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HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
On a scale 1-10How was your day
Text Me 321-345-9070
10-Amazing 1-Terrible3-Mmeh7-Great
In a few wordshellipWhatrsquos on your mind today (other than being here)
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 1 Define what you want
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want foryour students or staff (example better grades more respect life skills grit engagement)
Text Me 321-345-9070
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want for YOU this year (example improved health relationshipsbalance professional fulfillment financial security)
Think about ithellip Text Me 321-345-9070
DREAMIT Identifysomethingyouwantandsetagoal
BELIEVEIT Knowthatyouareworthyandcapableofgettingwhatyouwantandreachingyourgoal
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
On a scale 1-10How was your day
Text Me 321-345-9070
10-Amazing 1-Terrible3-Mmeh7-Great
In a few wordshellipWhatrsquos on your mind today (other than being here)
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 1 Define what you want
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want foryour students or staff (example better grades more respect life skills grit engagement)
Text Me 321-345-9070
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want for YOU this year (example improved health relationshipsbalance professional fulfillment financial security)
Think about ithellip Text Me 321-345-9070
DREAMIT Identifysomethingyouwantandsetagoal
BELIEVEIT Knowthatyouareworthyandcapableofgettingwhatyouwantandreachingyourgoal
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
In a few wordshellipWhatrsquos on your mind today (other than being here)
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 1 Define what you want
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want foryour students or staff (example better grades more respect life skills grit engagement)
Text Me 321-345-9070
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want for YOU this year (example improved health relationshipsbalance professional fulfillment financial security)
Think about ithellip Text Me 321-345-9070
DREAMIT Identifysomethingyouwantandsetagoal
BELIEVEIT Knowthatyouareworthyandcapableofgettingwhatyouwantandreachingyourgoal
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 1 Define what you want
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want foryour students or staff (example better grades more respect life skills grit engagement)
Text Me 321-345-9070
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want for YOU this year (example improved health relationshipsbalance professional fulfillment financial security)
Think about ithellip Text Me 321-345-9070
DREAMIT Identifysomethingyouwantandsetagoal
BELIEVEIT Knowthatyouareworthyandcapableofgettingwhatyouwantandreachingyourgoal
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want foryour students or staff (example better grades more respect life skills grit engagement)
Text Me 321-345-9070
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want for YOU this year (example improved health relationshipsbalance professional fulfillment financial security)
Think about ithellip Text Me 321-345-9070
DREAMIT Identifysomethingyouwantandsetagoal
BELIEVEIT Knowthatyouareworthyandcapableofgettingwhatyouwantandreachingyourgoal
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
In a few wordshellipWhat do you want for YOU this year (example improved health relationshipsbalance professional fulfillment financial security)
Think about ithellip Text Me 321-345-9070
DREAMIT Identifysomethingyouwantandsetagoal
BELIEVEIT Knowthatyouareworthyandcapableofgettingwhatyouwantandreachingyourgoal
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
DREAMIT Identifysomethingyouwantandsetagoal
BELIEVEIT Knowthatyouareworthyandcapableofgettingwhatyouwantandreachingyourgoal
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
BELIEVEIT Knowthatyouareworthyandcapableofgettingwhatyouwantandreachingyourgoal
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
MAKE ITHAPPENTakeactionnavigateobstaclesbuildgritincreaseresiliencyandkeepmovingforwardhellip
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
THETRANSITIONFRAMEWORKTheTransitionFrameworkhelpsstudentsprepareplanandnavigatelifebeforeduringandaftercollegeItgivesthemlifeskillsthatwillenablethemtodreambelieveandmakeithappenlongaftergraduationTheframeworkcanbeintroducedandtaughtasearlyasgradeschoolBestofallndashitrsquosasustainableframeworkthatcanempowerstudentstochoosealifebasedonwhattheywantratherthanworkingtobewanted
FRAMEWORK
DREAMITWhatdoIwant BELIEVEITWhatmakesmeuncomfortable WhoaremypeopleWherearemyplaces
HowlongwillittaketogetwhatIwant MAKEITHAPPENTellmystoryasifitrsquosalready
happenedTakeaction
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Author
WHO AM I
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Speaker
WHO AM I
wwwHarlanCohencomTEDx
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
WHO AM I
Syndicated columnist
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Irsquove visited over 500 schoolshellip
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
What Irsquove learned on the roadhellip
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Students arenrsquot prepare for whatrsquos nexthellip
