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Discover your leadership

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First Edition introduction Praise be to Allah, and peace and blessings are upon His Messengers, Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) God, who teach Adam and Ibrahim teach us what benefit us and benefit us with what you taught us and increase us in knowledge.

The Most Merciful God Amen

After that...

In this book, I will explain the MBTI test, which is used to discover and identify patterns of the leading personalities. In the first chapter, I explained the theory and gave a brief history of it and its development until it reached its present state, after that, I explained the concept of the test, and how to use it to determine your leadership personality pattern. Then I explained the standards, which through it the personality pattern can be determined

In the following chapters, I give an extensive overview of the sixteen patterns that the theory sheds light on them. For each of 16 patterns, I will present several elements which are what does it mean to be from that category, summary of personality traits, strengths and weak points and the professional development. I hope these efforts will be accepted and appreciated.

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Second Edition Introduction Thanks to God, we are printing the second edition of discovering your leadership personality pattern according to MBTI standards book. We have pushed to improve that edition by putting some important things in mind, which are the reader’s opinions and their brilliant comments in the first edition, our partners in the success of this book, which is a good guide to identifying the patterns of different personalities around us. Which was built on the basis of the theory of dividing characters to sixteen personalities, which you are dealing with them in your daily life, and you will certainly not deal with one personality, but deal with them all.

In order to not clash with those around us, life becomes like a series of intellectual and personal conflicts according to our personality patterns. We present this book with new information that stresses on the theoretical aspect of how to deal with weaknesses and strengths points and is your job was determined by your personality. In addition, the importance of knowing the personality patterns of your partner to succeed with him in married life, and so many things

In the second edition, we meant to provide information in an easy and simple way for the reader and present them in pictures of divided points. So that the reader can benefit from them in a practical way. We are keen to put new parts in each personality pattern and how to deal with human

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relations, whether an emotional or friendly and even raising children relation. We did not limit ourselves to that, but we added important points for each pattern in dealing with the professional development scope, whether a manager or a subordinate or dealing with colleagues at work.

In addition, here we begin to fly in the horizon of the qualities and attributes of sixteen characters. I will let you, my dear reader, to enjoy all the interesting information which indicate of how to successfully identify your personality and how to deal with the patterns of other characters.

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Chapter one: An overview of theory and classification

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Introduction

What we present in this book The book (discover your personality pattern according to MBTI theory) takes us on a comprehensive tour of the world of MBTI theory of classifying the characters. It tells us the theory and provides us with a historical overview of it. The theory evolution and standards, and how to form the sixteen patterns of human personalities and a summary of each type.

What we present in Chapter one This chapter provides an overview of the theory, the test idea and standards and how patterns are formed and defined by the criteria, which the theory is based on. We specifically focus on the standards and how they are used to develop different personality patterns according to the MBTI theory.

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Firstly: What are the personality tests and why do we need them?

How do we change ourselves if we do not know them well? Who among us does not want to change for the better? Who does not want to get rid of all the qualities that he does not like in himself and develop positive qualities that help him to reach what he wants and enjoy his life? We all want that. we all want to change, all according to his special way, there are who want to become more fearless, and there are who want to become calmer and give up the excess nerve. there are who want to be able to make the right decision at the right time. there are who want to be able to form relationships and friendships with many people, and so on. We also want to be able to know the qualities of others and identify their personalities, and then how to deal with them based on their personalities, in the workplace. this is very important, as your ability to deal with your colleagues and your bosses and your subordinates, it would be better if you can understand the personality patterns of each one of them and then deal with each individual according to his personality pattern.

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Whether you want to change your personality or understand someone else's personality, this is possible, of course. however, how is that possible if you do not understand your actual personality? in order to be able to change your personality then you have to know and understand it first, and the question that arises here, do we really know ourselves?

Fundamental model the fundamental model comes to answer this question.the fundamental model assumes that there are things that a person knows about himself and people know it too as his name, shape, his talk way, and his basic characteristics that everyone knows. There are things that a person know it about himself and people do not know it about him which called the invisible area that considers usually some staff which a person hide it from people around him in addition, there are things that people know it about him and a person does not know about himself.it may be simple information or may be deep and complex issues related to the feelings of inadequacy and lack of self-confidence or seriousness and rejection and such things that may not be known about himself. also, there are things that not be known about himself and people do not know then as well.it determined after doing some tests like blood type, your level of English, social intelligence, emotional intelligence and so many things

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Fundamental box

Fundamental box They know it They do not

I know it

I do not know it

The fundamental box contains:

Things I know as well as people (my name, my nationality) general things

things I know and people don’t know it things people know and I don’t know it things I don’t know it as well as people(it determined after doing some tests like blood type, your level of English, social intelligence, emotional intelligence).

So we do not know everything about ourselves and those around us All humans have different attributes, God -Almighty wanted us to be different, and did not create us identical, and did not want to be recitations of one nature, but wanted to be different and diverse. God Almighty declared about this difference in more than one place in his holy book

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{If thy Lord had so willed, He could have made humankind one people: but they will not cease to dispute.} [Surah Hud- Verse 118]

{In addition, if Allah had willed, He could have made you [of] one religion, but He causes to stray whom He wills and guides whom He wills. and you will surely be questioned about what you used to do} [Surah An-Nahl Verse 93]

Therefore, human beings attributes are different, and this difference is very necessary for the continuation of life, each of us has a role in life. These different roles require different characteristics and attributes of course, and no one can be assured of his knowledge and ability to communicate with all types of people. One of us may find a difficulty in dealing with those who differ from him in personality traits and characteristics. Different jobs may require people of different stature. There are jobs that require leadership traits. There are jobs that require the ability to communicate with people. There are jobs that require a great deal of intelligence and high concentration. There are jobs that require decisiveness and taking decisions, and so on.

Personality Tests

From here, there is a need to develop clear standards, which can be used to determine all different patterns of human’s personalities. Many scientists have tried over the years to develop tools and criteria, which can be used

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to determine different patterns of human characters. one of the theories which have developed " MBTI" theory. Before explaining MBTI Standards and test it, let us take a quick look at the historical evolution of the theory.

What is the MBTI test? a test which was designed to discover and determine your leadership pattern and how do you work in stress.This test has been developed based on several studies in the past. the objective was to discover your main personality traits and how to deal with people. this test which has been developed carefully can determine your pattern in each evaluation criterion through a series of carefully selected questions. The questions are divided into four groups. After answering each group's questions, you collect all the answers and count the most letters in each group to identify your personality pattern. Each group of questions deals with one of the four criteria that used to determine the personality pattern to which group it belongs.

Remember that the primary goal of the test is to help you identify your personality and draw your attention to your basic personality traits.

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Secondly: A historical overview of the theory. Since ancient times we have tried to describe and classify ourselves in many ways, starting from the four tempers for the ancient civilizations which are "optimistic, irritable, sad, quiet" down to the latest philosophical science. People were trying hard to understand the complex aspects of the human personality and define it clearly, it has been significant progress in this area after the development of contemporary personality tests. the available models now enabled us to expect the most features and personality patterns with a high degree of accuracy, however, we still need a lot of efforts in this area, the human soul is full of mysteries secrets that science still unable to decode it fully and accurately. Regardless the used pattern in analysis our personalities, it is necessary to know that the nature of human personality remains unique, as it is influenced by the environment, experience and personal goals of each of us. In this group, we describe the possibilities of people's behavior according to their personality patterns. In all cases, we always remember that these patterns are only indicators and tendencies, not answers and guidelines. There is a big difference between collecting 10% and 80% of an attribute. This information designed to contribute in building the personality and provide a better understanding of each other The theory is rooted in two different philosophical schools, the first of them back to the early 20th century, which was founded by Carl Gustav

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Jung who called the father of analytic philosophy. His theory about the philosophical patterns had the greatest influence on the classification of characters. As it inspired many other theories which include our theory One of Jung's core contributions was the development of the concept of introversion and social openness. He said that either each one of us would be located in one of two groups focuses on his inner world (separately) or his external world (open).These terms are defined differently nowadays, focusing on the outside world means having a social power. Regardless, the original definition of Lung focuses on the source from which the person derives his energy. Thus, individuality does not mean shyness and modesty, and openness does not necessarily mean that we have good social skills. In addition to uniqueness and socialism, Young formulated many concepts, which the theory and testing criteria are based, and it will be explained in detail in what is coming from the chapter content. In the 1920s, Katharine Cook Briggs built on Young's theory and developed the criteria, which he mentioned, and later she published one of the most famous personality’s identification books now. Katharine has a great passion for character classification. She greatly benefited from Young's writings and decided to build on these writings and write her own theory of character classification. In collaboration with her daughter Isabel, they developed an easy way to describe and arrange

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the characters. From here, the standards appeared by which you can define the personality pattern, which will be explained in the next section

Thirdly: measure standards and MBTI testing”

How are different patterns determined according to MBTI? As we have said, patterns are determined according to the MBTI test based on four evaluation criteria: Mind: Introverted vs. Extraverted Energy: Intuitive vs. Observant Nature: Thinking vs. Feeling Tactics: judging vs. prospecting

These standards have been selected based on aspects of human personality as follows

Introverted vs. Extraverted

This aspect shows how we interact with other people An introverted person derives his energy from his presence with himself, this kind of people tend to practice their individual activities, and think carefully before speaking, and feel overwhelmed as a result of social communication. This

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kind of people has not a great desire to establish many friends, they prefer individual activities and feel comfortable when they are alone and like to be self-sufficient. They prefer ideas rather than people, and they do not give much importance to social skills, as social interaction drains their internal energy very quickly and they always need to be able to return to home to recharge their energy. However, they are capable of improving their social skills and become well versed in the negotiations or short talks, but they will use these skills because they are forced to use them and not because they find them natural or exciting. The social person drives his energy, thoughts from his presence with others. Socialists prefer group activities, and this kind of people has a distinctive way of social communication. Their interaction with others is usually for a particular reason in their minds, and are not for their interest in what the others are, talking about it. They cannot bear things, which do not make sense as well; they do not like to waste their time of exchanging trivial conversations. They are always keen to express what is going on in their minds and often express their opinions even before they are completed in their minds, enjoying with taking the lead and making orders Important note: There is a so-called Ambivert, which means that a person who has that attribute is in measuring - closure, and openness -where he is not very sociable as he is not very Introverted. A person may be located at one end of the social and exclusivity scale. People tend to balance between social

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traits and introversion traits, which mean they are not introverted along the line or sociable along the line, but their attributes change according to circumstance and situation For example, you may ask someone if he prefers to go to a party or read a book, and his answer: depending on the party or the book. Even most introverts will choose to go to the party accompanied by two or three of their close friends instead of sitting and reading a boring book. As well for the open-minded and the party attendees, they may want to sit down and check out what has been published in the book world Of course, all of us are good by nature in certain things and less proficient for other things, but we can learn how to improve these points and raise it to a higher level, and that is the point. There is no one introvert along the line or vice versa, and there is no one emotional along the line or vice versa. As an example, you may find that INFJ pattern may be very quiet in a strange social atmosphere from him; despite he is very famous among his colleagues with his eloquence and his high ability to make speeches about the topics he likes. a person who has INTJ personality pattern may feel so weird in a party that he does not know anyone in it, however, you will find him wild and impulsive when he talks about some really known topic. While an introverted, someone at the fifties will be socially better than an introverted at seventeen years old. Usually, ENFP pattern are very quiet when they feel that their theories vulnerable to a challenge, and so on many examples.

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We believe that every person belongs to one side or another and permanently working on his weaknesses and balancing both sides in his personality during his growth and maturity. Your exhaustion as a result of prolonged social communication does not mean you will not be wonderful in different circumstances. In addition, being part of an open personality does not stop you from finding the right times to stay calm. These skills do not make people Ambivert but make them socially adept.

Energy: Sensing vs. Intuitive The second aspect identifies how a person looks at the world and how he handles information The specific person is someone who cares about the details and the particulars of things. It can be said that people who belong to that category enjoyed with a systematic and organized mind, they are interested in the details of things and it micro details. They do not make their decision only after the full knowledge of all information and details of the matter under study, and they have great analytical capabilities as they have the ability to analyze things logically and systematically. They can analyze events and link them to each other based on logical introductions and results, and they can provide logical and realistic solutions to problems. this kind of people depends on their senses and awareness in analyzing things, focusing on what actually happened and trying to build on it and analyze it to predict the future, and thus they are practical people who respect the practicality and realism.

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The intuitive person is more concerned with the generalities of things than his attention to detail. He is more concerned with the overall view than with the particulars and details of things. We can say that this kind of people has a forward-looking, they depend on their intuition and focus on the ideal world, they depend on their analysis and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. They are distinguished in preparing plans, strategies, and priorities for action. They do not care about observing the physical events surrounding them. They focus only on what is possible and may occur Their intellectual and analytical abilities are constantly evolving, which makes them brilliant thinkers. However, because of their exaggerated reliance on their ideas and what is going around in their mind. They have a problem in dealing with practical matters, which leads to losing some of the things that occur in front of them if it not given the required attention.

Thinking vs. Feeling

This criterion determines the received rational amount versus the received emotional The rational person is the one who tends to think rationally and has less emotional thinking. This does not mean that they are free of emotion, but rational thinking is predominant. This kind of people has a strong opinion, where they hold their feelings and emotions, and tend to raise reason in their discussions. They are interested in asking for everything starting from their teacher's way to teach down to their emotional aspects.

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Intuition and thinking are their most important characteristics, which makes them an open mindset and intelligence, and give them the ability to achieve wonderful results. especially in the scientific and technical fields, which benefit the members of their community, and they are also always trying to keep their feelings away from the outside world, Refusing to recognize their need for others, in addition to their small numbers in society - which make it difficult for them to connect with others. The emotional person is the one who is dominated by emotional thinking over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and follow their hearts and emotions, and this does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. This kind of people gives priority to their feelings and rely on ethical and moral arguments, offering everything they can do, to be honest with their principles. They are good and sensitive people who are always able to find positive aspects regardless of the circumstances. The emotion and intuition are a nucleus of their personality. They follow their hearts and express their feelings, and focus on harmony, understanding, and cooperation. They are idealistic and open-minded people who are able to achieve remarkable results, especially in the fields, which related to philosophical and diplomatic ethics, but sometimes it makes them far from the popular known, which makes it difficult for them to connect with other people, especially when they are required to accept what they see it as a deception.

Judging vs. Prospecting

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This aspect reflects the approach of action, which is the planning and decision-making. People with the Judging trait is the one who judges the others. This kind of people has the ability to make decisions, the sternness in doing their works. They prefer the clear rules and seek to finish all their tasks. They worship the deadlines. They are critical and they usually find a difficulty in dealing with the doubt, which makes them excellent strategists, Possess the will and ability to devote time to inventing complex plans.

Prospecting individuals are much more flexible and relaxed when it comes to dealing with both expected and unexpected challenges. This kind of people loves change, seeks freedom, does not settle down with routine, adapts quickly, and prefers to keep his options open. They are characterized as researchers who are always looking for alternative options, always believing that there are better ways, which may lead to many projects that do not have an end.as a result of that, they lose many opportunities. However, they prefer to take risks instead of closing their options, which limit their freedoms. As well as they tend to calm and comfort towards the surrounding environment, and avoid problems and provocations, whether in their work or study and they, do not abide by deadlines or laws.

Fourthly: forming the patterns

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Each pattern of personality is expressed according to the theory in a shortcut or a code, which consist of four letters. If you did MBTI test, you would ask what these four letters mean. Each of the sixteen character patterns consists of four characters, such as (INTJ) (ENFP) or (ESTJ), each letter expresses a specific attribute in your personality through the used standard to determine that attribute. Let us take a pattern as an example, such as (INTJ) which belong to the first leadership category, which is the analyst category or leadership with analysis category The four criteria by which the personality pattern is determined (described in the previous section) which are: The first standard determines whether you are an introverted person (I) or an extroverted person (E) The second standard determines whether you are a person who cares about the general overview of things (general) (E) or a person who cares about details (specific) (S) The third criterion determines whether you are an emotional person with consideration of feelings (F) or a rational person with a consideration of Thinking (T) The fourth standard determines whether you are a firm person with a consideration of Judging (J) or a flexible person with a consideration of Prospecting (P) So,

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According to the first criterion, people with (INTJ) pattern are introverted individuals (I) According to the second criterion, they are concerned with the general view of things (N) According to the third criterion, they are rational people with a consideration of thinking (T) According to the fourth criterion, we find them firm people with a consideration of Judging (J) Your personality pattern is determined by the test as follows: Your answers to the first group questions determine which side of the first criterion you most often have so that you can figure out the first letter of your character. Your answers to the second group questions determine which side of the second criterion you most often have so that you can figure out the second letter of your character. Your answers to the third group questions determine which side of the third criterion you most often have so that you can figure out the third letter of your character. Your answers to the fourth group questions determine which side of the fourth criterion you most often have so that you can figure out the fourth letter of your character. The four letters are placed side by side from left to right (the resulting character from the first set, the resulting letter from the second set, the

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resulting letter from the third set and the resulting letter from the fourth set). These four characters will represent your personality pattern.

The test is a helping tool and is not a requirement to give accurate results, but it is a helping tool that helps you out to discover your personality and over time you will discover your personality more

Forming the four categories

The 16 patterns are divided into two, then four, then sixteen pattern, as follows:

The first section: Overview Groups with a consideration of intuition (N)

People of this category share a comprehensive view of things; they care about a holistic view of things and events. This is reflected in the comprehensive view attribute (N)

This section contains two main categories:

The first Category: Diplomats (NF): Diplomats focus on empathy and cooperation. They are highly brilliant with diplomacy and consultation. People in this group are cooperative and imaginative; often they play the role of harmony and coordinator between the parties in their workplace or in their social circles. However, those attributes cause problems when there is an urgent need to rely on rationality and making difficult decisions.

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This category shares two main features:

Firstly: they have an overview of things, which is expressed in letter N.

Secondly: their thinking way is with emotion and feelings, which is expressed by letter F.

The second category: Analysts (NT) These personality patterns affect rationality and integrity, are characterized by intellectual and scientific discussions in the technological fields, and they are open-minded, highly independent, as well having a firm will and imaginative. They look at things from a utilitarian point of view and they are very interested in options that can be applied not with what is satisfied for everyone. These attributes are good for making strategic analysts and brilliant thinkers, however, it causes emotional and social difficulties.

This category shares two main features:

Firstly: they have an overview of things, which is expressed in letter N.

Secondly: their thinking way is by reason and logic, which is expressed in the letter T.

The second section: Groups with a detailed look with a consideration of Sensing(S)

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People of this category have a detailed look; they care about the details of something, which is expressed by the detailed view attribute (S)

This section contains two main categories:

The first category: Defenders (SJ) Defenders are very cooperative and practical people, they able to create order, safety, and balance wherever they go. These people tend to be very strong, highly scrutinized, and logistical support and management characterize them. These patterns are committed to their plans and do not evade the difficult tasks, but they may be inflexible, refusing to accept any different point of view.

This category shares two main features:

Firstly: they have a detailed look of things, which is expressed in the letter S.

Secondly: the way they organize the environment around them is a firm way, which is expressed in the letter J.

The second category: Explorers (SP) Explorers are the most spontaneous patterns. They are also practical and seeking to achieve utility and shining in situations, which required rapid reaction and the ability to think directly. They are experts in techniques and using them in many fields and in many ways, starting from their

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experience in physical tools down to convince the others. It is not surprising that these patterns of personality are distinctive and irreplaceable in crises, as well as they are good at manual occupations and sales

This category shares two main features:

Firstly: they have a detailed look of things, which is expressed in the letter S.

Secondly: The way they organize the environment around them is flexible, which is expressed in the letter P.

