEORY®
1st Premise 2nd Premise 3rd Premise 4th Premise
Behavior is driven by
motivation to achieve self-‐
worth
Motivation changes in conflict
Strenghts, when overdone or
misaplied, can be perceived as weaknesses
Personal filters influence
perceptions of self and others
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THE UNIVERSAL MOTIVATION
Every person wants to experience a sense of self-‐worth
• Self-‐worth can come from: – One’s self – being valued by yourself – Others – being valued by others
• …for the things for which you want to be valued
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BEHAVIOR VS. MOTIVATION
Behavior: • Things that people do • Change according to time, experience,
context
Motivation: • The reasons for using a behavior • Inherent and permanent – does not
change
1st Premise
Behavior is driven by
motivation to achieve self-‐
worth
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WHY DO PEOPLE BEHAVE THE WAY THEY DO?
Satisfier Goal
Behavior
Want Motive
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THE SEVEN MVS REGIONS
BlueRed-‐Blue
Red
Red-‐Green
Green
Blue-‐Green
Hub
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BLUE (ALTRUISTIC – NURTURING)Concern for the protection, growth and welfare of others▪ Being open and responsive to the needs of others
▪ Seeking ways to bring help to others
▪ Trying to make life easier for others
▪ Trying to avoid being a burden to others
▪ Ensuring others reach their potential
▪ Ensuring others are valued ▪ Defending the rights of others
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RED (ASSERTIVE – DIRECTING)
▪ Competing for authority, responsibility and positions of leadership
▪ Exercising persuasion ▪ Being alert to opportunity ▪ Claiming the right to earned rewards
▪ Accepting challenges ▪ Accepting risk-‐taking as necessary and desirable
▪ Demonstrating competitiveness
• Concern for task accomplishment • Concern for organization of people,
time, money and any other resources to achieve desired results
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GREEN (ANALYTIC-‐AUTONOMIZING) • Concern for assurance that things have
been properly thought out • Concern for meaningful order being
established and maintained • Concern for individualism, self-‐reliance &
self-‐dependence▪ Being objective ▪ Being right ▪ Being principled ▪ Being in control of emotions ▪ Being practical ▪ Being cautious and thorough ▪ Being fair ▪ Being resolute ▪ Being serious ▪ Being their own “judge and jury” Being their own person
▪ Thinking things through before acting
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HUB (FLEXIBLE– COHERING)• Concern for flexibility • Concern for the welfare of the group • Concern for the members of the group
and for belonging in the group
▪ Being curious about what others think and feel, open minded and willing to adapt
▪ Experiments with different ways of acting
▪ Proud to be a “member”
▪ Likes to know a lot of people ▪ Likes to be known by a lot of people
▪ Likes to be known as flexible
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RED – BLUE (ASSERTIVE – NURTUTING)• Concern for the protection, growth
and welfare of others through task accomplishment and leadership
▪ Actively seeking opportunities to help others
▪ Persuading others to ensure maximum growth and development of others
▪ Being open to proposals for creating welfare and security for others
▪ Creating enthusiasm and support in tackling obstacles to success
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RED – GREEN (JUDICIOUS -‐ COMPETING)• Concern for intelligent
assertiveness, justice, leadership, order, and fairness in competition
▪ Providing rational leadership that can assess risks and opportunities
▪ Being decisive and proactive when all the facts are in
▪ Challenging opposition through thoughtful process and strategy
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BLUE – GREEN (CAUTIOUS – SUPPORTING)
• Concern for affirming and developing self-‐sufficiency in self and others,
• Concern for thoughtful helpfulness with regard for justice
▪ Building effective processes and resources to protect or enhance welfare of others
▪ Supporting activities that lead to growth
▪ Offering assistance for greater self-‐sufficiency and independence
▪ Fighting for principles that are fair
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2nd Premise
Motivation changes in conflict
WHAT IS CONFLICT?
• Conflict is a reaction to a perceived threat to self-‐worth
• When we are in conlict, we experience motivational changes in conflict, which drive changes in behavior
People are willing to go into conflict
about things that are important to them. (conflict triggers)
When we see conflict in other people, we can discover what is important to them.
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FOCUS DURING CONFLICT
Stage 1 Focus on self, problem and other
Stage 2 Focus on self and problem
Stage 3 Focus on self
Problem
Problem
Problem
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THE DOT VS. THE ARROWHEAD
Motivational Value SYSTEM (MVS)
3 types of motivation working TOGETHER
Conflict SEQUENCE (CS)
3 types of motivation working in ORDER
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APPLYING MVS LANGUAGE
“Think like a wise man, but communicate in the language of the people”.
Yeats
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Applying MVS language
• Communicate in your own language
• The power of Borrowing
• Multiple styles simultaneously
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WORDS THAT YOU SHOULD USE WITH A MVSBlue Red Green Hub
Support Do Guide ContributeFeel Act Think Adapt
Enable Delegate Tech ParticipateCare Dare Fair Share
Cooperate Compete Conserve CompromiseValues Opportunities Principles OpcionesFriend Partner Colleagues CompanionSense Important Specific AdjustHelp Payment Understand Use
Benefit Results Knowledge ApplyComfort Convince Analyze InterpretFriendly Positive Clear Flexible
Generous Reinforce Competent Aproppriate
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HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH THE MVS
BLUE • Use words of feelings and emotions
to express yourself • Communicate with facial & body
language • Call people by their names
occasionally • Explain how they can help • Articulate the value of the
relationship
RED • Use short sentences • Give the headline up front • Get to the point quickly • Emphasize action and results • Demonstrate energy, enthusiasm
and confidence • Use words “absolutely” instead of
“maybe” • Give expected deadlines
GREEN • Provide the facts • Provide detail and demonstrate your knowledge
and competence • Don’t expect a rapid response, be patient • Give them time to think and ask questions • Give information in a rational, structures and
sequential way
HUB • Provide lots of information so that they can
determine an appropriate response • Articulate the importance of their support
for the group effort • Show how others would be impacted • Provide options and be willing to listen to
options
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Q&A
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CONTACT INFORMATION
Agnieszka Gasperini, PMP
Aga.gasperini@practical-‐thinking.com
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/agasperini
UK: +44 (20) 3239.1285
Italy: +39 (347) 398.8847
Poland: +48 (69) 649.9996
USA: +1 (305) 851.2579