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
httpappsbostonglobecommagazinegraphics20190117valedictorians
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Irsquom also a fatherhellip
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Everything is always changinghellip
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
I wanted a BIG school
I wanted to be close to my high school girlfriend
I didnrsquot want to know people
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
X Roommate was not my friend
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
X Didnrsquot get into a fraternity
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
My girlfriendhellip shot the LDR puppy
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
THE PROBLEMhellip NO ONE TOLD ME COLLEGE COULD BE UNCOMFORTABLE
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
IT CAN STORM IN COLLEGEThere can behellip
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL PHYSICAL FINANCIAL and ACADEMIC
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
I was depressed anxious and felt like a failurehellip
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
bull My friends from high school went to IU bull My brothers went to IU bull There was a fraternity that HAD to accept me
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
It took me a good year to get comfortablewith the uncomfortablehellip
bull I found my places
bull I found my people
bull I found my patience
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
If you donrsquot know whatrsquos cominghellip Itrsquos easy to panic get lost give up or lose control
20112019
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
httpwwwpewsocialtrendsorg20190220most-u-s-teens-see-anxiety-and-depression-as-a-major-problem-among-their-peers
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
College Planning is MissinghellipBefore Going to College
copy 2017 Help Me Harlan LLC | Reproduction without consent is prohibited
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
How can we help our students to DREAM
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Why are they so scared
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
How can we make it safer
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
What if they knew they would be OKAY
no matter what
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Yes the worldrsquos worst acronym
SSocial
Transition
E
EmotionalTransition
P Physical
Transition
FFinancialTransition
AAcademicTransition
Life is a BIG transitionhellip
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Each grade is a BIG transitionhellip
KindergartenMiddle SchoolHigh SchoolCollegeProfessional Life
=
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
How do you help studentsget comfortable with the
uncomfortable
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Life is 90amazing10 difficult
(or a bunch of BS)
The secrethellipNEVER let the 10 take up 100 of your time
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
The URT says that not everyone and everything will respond to you the way you want everyone and everything to respond Rejection is as normal and natural as breathing
UniversalRejectionTruth
EMBRACE THE
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
httpswwwforbescomsitesnicolefisher20151225rejection-and-physical-pain-are-the-same-to-your-brain5ce204284f87
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Abersquos Rejection
ABRAHAM LINCOLN Rejection Resume(February 12 1809 ndash April 15 1865)
1816 Family was forced to move1818 His mother died at young age1831 Failed in business1832 Ran for state legislature ndash lost1835 Sweetheart died and his heart was broken1836 Had a nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature ndash defeated1843 Failed to win his parties nomination for Congress1846 Ran for Congress again ndash this time he won 1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state ndash rejected1854 Ran for Senate of the United States ndash not enough votes withdrew nomination1858 Ran for US Senate again but didnrsquot get the position1860 Elected president of the United States
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Walt DisneyrsquosRejection
Rejected over 300 times by bankers while trying to finance Disneyland
Fired for from Kansas City Star becausehe lacked good ideas and creativity
First studio went bankrupt
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Oprah WinfreyrsquosRejectionhellip
Pregnant at age 14 (lost baby)
Grew up impoverishedSexual abused at age 9Ran away from home at age 13
Went to college on scholarship
Fired from first TV job ldquounfit for TVrdquo
Faced sexism and harassment Owns media empire with a net worth estimated at $29 Billion
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
More Famous Rejectionhellip
JK Rowlings was rejected by 12 different publishers Steve Jobs fired from Apple
(the company he founded)
Stephen Spielberg was rejected by University of Southern California School of Theater Film and Television
Thomas Edison was fired by Western Union
Lady Gaga was dropped fromher record label after 3 months
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Rejection is unavoidablehellip
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Itrsquos around us 24 hours 7 days a week