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The following table illustrates the division we have mentioned:

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NT Analysts Category

NF Diplomats Category

SP Explorers Category

N comprehensive view group

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Fifthly: categories of personality patterns According to "MBTI", there are 16 patterns of leadership and these patterns located in four groups are: The first category: analytical leadership The analyst leader who depends on the logic creates systems, which have distinguished with its order, and system. These leaders depend on rationality as a guideline theory; they are realistic and have little patience for emotional matters or those that move away from logic. These leaders often have the ability to make Invention. It is said that Steve Jobs was an example of the analyst personality. His first interest was to build a better product that reflected a strong analytical feature. Under his leadership, the company not only brought new and exciting products to the global market, but Apple worked to develop these products and make them better. Analysts often work in government institutions and political offices such as Franklin Roosevelt, which is a great example. He created many programs such as the Social Security system to terminate the difficult period, which the states were passing. As a result of his work, federalism was integrated into a shape of the united stated of America, which in turn formed a better environment for its citizens The category includes four patterns INTJ Pattern (Architect) INTP Pattern (Logician)

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ENTJ Pattern (Commander) ENTP Pattern (Debater) The second category: Diplomatic leadership Diplomatic leaders who have a long-term vision inject themselves into ideas that are often linked to values and higher issues. this kind of leaders are also active in their organizations, which they belong to and their potential is shining and sharing many visions with others, pointing their attention to what the future may bring and ignoring what was provided in the past or present. As an example of the social change leaders, we would mention Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela, one of the most famous examples of leaders with diplomatic leadership. In business and leisure, Walt Disney is one of the most influential examples of the recent past, who gave us a new experiment through amusement parks, which were, for not only entertaining but also carrying ethical messages. Despite the long period of his departure, Disney’s development department is named today as the Walt Department of Imaginary Creativity, whose employees compete with their peers to create what they call it what have never before seen. The category includes four patterns INFJ Pattern (Advocate) INFP Pattern (Mediator) ENFJ Pattern (Protagonist) ENFP Pattern (Campaigner)

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The third Category: Defense Leadership The defensive leader takes responsibility for paying attention to business as an administrative man who has all the correct details in dealing with things very accurately. This type of leader tends to raise the past, strict in terms of rules and protocols. These types of personality operate out of a sense of responsibility and concern for good and the public interest. Their leadership role in protecting and preserving society and its components, even if they are a minority. Pope Francis is a good example of a defensive leadership personality. Amazon founder Jeff Bezos is a good example of this category, focusing on his consistent goal of collecting information. The category includes four patterns ISTJ Pattern (Logistician) ISFJ Pattern (Defender) ESTJ Pattern (Executive) ESFJ Pattern (Consul) The fourth Category: Leadership Exploration The active explorer leader tends to find quick solutions to any problem he may have, as he seeks to move the affiliated arrangements into new and exciting directions and not caring about risks when he feels that the consequences of this risk are worthy to fight for it. this kind of leaders do not care about how others do their jobs in the past They are very

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interested in what is coming, motivated by direct action instead of planning and analysis. Richard Branson is an example of the explorer leader by creating the Virgin record mega store, which paved the way for 400 companies under its motto. The category includes four patterns ISTP Pattern (Virtuoso) ISFP Pattern (adventurer) ESTP Pattern (Entrepreneur) ESFP Pattern (Entertainer)

Sixthly: An overview of the characteristics of different patterns

The first approach: strengths and weaknesses of different patterns

Your personality pattern one of the most questions which often asked by a person who discovers his personality pattern is whether this pattern predetermines who he is and what are his strengths and weaknesses. Each of us asks himself, does it

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mean for me to be the person who I am now? When we ask these questions, we focus on our weaknesses and ignore our strengths.

Sometimes a diplomat may want to be organized as a defensive (_SJ_), and an analyst (_NT_) who finds himself in a passionate position may enjoy the idea of possessing the same strong empathy as the diplomat. All diplomats may not want to give up their strong intuition to be more organized, Which may make the analyst wants to give up his love of inventing systems and solving the puzzles and he could be stunned by what he sees of warm and foggy feelings. All types of personality patterns have opposite points, as their weaknesses versus their strengths. You do not need to be accompanied by another person for a long time to notice that no one is perfect. Even Carl Young who is the idea creator on the basis of which many build their own system of personality patterns. The basic role was rotating the different corners of personality and help self-development and integration. For example, Carl discovered anima and animus in every individual who worked with him. as he discovered the "shadow" idea which expresses the dark side of ourselves, his theory dictates that we will not be self-sufficient if we do not meet and accept our shadows, If we do not do so - Young said, those shadows will express themselves in an unhealthy way.

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Knowing the nature of our weaknesses points is a strength in itself The boxer knows in the boxing arena how to use his strengths and how to stay away from his weaknesses, but to really get away from them; he needs to know them well. It is important for him to know his abilities as a boxer and recognize the points that affect him negatively in the battle, so he classifies himself as a fighter and accepts the existence of weaknesses and strength in him.

Most of us take a time to learn about our patterns and the patterns of others around us to become better people and to have better dealing with each other. Knowing our strengths and weaknesses is an important part of the process of developing ourselves, so we need to look for and accept our weaknesses which do not mean to give in to it or finding excuses for our failures, but recognize and pay attention to it well. The weakness in each character is an unavoidable part, and pretending the perfection will not make someone complete.

Weaknesses and adaptation process One of the challenges, which we face in life in terms of finding the personal structure that can help us, is the constant struggle between adaptation and integration into society and staying honest to the essence of who we are. Sometimes our strengths and weaknesses are commensurate with what is expected of us and what is common, but

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sometimes they may not be appropriate in many cases. All of us have adapted in our lives to varying degrees to adapt to our surroundings, doing things, which we did not want to do for avoiding any clashes. We have done so throughout our lives with our parents, teachers or our bosses to keep them satisfied with us. At least, we have been adapting at a point in our life to enter a social circle as long as we wish to be part of it. Sometimes we may feel lost between the adaptive demand which imposed by the world around us and between our true personality. Learning our personality traits will help us to return and discover our original natureز Life may give us a second chance to get back to know who we are. Adaptation is a survival mechanism and it may be useful when we are dealing with our weaknesses. For example, let us put someone who belongs to the defense pattern in a position of executive director in a music studio, which mainly attracts the explorers, we will find out how we can be dragged to extremism when we miss something we appreciate very much. Let us say in our example that the regulations missing in the company, which will make the defense very rigid as a reaction to what he sees as a violation of the rules and out of order, however, the explorer sees it a normal thing. Extremism in things will turn the inherent character of a defensive from being emotionally organized to weakness point. Dictators have rarely been welcomed among those who love freedom, and it may

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be necessary for our defense personality to be able to adapt and try to show less rigor in its actions. In a case like that, adaptation may survive at work The question then comes: Can defensive people reorganize themselves once again even slightly to work better among these random artists? Can they remain honest to themselves and their qualities, which they respect it when they adapt to new business requirements? They can stay honest to themselves despite their frustration with their hardening, this will keep their jobs or it will be an indication that it is time to find another place to work; which is not like a crazy house which they were working in. Adaptation is a partial answer to how we deal with our weaknesses. We always adapt and in some cases, this is the right way to do things, but we have to be conscious so that adaptation does not increase at the expense of our happiness and reducing our strengths. There is no more miserable than being in a place where our principles do not belong

Expanding our comfort zone Another way to deal with our weaknesses is to look at it as a machine that we use to stay in our comfort zone. The vulnerability may be seen as a way of maintaining what we are used to doing. Let us take an example, a young analyst who has an emotional problem; he may feel that cases like that could push him away from the logical system he likes. He may feel like a stranger who enters an empire, which he knows nothing about it. As a result, he may take bad behavior to make sure he is not deceived. In

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his point of view, being bad and sharp is a way to make him sure about keeping people and their treacherous emotions away from him Most people who work in the field of change and human fulfillment. Agree that maturity comes as a result of the desire to expand our comfort zone. What would happen if the analyst we have mentioned in our example wanted to expand his comfort zone? .What if he came out of his circle to discover that expressing the warmth of the emotions and kindness and giving a few of it to others will not necessarily mean giving up and abandoning any of his strengths. He may discover that he can remain solid and a serious thinker and communicate well with another person at the same time. He will know that overcoming the weakness does not lie in denying it but in expanding his definition of his strengths This does not mean that he will become emotionally, but he may become a little more sociable and friendly, and if you look around you will find many good analysts are sociable, often because they expand their concept of strengths to include the social component. As well, the same way of thinking may be applied to any pattern of personality patterns and any weakness point

Tips to deal with your weaknesses - Know your weaknesses. - have the ability to adapt, everyone must be able to do so but be

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- Discover how you can expand your comfort circle to deal better with your surroundings.

The best pattern, the perfection problem "Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it" Salvador Dali The relationship with perfection varies according to personality pattern. People are focused on finding the best system, or thinking about developing a system and making it the best. Diplomats try to push the world around them into an ideal world where everyone is self-confident and living in harmony. For defenders, they find the perfection through adhering to norms, standards, and traditions. The more committed they are to the system, the more they feel that they are doing their job very well. The self-esteem of explorers is linked to their professionalism and developing their skills. Such professionalism is reaching the best use of skills and abilities We know when we work and strive to reach the perfection that we will never reach it, but we try to get close to it more, One of the perfection problems is that seeking to it makes simple interests like an obsession. George Fisher said about "When you aim for perfection you will discover that it is a moving goal”. The attempt to reach perfection may become a full-time job if that goal is forming a great

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importance to the individual. The obsession problem lies in it attracts all our attention and distract it from the other important things, which lead to an imbalance that may sometimes make our lives unbalanced. Another problem with seeking for the perfection is procrastination. If the perfection and obtaining the best possible thing is required, mistakes cannot be allowed. The best way to avoid mistakes is to delay doing anything. As a solution to procrastination, you should count on the quote “the good thing is enough to be count on it" and that is the best you can do It should be said, that the pursuit of perfection might destroy social relations with others. but we often lose our distinction over others, expecting many who are intolerants with the mistakes which can be done by someone we love or anybody else.as we would not accept them as they are and ask them to do their best from our perception that this is what they should be. There is no doubt that what we envision is something of our own making and no one can live according to it, which may put many restrictions on any relationship. Analysts will not find the best system but they can continue to develop the current system. For them, refusing to pursue the perfection as a goal, which may be the difference between serious development and destructive mania.

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Diplomats need to remember that ideals definitions are perfection concepts. Those concepts are not real things they are simply ideas. This does not mean that they should not be influenced by idealism and push them into specific directions. They may do better by taking what Voltaire says according to quoting from many ancient scholars “perfection is the enemy of the good". The constant search for achieving impossible goals can move a person from achieving what is possible of them As for the defenders: it is good for them to consider that the rules have been laid to be broken sometimes. The intense interest in how things should be, instead of what they are, can lead to rigidity, which may kill creativity and alienate them from their surroundings. Even explorers can be creative in their pursuit of professionalism. They may be less interested in seeking for perfection than other personality patterns; they tend to live in the reality. They seek for achieving the success at the moment they are living now. Perhaps they are the most who reflecting the philosophy, which said life, is the journey and not the end. However, they need to be aware of their obsession with anything they are trying to be professionals

Is it possible to change your personality pattern? Each pattern of personality has points of strength and weakness. There is no perfect pattern and no existed man is perfect on this earth. It should be

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noted that at a certain point of your life, you would say, “I wish if I had a different personality”. You may want to become more open to others, having more harmony with your feelings, more organized, more resistant to criticism. So it is no surprise that one of the most frequently asked questions by people who are interested in self-development is "Can I change my personality pattern?" Unfortunately, answering this question is not that simple. Depending on the most theories of personality patterns, we find that the pattern of each of us has existed since our birth and never changes. Regardless this point of view, it is possible for individuals to develop their traits and habits that differ and even contradict their patterns characterization, how this happens? Let us use the following example: Imagine that all the lights in your apartment suddenly turned off and you were in total darkness, you might be able to reach the door, but what senses would you use? Touching? Hearing? Smelling? It may be anything but looking, your favorite feeling, regardless of it and once the light returns you will come back to use your eyes again as it makes moving around will be easier. Your personality works just like our previous example, where the environment will shape your personality in a specific way, forcing you to develop traits and habits that may be strange to your pattern. For example, if you are a normal and spontaneous man, but your schedule is very busy and your manager is obsessed with schedules, so what you

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prefer will change, however, you will return to your nature once you are out of work, which can be generalized to all features. Perhaps we should mention one more thing, often there is a confusion between socialism and openness, as the same between the modesty and introversion. This is one of the most common mistakes when discussing personality patterns. Where open-minded individuals find it easy to talk to others, (they derive their powers from doing that).You will find that many of them are shy and vice versa. The introversion patterns lose their energy when they communicate with others, but you will find that many of them are glamorous people In fact, certain types of introverts (such as INTJ and INFP) are often more socially than the openness patterns. In Western societies, the number of open-minded individuals exceeds the number of introverted individuals by a large margin. As a result, most people believe that anyone should seek to become open-minded, confident, and has a great circle of friends. However, it is a false belief; each personality pattern is unique and has different strengths. Perhaps that was the reason behind the question "can I change my personality pattern" As a result of the above, your basic personality pattern cannot change, but you can (and must) change aspects of your personality which you feel unhappy with it. This will strengthen your hidden traits even though your dominant traits remain the same. Such a change may occur either at the instigation of the surrounding environment or by yourself.

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Is your job determined by your personality? We have recently tried to identify different professions that fit each of the many personalities. We are surprised by what we have come to. Almost all personality patterns have an aspect that makes them suitable for mental health professions (, psychotherapist, consultant or social worker) It comes to mind what this means. Besides, it is an interesting matter. It is also an educational thing which shows how flexible are the personality traits towards any profession that we may choose rather than occupations that we thought were more appropriate for us. For example, all the related jobs to mental health contain many aspects where we can use many different skills, and we will not be right if we claim that there are certain types of personality patterns that do not fit working in psychological professions, but this goes back to the way we deal with things. When we think about therapy and counseling, the diplomat's group are the most suitable personality patterns for these jobs. They are fully empathetic with others and thinking about the development and building of society and individuals. They help people to have better behave as a psychiatrist does. Diplomats think in a fictional way about the causes of things and they tend to converge with others in terms of unconditional positivity, which is a very valuable feature in this area of work, and because of these

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characteristics, the first thing that comes to mind when we think about psychological professions, it will come to our mind the diplomats However, what about the analysts? They do not share all the described characteristics in the previous section except for their broad imagination and preference for thinking about the future. What they live on is their love for the systems and their desire to develop them. Freud's classical psychoanalysis relies on regular frameworks of theories as well as specific techniques. As an alternative to analysts, behavioral therapy is the way to create a system that changes unwanted behaviors. Cognitive therapy challenges the conflict ideas and attempts to correct them by using logic. It compensates for what analysts lack in empathy for their talent, privilege, and ability to provide the necessary evidence. Not all psychological professions need much empathy, sometimes logical analysis is enough. Defenders have born as social workers. In addition to the need for such people to understand how business works in institutions and offices, they also need to understand laws and rights, how they use the laws in cases, which require that. Social workers usually have a full list of communication data. All of those matters address the administrative heart of the defender; In addition, social workers provide treatment and counseling services. The defenders by their nature are interested in health and at a certain degree care about the other's health. They are focusing more on their

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present time than the analysts, defenders. The defenders are more ready to help others in solving their personal problems. Based on their ability to think realistically, explorers are the best characters to solve problems. Can you imagine a better trait to have existed in someone who works as disaster consultant? Some explorers consider themselves as advice providers are better than what they were. Regardless, no one can argue with their abilities to quickly assess the cases and make plans to deal with them based on what they found. Furthermore, many explorers have this innate contact with children, and with their spontaneity, they have much to offer in the pediatrics and treatment field. As they cannot be the typical type of therapists who sit in their offices listening for long hours of conversations from adults who suffer from psychological illnesses, but they will have their own place in mental health.

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The second approach: shed light on the different

personalities characteristics

The importance of social relations People who are afraid of germs wonder how to get rid of them. Recent studies have shown that open minded people and regardless of their contact with others have an immune system from other introverts who often stay indoors. Researchers at the University of Nottingham have designed a study to explore more about the relationship between personality traits and health. They have tested specific gene expressions associated with a stronger immune system. After identifying bad habits such as nutrient-deficient diets, drinking, smoking, emotional convulsions and other harmful factors. Researchers suggest that people with an open personality pattern have more genetic expressions in genes that qualified for inflammation (Pro-inflammatory genes), which indicates a greater ability to control disease, while this study showed that the patterns which have less ability to control diseases are those who belong to cautious patterns who follow all rules and interested in business, researchers have reacted that they cannot determine whether a person's psyche affects the psyche of other people around him. However, it is necessary for individuals not to use the results of this study to engage themselves in social situations they may not wish to exist in since there is no indication that if they do so they will have a better

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health. In addition, there are no reasons which make the most organized people had to be irresponsible to avoid the morbidity

An introverted in a funeral The funerary atmosphere can sometimes be a cruel joke to the introverts. Most of us accept that the world we live in is a world with a majority of open-minded people. As the introvert gains attention lately, the society continues to cling to people with many friendships and social personalities. Funerals are no different from other social traditions. A large group of grieved people who offer condolences to the absence of a dead person, it is a sad spectacle. Many traditionalists express their condolences for the second time in the solace halls or in the house of the deceased, and all people gathered around in that place. A friend said on such an occasion "The only time my house is filled with people is when a member of my family dies," We all want in one way or another to be surrounded by others in the death, as it is convenient for us to feel the presence of those who care about us, which also includes the introverts as well. There is nothing different about their need for the presence of people around them and pay attention towards them. The only difference is that they are not as much needed to be surrounded as for the open-minded people

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All of this is about energy, pain, sadness and grief, all emotional states that drain human energy and when we go beyond the anger of losing someone, these feelings will fade over time. During the difficult and painful times, we do not seek to enjoy life, and we lose that feeling. Our energy for such things fades away, and energy depletion may be so severe that we may sometimes hear people saying, "I do not know how I will spend my life anymore." Funerals have been found to help people who are alive to overcome the ordeal of losing those who we love them. Healthy morning also helps to overcome the exhausting sorrows, accept the loss, and returning to be normal The energy from communicating with others helps people who are open-minded at the same time as an additional burden on people who are introverted. When they lose a loved one, they are not only dealing with the grief and sorrow which draining the energy but also they have to do their strenuous social duties. The introverts often owing to the others lack of understanding of their desire to be isolated in such circumstances. Some of them see their nonattendance as a disrespect and public morals, while others assess their situation worse than they are. Let us listen to an experience which told by a woman who is considered as an introverted personality. On one sad family occasion, her family members have noticed her absence and being alone for several hours, they asked her whether she had black thoughts like suicide. However, in

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fact, she just needs some time to be alone. Effective counseling recommend about the pain and grief that everyone is allowed to deal with the death with the suitable way for him For introverts, their communication with people who care about them and those who have lost, it also means that finding some time to be alone in exploring their loss and gaining energy, which will enable them to continue. It is not about being away from others or wanting to stay alone. Despite the tiny difference between the two cases, people often describe their sense of emptiness and deep loneliness after the leaving of last mourners. At that moment, the conservatives will be grateful and grateful to all those who offered condolences, because they became single. Whether you are open -minded or introverted, when you lose someone, give yourself everything you need to express your feelings in your own way to pass this difficult period, and give others around you the freedom to express their feelings and grief even if you think they are not suitable for you at all.

Do you feel me? Why is the healthy sympathy important regardless of your pattern? Sympathy means many things to many people. Among these many differences, two ideas often appear frequently. The first is that empathy is the understanding of others; the second goes beyond knowing what would happen to the other. If he goes towards the deepest. Since it is

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clear that patterns, which depend on their emotions in decision-making, tend to be sympathetic. Those who rely on logic can analyze what is happening with someone else, however, the added experience of communicating with other people's feelings may not be there. In the end, she is sad because of a film. Some will cry very hard, while others will find them thinking about a scene at the beginning of the film because it has no sense There is a general belief that those who have less sympathy that they need to be reformed. There is generally a bias towards those who have more sympathy. There is no doubt that having a little empathy will make building relationships more difficult. Dealing with common sense for another person is a limited matter. A human being is an emotional and rational creature at the same time and for more a comprehensive relationship you should deal with both sides. In previous decades, the term "codependency" has been used to convey the idea, which it is not good for a person to exaggerate the integration of a large part of his identity into others. Two major dangers arise for the person. Firstly, you start losing your own identity; secondly, you will struggle with the other party problems As our ancestors once advised, "everything must be with moderation." the same thing applied on empathy as well. When we talk about empathy, there is a wide area ranging from lack of empathy and deep empathy. It is

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possible for all different patterns, which feel that they do not have enough empathy to try to develop this feature. Emotional quotient (EQ) differs from intelligence quotient (IQ), which is proven at an early stage in life. Many people who study such materials see the possibility of developing EQ throughout life, which greatly helps with social relationships. Those who melt in the details of the other may want to explore the motivation and catalyst to do so, usually because they want to be loved and there are those who need them. For many reasons, only self -discovery will provide enough answers. It is good for a person to have the ability to empathize, learning how to experience this feeling with a balance which will contribute to continuing our lives

Do you have an organized office? (Lighting on self-discipline

patterns) In our discussion of personality patterns, we find one of the most dangerous normal qualities, which evaluates and controls the superiority of one personality pattern over another. Things that are constructed in a way that is not the same, as an individual or societal errors cannot be considered. When we come to ideas such as self-discipline, it will be easy to identify it, according to our ideals; everything which contrary to it is rejected.

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However, what if many forms of self-discipline vary according to personality pattern, let us look at different patterns and discover how they will see self-discipline Defenders (_SJ_ Types) The idea of self-discipline which espoused by the defenders is attention to detail, they respect their duties properly and accurately, and certainly when someone wants to arrange the bed, he would fold a fitted sheet at the corners as usual in hospitals, as well as the defender's offices will be organized. Their verified motto is "There is a place for everything, and everything has its place.” Timeliness is an essential thing, it is important to stick to the agenda and work hard, if you have a job, and then hire a defender as an accountant who will keep your accounts accurate. The world needs the defenders to help us keep our lives organized and to make sure that the right things happen Diplomats (_NF_ Types) Diplomats see the ideal self-discipline from a completely different point of view. For them, the defender's definition may seem like a trap to them the important things in the world are not small details. Self-discipline takes a meaning of separating themselves from the precise details and floating in the overall picture. Their offices may not be very organized but who cares? This is not an important thing for diplomats in a world full of small distractions, and it is

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not always easy to get away from them and discover the inner world, which full of imagination. The place where diplomats enjoy the funniest games they can play such as (connect points).they might be imaginary people but they work hard and set their goals in front of their eyes. We need disciplined visionaries like diplomats to help us see the whole picture and make the world a better place for everyone. Analysts (_NT_ Types) For the analysts, the details must carry something important to have their attention. Their focus on resolving puzzles and separating things from each other and reassembling them again and around that is their self-discipline They may use a few traditional theories, which express their self-discipline, while they cannot find the underlying reason for concluding things. Their offices may not be organized as well, but they know where they put the important things, the rules and operational theories, but they do not pay too much attention to the minor, which may sometimes be practical. The analyst could be like a cartoon character of the astounding professor, but if you give them a problem to solve, they will spend hours, days and even years doing their work in a very disciplined manner. The world needs someone who has the necessary focus and discipline to persevere in working on our mysteries until they are solved.

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Explorers (_S_P Types) The explorers arrange their offices if they do not have anything else to do, which they find it useful. Simply they do not do that because they feel it as a duty, which has been put by someone else. They simply ignore the rules and even other people to achieve their goals. They usually ignore the risks as long as it within reasonable limits, but that does not mean they have no self-discipline, but it is not which globally accepted. In addition, explorers show self-discipline when they find something that takes their attention and being a pro in it. While they may not always appear to be self-disciplined, especially in youth phase It is just about asking what kind of discipline we are talking about and to which things they direct their focus. We need a pattern of discipline, which may go in any direction whatever unconventional it is for creating new solutions and mastering the necessary skills

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Chapter two: First Category: analytical

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Introduction These personality patterns affect rationality and integrity, which characterized by intellectual and scientific discussions in the technological field. They have an open-minded mentality, highly independent, having a solid willing and imaginative. They look at things from a utilitarian point of view and they are very interested in options that can be applied not to achieving satisfaction for all. These patterns are good for strategic analysts and brilliant thinkers; however, it causes emotional and social difficulties. Before we get into the details of patterns this category, we must make it clear that this category has two common and general characteristics in all its forms: which are

- (Intuitive), they are primarily concerned with the generalities of things and do not give the same attention to the partial and accurate details of things. They have long-term plans and general studies on things, which is symbolized by Letter (N).

- Rational individuals (Thinking), they prefer logical and mental solutions above all and do not give a wide range of emotions and feelings. This shows them up as non-sensitive and non-emotional individuals, but they do not give much room to express their emotions, which is symbolized by Letter (T).

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It includes four patterns 1- INTJ pattern. (Architect) 2- INTP Pattern (Logician)

3- ENTJ Pattern (Commander)

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What does it mean to be ` from INTJ Category? Introverted-INTJ They listen carefully, preferring individual activities, feel more comfortable when they are alone more than being surrounded by many people, and social activities exhaust them. Intuitive-INTJ They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They are visionaries. They depend on their intuition, analysis, and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. Thinking -INTJ They tend to rational thinking and the emotional thinking reduced, which does not mean that they are free of emotion, but mostly they depend on rational thinking. Judging-INTJ They judge on others and they are usually organized people and strongly respect deadlines. As well, they seek to end all their tasks on time. They have the ability to make decisions and the rigor in performing their work

Summary of basic personality traits People with INTJ pattern or the architect style are very intelligent and mysterious, visionaries, brilliant strategists, and extremely debaters, but on the other hand, they are idealistic and unemotional. This kind of people who have that personality pattern strongly believes in their intelligence and ability to do many things. like the other analysts, they

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also are confident on their own, relying on their big archive of knowledge on a large number of topics in different areas, as they develop this knowledge from early childhood to the rest of their lives. People with that pattern are capable of making a decision, they have vision and creativity, and these qualities push other people to accept the INTJ's ideas simply because of their great self-confidence and strong will.

Strengths and Weaknesses STRENGTHS

- High self-confidence: people with that pattern rarely care about their social role, social expectations, and as a result, they are not afraid to express their opinions. Which strengthens their confidence more in themselves.

- Executors: people with that pattern are good at analyzing anything, which they faced in life, and they organize all available resources to reach a specific goal.

- Independents and decision-makers: they are effective and decision-makers, and often they acquire it at an early age. When they are convinced of something they are after it until the end, they are also very resistant to the traumas and have the ability to deal rationally and calm in emotionally situations, they are convinced only to balanced and rational discussions

- Hardly workers: They are very dedicated if they are convinced of what they are doing or passionate about it. They are working hard

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to achieve their goals, ignoring everything else. It is worthy to say that, they may appear to be lazy in some cases, which do not require great mental effort or do not provoke their minds, for example, they may not study their study materials because they know that they will be able to pass those exams.

- They have imagination and strategists: they are good strategic thinkers and often use this advantage to do many contingency plans in professional and personal fields. They like to plan for the future and imagine all the possible scenarios and its consequences.

- Honest and straight: These people dislike social evasive where they prefer honesty even if it led to clashes. They tend to see these aimless activities and its irrational purpose; they prefer the uncomfortable truth to the comfortable lie.

- open-minded: they do not mind to prove that they are wrong and they enjoy exposure to things which they were not aware of and they do not care if their behavior agrees with what people expect them or not. It is not surprising that this kind of people tend to be somewhat liberal in the social scene, believing that many social traditions have become old and unnecessary.

WEAKNESSES - They are arrogant: There is a thin line between trust and vanity,

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importance of their knowledge or leadership skills. They see the others as irrational or less intellectual.

- They love to be specials: They hate inefficiency and try hard to strengthen and correct all lapses and analyze all possibilities, which is undoubtedly a good feature. However, if it goes too far, it becomes a weakness because it slows down their work and frustrates the people around them.

- They may exaggerate in analyzing everything: people of this pattern tend to believe that everything is subject to analysis, even things that are not necessarily rational as human relationships. They may seek to make rational explanations and solutions in each case and refusing to rely on improvisation or on their emotions.

- They like to make judgments: they are open-minded, but they tend to reach their conclusions quickly and adhere to them. They also have little patience for things, which they consider it irrational, such as decisions based on feelings, irrational stubbornness, emotional explosions, and others.

- They may be insensitive: people with that kind are often proud to be very honest and rational, while their expressions are rational and correct, they may not take into account the emotional state of others around them and their personal situations.

- They are often ignorant about emotional relationships: many people of this pattern find it difficult to deal with anything, which

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may not require rational thinking, and this weakness appears clearly in personal relationships. They exaggerate in analyzing everything. In addition, they always try to understand how others think using a semi-scientific analytical approach, which is not certainly good with emotional relationships.

- They hate environments with a very organized structure: people of this pattern do not respect rules and laws, so they hate environments, which based on tradition and respecting the authority and blind obedience. They tend to challenge reality and clash with people who prefer stability and being safe

Basic features in the social and human relations:

1- Emotional relations: - People of this pattern find it very difficult in terms of relationships

and dating, as they are introverted and closed by their nature, they may find it challenging to combine their imaginations and mental abilities with reality, and unfortunately, their high logic and imagination can hinder them when they start looking for a partner.

- People of this pattern often attract a romantic partner while they do not mean it, as; in fact, people of this pattern have difficulty in relationships. Their confidence in themselves shaken up in such a relationship, and then compensate it by showing their intelligence, which makes them attractive more. When they return to their

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normal condition, their confidence in themselves returns to glow again which makes it much easier to attract the partner.

- People of that pattern do not feel comfortable in expressing their feelings or trying to understand the emotions of others. They also have the tendency to trust always their knowledge and their ability to understand. They may inadvertently hurt the others occasionally, especially at the beginning of the relationship and even later in the midst of their emotional relationship.

- people of this pattern come with many wonderful things in their emotional relationship, they are partners who can be count on them and devout.as well, they are keen on taking the helm from the beginning and defend their partner in the difficulties of life

2- Friendship: - People of this pattern tend to succeed more in developing

friendships than emotional relationships. Nevertheless, they are suffering from the same obstacles and difficulties in replacing logical processes with emotions, which make it difficult to read their character and recognize their nature. overcoming these difficulties will be impossible without that kind of direct communication by sharing the intuitive feature

- People of this pattern hold their emotions, they rely on rationality and logic and expect from their friends to do so too. When they exposed to situations, which full of emotions, literally they do not

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have the ability to deal with them properly. This shows a clear difference from their ability to make decisions and self-direction and equanimity.

- People of this pattern have conditions, which required to have existed in their friends such as the intellectual courage and the common desire to grow and learn. As they are talented and knowledgeable individuals, who expected to encourage their friends to share these qualities, and anyone who does not have these qualities is from their point of view an empty person and intellectual surface. However, those who meet these expectations, they will automatically appreciate them, forming a strong and stimulating friendship that will stand up to the test of time.

3- raising children:

- Parents of this pattern cannot give tenderness, which should be given to their children. They are rational, loving perfection and often insensitive. They are certainly not inclined to express their emotions materially, so they must strive to adjust these qualities according to the needs of their children.

- People of this pattern are convinced by the principle, which says, “Life is the best teacher" and they tend to be fairly liberal. They give their children the freedom to have their own experiences and make their own decisions.

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- Parents of this pattern speak frankly and honestly when they want to. They believe that knowing the truth is better than not knowing it; they are excellent interlocutors when they want to, and they see problems as opportunities for personal growth.

- People of this pattern have power in strategy and execution, and not in spontaneity and sensitivity. They focus on encouraging the development of rationality mind and marginalizing emotions as a weakness, and they must recognize the importance of emotions in human life.

Career and professional development:

General practical features of people of this pattern:

- People of this pattern are good at work and creative jobs and decisiveness in solving the problems, which related to various things in the institution. They like the crucial solutions that save time and solve the problems from its root. We can call people of this pattern as smart planners, which is not exaggerated. People of this pattern are unique in preparing the system, assembling the moving parts, managing opportunities, risks, and goals. They have a great ability to think abstractly.

- People of this pattern are able to absorb information, especially technical information, so they should try to use every opportunity

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to learn to gain experience in a new field. There is always something new they can learn, so they use their mind to the maximum potential.

- People of this pattern are characterized by their strong will, which is consistent with their desire for independence, which makes them leaders by nature. Where most people instinctively heading for following the lead of someone who has confidence. People of this pattern do not need to give up their integrity to be able to influence others, and all they have to do is do more efforts in order to establish strong ties and mutual trust with others.

- people of this pattern also have high leadership skills but they may be forced to stay in the state of high alert on a continuous basis, they are more appropriate to be negotiators or planners than to be executives at forefront of work, as stressful environments that contain pressure is not suitable for them.

- They have the ability to make decisions decisively and they can keep their nerves to be cool in difficult situations. However, they feel more comfortable when they have more time to assess the situation and make their decision based on adequate information, so they cannot achieve success in a short time in fields which not familiar to them.

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Their attributes as co-workers: •Independents at work. •They love challenges، especially if they get full responsibility

• They prefer to work alone، because they think others are slowing them down •They enjoy with brainstorming in the workplace، as long as the discussion does not come down to arguing about details •They have a tendency to perfection and very rarely to give up •They cannot afford incompetence or the colleagues who refuse to use more efficient methods •They dislike manual work, especially when it can be done automatically •they are very cynical and very likely to make fun (in their minds) of their colleagues who are less than them

Their attributes as Managers:

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the most

appropriate (but not the only ones): Software Engineer - Architect - Inventor- Academic Researcher- Astronomical- Medical Researcher - Physician - Chemical - Psychiatrist - Pharmacist - Business Manager - Project Manager -Military Officer - Educational Advisor - Investment Analyst.

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• They have very high standards when it comes to professionalism •Willing to give their subordinates a lot of freedom in work •Modern and relaxed، they appreciate independent thinking rather than protocol •They despise the side talks or manipulation attempts •They respect people who have strong opinions، even if they contradict their own opinions

•More concerned with the strategy than the tactical implementation • they seek to achieve the efficiency in the workplace.

•they do not mind if they are wrong and someone else's argument is the best •They will not get involved in the office gossips Their attributes as subordinates: •they respect the manager If he is actually a competitor، positions do not mean anything to someone of this pattern.

• They have no problems to criticize their manager statements if they think that the manager is smart enough to reconsider his position if it was proven wrong.

• They accept criticism and listen to it well، especially if it is objective •they have rarely seen the managerial positions are desirable • When they do not get enough freedom to work then، they may be

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frustrated •They are likely to vigorously resist the attempts to put them in specific، clearly defined roles.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits, and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(INTJ) pattern, (Architect)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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INTP Pattern (Logician)

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What does it mean to be from INTJ Category? Introverted-INTP They listen carefully, preferring individual activities, feel more comfortable when they are alone more than being surrounded by many people, and social activities exhaust them. Intuitive-INTP They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They are visionaries. They depend on their intuition, analysis, and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. Thinking -INTP They tend to rational thinking and the emotional thinking reduced, which does not mean that they are free of emotion, but mostly they depend on rational thinking. Prospecting-INTP They tend to be not organized and love the change and seek for freedom. They do not settle down with routine and quickly adapting, they prefer to keep their options open. They described as researchers; they are always looking for alternative options, believing that there are better ways, which may lead to endless having many projects in their lives

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Summary of basic personality traits

People of this pattern love the theories and believe that everything is subject to analysis; they do not care much about the real world and practical things. People of this pattern have the most accurate and logical minds among all other characters' patterns. They can easily observe the tiny details between two things, regardless of the period between them. People of this pattern tend to scientific and technological materials, but there are many exceptions. They are intelligent and visionary who are able to remain unbiased in any direction; they love new ideas and theories and never miss an opportunity to discuss them with others. However, they are usually shy about meeting new people, but they are very friendly and confident when dealing with people they know well or when they talk about things, which interest them People of this pattern have a socially open mindset, these traits combined with their ability to invent and offer unique ideas, which give them great power.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS - Excellent analysts and thinkers: people of this pattern are excellent

in observing the events and seeing the full picture, and they have a

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wonderful ability to move from one idea to another linking them in a way that stuns the most other patterns.

- Honest and frank: They do not like social compliments., they hate to pretend, they see no point in beauty words, they clearly state their opinions and expect others to exchange that with them

- They have a broad and insightful imagination: people of this pattern minds always produce new ideas constantly, so they have no difficulty in inventing and finding unique solutions.

- They are open-minded: They have an open mindset to accept different ideas, especially if they are backed by facts and logic. Moreover, they are usually somewhat uneducated with regard to social matters and traditions, judging people according to their ideas.

- They are enthusiastic: They can spend a lot of time trying to find something that interests them, and they are excited about discussing topics with people.

- They have a remarkable speed of intuition and a multifaceted mind: people of this pattern know how to strengthen their knowledge in fields, which interest them, as they find a pleasure in overcoming the intellectual challenges as their curious nature drives them to do so.

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WEAKNESSES - Ignoring the outside world: people of this pattern have the ability

to focus their efforts to analyze a specific idea, but this is usually at the expense of ignoring everything else, they may forget or simply lose things that have nothing to do with the idea, which they are working on it.

- Rethinking: people of this pattern may have an excellent analytical capacity, but often lack the ability to make a decision. They may find it difficult to identify which idea the best and they always are looking for more information, prompting them to question their own conclusions.

- They may be unemotional: they have difficulty in mainstreaming emotions into their decision-making process, concentrating all their efforts on a rational basis, and as a result, they are often unemotional in dealing with emotionally strained situations.

- They have strong privacy and introverts: people of this pattern are often reluctant to enter anyone into their minds and they may be shy at social events and even close friends spend difficult times with them to get to know them well.

- They make compromises sometimes: they are usually proud of their vast knowledge and powerful abilities, but they are easily frustrated when they describe their ideas to others, although they

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enjoy giving their ideas to others. They may fail to explain them in details from the beginning to the end.

- They hate the rules and guidelines: They need a lot of freedom and they do not sanctify the rules and traditions that set limits to their imagination, and they prefer to be independent, even at the expense of social aspects.

- They hate environments with a very organized structure: people of this pattern do not respect rules and laws, so they hate environments, which based on tradition and respecting the authority and blind obedience. They tend to challenge reality and clash with people who prefer stability and being safe. Therefore, they need to know that these restrictions have meaning and reason.

Basic features in the social and human relations:

1- Emotional relations: - The main problem of people of this pattern is that they are not

sensitive or emotional in nature, and as a result, they are not ready to understand the feelings and emotions of others and even express their feelings to others. People of this pattern spend so much time of their lives in thinking and analysis, and as a result, they see life around them through their ideas and not through their emotions.

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- People of this pattern tend to be very loyal and faithful to their partner, as they are frank and uncommonly honest even in the early stages of their relationship. These people undertake their obligations and it is easy in fact to date and live with them.

- They have simple everyday needs and they do not require much effort from their partner. They are looking for simplicity in dating and emotional relationships. They are not lacking in passion and romantic feelings. They are creative because their wide imagination which allows them to stay enthusiastic and passionate about romance.