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Two types of peoplePeople who fight uncomfortable
These people are always looking to hate hide or attack They blame anyone or anything for the things what make them uncomfortable These children are NOT happy and can be very difficult to communicate with
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
These people acknowledge the truth and seek to find answers They are open to feedback guidance and support These children are willing to look inward look outward and grow
Two types of peoplePeople who face uncomfortable
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
1 Am I the problem
The URT changes how we process adversityhellip
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
2 Is someone or something else the
problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
3 Is the URT the problem
The URT changes how we process feedbackhellip
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
You must apply in order for this to work
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
When you embrace The URT there is shift Instead of focussing onhellip
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
The focus ishellip
WHAT DO I WANT
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
1 Celebrate The URT 2 Share your stories 3 Share students stories 4 Check in with them 5 Promote Imperfection
Help Them DreamhellipGetting Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Your Stories
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Student Stories
MOST UNCOMFORTABLE EXPERIENCE THE FIRST YEAR
My long distance relationship ended early on in the first semester At that point I had many people I considered friends and acquaintances but I was not entirely comfortable being emotional around them and I felt as though I would be burdening them (interrupting their schedules taking away time to study etc) if I wanted to talk to them about it Since I had never really experienced heart break I had a lot of emotions to consider and sort out which I knew I couldnrsquot do alone I leaned on the people I had made connections with allowing myself to be vulnerable even with those I had less solidified friendships with In conversations with others I realized most every other college student at one point in time is also grappling with an emotionally-taxing life problem whether that be a breakup or mental health struggles In opening myself to others I was able to work through my heart break and also enter deeper conversations about life feelings and ldquoreal issuesrdquo with my friends
Madison Cullinan (rsquo16 Grad) Duke University
MAJOR Public Policy amp Arabic FACEBOOKmadisoncullinan7
PLACES 1 Religious Communities 2 Community Service Clubs 3 Social Groups
PEOPLE IN MY CORNER 1 David Schanzer Professor of Public Policy2 Father Brad Duke Catholic Priest 3 Claire Gibbs Friend4 Elle Smyth Friend5 Mbaye Lo Arabic Professor
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Videos
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Articles
httpswwwnytimescom20170624fashionfear-of-failurehtml
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Social Media
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 1 Define what you want
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Explore
Friendship
Grades
Activities
Interests
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Fears
Hopes
Dreams
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 2 Get Comfortable With The
Uncomfortable
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 3 Think People Places Patience
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Who are your people
Who helped you get where you are today
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
bull Family heroes
bull School heroes
bull Community heroes
bull College heroes
bull Pop culture heroes
Help them find people
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
PEOPLE YOU ENLIST
PEOPLE WHO VOLUNTEER
PEOPLE WHOARE PAID
Who are some of these people - Orientation leaders - peer mentor - professors - spiritual leaders - residence life staff - counselors - coaches - captains - advisors - student ambassadors - leaders of orgs - therapists - specialists - students - professional staff tutors - teaching assistants - grads - high school mentors - friends - siblings
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
You can ALWAYS find help | You will NEVER be alone You will always have options
Why 5 People
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Find Your Five Peoplehellip
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Teachers
Volunteers
Advisors
People Places PatienceWho are the people who can engage students who
donrsquot want to be engaged
Students leaders
ClassmatesTutors
Recent Grads
Coaches
Mentors
Spiritual leadersEmployers
Administrators
Guest Speakers
Community Members
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
SWEAT PLAY PRAY LIVE LEARN LEAD LOVE WORK
Think clubs activities or organizations were you canhellip
Help them find places
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
SUGGESTIONS Identify his or her places before arriving on campus
ALWAYS somewhere to go
ALWAYS something to do
ALWAYS have options
Why 3 Places
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Where are your places Where are the places yoursquove
found connection community and answers