2- Friendship: - The friendship of people of this pattern is about the exchange of

ideas, theories, and principles, and for those who are unable to catch up with them or have a completely different taste. They will face harsh facial features and they will find the ruggedness and rudeness in dealing with people of this pattern. people of this pattern communication is often a source of inconvenience, not for entertainment, the discussions are reserved only for topics of interest or people who love them enough to talk to them.

- Many of the usual reasons for forming friendships, such as emotional support, social life, and common routines simply do not

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apply to people of this pattern. Probably these things will be far from influencing them so in upheld the intellectual aspect over anything else, it is not easy to establish a good friendship with people of that pattern. However, if there are common interest and common features, the communication spark will ignite directly.

- People of this pattern like to brainstorm lifelong ideas, but if they surround themselves with people who have the same mentality. They will be at risk of identifying and narrowing their vision and perspectives, while the solution lies in diversity to achieve the creativity, which they want.

3- Raising children - People of this pattern give their children generosity and the

necessary freedom. Parents of this pattern adopt a sophisticated intellectual approach that gives their children the freedom to explore the world around them and overlook the unimportant disquiets in their way.

- People of this pattern are not traditional parents. They do not want their children to live a traditional life in school, work, marriage, home, and retirement. They prefer that their children ask them if this path is the best way for them.

- They are the best parents in terms of logical and rational discussion with their children, but they are unable to provide the emotional

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support that many children need, especially during adolescent years.

- Parents of this pattern want their children to grow up to be intelligent, independent, tolerant; however, if they want to be very well adapted they have to make that effort towards emotional support.

- The strengths points of people of this pattern lie in the intellectual and mental world, and not emotional and practical. They focus on encouraging the development, especially rational mentality; tend to exclude the sensitivity as a weakness.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- The most prominent trait of people of this pattern is their love for the theoretical methods and ideas. The best professions for people of this pattern are those that make this unique feature a point of strength, such as pure theoretical fields such as physics, chemistry, mathematics, technical writer, and system analysts. They flourish in fields that combine between their imagination, their social desire, their open mind, and their skills in strategic thinking. People of this pattern are fascinated by research and the pursuit of patterns, hypotheses, possibilities, and options. They often have

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broad dreams and aspirations that lead and inspire them in their careers.

- People of this pattern enjoy research and analyze the principles behind the ideas, and there are many professions that allow them to exploit this attribute, which makes them happier to face challenges that seem impossible or strange practical applications. for example, they can be planners for companies or business analysts, Game designers, engineers or programmers.no matter the professional aspect they work in, they are naturally designed, nothing thrills them but engineering, physical or mental models. People of this pattern are intelligent analysts who can transcend other patterns with organizational skills and accurate thinking. They are called Inventors because of the originality, trust, and logical skills that give them preference over all other patterns.

- The architectural pattern is one of the personalities, which have a unique thought, where he prefers the aloneness and needs a space of freedom in order to be able to show his creativity and commitment to work without being under the questioning of the teamwork members about his work. he hates the side conversations and other social needs, who has this pattern does not understand or enjoy the exchange of feelings and does not spend a long time in chatting with colleagues or with customers. For that reason, any professions that have a direct contact with customers do not suit

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them, they do great in the areas which they are dealing with data and not with people. for example, legal practice and data analysis and even the press which considers appropriate profession for them

Their attributes as co-workers: •they are not hypocritical and insightful

•Reluctant to engage in a side conversation، but enjoying the discussion of theoretical ideas with peers who are considered as equal to him

•careful and stimulated by the other's motivations • Prefer to work alone and hate to share ideas with nonprofessional employees

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Information Technology Engineer - Electrical Engineer - Architect - Inventor - Environmental Planner - Civil

Planner - Academic Researcher / Professor -Physicist - Life Scientist - Astronomer- Medical researcher- - Psychologist - Chemist-Management Consultant - Project Manager -

Military Officer - Educational Advisor - Investment Analyst - Intelligence Attorney - Any work that includes

analysis and forecasting.

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•Does not feel comfortable with expressing his feelings، or by being with people who express their feelings، they do not know how to behave in these situations •Enjoy solving puzzles and observing repetitive patterns.

Their attributes as managers:

•They have very high standards when it comes to professionalism •They do not want to explain their ideas، and they expect from their subordinates to have the insight which they have •Flexible and tolerant • they listen to all logical suggestions •They do not want to manage people •They notice the contradiction quickly • They hate side conversations and manipulate with emotions

Their attributes as subordinates:

•Creative، inventive، resourceful، but they ask for freedom in their work

• They do not care if they are beloved by their co-workers and they do not care about staying in their jobs، compared to other personal patterns • They hate routine work and applying ideas، but they prefer to focus on their energies on generating new ideas •They accept the criticism with an open mind، but they do not understand the emotional arguments

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•has a solitary personality who prefer to work alone.

*To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits، and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(INTP) pattern, (Logician)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ENTJ Pattern (Commander)

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What does it mean to be from ENTJ Category?

Extraverted-ENTJ They derive their energy and ideas from their presence with others; they prefer group activities and have a distinctive way of social communication. Intuitive-ENTJ They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They are visionaries. They depend on their intuition, analysis, and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. Thinking-ENTJ They tend to rational thinking and the emotional thinking reduced, which does not mean that they are free of emotion, but mostly they depend on rational thinking. Judging-ENTJ They judge on others and they are usually organized people and strongly respect deadlines. As well, they seek to end all their tasks on time. They have the ability to make decisions and the rigor in performing their work

Summary of basic personality traits: The leadership attribute considers nucleus of the ENTJ personality pattern, and they can be more confident than they are. They have a very attractive personality, people of that pattern have a strong presence and ability to lead and inspire others, as well as rationality and quick thinking.

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They love small and large challenges and believe strongly in their ability to accomplish anything by giving them time and sufficient means. They are very active and confident individuals who rarely find a difficulty to accomplish what they have set as a target. People of this pattern may find a difficulty in their personal lives, especially with regard to the observation and expression of emotions. Logic and rationality are highly valued in the business world, which causing many problems in emotional relationships if they do not make the necessary efforts to grow and develop those relationships

Strengths and Weaknesses

High self-confidence: They have high confidence in their abilities, they do not hesitate to tell others what they think about it, they rarely complain about themselves or care about their social role and the others' expectations

They are quick thinkers and multi-faceted: They are able to strengthen their knowledge and develop themselves in the various fields and topics that entice them .they enjoy breaking into intellectual challenges driven by their ability to convince and their nature, which is created in those discussions.

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Strategic thinkers: they have no difficulty in preparing long-term plans and analyzing problems in many ways in an attempt to find appropriate solutions.

Full of energy: They have a tendency to take over and lead people, as well as their ability to adapt new ideas and information and use them directly in developing business development strategies.

Accomplished: While the rest of patterns boast that they are artists, sympathizers, convincing, and athletes, people of this pattern are good at analyzing anything they face in life, using all available resources, pushing for a specific goal. As a result, they can usually be, as they want.

Having an attractive and inspiring personality: They find it easy to convince and inspire others, often for their own high esteem and strong ideas.

Honest and straight: They love honesty and hate lies, they are clear and straight, they say honesty and do not care about what people expect from them, they hate social niceties, which they consider it aimless activities and its irrational purpose; they prefer the uncomfortable truth to the comfortable lie.

They are very active: they hate the lack of effectiveness, irrationality, and laziness, and they cannot pay attention to some idea because it is more popular or supported by a person with authority, and these strengths make them very active and neutral

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decision makers. They tend to be fiercely opposed to clashes and usually remain rational and calm in emotional states.

They have a strong will: They rarely surrender or give up on their opinions regardless of who opposes them.

Weaknesses They are stubborn and dominant: because of their unlimited

confidence in themselves, and the desire to win all the debates and spreading their idea and vision only, they may be controlled by their reluctance and become inflexible.

They are arrogant: There is a thin line between trust and vanity, and immature people of this kind may exaggerate in estimating the importance of their knowledge or leadership skills. They looking down on others because of their lack of efficiency.

They do not know how to deal with emotions: They are very rational, and it is not surprising that they have difficulty to understanding and expressing emotions, and they may inadvertently hurt their partners and friends in emotionally strained situations.

They may be cold or taught: they are obsessed with their mind and efficiency, especially in the work field, which leads them to completely ignore any personal circumstances and refuse to show their emotions in order to achieve their goals.

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They are not patient: they are quick thinkers, so they quickly lose their patience when they are dealing with those who need more time to make decisions.

They are intolerant: they despise the emotional arguments and fabricate problems, those things represent for them unimportant and silly things. They do not hesitate to explain this to those around them. Although they have an open mind, however, they have little patience for things that they see as illogical, they do not forgive or understanding for such things.

They hate environments with a very organized structure: people of this pattern do not respect rules and laws; they tend to challenge reality and clash with people, so they hate environments, which based on tradition and respecting the authority and blind obedience. traditions and respect the authority

Basic features in the social and human relations:

1- Emotional relations: - People of this pattern are passionate partners who have full of

energy and take their emotional commitments very seriously. They strive to gain the leadership position in an emotional relationship as well. However, this is good in terms of making sure of taking the responsibilities to ensure that everything goes well.

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- They often look at dating (seeing the potential partner) as a way to someone in whom they can invest their time and effort, a person who understands and appreciates their ideas, which most other patterns find it too old and non- romantic. Moreover, they often come up with lists of intellectual and physical attributes that they like to find in their partner and waive many of these items as the relationship progresses.

- Their minds are ready to look at situations of conflict as a logical mystery that worth to be analyzed which does not always help them when the partner does not share ideas. It must be said here that their feelings are deep and may be very strong, but they express them in a way that is different from saying " I love you" every a few minutes, and they do so because they have learned that something like this will be expected, not because they feel it is necessary.

- They are great partners, loyal, sincere, and always keen to work to strengthen their relationship.

2- Friendship - People of this pattern seek to achieve personal growth and

inspiration, they usually, have a plan for how to do it. A friendship that based on common routines does not consider their preferred method. They prefer to make friends with people who share their passion with discussions which filled with deep

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meaning and enjoy learning and development like them.it is not always easy to be a friend to them because they are very demanding, but they pay close attention to their friendships that do not seem to become a chilly on some day

- Their friendships have been built on exchanging ideas, and the funniest thing for them is presenting their ideas and then defend them. These people are very smart and severe critics, and it is not easy to stand against a strong personality like them. They often find the others collapse under the pressure, which they actually make when they just start enjoying themselves.

- Lack of sensitivity or lack of emotion is one of their shortcomings, they always try to show that they do not need any help from others, and they do not understand the others need for help, which may reflect negatively on their friends, especially those who appreciate the emotional support.

3- Raising children: - Because of their strong personality and criticism nature, spending

time with people of that pattern is not easy. They are always ready for a challenge. They take their role as parents seriously and with the highest sense of responsibility and are committed to the highest standards. They see their children's success as a reflection of these standards.

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- They welcome differing opinions, even if it comes from their children, but they expect that their authority should be respected, and incompatibility cannot be seen as an excuse for failure in responsibility

- People of this pattern can reduce their emotional conflicts with their children by learning how to listen to emotions as a good way to communicate and respond favorably. This builds trust and understanding that can help making the collisional teenagers more comfortable with the problems.

- People who have that personality pattern do not save any effort for their children, that they sometimes will give up their rigid structure and they will have unexpected flexibility for the growth and maturity of their children and their pursuit of their goals.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- No one can match with people of this pattern when it related to planning, gathering available resources, implementing the chosen strategy in the most effective way, grouping involved parties, managing opportunities, risks, and goals as if they manage a chessboard. In these cases, they excel with their abilities over abstract logical thinking

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- They tend to think deeply about things, which makes them sink into the quagmire of their ideas. They try out which methods are best for them, and they should try to find the time to think and apply, without drowning in detail. Ironically, they are usually on their best behavior, relaxed and confident of their skills.it is not really important which way they will go, if in that way something which makes them continue or attract them to it, that will be the right path and correct choice

- People of this pattern characterized by a wide stunt and extensive science, and their leadership skills are stronger than others, their intuition will guide them and help them to improvise, and their ability to think will keep them on the logical track.

- Who belongs to this pattern hopes to become a mentor in science, technology, and nature, as they always seek to understand and control the unknown and mysterious things.

- Stability, intimacy, and empathy are not areas of concern to people of that pattern.

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Their attributes as co-workers: Sociable, who want to exchange ideas Dominant who have strong will It is easy for them to be inspired and teach people around them. They may be arrogant and give up only if they feel that their colleagues are not as competent as they should be. Only accept logical discussions and they may be insensitive. Able to evoke and criticize their ideas and the ideas around them.

Their attributes as subordinates: Pleased to deliver their ideas convincingly. They are confident and have an attractive personality. Good planners They do not tolerate errors or actions with specified standards.

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Software Engineer - Architect - Inventor - planner for the environment or cities - Systems Designer - Computer games

designer - Research and Sciences - Professor and researcher in the field of education - Physicist - life Scientist - Astronomer-

Medical researcher - Administrative Consultant - Project Manager - Military officer - Educational Consultant -

Investment Analyst - Lawyer - Political Planner

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It is easy for them to lead and encourage people. It is easy for them to recognize the talents of their assistants. They dislike inefficiency.

Their attributes as subordinates:

Perform their work at a high level and work hard if they are impressed by their role.

They enjoy the challenge, prove that nothing is impossible, and accept criticism as long as it is supported by a logical discussion.

they are open-minded and enjoy learning with everything new They set very high standards for themselves they are good at determining their priorities Sometimes they may be distracted.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ENTJ) pattern, (Commander)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ENTP Pattern (Debater)

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What does it mean to be ` from ENTP Category?

Extraverted-ENTPs They derive their energy and ideas from their presence with others; they prefer group activities and have a distinctive way of social communication. Intuitive-ENTPs They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They are visionaries. They depend on their intuition, analysis, and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. Thinking-ENTPs They tend to rational thinking and the emotional thinking reduced, which does not mean that they are free of emotion, but mostly they depend on rational thinking. Prospecting-ENTPs They tend to be not organized and love the change and seek for freedom. They do not settle down with routine and quickly adapting, they prefer to keep their options open. They described as researchers; they are always looking for alternative options, believing that there are better ways, which may lead to endless having many projects in their lives

Summary of personality traits This pattern generally loves arguments, debates, and intellectual challenges. They characterized by a quick and intuitive process, which gives them considerable progress in debates and discussions, whether academic or political. They are able to express themselves strongly, while

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they rarely care about how others see them as weirdoes. They are honest with themselves and they are staying away from trying to emulate and imitate the behavior of others. People of this pattern are honest and straight. They do not care to be seen by others as sensitive and passionate, they do not pay attention to what the community expects from them since their honesty can be very harsh at times, but they have an open mind and social tolerance.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS - Fast thinkers: It is easy for people of this style to put up discussions

or participate in them, enjoying the transformation from one idea to another without much effort, as they like to play the role of "the devil advocate"

- Fantastic analysts: people of this pattern are good at observing methods and seeing the full picture, as they have an impressive ability to move from one idea to another, connecting them in a way that stuns most other characters.

- Having a broad knowledge: people of this pattern enjoy learning new things continuously, and they are more qualified to succeed in the academic environment, especially when there is a need to find creative solutions.

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- Awesome brainstorming: people of this pattern can easily observe the different faces of a particular issue without any sympathy to a particular point of view or idea; they enjoy looking at all possible solutions.

- Creators: people of this pattern are not afraid of experiment and propose unconventional or even traditional ideas, and they have the ability to find wonderful solutions to complex problems.

- Attractive personality: people of this pattern are quick-minded and confident of themselves, which makes them attractive and famous people among those around them.

- Filled with energy: they become energized and filled with power if someone motivates them, and they can spend a very long time looking for solutions to problems that interest them.

- Honest and frank: they clearly state their opinions and expect others to exchange that with them

- Open minded: They have an open mind and a will to accept ideas that differ from their opinions, especially those supported by facts and logic. Usually, those who have this pattern are somewhat liberal in terms of social traditions and customs, only judging people from the base of their ideas.

- They have a broad imagination and a strategic view: people of this pattern are very good strategic thinkers, and often use this skill to prepare multiple plans on the personal and functional level, they

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love to be ready for planning to the future and expect all possible expectations and its consequences.

WEAKNESSES - Very argumentative: people of this pattern enjoy the debates and

see it as mental exercises, which easily anger the most sensitive patterns that prefer stability.

- Non- Sensitive: They are very rational people, which makes it difficult for them to observe others' feelings or express their feelings.

- They may find a difficulty in concentrating: people of this pattern used to move from one idea to another, so they may find it difficult to stay fully focused on one idea.

- They do not like practical things: They care more about ideas and solutions than practical things and daily duties. They may not find it difficult to make excellent plans but they do not care about putting them into practice.

- they get bored quickly: people of this pattern need to feel excited, routine tasks make them tired and frustrated, so they may come up with virtual problems or to make unnecessary suggestions, just to keep their minds awake.

- Their mind is overthrown: people of this pattern focus all their efforts on analyzing a specific idea, but this usually leads to ignoring

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everything else and they may forget the things, which they do not care about it.

- They reconsider things: although they are excellent, analysts but often lack the ability to make decisions, which have arbitration style. they may find it difficult to determine which ideas are the best, and they are always looking for more information and questioning their conclusions

- They hate rules and guidelines: They need freedom and they a little comply with principles and traditions that put moral limits on their thinking. People of this pattern may be the least secure but the most independent.

- They hate environments with a very organized structure: people of this pattern do not respect rules and laws, so they hate environments, which based on tradition and respecting the authority and blind obedience. They tend to challenge reality and clash with people who prefer stability and being safe. so they need to know that those constraints have a meaning and reason

Basic features in the social and human relations: 1- Emotional relations

- People of this pattern are spontaneous, and they often seek to find a partner who has that feature. They like to search for new things that the partners can do together in the sense that the partner of people of that pattern should have similar priorities and intellectual

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abilities. People of that pattern will do all they have to remove all restrictions and traditions in their emotional relationships even in the early stages of their relationship (often they tell their partner to see the openness of their mind and spontaneity).

- People of this pattern look at emotional relationships as a way to find someone in whom they can invest their effort and time, a person who understands and appreciates their ideas, which most other patterns find it too old and non-romantic.

- People of this pattern do not like to be in the middle of emotional conflicts. Although internal conflicts are inevitable even in the happiest emotional relationships, people of that pattern may find these conflicts very frustrating. They try to avoid emotional clashes in their relationships, especially during the early stages.

- People of this pattern are very loyal and faithful to their partner, as they are very frank and honest even in the early stages of their relationship. These people are committed to their obligations, and it is very easy to live with them, as their daily needs are simple and they do not ask much from their partner.

2- Friendship - People of this pattern do not look for the traditional things that

most people are looking for in any friendship, such as sincerity, support, and emotions. The last thing they want to hear is "you're right" unless they win well in a heated round of intellectual debate.

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However, if they were wrong, they want to be told that too, as they will explain to others every detail in their logic failure, as a result of their (sometimes random) quest for truth, and another result because they see their duty to defend for the logic.

- people of this pattern are remarkably good at communicating with friends and relatives more than the other personalities.as well, their tendency to argue effectively as much as possible means that they communicate in the language of others and their reference frames, while they are having difficulty communicating with others on emotional issues.

- People of this pattern tend to suppress their emotions when they meet with a friend who needs someone to listen to his grief, they cannot deal with such situations, and they do not have the ability to show sympathy or showing significantly external affection regardless how they will understand the situation of the other. However, they will be happy in the case of providing a series of reasonable solutions to the problem which faced by that friend.

3- Raising Children:

- Because of their strong personality and criticism nature, spending time with people of that pattern is not easy. They are always ready for a challenge. They take their role as parents seriously and with the highest sense of responsibility and are committed to the

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highest values. They see their children's success as a reflection of these values.

- They welcome differing opinions, even if it comes from their children, but they have rationality about new ideas in responsibilities and roles but their position expects to be respected at the end of the day.

- They learn how to listen, and express their feelings and respond to them, this can help them to reduce their emotional conflicts with their children, which not consider only maintaining the relationship.

- People who belong to this pattern do not make an effort for their children, so that sometimes they will take a deep breath and reduce their commitment according to their children growth and their maturity and their quest to achieve their goals in raising the ceiling of their abilities to become intelligent adults away from the most absurd acts possible.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- What makes the people of this pattern happy is challenges that seem impossible or strange practical applications. For example, people of that pattern can be business planners, business analysts, game designers, engineers or programmers. Whatever the professional

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field, which they would work in, people of that pattern naturally are designers; nothing amazes them except architectural, physical or mental models.

- People of that pattern are intelligent analysts who can exceed other patterns with the organizational skills and accurate thinking, people of this pattern called the inventors because of the originality, confidence and logical skills that give them preference over all other patterns.

- The best thing for people of that pattern is having good communication skills with people and many other skills; they are always the professionals in all fields. as they are addicted to study as they were called “moving encyclopedias"

- People of this pattern prefer to set goals for themselves, and we can say that their extreme attachment to knowledge regardless of the surrounding circumstances is something that cannot be ignored. As a result, a career path that does not bring them excitement is likely to make them exhausting and frustrating. Unlike other personality patterns, it is not possible to satisfy the curiosity of people of that pattern, unlike other characters. They are always looking for new mysteries and rejecting unconvincing answers.

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Their attributes as co-workers:

First-rate arguers. Excellent creators of new ideas. They have a good sense of humor. They can make new friends easily Objective, direct and straight. They are usually seekers of knowledge. They may be insensitive or a little transcendent. insightful and unbiased

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

information technology Engineer-Architect - Inventor - Planner for the environment or cities - Computer systems

designer - Computer games designer - physicist-Astronomer -Medical researcher-life Scientist -Psychologist -Chemist-Neurologist -Pathologist -Strategy Planner for a company-Marketing-Administrative Consultant -Project

Manager - Military Officer - Educational Advisor - Investment Analyst - Intelligence Attorney - Any work that

includes analysis and forecasting.

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They are reluctant to talk or association with people around them, but they enjoy discussing theoretical ideas with their colleagues who consider them as equal to them

They are not comfortable with expressing their emotions or their presence with people who express their feelings.

Enjoy solving puzzles and observing similar patterns.

Their attributes as managers:

They can objectively and correctly evaluate conflicting discussions They are good at keeping their consistency during logical

discussions, which make them supporters for their teams and willing to maintain their positions.

They enjoy creating modern ways of dealing with the challenges, which they face, but they hate to apply them.

They do not care much about being beloved, but they care about being respectful and appreciate their intelligence.

Open-minded and flexible They may move between more than one project looking for

challenge and excitement. They have high standards especially towards themselves. They hate to explain their ideas and expect their assistants to be as

insightful as they are. They accept suggestions as long as they are logical.

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They hate to create decency during the conversation and strongly oppose all kinds of manipulating the emotions of others.

Their attributes as subordinates:

They challenge the ideas of their superiors and feel comfortable because they are convinced about those ideas

They have curiosity that makes them learn new ways quickly They strongly hate everything that restricts them and limits their

creativity they prefer to deal with the most complex types of challenges to

have to deal with routine tasks they do not mind to be criticized as long as this criticism makes

sense They have difficulties in dealing with practical and routine tasks They believe in modernity and creativity and their ideas are rich

but they demand a great deal of freedom in return they do not care about being beloved and have less interest in the

job security- such as having a health insurance or similar They like to have with them "applicable of their ideas" which put

their ideas into effect but this needs time and good management.

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at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ENTP) pattern, (Debater)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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Chapter three: Category

two: The category of

diplomatic Leadership

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Introduction Diplomats focus on empathy and cooperation. They are highly trained in diplomacy and consultation. People who belong to that group are cooperative and imaginative. Often they are playing the role of coordinator between the parties in their workplace or in their social circles, but these features, which causes many problems when there is an urgent need to rely on rationality and making difficult decisions. Before we are going into the details of the patterns in this category, we must make it clear that this category has two general characteristics common in all its forms: which are

- (Intuitive), they are primarily concerned with the generalities of things and do not give the same attention to the partial and accurate details of things. They have long-term plans and general studies on things, which is symbolized by Letter (N).

- (Feeling)While the balance is weighted within them, to the emotion and feelings, there is no room to judge things rationally or realistic, they are sensitive people at the first place. However, it does not mean that they do not think rationally, but mostly they prefer the emotional thinking, which is what Symbolized by (F).

It includes four patterns 1- INFJ pattern (Advocate) 2- INFP pattern (Mediator) 3- ENFJ pattern (Protagonist) 4- ENFP pattern (Campaigner)

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INFJ Pattern (Advocate)

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What does it mean to be from INFJ Category?

Introverted-INFJs They listen carefully, preferring individual activities, feel more comfortable when they are alone more than being surrounded by many people, and social activities exhaust them. Intuitive-INFJs They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They are visionaries. They depend on their intuition, analysis, and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. Feeling-INFJs the emotion control them over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and they follow their hearts and emotions, which does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. Judging-INFJs They judge on others and they are usually organized people and strongly respect deadlines. As well, they seek to end all their tasks on time. They have the ability to make decisions and the rigor in performing their work

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Summary of personality traits They are passionate, powerful and insightful, and they have a strong mix of qualities that can be used for good and bad. They are ideal people and love the excellence who seek to develop and grow in all fields, but what is missing for them that they have not clear directions and goals. They are very passionate and very sensitive people, which makes them vulnerable if they want to grow and develop; they have to learn how to direct their energy and passion in one particular direction.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS

- Creators: They have a vivid imagination and a strong sense of aesthetics. They use their creativity to solve technical challenges, not human ones, and they find it fun to find solutions for someone they care about, which makes them excellent advisers.

- Insightful: they see the motives behind the lack of honesty and deception, and they pass the manipulation tactics and hegemony to a more honest discussion. They know how to link events to each other, and they can use their insight to get to the heart of the problem.

- Inspirational and persuasive: They talk with humane and nontechnical methods, they possess a style of inspirational writing that addresses the ideal side of their audience, they can be

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amazingly good preachers. They speak with warmth and passion if they are proud of what they are talking about it.

- Decisive: Their creativity and inspiration make them able to make a big impact on the world, as they are able to follow their ideas with the persuasion, strong will and planning are necessary to carry out complex projects to the end. They also see not only how things will happen, but they act accordingly it.

- Determined and passionate: When they believe that something is important, they pursue that goal with conviction and energy that can dazzle even their friends and loved ones. However, they may pose problems if they are forced to do so, which they may not want everyone to see it, but their passion for what they chose is not part of it which consider an integral part of their personality.

- They are active and always looking for development: They use this power point for the public good. They have a strong belief in development, so they take action not because they try to develop themselves, but because they try to develop an idea, which they believe that it will make the world, is a better place.

WEAKNESSES

- Sensitive: When someone challenges them or criticize their

theories or values, then they will face alarmingly a strong response. They are very vulnerable to criticism and conflict, and therefore the question of what motivates or criticizes them is the quickest way to get to their bad side.

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- Extremely private: they are very private with regard to their own lives, using this image to keep themselves away from real openness, even to the closest friends. In addition, trusting a new friend can be more challenging for them.

- Love of perfection: they are known for their love of perfection, and while this word is very wonderful in many areas, it is not always possible to create an ideal situation, whether in politics, work, or emotional relationships. They often leave and overlook situations and productive healthy relationships, they always believing that there is a better option at the end of the road.

- They always need to have the causes: they like to know that they take strong steps towards their goals, and if they feel that the routine tasks are on their way, or that there is no goal in the first place, they will feel uncomfortable and frustrated.

- They can easily be drained: their passion, their little patience for routine maintenance work, their tendency to present themselves as idealists, and their great privacy make them had limited choices to discharge their negative energy. Thus, people of this type of personality tend to drain themselves in a short period if they find no way to balance their ideal with the reality, which they live.

Basic features in the social and human relations:

1- Emotional relations:

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- People of this pattern take emotional relationships seriously; they look at the deep meanings in their relationships, as they take the necessary time to find someone who can communicate with him for real. Once they find this person, their relationship will reach to a degree of depth and happiness which most of the people cannot dream about it.

- They are warm, friendly people, caring about others and have a deep vision, they always looking for people who share their desire for reliability and authenticity, especially when they are looking for a partner.

- People of this pattern are passionate in their relationships, and there is behind their spontaneity something is wise, which turns them as a surprise for the partner over and over again.

- They are not afraid to express their love, and they feel that it is unconditional, which would give a depth to their relationships that are difficult to describe in a few terms and phrases. Therefore, the relationship with them is not for those who cannot keep up with the commitment.

2- Friendship: - People of this pattern are passionate with honesty and authenticity

whether in their activities or their emotional relationships or friendships. They do not seem to have the inclination to make friends according to the circumstances, such as the social circle in the workplace, where the common real thing to them is their daily

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lives only. Instead of that, they look for people who share their passion, interests, ideologies (their ideas) and searching for people who can share with them in exploring philosophies and topics, which they think that they are meaningful.

- At first, getting to know them may be a challenge because they are so private and mysterious. They do not easily share all their thoughts and feelings unless they feel comfortable. These thoughts and feelings form the basis of their friendship; it may require time and perseverance to get to know them.

- They have the eloquence and the ability to persuade which make them popular among people and attract attention to them which they do not like that thing. They do not like to attract attention and they prefer to stay invisible, however, by nature, they are very powerful people with influence, and they do not like to use this power to attract more people to them. Therefore, They find themselves more desirable than the level in which they care about to be on it, which makes it more difficult for them to find someone they truly associate with him

3- Raising Children: - People of this pattern tend to adhere firmly to principles, having

mercy and do their best to make sure that their children are able to fight for the issues they believe in, separating the good from the

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bad. They focus on the importance of having moral and noble goals.

- They give a great importance to imagination and creativity and parents who have that pattern encourage their children to discover multiple hobbies and activities, hoping that they will eventually find things that will inspire and motivate them.

- People with INFJ pattern are very sensitive and passionate, especially when it related to family members. parents are always willing to sit with their children and discuss issues which concern them

- In some cases, the emotional relationship between parents who have that personality pattern and their children are so strong, so that both of them find it difficult to accept the fact that the children will grow up and become adults and they will need to live an independent life.

- Parents who have this personality pattern do not worry much about their children's achievements in terms of their academic and school performance, they are more assertive about their children's feelings, and they are doing what they really enjoy it

- Parents who follow that pattern motivate their children to discover visual arts, theater or literature; they prefer metaphors, hidden meanings, complex, and interesting concepts.

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- Parents of this pattern play an inspiring role, regardless of the hobbies and interests of their children. Who has this personality are dedicated and diligent, although their practical and managerial skills tend to be below the required level compared to their creativity and emotional abilities.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- People of this pattern are happy when they do a job that allows them to be creative, empathy and share their feeling, examples of such fields are education, psychology and community work, but there are many other fields where they can shine in it.

- They often do not feel happy in the roles that are far from social interaction or the rules, which they are subject to rules and laws. It should be said that with freedom comes the responsibility, and they should not hesitate to explore all available options rather than restrict themselves in the performance of one specific role.

- people of this pattern have the ability to make decisions decisively, and they can maintain their cold-blood in difficult situations, but they feel more comfortable when they have more time to assess the situation and make their decision based on adequate information

- They have high leadership skills but they may be stressful to stay on high alert quickly, as opposed to the explorers who are more likely

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to be negotiators or planners rather than be executors at the forefront of work.

Their attributes as co-workers:

They are very popular because they are positive people who understand the motivations of others and they are highly sensitive.

they able to resolve the conflict before anyone feel it Harmony and cooperation are their priorities; they are stimulating

a positive working environment. They help their colleagues when they need it.

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

drug and alcohol abuse therapist and consultant -

marriage relationships counselor-psychiatrist (as a

therapist, not only pharmaceutical)-psychologist-

consultant - social worker- a doctor- a nurse practitioner

- A doctor assistant - recruitment consultant-A religious

teacher- health care manager a Kindergarten, Primary,

secondary, teacher. - University lecturer(especially in the

specialties of religion, philosophy and literature) -

teacher for adults - school director (mostly supervisor)-

counselor - school psychologist -- human resource

manager - employment officer - coach- lawyer -diplomat

- political - journalist - writer

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This kind of help may turn out to be exploited by others to put their functional burdens on those most dedicated and committed employees.

A solitary personality by nature, from time to time needs to isolate itself from the noise and reconsider its goals and calculations quietly.

This personality cannot compromise on its principles for some lazy colleagues.

Their attributes as managers:

They hate exercising the authority. they look at their subordinates as being equal and corresponding

to them While the manager exercises his supervisory and guidance role, he

let the technical details of this department are given to those in power.

This manager does not carry the traditional character who has the whip, on the contrary, he works hard to inspire and motivate employees and give them confidence and dependence.

Despite their understanding and the primacy of their principles, they are never negligent and they do not accept anyone to weaken their business in front of their employees. If this happened for any reason, they will work hard to regain the confidence of their employees and make them feel comfortable and the value, which they represent.

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* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(INFJ) pattern, (Advocate)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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INFP Pattern (Mediator)

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What does it mean to be from INFP Category?

Introverted-INFP They listen carefully, preferring individual activities, feel more comfortable when they are alone more than being surrounded by many people, and social activities exhaust them. Intuitive-INFP They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They are visionaries. They depend on their intuition, analysis, and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. Feeling-INFP the emotion control them over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and they follow their hearts and emotions, which does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. Prospecting-INFP They tend to be not organized and love the change and seek for freedom. They do not settle down with routine and quickly adapting, they prefer to keep their options open. They described as researchers; they are always looking for alternative options, believing that there are better ways, which may lead to endless having many projects in their lives

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Summary of personality traits: People of this personality pattern tend to be very kind, loyal and desperate, they putting others first and making sure to contribute to the issues that deserve their intervention from their point of view. Honesty and self-esteem are more important than financial benefits. People should not be afraid to commit to something they really believe in it. People of this pattern are often described as calm, conservativeness and even ashamed, but such a view can be deceiving, although they are cautious in dealing with others. However, their internal fire and passion are things that cannot be taken seriously. They have a clear sense of humor, which inspires and motivate them. People of this personality pattern are very affectionate, and this affection can stay incoherent for a long time, but they use it with great awareness, directing their energy to a few people or a specific worthy cause. they are seeking to achieve harmonization in their lives and in the surrounding environment., often they try hard to create something positive and respond to beauty, morality, and virtue rather than practical efficiency or values. However, they feel depressed by the pervasive evil in the world and they have the ability to observe the smallest signs of goodness in others. In their opinion, even the worst people have a respectful aspect, or at least deserve sympathy. People of this pattern are professionals in written communication through a smooth and warm language. They have the grace of word creation and

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its interpretation; they are also famous for their rich imagination and usually find it easy to learn a new language.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS - Passionate and full of energy: They have a lot of energy with regard

to the issues, which they believe in, and they have the ability to defend them. They may be quiet and even shy in public places, but their passion should not be underestimated.

- Jealousy: they rarely do something for their personal benefit, as they tend to be very warm and jealous, although these features may not be obvious.

- Creators: They find it easy to interpret hidden signs and meanings. For example, their advanced intuition does not find it difficult to connect points and bring interesting and unconventional ideas.

- Flexible and open-minded: they do not like to be bound by rules and do not seek to apply it to others, and they tend to be somewhat liberal, with an open mind, as long as their theories and ideas are not challenged.

- Idealists: They may be the most perfect among the personality patterns, believing that people are inherently good and that everyone should do their best to fight evil and inequality in the world.

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- They seek to achieve harmony and appreciate it: They do not want to control, and they work hard to make sure that everyone's ideas are appreciated and heard.

- They are dedicated and working hard: As we have said before, they are passionate and idealistic. It is not surprising that they are very dedicated to the chosen issues or organizations to which they belong, nor do they seem simply to surrender because others have left the issue or found it difficult to progress.

WEAKNESSES

- Very jealous: They may focus on doing good things, helping others to the point that they will ignore their own needs. Instead, they may fight for the chosen cause, ignoring everything else in life.

- They do not like to deal with information: they are more in agreement with emotions and ethics, but they have difficulty with facts and information, such as analyzing the linkage and finding contradictions.

- Difficult to get to know them: people of this personality pattern tend to be private and introverted.

- They take many things on a personal base: they cherish their ideas and have difficulty accepting criticism, taking such comments very personally, and they tend to avoid confrontational situations, they always looking for solutions that satisfy everyone.

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- They may be very idealistic: they are dreamers and idealists, especially with regard to emotional relationships, and they may deify “make him like a God" the partner or consider him a source of idealism, forgetting that there is no perfect person.

- They are not practical: they do not see practical matters as important, so they may forget to eat and drink if they do something that motivates them.

- They always need to have the causes: They may find it difficult to focus on forcing themselves to complete tasks that are not linked to one of their goals, such as routine administrative work. They always want to know if they are moving towards a worthy goal, and they may be frustrated and uncomfortable if the situation was not worth it.

Basic features in the social and human relations:

1. Emotional relations: - Those who belong to this pattern are endowed with infinite

loyalty. They are romantic idealists who can spend a great deal of time dreaming daydream about an excellent relationship where harmony and warmth are limitless. Searching for a partner is one of the fixed targets for them, and their pure passion is one of the most attractive features.

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- The things that really concern them are ideas, beliefs, and dreams of meeting their partner. If at first, the other party is unable to have the will to try to communicate with this pattern at that level. They will lose interest quickly, which is why they communicate easily with other intuitive patterns (diplomats or analysts) more than realistic patterns, which do not enjoy talking about abstract things.

- They can behave wisely and spontaneously, even in sudden events unlike the other patterns which more assertive and less flexible, and their partner can expect from them surprises over and over again

- The main problem which facing this pattern is their attraction to put the partner in a very high and lofty position, whether in getting to know each other or later in the relationship.in other words; they tend to make the partner looks perfect and romantic, giving them unreal traits. This happens as a result of their focus on the perfect love and romance when love knocks their door, and it becomes difficult to separate the truth from the imagination.

2. Friendship: - It is very difficult to identify people of this pattern so that their

closest friends will often find it funny to convince them to open up and express their feelings, but their ordinary relatives will not be able to approach their own internal self, they do not care about

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how many friends they have, but they care about the quality of these friends which are the most important thing for them

- They do not care about a friendship that is about practical or daily things, but they will stay in their idealistic passion and strong desire to make the world a better place. So they seek for friends who have the ability to introduce some idealism into their lives, engage in deep discussions and filled with meanings around things which far from the routine. They do not seem to care about events that are based on physical activity, although they tend to love the nature.

- They are usually very good at reading what motivates the others, they have no difficulty in filtering out people they feel suspicious about them, and they tend to support friends, so many patterns seek to make friends with them because of their wisdom, but they need to learn how to meet new friends in the middle of the road.

3. Raising Children - People of this pattern tend to be very idealistic, kind,

compassionate and do their best to make sure that their children are able to fight for the issues they believe in, and the separation between right and wrong.

- They tend to be loving parents, encourage, and open; their children have rarely seen them angry or depressed. They are seeking for harmony with their families, doing their best to protect

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their loved ones from the evils of the world; they enjoy with the tenderness and sacrifice, which makes them wonderful parents.

- They give a great importance to the aspects of imagination and creativity and parents who enjoy this personality pattern encourage their children to discover hobbies and activities, hopefully, that they will eventually find things that will inspire and motivate them.