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Help them find patience
Patience The ability to toleratediscomfort while findingyour people and places in pursuit of your dream
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Practice PatienceEmbrace the 24-Hour Rule
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
NOTHING - The problem will still be there tomorrow
SOLUTION - Your child will solve the problem
NEW PROBLEM(S) - The old problem will no longer be a problem because new and exciting other problems will pop up
Whatrsquos going to happen over the next 24 hours
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
How long does it take tofind people and places
It takes a good year to find your people find your places and get where you want to go When you get impatient DO NOT panichellip
Instead think PEOPLE PLACES and PATIENCE
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
PATIENCEGive it time
PLACES Find Your 3 places
PEOPLE Find Your 5 people
Help them believe byintroducing them to
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Classroom Visits People Places Patience - Have visitors share their most uncomfortable experience Have guests
highlight their people places and how long it took to get the results they wanted Invite students to connect with guests to ask additional questions via social media or email
- 8 graders offer tips to 6th graders
- 5th graders offer tips to 1st graders
- 12th graders offer tips to 9th graders
- Students who have been thereand done it offer tips and advice
Have visitors fill out a form and then post it on a bulletin board or in a place where students can read theses messages
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Jaquelinne Herrera High School Sunnyside High SchoolCollege Washington State University (Pullman) Major Double major psychology amp human developmentYear Freshman
Jackiersquos Places - CAMP programChicanao Latinao Student Center and Multicultural organizations (greek organizations)
Jackiersquos People Multicultural Student Services Mentor Omar Sanchez CAMP mentor Evelyn Mejia CAMP advisors
Uncomfortable Moment I didnrsquot have money for books but my CAMP advisor came to the rescue and helped me find money to pay for books for the entire year
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Social Emotional Physical Financial Academic Stories
Itrsquos June 3 2020hellip Herersquos what happened this yearhellip
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
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wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
PHYSICAL STORY
SOCIAL STORY
EMOTIONAL STORY
FINANCIAL STORY
ACADEMIC STORY
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Personal Goal
Tell your story as ifhellipItrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (Fill in Outcome)
The most challenging part was (Fill In) I got through it by leaning on (Person 1) (Person 2) and (Person 3) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (Place 1) (Place 2) and (Place 3) It took me (Fill in Time) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Itrsquos June 1 2020 and I had the most incredible year ever I reached my goal and accomplished (getting 4 Bs and an A)
The most challenging part was (managing my time) I got through it by leaning on (my math teacher) (my science teacher) and (parent) for answers and support I found people to help me find answers at (school) (online) and (in the library) It took me (a year) to get where I wanted to go Irsquom so grateful and proud of myself and my accomplishments
What do you want Improve grades
Tell your story as ifhellip
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Telling their story puts the emphasis on the outcome and NOT the obstacles
Tell this yearrsquos story and a three year storyhellip
Students tell their stories Student groups tell their stories Professional staff tells their stories You tell your stories Family members tell their stories
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Step 5 REDEFINE SUCCESS
SUCCESS = ACTION
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
Be An Imperfectionist
Give yourself permission to not always get it right the first time Most students change their major Not everyone can get an A First year students donrsquot always make the team get the position or get the results theyrsquore used to getting in high school It can take a few tries to get it right
Success is taking action embracing results and getting help if you donrsquot get what you want the first time around
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
1 What do you want
2 Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable 3 Think People Places Patience
4 Tell Your Story As Ifhellip
5 Take Action (redefine success)
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
To Sum it UpLife is search selection AND transition Transition is a life skill One way to raise resilient gritty and passionate people is to give children the tools to think big go after what they want navigate the uncomfortable find their own answers and embrace the process It starts with educators who understand the process
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
SUGGESTED READING
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
HelpMeHarlan HarlanCohen
wwwHarlanCohencom | wwwHarlanCohencomGull-LakeHARLAN COHEN
DREAM IT BELIEVE IT MAKE IT HAPPEN
Text Me 321-345-9070