- People of this pattern are sensitive and emotional, especially when it comes to family members, parents are always ready to sit with their children and discuss the matters of concern. Moreover, parents encourage their children to listen to their feelings and not be afraid to be sensitive and nice where it is possible.

- People who have this personality pattern must be cautious during the adolescent years of their children. Teenagers often rebel against the authority of their parents, while they do not have to assume immediately that their children rebel with different activities for their behavior or ignore everything they have learned or there is a possibility to feel with a harmful damage

- Parents of this pattern take the role of mentor, regardless of their children's hobbies and interests. They are dedicated and diligent, although their practical and managerial skills tend to be below the required level compared to their creative and emotional abilities.

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Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- People of this pattern are creative and wonderful writers, especially when they write about an issue, which considered an important case. Many distinguished writers belong to this personality pattern, as this writing skill is not matched in any other pattern.

- They have the ability to lead, but they do not try to reach it. They do not like the positions, unlike other personality’s patterns. Being close to, the leadership position comes from the position sensitivity and understanding instead of power and authority. Therefore, they are brilliant in jobs that need a personal touch and sensitivity. Some of the career paths, which they can take part in, are religious institutions, human resources department, or as psychotherapists or doctors.

- there considered from the few personalities which can be good in professions with targeted service roles, they care about the others honestly in bad and good times and put their desires above his desires. By adding this feature to their creative situation, they can excel as a counselor, social worker or psychiatrist, and many of them can work in academic fields.

- They have been developing in the fields, which combine their idealism with their desire to reform the world and their vision.

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They are often fascinated by moral and hidden meanings and diplomacy, and they try to reach harmony and compatibility wherever they may be. They have many dreams and occasional ambitions

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the most

appropriate (but not the only ones):

Counseling in alcohol addiction - Counselor of marital relations - Psychologist ( as the Psychotherapist always concentrates his work on pharmacotherapy) - Social worker - Physician - a nurse practitioner - Physical Assistant - Recruitment consultant-A religious man. - Manager of health care -teacher (all educational stages) - Lecturer at University (especially in the specialties of: Arts, Philosophy and Religion) - Teacher for adult education - Director of school (especially who provides visions and perceptions) -Counselor - A religious teacher- human resource manager -Mediator for Conflict Resolution - employment officer - coach- lawyer -diplomat - political - journalist

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Their attributes as co-workers: They seek for harmony and cooperation in the workplace. they are friendly, relatively shy and conservative They hate brainstorming and technical sessions. They leave a psychological distance between them and their

colleagues. they hate communication via telephone They hate technical discussions and brainstorm about virtual things They will do everything they can to avoid clashes at work as they

feel very uncomfortable in situations where they have to pick a side of the clash sides

Their attributes as managers: They know well what will motivate their subordinates. they have strong observation Excellent listeners who can easily change the mood of their team. They may find it difficult to reprimand their subordinates for their

misconduct. They are able to inspire and motivate others. Flexible and open-minded people who do not like bureaucracy

and strict rules. They tend to become very emotional in stress situations. Respect all their subordinates and do everything in their power to

support and encourage their team.

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They like to assign the assignments to trusted subordinates. They do not see themselves as traditional managers.

Their attributes as subordinates: More work can be obtained if they receive multiple requests for

help. They can handle multiple tasks and responsibilities. Reliable, diligent and work with loyalty. Vulnerable to conflict and criticism at work. Appreciate the personal touch and sensitivity more than strict

guidelines. They hate routine tasks. Their business has to be meaningful. They need to feel with their value. Very diligent but sometimes they need encouragement. Appreciate independence and informal relations.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(INFP) pattern, (Mediator)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ENFJ Pattern (Protagonist)

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What does it mean to be ` from ENFJ Category?

Extraverted-ENFJs They derive their energy and ideas from their presence with others; they prefer group activities and have a distinctive way of social communication. Intuitive-ENFJs They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They are visionaries. They depend on their intuition, analysis, and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. Feeling-ENFJs the emotion control them over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and they follow their hearts and emotions, which does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. Judging-ENFJs They judge on others and they are usually organized people and strongly respect deadlines. As well, they seek to end all their tasks on time. They have the ability to make decisions and the rigor in performing their work

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Summary of personality traits People who have this pattern naturally tend to care for others, spreading honesty, attention, and goodness, which making their surroundings look to them as inspiring people to them. They are adorable and charming when they speak and it is easy for them to communicate and displaying their thoughts and opinions especially when it related to the personality. They are very convincible when they talk and instinctively know how to combine sensations with rational arguments, attracting the attention of those who listen to them and sticking to the mind of each one of them. Those people can become great leaders, not necessary to enter the political field to make changes. For example, a professor with that personality can have a significant positive impact on many people in their lives. They depend on their high intuition. It is easy for them to find what motivates others and finding links between things that do not appear to be related to each other, as they are good at analyzing their feelings. For example, people who have ENFJ pattern have a combination of idealism and firmness, which means their abilities and imaginations, can be directed to serve specific goals. They may be affected by emotional states such as others, because their emotional communication is very high, and it is much greater than the other types. The compassion power could be a blessing or a curse. They are excellent counselors, but this can cause them great stress and suffer from negative feelings. If they do not pay attention to it, they care about the

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feelings of others and expect from others to reciprocate the same interest, so they are very sensitive people and vulnerable to collisions with others.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS - Very Charismatic Characters: distinguished and popular characters,

they are working instinctively to attract the attention of others, and communicate with them effectively.

- Altruistic: warm and loving people who influence others and have a desire to help others; they are inspiring and love to do great things to the world.

- Skilled influencers: It is easy for them to observe what encourages others, motivates them, concerns them, and they are instinctively able to arrange their ways of dealing and discussing them accordingly.

- leaders by nature: people of this pattern do not seek for controlling or guidance, but others are attracted to this character, and its charm and mastery of its words, which ultimately makes them very well-known people

- they are firm: it is one of the most important strengths that they have if their imagination and firmness are mix-ups- as usual- allow them to do great work, not only for their unconventional and

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exciting ideas, but also they have the necessary skills to plan and a desire to achieve those ideas too

- Creatives: They have a vivid imagination, they rarely have a difficulty to expressing it in one way or another, and most of their solutions revolve around people and ideas, which qualifies them as excellent advisers.

- Tolerant: These people tend to be open-minded, accepting ideas and competition as long as they do not conflict with their principles.

- Hard workers: they are working hard, especially if their role is fun and stimulating for them, and they can be very dependable.

WEAKNESSES

- Altruistic more than required: sometimes in helping others and doing their best to ensure that no one disappoints from them

- Very idealistic: they believe that everyone is kind by their nature. - They are often very emotional: they are sensitive and emotional,

and can easily hurt their feelings or disappoint them, as well as being very concerned about others' feelings.

- Sensitive to criticism: Since they have strong internal feelings with full of principles and values, it is difficult for them to be criticized by others, as they find it difficult to accept negative criticism, and to react calmly to it

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- Loving the excellence: They are doing their utmost to achieve their ideas, it is really wonderful, but it can easily become a weakness if they apply the same principle to all aspects of their lives.

- They have a difficulty in making fundamental decisions: As a result of their lack of affection, and emotions. People of his pattern are having extremely difficult to make decisions that contain difficult choices, as they can swing between two options and they are unable to think.

- Their great self-esteem: their self-respect depends on their ability to reach their ideas and achieve their goals while at the same time they try to making everyone around them feel happy. If they cannot help close people to them or if their advice is criticized, their self-respect will be greatly reduced.

- They always need causes: they find it difficult to concentrate and force themselves to complete their tasks that are linked to their goals.

Basic features in the social and human relations:

1- Emotional relations: - People of this pattern take dating and emotional relations very

seriously and counted for them their passion and dedication in their

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relationships. This shows even in the early stages of dating, as people of this pattern spend a lot of time and effort to embrace their emotional relationship. as they are warm in feeling and interested partners, they are able to unconditionally love, and showing that to the other partner, sometimes they tend to perfection which leads to upset the other partner from them

- people of this pattern refrain from collisions and criticism, especially when it comes to romantic dates and emotional relationships.as they will do anything to escape from the judging positions and take procedures to solve problems, and they should learn to pay more attention to their needs and express them especially in romantic dates

- People who belong to this pattern do not need much to feel happy, as it is essential for them to get some flattery and obvious impact.

- People of this pattern mood is affected by what is known as (hot/cold swings). For example, you may find them open-minded in the morning and isolated in the evening. Also, remember that they are romantic people and the way, which they use it to express; their feelings may be ideal or even poetic.

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- Friends of this type are known for their kindness and sweetness. People of this personality pattern enjoy communicating with others and getting to know them even more. Most people find it easy to communicate even with those who have a conservative personality who do not share their thoughts or interests. People of this pattern are careful to choose their close friends who appreciate authenticity and sincerity.

- People of this pattern tend to idealistic in making friends, they want to be best friends, and they support and encourage their friends and push them forward.

- People of this pattern do not find any pleasure with the friendships that are about daily issues. They are passionate to make the world a better place, so they get closer to people who add a bit of idealism to their lives. They tend to engage in depth, searching, and debate on things that go beyond traditional things. Similar to these people do not physical activities, despite their love for nature.

3- Raising children: - People of this pattern focus on virtue, they are principled,

compassionate, and they will do everything, which they can do to make sure that they teach their children to defend their principles in life and to distinguish between wrong and right. However, that does not mean that they want their children to become a fanatic to

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some opinion. They always confirm that there are a moral compass and noble goals; they want their children to be as good as possible, as well as listen to their hearts.

- Parents who belong to this pattern encourage their children to be obvious with themselves, no matter how hard the right path.

- They are always prepared to listen to their children and guide them and discuss any problem with them. They will encourage their children to listen to their feelings and not to be afraid of being sensitive. They trust in their intuition and skills and they will develop that trust in their children.

- People of this pattern are sensitive and focus on ethics and values, so neglecting those people of different personalities for some things may hurt them.

- People with this kind of personality tend to enjoy things that raise their imagination and they rarely have difficulty in finding creative ideas. They love nature and believe that all living things are in conciliation and harmony, so they will push their children to love nature just like do.

- They push their children to think independently and take responsibility for their own decisions, rather than trying to push them into some professions or activities, but they will do their best to keep their children away from occupations that do not conform to their established principles.

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Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- People of this pattern are leaders in their nature, although they do not seek to obtain leadership and authoritarian positions unlike other types of personalities. They accept their leadership role and they are keen on working to make their visions and ideas applied on the ground. As a result, they tend to excel in Professions that require a certain degree of sensitivity and personal handling, some examples of the appropriate works for people who belong to this pattern is to be a leader of a religious association, or to be a human resource manager, psychologist, or doctor.

- People of this pattern do not favor routine work, analysis of precise detail, or individuality. They are also susceptible to collisions and criticism. These features prevent them from focusing on information-based occupations rather than people, or those with a lot of pressure and clashes such as verification, money, and programming. , Data analysis and information.

- On the other hand, these people are characterized by high vision and wonderful creativity, and they tend to be excellent architects, musicians, artists, designers, ... as you see the best professions for people of this pattern is centered on these features.

- People of this pattern are advisers and teachers at their core

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- strong will and desire to cooperate make them excellent qualified for the positions of moral authorities, as they tend to be willing and eager, able to make time and effort in an unusual way for something they believe in it.

Their attributes as co-workers:

Collaborators and careful to help Very open-minded and tolerant Sensitive and intuitive Willing to express their opinions They find it easy to communicate with co-workers Seek to win. They hate tension and conflict

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Counselor in cases of alcohol and drug addiction. - Advisor in marriage - Psychiatrist (as long as psychotherapy is the most

important of pharmaceuticals) Psychologist - Social worker - Doctor- Practitioner - Doctor Assistant - Career Counselor -

Religious Worker - Director of health care . Teacher of primary, preparatory or secondary stage (especially in philosophical or literary

subjects) - Teacher of adult education - School Manager - Counselor of guidance - Psychological counselor in the school -

Religious Educator - Director of Human Resources- Recruiter -Instructor - Advisor in the field of career guidance - Conflict -

Diplomatic Lawyer - Journalist - Writer

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Very idealistic, but insightful, with the ability to sense the motives of others

Very serious about their duties and responsibilities they appreciate values and good atmosphere more than cold

facts Their attributes as managers:

Having Charisma and charismatic personality. They carefully care for the needs of their subordinates. They have a tremendous capacity for dialogue and

communication. Can easily inspire others Good at identifying things that push and motivate others They may be exploitative or manipulative in some situations They have high standards and expectations when it comes to

efficiency and professionalism. They are able to judge accurately on the cases and subordinates. They strongly stick to their principles Sensitive and understanding. They cannot stand unreliable individuals. They agree on coordinating and supervise people. They are not good at management systems.

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Their attributes as subordinates: Larger work can be obtained if they receive multiple requests for

help. They can handle multiple tasks and responsibilities. They may underestimate their abilities. Working hard and perform work with loyalty. Fast learners. Subject to conflict and criticism at work. They appreciate personal touch and sensitivity more than strict

guidelines. They hate routine tasks. They want their business to be meaningful. They need to feel their value. Very diligent but sometimes they need encouragement. They appreciate independence and informal relations.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ENFJ) pattern, (Protagonist)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ENFP Pattern (Campaigner)

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What does it mean to be from ENFP Category?

Extraverted-ENFP They derive their energy and ideas from their presence with others; they prefer group activities and have a distinctive way of social communication. Intuitive-ENFP They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They are visionaries. They depend on their intuition, analysis, and imagination to understand and explain ideas to others. Feeling-ENFP the emotion control them over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and they follow their hearts and emotions, which does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. Prospecting-ENFP They tend to be not organized and love the change and seek for freedom. They do not settle down with routine and quickly adapting, they prefer to keep their options open. They described as researchers; they are always looking for alternative options, believing that there are better ways, which may lead to endless having many projects in their lives

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Summary of personality traits They are shiny characters who can talk and it is easy for them to communicate and display their thoughts and their opinions, especially when it related to the personality. They have a deep vision, a good heart, compassion, and sensitivity, as well as the charm of their personality and social skills. They often reap fame and have a great influence on their surroundings. People of this pattern love people around them and make new friends wherever they go, they seek for harmony but they fight evil and injustice wherever they can, in addition to that, they are cautious. One of the most important goals they seek to is achieving the total harmony between the body and the mind, between emotions and thought. A great rush, especially with regard to things that ignite their imagination, in such cases, characterizes them; they can be filled with energy and the ability to persuade others to share their opinion and their point of view. On the other hand, their intense sensitivity exposes them to emotional problems permanently, threatening other aspects of their personality such as self-confidence, enthusiasm, inner strength, and the will to explore new things.

Strengths and Weaknesses

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They have a very charismatic character: distinguished and popular characters, they are working instinctively to attract the attention of others, and communicate with them effectively.

Altruistic: warm and loving people who influence others and have a desire to help others; they are inspiring and love to do great things to the world.

Skilled influencers: They have wonderful communication skills, as it is easy for them to observe what encourages others, motivates them, concerns them, and they are instinctively able to arrange their ways of dealing and arguments them accordingly.

leaders by nature: people of this pattern do not seek for controlling or guidance, but others are attracted to this character and its charm and mastery of its words, which ultimately makes them very well-known and beloved people

they are firm: it is one of the most important strengths that they have if their imagination and firmness are mix-ups- as usual- allow them to do great work, not only for their unconventional and exciting ideas but also they have the necessary skills to plan and a desire to achieve those ideas too

They are seeking to achieve harmony: they seek to achieve harmony in lives and the environment around them; often they are trying to create a positive atmosphere.

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They have creativity and vision: They have a vivid imagination, they rarely have a difficulty to expressing it in one way or another, and most of their solutions revolve around people and ideas, which qualifies them as excellent advisers.

Tolerant: These people tend to be open-minded, accepting ideas and competition as long as they do not conflict with their principles.

Hard workers: they are working hard, especially if their role is fun and stimulating for them, and they can be very dependable.

Weaknesses - Extremely emotional, they have strong emotions and which

consider a part of their identity, however, it causes emotional trauma. Their reaction to the criticisms against them is somewhat violent, creating some kind of tension and clashes.

- They might have weak practical skills: they are good at solving problems, creating paths and starting projects (especially those involving other people), but they find it difficult to implement them and deal with the financial and administrative aspects of the business.

- Over-thinking: They always look at hidden motives and think too much and exaggerated even in the simplest things, and constantly

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ask themselves why someone did what he did and what the meaning of his behavior?

- they easily get aroused: they are sensitive people and very interested in the feelings of others around them, which causes them a lot of stress and pressure at times where people see them as guides and encouraging

- It is difficult for them to focus: People who have this pattern lose their interest quickly if they are working on routine projects and administrative matters, where it is difficult for them to stop their minds from a fugue state

- Highly independent: They are highly independent people and masters of their decisions, and they refuse to be bound by rules and laws.

- Extremely Altruistic: They focus on doing the benevolence and help others to the point that they ignore their own needs. They fight for the choices, which they have made, ignoring everything else.

- They hate to deal with data: they get along with emotions and ethics well, but they often find it difficult to deal with facts and data such as asking them to analyze results or to find the contradiction between information.

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- They are not practical: they do not see practical things as important, so they may forget to eat or drink if they do something that motivates and stimulates them.

Basic features in the social and human relations: 1- Emotional relations:

- People of this pattern have a broad imagination, flexibility, and enthusiasm. They always come up with new plans and ideas. Moreover, they are very dedicated and dependable partners. They have the willingness to do anything to make sure they maintain a strong emotional relationship.

- They are ideal romanticists and they can spend a lot of time thinking and dreaming about the whole relationship, where harmony and warmth, looking for a partner or nurturing an existing relationship is always one of their basic goals. This sincere passion is one of the most attractive features in them.

- They love excellence so much that they can annoy the other partner. On the other hand, such tendencies show their sincerity and seriousness in their relationship, which often reaches levels of depth that most people cannot reach. This may be obvious when we look at the activities they love, they do not like small talks or

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activities that do not tickle their hearts and try to get past them as quickly as possible.

2- Friendship: - Friends of this pattern are known with their honesty and

openness. They rarely have difficulties in understanding and interacting with other characters in their own language. This is a very rare and valuable feature. Although some of their friends may not be able to reciprocate, they will recognize and appreciate the efforts of their friends of that pattern

- They are good at reading the motivations of others and they have no difficulty in distinguishing suspicious people. They also greatly respect those who agree with them in the principles and values. They are very sincere and supportive friends, and they are good at distinguishing the emotional state and their friends' feelings. This feature gives them a strong sensitivity and foresight, it is said that they could be uncomfortable for people who do not know them well.

- They do not care about the friendship, which is about practical or daily things, but they will stay on their ideal passion, full of the desire to make the world a better place. Therefore they seek for friends who have the ability to introduce some idealism into their lives and engage in deep discussions and full of meaning around things which far from the daily routine

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3- Raising children: - People of this pattern focus on virtue and they have standards and

compassionate. They do everything they can to make sure that they teach their children to defend their principles in life and to distinguish between wrong and right, but that does not mean that they want their children to be fanatic of any direction. They always confirm that there are a moral compass and noble goals; they want their children to be as good as possible, as well as listen to their hearts.

- They are interested in creativity and an overactive imagination; parents who belong to this pattern encourage their children to be obvious with themselves no matter how hard the right is. at the same time, they will not hesitate to do anything to see a smile of their children no matter how difficult things are

- Parents who belong to this pattern tend to be emotional. They will easily notice whether their child is okay or not in all emotional and physical aspects. They are always ready to discuss any issues that bother their children,

- Parents of this pattern when they saw their children grow up with a noble and nice personality, which is one of the main objectives

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for them. these parents trust their intuition and heart and it is likely to teach their children the same thing

- In most cases, they will push their children to think independently and take responsibility for their own decisions, rather than trying to push them towards some professions or activities.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- They have the ability to lead, but they do not try to reach it. They are not interested in positions, as opposed to the patterns of other personalities, their approach to the leadership position in terms of a sensitive position and instead of power and authority. Therefore, they excel in jobs in which have a degree of personal touch and kindness.one of the career paths, which they may take, are in religious institutions, in the human resources department, or as psychotherapists or doctors.

- They do not like any routine tasks or the works that do not contain personal touch or analysis the tiny details. They are characterized by weakness in acute conflicts and high sensitivity to criticism. These features in that personality pattern mean that they should move away from the professions that require dealing with data instead of dealing with people or professions in which they

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are vulnerable to pressure and conflict, such as financial works, internal control, and programming and data analysis.

- On the other hand, they have foresight and creativity. Architecture, art, music, photography, and design are one of the fields that they excel in them. As the advantages that characterize them are often in these areas.

- They always need to feel that their contribution has a meaning, their strong willingness, and the desire to cooperate would make them ideal candidates for positions with power and moral authority

- They need more than the material aspect and moral appreciation in their careers. High-paying jobs such as accounting, laws, and finance do not tempt them. They are thrilled when their career matches their personal principles and values. The rewards and financials cannot be enough for them to survive in any other profession.

- They often have to take the leadership position to achieve their goals, but they also succeed in non-leadership roles as long they getting along with their managers with principles and values.

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Their attributes as co-workers: Warm, tolerant and distinctive Very good at sensing what motivates their co-workers Sensitive and supportive for their co-workers

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the most

appropriate (but not the only ones):

Counselor in cases of alcohol and drug addiction. - Advisor in marriage - Psychiatrist (as long as psychotherapy is the most important of pharmaceuticals) Psychologist - Social worker - Physician - Practitioner - Doctor Assistant - Physical Assistant- Career Counselor - Religious Worker - Director of health care ( if he has the authority to follow up on a particular vision and goal). Teacher of primary, preparatory or secondary stage (especially in philosophical or literary subjects) - Teacher of adult education - School Manager ( especially who provides visions and perceptions) - Counselor of guidance - Psychological counselor in the school - Religious Educator - Director of Human Resources- Recruiter -Instructor - guidance Advisor in the career field - Mediator for Conflict - diplomats - Lawyer - Journalist - Writer

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they able to relax and enjoy their time and make their co-workers happy without any mentioned effort

show their interest to others with happiness they Always strive to achieve a win-win situation and looking for

harmony and cooperation in the workplace They hate technical discussions and brainstorming about virtual

things They will do everything they can to avoid clashes at work as they

feel very uncomfortable in situations where they have to choose either side of the clash

Their attributes as Managers:

They know very well what motivates their subordinates they have a strong observation Excellent listeners who can easily feel the mood change in their

team They may have a difficulty in disciplining their subordinates for

their misconduct they are able to inspire and motivate others Flexible and open-minded people who do not like bureaucracy

and strict rules They tend to become very emotional in stress situations

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Respect all their subordinates and do everything they can to support and encourage their team

they like to assign tasks to reliable subordinates they do not see themselves as traditional managers

Their attributes as subordinates:

Larger work can be obtained if they receive multiple requests for help.

They can handle multiple tasks and responsibilities. They may underestimate their abilities. Hard workers and perform the work with loyalty. Fast learners Subject to conflict and criticism at work. They appreciate personal touch and sensitivity more than strict

guidelines. They hate routine tasks. they want for their business to be meaningful They need to feel their value. Very diligent but sometimes they need encouragement. They appreciate independence and informal relations.

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* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ENFP) pattern, (Campaigner)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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Chapter Four: The third category: the category of

Defensive leadership

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Introduction

Sentinels are very cooperative and pragmatic people, they are able to create a system, safety, and balance wherever they go. These people tend to be very strong, highly scrutinized, and are distinguished in the fields of logistics support and management, especially if it based on clear rules. People of this personality pattern are stick to their plans and never run away from difficult tasks, but they can be inflexible, refusing to accept any different point of view. Before going into the details of these patterns in this category, we must identify that category has two general common characteristics in all its forms:

- (Observant)they care about the details which related to anything and they do not care about the generalities of things as much as they care about the molecular stuff and tiny details, which is symbolized by Letter (S)

- (Judging) they are serious characters in organizing and steering matters, as they are very serious, firm and commitment, especially when it comes to the implementation of plans and schedules. in general, the way they organize the environment around them is in a firm way, which is symbolized by Letter (J)

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It includes four patterns 1- ISTJ Pattern (Logistician)

2- ISFJ Pattern (Defender)

3- ESTJ Pattern (Executive)

4- ESFJ Pattern (Consul)

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ISTJ Pattern (Logistician)

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What does it mean to be from ENFP Category? Introverted-ISTJ They listen carefully, preferring individual activities, feel more comfortable when they are alone more than being surrounded by many people, and social activities exhaust them. Observant-ISTJ They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They do not make their decision until they are fully familiar with all the information and details of the matter under study. Thinking -ISTJ They tend to rational thinking and the emotional thinking reduced, which does not mean that they are free of emotion, but mostly they depend on rational thinking. Judging-ISTJ They judge on others and they are usually organized people and strongly respect deadlines. As well, they seek to end all their tasks on time. They have the ability to make decisions and the rigor in performing their work

Summary of personality traits people of this pattern respect the facts a lot and tend to store a lot of information in their memory, focusing on solid facts and data, which makes them skilled analysts and skilled auditors in many different environments. They are very accurate and always verified the information and they are not assertive with anything. As they are respected for their

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exceptional loyalty to their duties, as their accuracy, patience, and ability to focus make them ideal employees in many professions. People of this pattern cannot be stopped if they believe on a specific idea which has a great value and it could be applied. They will consider that it is their duty to start implementing it smoothly. Once the new work plan proved its utility, they will put a lot of effort into the success of implementation even at the expense of their health. They enjoy being in charge of their actions and love the power they derive from it. They are also logical and wise men who always seek for safety and balanced life It is easy to provoke people of this pattern because of a similar lack of action from others; they look to their promises as sacred and must be met. Sometimes it is bad that some people can take ISTJ's strong sense of duty by loading more burdens for them.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS - Raising the success level in all projects: they tend to be very realistic

as they are interested in the facts, often they know something about everything, where this internal encyclopedia proves to be very useful in difficult situations, which contain full of challenge.

- They have a strong will and obedient: people of this pattern have the will to work hard to make sure they are doing all their duties.

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People of this pattern have a certain amount of responsibility, patience, and determination on the final goals.

- Taking the responsibility: where a promise means everything to them, preferring to work for an extra time and not to sleep rather than failing to reach the expected outcome, they tend to be very sincere and place their duties above any consideration.

- Good at creating and applying the system: people of this pattern hate the chaos and always seek to come up with some structure or set up some rules no matter what they do. They are not shy about applying the current rules and they have no tolerance for anyone who breaks the law.

- Quiet and practical: They rarely lose their temper and taking things with calm and rational point of view, believing that emotions should not be part of the decision-making process. They always treading their feet in the real world. This makes them very reluctant to criticize in most cases.

- Honest and straight: They hate reading between lines and manipulation of emotions. They do not indulge in their words and prefer the uncomfortable truth to the beautiful lie.

WEAKNESSES

- Stubborn: they often find it difficult to accept different opinions, especially if they challenge their habits and theories.

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- Non-sensitive: they prefer the logic to the emotions and they see emotions as irrational and fragmented matters, and as a result, they may hurt those who are more sensitive unintentionally.

- They often make a judgment on others: from the point of view of people of this pattern, the traditions and ethics are sacred to them and it must always be respected. If those around them refuse to respect tradition and morality, so people of this pattern may find it difficult to respect these individuals, especially if they refuse to admit that their opinions are wrong.

- They always return to the rules: they have a set of clear rules, as we mentioned earlier, this often results in their hesitation to discourage these rules or attempting to try something new.

- They might blame themselves for no reason: their high sense of duty makes it difficult for them to relax and stopping overloading themselves more than they could. Sooner or later, the amount of work will become unmanageable and they will feel bad as a result of failing to fulfill their duties.

- Often they are ignorant of emotional relationships: many of them may face difficulties in dealing with anything that does not require logic, and this weakness is manifested in personal relationships. They are too busy analyzing everything and frustrated by their attempts to understand how others think, they are trying to use a quasi-scientific approach to dating or they will surrender at once.

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Basic features in the social and human relations:

1- Emotional relations: - They pay a lot of attention to do their duties in full, which by its

nature; they could be good partners and keen to delight the other. For example, the partner of this pattern is more spontaneous and trying hard to keep the luster of the relationship, and he will ultimately convince the partner to take it slow and behave more responsibly.

- People of this pattern are dedicated and loyal partners who sacrifice much effort to ensure balance and common satisfaction in the relationship. They are also very responsible and fairly conservative in the dating phase. When they commit to a relationship, they will keep their promises to the end.

- They are hardworking people, which applies to their relationships as well and they will do their best to accomplish their tasks and maintain balance and effectiveness of the relationship. They can also easily take care of daily duties and pay attention to the partner’s weaknesses.

- people of this pattern do not excel in sensing the feelings of the partner and his emotions, which may lead to some problems if the

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partner has a strong emotional trait as such a pattern expects a lot of emotional support from the partner, which does not come naturally from people of this pattern

2- Friendship - People of this pattern are not spontaneous friends and they do not

like to talk a lot or cheerful by their nature but they are sincere friends, trustworthy and dependable decent people. People may come and go through the vicissitudes of life. however, people of this pattern stick to their friends regardless of what happens with a deep commitment which may not be believed by people of other patterns

- Expressing emotional effect is not one of the strongest skills of people of this pattern; nevertheless, they find ways to show it. As Socrates said," to be is to do". People of this pattern apply this saying in terms of their possession of the willingness to act as a demonstration of support and commitment to their word. These actions bring sensitivity that most people fail to observe, but it is a point that friends of this pattern admire and rely on it in the long years of their friendship.

- People of this personality pattern hate the clashes, which reflected in their way of choosing their friends and prompting them to pick people who have the same vision of the world. People of this

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pattern often make friendships with the other defensive pattern who share the common point of views. People of this pattern do not seem to make friendships with people of different patterns.

4- Raising Children: - Parents of this pattern are considered one of the most effective

parents. Their sense of responsibility and loyalty is in line with traditional traditions and heritage values to raise their children to be respected and to be contributing members of the home and society.

- People of this pattern do not play their role as parents lightly and make it their duty to ensure that these traditions have been done at the highest level.

- People of this pattern tend to be strict, and having high standards and expectations. Because they believe in a stable and clearly organized life for their children, and to help them permanently on developing a sense of place and useful purposes in society.

- Children of People of this pattern need affection and emotional support, but this loyalty and sincerity have little use. While people of this pattern can be sensitive to those who care about them, in their own way, and it is difficult for young children and adults to recognize this cruel love. For that, people of this pattern depends on the partner in the marriage life, which is more sensitive and

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intuitive to play this role and balance between rational purposes and emotional feeling.

- The values of people of this pattern are valid for each time as they are reliable, but they must realize that each person has his own goals.

- People of this pattern strength lie in the stability of acts, and not in spontaneity and sensitivity. They focus on encouraging useful roles, and they do not understand trivial desires or exaggerated emotional expression.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- Inspectors at the first core, regardless of the field of work in which they work. Nothing is more pleasing to them than to have inconsistencies and contradictions in something and look for what went wrong, so they can bring order to the field in which they work. they are real and logical people, and able to save a lot of information in their memory and then extract it when it required

- People with this pattern of personality have the ability to handle a large amount of information and classify or use it in comparisons between contradictions. They are skilled logistics because of their independence and patience; especially since the rest of patterns do not have the will to assume such responsibilities. These skills

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represent an important value in the right career path, which requires managerial skills and ability to observe the tiniest details. therefore, careers such as accounting, auditing, and data analysis are among the most appropriate occupations for people of this pattern

- People of this pattern care about their duties and tasks with a great importance, and as a result, the appropriate occupations for people of this pattern are which reflect his dedication to the work and his high accuracy. People of this pattern believe that everyone should do what he can to accomplish their tasks with the utmost professionalism; they hate individuals who depend on their social relationships to climb the professional ladder without self-reliance. Therefore, you may lose their respect when you show that fun and games are more important than work.

- people of this pattern like other introverted personalities stay away from occupations that require direct dealing with customers and working in a team. They prefer to work alone or in small teams. They accept the authority and leadership of others as long as they do not violate rules and regulations. This feature, which could make them excellent investigators, auditors and accountants.

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Their attributes as co-workers: •They can be trusted and dependable, but they reluctant to open up to others. •They carry out work according to rules and regulations •They find it difficult to communicate and express their feelings with co-workers • they appreciate the importance of safety and stability in the workplace •they prefer to work alone or with someone who is similar in personal qualities to them. • They hate brainstorming and theory، but they enjoy putting ideas into practice

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the most

appropriate (but not the only ones):

warehouse manager- an accountant- auditor- banks - property and asset management- data analysis- insurance specialist- computer specialist- family doctor, nurse-dentist- medical therapist-nutritionist.-physiotherapist- teacher - in primary school - Mechanic or teacher at a workshop-home economics teacher-Trainer (any sport or skill based on activity) - language teacher for non-native speakers - School Director

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•they may find it very difficult to recognize the validity of ideas that are contrary to their views unless they have a lot of respect for the person who has put forward these ideas •They have tendencies for perfection and they are very rarely to give up. Their attributes as managers:

• They enjoy organizing other people. •they have a strong will, they defend their team and their principles regardless of the opposition which may abort their team. •Expect others to respect their authority, sometimes unconditionally. • They may put rules and traditions above their own ideas when it comes to lead a team •They resist the change. •They hate laziness and poor work ethics •they able to make difficult decisions •they always say the word please before asking for anything •They love the responsibility and the power resulting from it •they are never tolerant with their subordinates when they fail to meet their obligations at work •They believe that the truth is more important than sensitivity. Their attributes as subordinates: •Very loyal and dedicated, but they may also be quite inflexible. •they are willing to express their views، especially when it comes to making a decision on what is acceptable and what is unacceptable

• They respect traditional methods and hate experiment

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•They have responsibilities: they are doing their best to fulfill their duties •They may be very stubborn and inflexible •Ready to handle routine tasks •they are very accurate •They are likely to have multiple talents and skills •They respect power and prefer traditional hierarchies at work. •They demand a clear set of instructions and well-defined responsibilities •They may be very reluctant to give up their responsibilities even if it turns out that someone else is more suited to the task or if the workload becomes uncontrollable.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ISTJ) pattern, (Logistician)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ISFJ Pattern (Defender)

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What does it mean to be from ISFJ Category? Introverted-ISFJ They listen carefully, preferring individual activities, feel more comfortable when they are alone more than being surrounded by many people, and social activities exhaust them. Observant-ISFJ They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They do not make their decision until they are fully familiar with all the information and details of the matter under study. Feeling-ISFJ the emotion control them over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and they follow their hearts and emotions, which does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. Judging-ISFJ They judge on others and they are usually organized people and strongly respect deadlines. As well, they seek to end all their tasks on time. They have the ability to make decisions and the rigor in performing their work

Summary of personality traits One of the most sincere and supportive patterns, they rarely sitting without work because they have always what it deserve their attention. They excel

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in many areas; especially the traditional ones and they have the ability to focus which make them ideal employees in many areas. People of this pattern are attracted to traditional traditions, Public services such as medicine, laws, etc., so many of them seek jobs in an academic field, medical, social work, and counseling. People of this pattern of personality often have a good memory and an extraordinary imagination. They are socially adept and rarely find it difficult to establish and maintain relationships with others, both personally and professionally, and they are characterized by sincerity, commitment, and patience. One of the obstacles that people with this pattern may face it in the professional field is likely that it is very difficult for them to market for their achievements. They are also exposed to be underestimated which leading to a lack of recognition for them and a lot of misunderstanding. Therefore, they should not be shy about disclosing about how much they achieved so that it would make them more confident in their abilities and personality traits. They should also not overload themselves with work and they should not hesitate to say what they are concerned about if things become overstretched. They often carry themselves too hard

Strengths and Weaknesses

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- Extremely Supportive: They have the will to help others, share their knowledge and experience with their colleagues and friends.

- Enthusiastic: They want to make a difference and they have the will to spend a lot of time and effort to achieve an idea they believe in, and they do not care if it is a simple task or a global problem.

- Dedicated and hardworking: They often emotionally relate to a specific idea or company and they put their tasks above any consideration.

- Good at creating and applying the system: They hate chaos, and they always seek to live in a way of managing the structure, or under the umbrella of a set of rules regardless of what they do, they are not ashamed of applying the current rules and they have no tolerance with those who break the law.

- They have a wide and detailed imagination: They are very detailed people but they have a wide imagination, especially if it fascinates them and inspires them.

- Patient and Dependable: they care about tiny details and careful, they always make sure that the work has been done to the fullest.

- Good at practical matters: people of this personality pattern have excellent practical skills and they do not care about dealing with routine things.

WEAKNESSES

- Modest and shy: Often this prevents them from saying, what they think is right or introducing their achievements, especially in the

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competitive environment, which may hinder their progress in the field of work, causing frustration and disappointment.

- They carry themselves too hard: Their love for excellence is combined with a high sense of responsibility, which often pushing them to do a lot of work. As discussed earlier, they always want to make sure that everything is fine, which causes them a lot of stress and anxiety.

- They take many things very personally: they are sensitive people to clashes, criticisms take critical comments very personally, and they may find it difficult to differentiate between their work and personal life and allow their concerns about work to affect everything else.

- They reject the change: they appreciate the routine a lot, and they might not have the desire to experiment with new things or change their habits even when it may be logical. They cannot bear the chaos and they may feel lost and weak in unfamiliar and non-structural environments.

- They are very kind: they are very good by their nature, because they are good people, and they often find it difficult to refuse to ask for help. Unfortunately, this often results in overloading them with the work and problems of others.

- They hide their feelings: they are private people, sometimes shy, and it will not be surprising that they tend to hold in their feelings instead of expressing them in a healthy way.

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- They are very stubborn: they often find it difficult to accept different views, especially if they challenge their habits and theories.

- They often judge others: in their view, traditions and ethics are sacred, must always be respected, and if not anyone wishes to accept it; they may find it difficult to respect those individuals, especially if they refuse to admit that their views are wrong.

- They always return to the rules: they have a set of clear rules, and as we have mentioned earlier, this often results in their reluctance to discourage these rules or attempting to try something new.

Basic features in the social and human relations: 1- Emotional relations

- People of this pattern are dedicated and loyal partners; they sacrifice a great deal of effort to ensure balance and common satisfaction in the relationship. They are also very responsible and introverted to a certain extent, at the meeting stage, and when they are committed to a relationship, they will keep their promises to the end.

- They are very good people who care about the needs of others and enjoy doing it. However, people of this personality pattern should try to make sure that such an attribute would not allow them to be exploited especially during the introducing stage. It is also important for them to pay attention to their dreams and

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wishes instead of wasting their energy in serving the needs of others.

- They care about the family and pay much attention to the partner and the rest of the family, so they are very suitable for taking care of the daily needs and anyone who would date them to remember that their features appear in later stages of the relationship.

- They totally do not try unfamiliar things, but they respect the traditional roles of each party in social relations and events. On the other hand, they give much attention to doing their duties perfectly, which means that they are good partners who are keen on pleasing each other.

2- Friendship

- The generosity of people of this pattern and support for their friends and people close to them which it would be fun to be one of those close people. However, the challenge lay in reaching this status, people of this pattern of shy personality, still need to communicate with others in deep emotionally. Therefore, you will find that most of their friendships were not made by chance on a noisy night, but through a comfortable and continuous communication.

- One of the foundations that underpin the relations of friendship for them and the continuation of the relationship depends on the mutual support, which is provided by each party to the other. That

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recognition may appear a bit of weakness, but if this point handled well, it will create strong links, and this is what people of this pattern are looking for.

- People of this pattern are not very selective about making friends with a specific pattern of characters, at least not initially. This goes back to they prefer to avoid clashes and poor communication, so they often make friendships with similar and comparable patterns

3- Raising children:

- The ISFJ pattern is characterized by compassion and kindness, which makes them parents by nature. Parents of this pattern of personality feel that paternity is the mission, which they were born for, and they have a great deal of pleasure when they feel the importance and personal responsibility when raising their children to be healthy, confident and successful. At the same time, they are modest and do not consider their skills to be taken for granted.

- The altruism feature has shown in their paternalistic approach. They believe in a secure, stable environment, which full of love, care, and support when they teach their children how to become independent.

- They do not feel comfortable when their children do not behave as they should, and at the same time, they give their children the freedom to grow up and develop themselves.

- People of this pattern have an advantage, which they are interested, sober, and responsible for how to manage this interest, so they are

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considered ideal parents, and therefore they are able to stand by their children.

- People of this pattern have difficulty in stopping the need to protect their children, even when their children become adults enough.

- people of this pattern strengths lay in satisfying people which they love, not by taking a risk in a discussion, they focus on being useful, and they do not understand the "excessive" ambition or need for adrenaline.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- People of this pattern are diligent and patient individuals, so they are suitable to work in different fields but it will not satisfied with them all the logistics roles. As they are dependable people and adhere to the ethics of the profession, they persevere in performing their work. They are characterized by high accuracy in addition to the essential and important thing in their personality, which is their ability to find the best ways to protect people, processes, and organizations. On the other hand, you will find them different from the general patterns such as diplomat and analyst. They focus on the theories and methods that can provide them with information when needed, as they focus on fixed facts and abstract matters

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- People of this pattern are succeeding when they accept the administrative roles, situational analysis, and the roles that revolve around the development and applying the laws and regulations whatever their hobbies or aspirations.it is not really important if they want to go into the commercial or administrative areas - which is one of the best options for them. Sometimes the areas, which they work in, may be quite different, but what really matters to them is their ability to analyze facts and use them to find solutions and answers to the questions posed, and to ensure the stability of the entire system.

- One of the best things, which can describe people of this pattern, is methodology, commitment, and perseverance. People of this pattern become as all the sentinels, who cannot be stopped when they find the appropriate opportunity that to obtain it consider a challenge in order to contribute to the organization or the community as a whole while maintaining a sense of stability and safety.

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Their attributes as co-workers:

They prefer to work in a cohesive and closed team. They love others and supporting them. They have a beautiful nature but they do not use it to develop

their work. Their co-workers are their friends. They will be happy when helping others, which brings them

many extra burdens.

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Government Occupational works(official department staff) - Shipping - Inventory staff - Auditing accountants - Banking

staff - Financial Asset Management - Data Analysis - Insurance Expert - Computer Specialist-Family Doctor - Nurse - Dentist - Doctor Secretary -Physical Therapist -

Nutrition specialist. Speech problems specialist-home economics- teacher for foreign language- gathering initial

data for undergraduate research and projects - mechanical or workshop teacher- home economics teacher- sports trainer-

school principal, academic researcher- Early Childhood educator

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Trustworthy and they dislike exposing their hidden feelings. They perform everything according to the laws. They wish for calm and peace in the work environment. They dislike endoscopy and enjoy with applying their ideas on

the ground. It is difficult for them to recognize the legitimacy and validity of

ideas contrary to their views unless they have a tendency to perfection and rarely surrender and withdraw.

They do not see the usefulness of contact or side conversations during work.

Their attributes as managers:

Very good at applying and accomplishing new ideas. They are a good listener to their subordinates. They tend to routines and do not accept change easily. they prefer to take into account hierarchy and career ladder and

they may not like to manage the others they work hard to create a work environment free from conflict

and controversies They despise authoritarianism and maintain friendly relations with

their subordinates. Strongly opposed to breaking laws. They love to assume the responsibilities and power resulting from

them. They are unlikely the failure of their subordinates to perform

their duties and fulfill their work commitments.

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Their attributes as subordinates:

They have excessive accuracy and reliability. Highly loyal and they are likely to follow their bosses if they

move to other businesses. They do not shed light on their achievements and may be less

visible than their co-workers may. Patient and committed. They do not want to promote their achievements. They care about appreciation their work They are stubborn and very difficult. Very accurate. Respect for authority and job ladder in work. They need clear guidance and declare their responsibilities well They are very sensitive to the criticism especially when it comes

to their duties at work. They dislike giving up part of their responsibilities to others

even if it turns out that others are more suitable to perform these tasks or they have been exacerbated by burdens and workloads.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ISFJ) pattern, (Defender)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ESTJ Pattern (Executive)

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What does it mean to be from ISFJ Category?

Extraverted-ESTJ They derive their energy and ideas from their presence with others; they prefer group activities and have a distinctive way of social communication. Observant-ESTJ They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They do not make their decision until they are fully familiar with all the information and details of the matter under study. Thinking-ESTJ They tend to rational thinking and the emotional thinking reduced, which does not mean that they are free of emotion, but mostly they depend on rational thinking. Judging-ESTJ They judge on others and they are usually organized people and strongly respect deadlines. As well, they seek to end all their tasks on time. They have the ability to make decisions and the rigor in performing their work

Summary of personality traits People of this pattern feel a strong need to belong to something, which may be a family, community or any other social group, they love to organize others and ensure their adherence to traditions and rules. People of this pattern are often called benefactors because they are the most dependable, balanced and faithful people. They always do the best they can

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to make sure that the needs of those who beloved are responsive. They are good and cooperative people, but they can become firm in defining their important rules, values, and traditions. They are always ready to spend a great effort to make sure that everything is regular and that everyone is satisfied, which makes them dependable, responsible and loyal people, whether they are employees, friends or partners. However, this has its cost. They are often seen as very dependent on others and with all their kindness and attention, people with this pattern have problems with dealing with situations that require extreme rationality, or when the surrounding environment is unbalanced and unexpected.

Strengths and Weaknesses STRENGTHS - Dedicated: They take their responsibilities very seriously and do

not refrain from performing a task because it is difficult or boring, and they can spend a lot of time and make great efforts on matters that concern them more.

- They enjoy making the system: They hate chaos and do their best to determine the rules, bases, and roles in the environment they see as chaotic. They are not ashamed to apply existing rules and they are never tolerant in breaking these rules.

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- Excellent organizers: they know how to manage people and distribute tasks and responsibilities; they are excellent team leaders, especially from the administrative point of view.

- Trustworthy, patient and reliable: They appreciate the importance of achieving security and stability, and they do their best to be responsible and dependable individuals in their company, in their community and their families.

- They have a strong will: They have strong faith, rarely give up regardless of who disagrees them, and often will defend their ideas and theories relentlessly.

- Honest and truthful: They hate circumventing the facts and preferring simple and direct answers. They do not select their words and prefer the uncomfortable truth to the beautiful lie. They are more interested in facts than their interest in ideas and choices.

- The strength of success in all projects: they have high capacity and they are the engine of achievement at work, they tend to reality and care about the facts, and they often know something about everything, which makes them take advantage in difficult situations full of challenge.

- Very responsible: Promises mean everything to them, so they prefer to work for an extra time and not to sleep rather than fail to reach the expected outcome, and they tend to be very loyal and place their duties above any consideration.

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- They are often inflexible and stubborn: they focus too much on traditions and on their own theories, which lead to losing a chance to get ideas or ways that may be more effective.

- They often have judgments about others: they have strong convictions about what is true and socially acceptable and they never tolerate to any deviation from them. They tend to criticize any actions that contradict those convictions, believing that it is their duty to make things right. In their view, the facts are the most important matter, if anyone has no desire to accept these facts or does not know them; they find it very difficult to respect this individual, especially if he refuses to admit that his views are wrong.

- They may find it difficult to express their feelings: they give importance to the facts and rationalities and make them above feelings and sensations, and as a result, they may find it difficult to understand the feelings of others and express their own feelings.

- They find it difficult to relax: their desire to maintain their image and achieve what is expected of them, in addition to concern what others may say about them, which leads to they forget the need for periods of rest.

- They may focus too much on their social status: people of this pattern appreciate their very social status and seek to get respect from their friends, colleagues, and relatives; as a result, they often give little attention to their own needs and requirements.

- They are not comfortable with non-traditional solutions: they prefer traditional solutions, which tested beforehand, they may not

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feel comfortable in sudden changes or they are nervous when there is a need to try something entirely new.

- They always return to the rules: they have a set of clear rules, for all, as we mentioned earlier, this is often caused by their reluctance to break these rules, or attempting to try something new.

Basic features in the social and human relations: 1- Emotional relations:

- People of this pattern are very dependable, which is reflected in their emotional life as well. If they decide to commit to their emotional relationship, they will do their best to make it a success relation, but what may hurt them as partners that they are boring and non-spontaneous compared to some other types of characters, as they do not like the change and surprises.

- People of this pattern are trustworthy and loyal partners; they have the willingness to do anything they can to make sure that their relationship is strong and balanced. However, they are too stubborn and believing that they are always right, which could pose a serious risk to their emotional relationships, especially in the beginning. Of course, high self-esteem is an attractive factor in personality, but it can lead to scaring the partner if it goes too far

- People of this pattern are characterized by hard work, which also includes their emotional relationships. They will do their best to carry out their duties towards their partners, maintain balance in their relationship, and also pay close attention to their weaknesses

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as partners (such as emotional support, which is often a real challenge for them) as soon as they notice the partner's need for it.

- They are very candid and honest with the partner, and they find it easy to express their satisfaction, as long as things go easily and their partner initiates them to achieve their needs. Conversely, if something threatens the relationship, people of this pattern will try to deal with the problem by confronting it directly instead of trying to circumvent it and ignore it.

2- Friendship: - People of this pattern are very strong friends, who appreciate

sincerity and common values, and the friendship often shows with them and their tendency to participate and love for routine more than rationality, but this never diminishes the value of this relationship. Their friendships, which based on mutual trust and concerns, it can form strong bonds that bear the changes of life.

- They are social and enthusiastic friends, and they like to practice activities with their friends, such as sports or otherwise, but they may be overly enthusiastic when doing these activities, taking these competitions very seriously, which may lead to resentment of their friends.

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- The challenges they meet in their friendships are not to find the fun things to do or to find people to do that with them, but to find diversity in their friends and activities, often they tend to authenticate those who resemble them and share their respect for their values and traditions. 3- Raising children:

- People of this pattern motto is "hard work, tradition, respect” which is the best example of their relationship with their children. They are just like parents in the classic 1950s in many directions.

- They are strict parents of family traditions, they have no problem when it comes to imposing the rules and standards they have approved.

- They expect to carry this flag by their children to and continue what they have done to be polite and respectful and they are not allowed to rebel.

- People of this pattern have a responsible view of life and they have a firm belief in the idea, which an individual must do what he can to contribute to the family and society, and this view certainly extends to their children.

- People of this pattern are practical and simple parents who want their children to be adults, responsible, respectful, strong-willed, empowered to make their own children's decisions, and the chance

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to face the consequences of those decisions - good or bad - with the support and love of their parents.

- People of this pattern become better parents over time, and they need years to understand what works for them. They gain responsibility and awareness about everything, which requires clarity and emotional stability from others, and they believe that the acceptable solution is the right one.

- Their strengths lie in steadiness and power, not spontaneity and tenderness; they focus on supporting useful roles and they do not understand trivial needs and excessive emotional expressions.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- People of this pattern are called supervisors. They have the skills to deal with people, excellent management ability, careful attention to detail, and a high determination to reach what they are looking for.

- People of this pattern depending on the facts and they are sincere people for their work and accurate in addition to the most essential and important in their personality is their ability to remember and rely on many different information and facts.

- People of this pattern focus on theories and methods that provide them with information when needed. As well, they focus on

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abstract and fixed facts; on the other hand, they focus on the facts themselves if they ensure reliability and integrity.

- People of this pattern are kind and cooperative but they do not care too much about the extra information when it comes to making a decision.

- People of this pattern are nice and cooperative but they do not care too much about the extra information when it comes to making a decision and they hope to become influential and dependable managers, so they seek to manage resources in a way that ensures their survival and prosperity in their institutions. as well, the sympathy, Intimacy, and technical skills are not central focus areas for them

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Their attributes as co-workers: •they are good listeners, and they enjoy connecting with other people. •they are honest، friendly and humble people •They may collide with co-workers who are always looking for improvements and suggest new changes

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Office Manager - Customer Service Manager - Sales Team Leader - Retail Manager or Owner - Human Resources and

Professional Development - Retail Purchasing Agent - Shipping Manager - Hotel Management - Cooker / Chef /

Kitchen Manager - Accountant / Auditor - Asset Management - Family Doctor - Nurse - Dentist - Medical Secretary - Physiotherapist - nutritionist. Forensic doctor -

Teacher in primary school - mechanic or workshop teacher-Teacher of home economics - Trainer (any sport or skill based on activity) - foreign language teacher- company lawyer-Judge-police / Crime investigator - Military -

legislator -Prisoner or other employees who work at any penalties facility

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•they are very good at observing what is going on in their environment •They have an urgent need to feel that they are part of the organization

• they hate co-workers who (in their opinion) are trying to move forward using twisted shortcuts, for example, smart networks, hypnotizing their skills, and sharing bold but risky ideas with management. •They have no problems accepting criticism. •They want to do everything by following the laws literally. •They may have difficulty in expressing their feelings or providing emotional support to a co-worker. •they appreciate peace and security in the workplace. •they prefer to work alone or with someone who has a similar personality type. •They hate brainstorming and theorizing, but they enjoy putting ideas into practice. •They may find out that it is very difficult to admit the validity of ideas that contradict their views unless they have a lot of respect for someone who has put forward those ideas. •They have tendencies for perfection and they very rarely give up. Their attributes as managers:

• They enjoy organizing other people. •they have a strong will, and they defend their team and their principles regardless of the opposition which may upset their team. •Expect others to respect their authority, sometimes unconditionally. •They may put rules and traditions above their own ideas when it comes

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to team leadership. •They resist the change. •They hate laziness and poor work ethics. •they are able and ready to make difficult decisions. •they always say the word please before asking for anything especially when they are asking their subordinates in the workplace •They love the responsibility and the power resulting from it. •They are unlikely the failure of their subordinates to perform their duties and fulfill their work commitments •They believe that the truth is more important than sensitivity. Their attributes as subordinates: •Very loyal and devoted, but they may also be completely inflexible. •they are willing to express their views، especially when it comes to making a decision on what is acceptable and what is unacceptable

•They respect traditional methods and hate experiment. •they take the responsibility and they will do their best to fulfill their duties. •They may be very stubborn and inflexible. •they are ready to handle routine tasks. •they are very accurate •They are likely to be "multi-talented and skilled". •They respect power and prefer traditional hierarchies at work. •they need to have a clear set of instructions and well-defined

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responsibilities. •They may be very reluctant to give up their responsibilities even if it turns out that someone else is more suited to the task or if the workload becomes uncontrollable.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ESTJ) pattern, (Executive)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ESFJ Pattern (Consul)

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What does it mean to be from ESFJ Category?

Extraverted-ESFJs They derive their energy and ideas from their presence with others; they prefer group activities and have a distinctive way of social communication. Observant-ESFJs They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They do not make their decision until they are fully familiar with all the information and details of the matter under study. Feeling-ESFJs the emotion control them over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and they follow their hearts and emotions, which does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. Judging-ESFJs They judge on others and they are usually organized people and strongly respect deadlines. As well, they seek to end all their tasks on time. They have the ability to make decisions and the rigor in performing their work

Summary of personality traits Practical and social figures, this type of character wants to serve others and take their commitments very seriously. They do not care about the role, which they will play as long as they have the opportunity to socialize with

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others and feel their value and appreciation. They are wonderful team members who are always able to feel tension and incompatibility. They like to engage in discussions that focus on practical matters or the lives of other people. They always seek for achieving harmony in all possible areas, but they feel resentment due to lack of interest from others. Discipline may also be one of the weaknesses for this type of character. They should make efforts to monitor their behavior with people who belong to different cultures and patterns of personalities. They are very traditional, they do their best to defend the authorities and the law, they tend to be very dedicated, and it is very easy for them to integrate into social events, as they will have time to talk to everyone. People of this type of personality may tend to be radical in some things, especially what related to their family. They always try to exceed the expectations of others. Their attention may become intolerable. They are sensitive and visionary people, all of that are wonderful traits but they may cause difficulties for them and those around them. These people often find it difficult to adapt to situations that contain criticism or conflict.

Strengths and Weaknesses

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- They always strive for consensus among all parties: they can achieve harmony and do their best to avoid clashes as much as possible, they are members of a team by nature, trying to get used to others.

- Very dedicated: they appreciate the relationship and balance very much and they are trying hard not to disturb the current situation only if they think that is very necessary, and make them very dedicated employees and partners and deserve the trust.

- Taking into account the feelings: people of this pattern seek for achieving harmony and they are paying attention to others' feelings, carefully not to hurt anyone.

- They know how to communicate with people: people of this pattern are social and friendly characters, they have no difficulty in starting the conversations and knowing the social rituals of others, and we find out that people of this pattern tend to have strong needs of belonging, such as playing a role in the local community.

- Take their duties very seriously: people of this pattern tend to be responsible and dependent, paying much attention to their duties and responsibilities, and often put their duties above all considerations.

- They are good at practical matters: people of this pattern have excellent practical skills and they do not care about dealing with routine things.

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- Very supportive: they have the will to help others, with their participation and knowledge.

- They are enthusiastic: people of this pattern want to make a difference and have the will to spend a lot of time and effort and fight for things and reasons, which are deserved, and they do not care if it is a simple task or a global problem.

- They are good at creating and implementing the system: people of this pattern hate chaos and they always want to come up with some structure or set of rules regardless of what they do, they are not shy about applying the current rules; they do not have any tolerance with those who break the law.

- They have a broad and realistic imagination: They are very realistic people, but they have a broad imagination, especially if it fascinates them and inspires them.

- They are patient and dependable people: they care about tiny details and cautious .they always make sure that the work has been done to the fullest.

WEAKNESSES - They are often obsessed with their social status: people of this

pattern tend to have a strong need to be seen as responsible, respected and successful individuals, and they will do everything in their power to increase their social status and its impact.

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- They might be inflexible: they give importance to traditions and they often worry too much, about what others see as acceptable, as a result, they tend to be very careful about unconventional things.

- They do not want to improvise: they do not like to get out of their comfort zone and take bold steps and they do not like to be seen differently than what people have used to seen them.

- They exposed too much criticism: people of this pattern do not like clashes and criticisms. It is possible to become people those around them if someone (especially those close to them) criticizes their favorite habits, ideas or traditions.

- They are often very jealous: they care so much about others even their interest will be unwelcome, it would also lead to ignoring their own needs.

- They need to feel the attention from those around them: they need to know that if they are beloved and their efforts are appreciated, and as a result, people of this pattern often seek for courtesy and trying to attract the attention of others.

- they carry themselves more than their capacity: Their love for excellence is mixed with their high sense of responsibility, which pushes them to do a lot of work, and as discussed earlier, people of this pattern always want to make sure that everything is right, which causes them a lot of tension and anxiety.

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- They often judge others: tradition and morality are sacred to them and must always be respected. If no one wants to accept it, people of this pattern may find it difficult to respect these individuals, especially if they refuse to admit that their views are wrong.

- They always return to the rules: they have a set of rules, but anyway, this often results in their hesitation when they are attempting to try something new.

Basic features in the social and human relations: 1- Emotional relations

- They may not be very emotional, they usually try hard to protect and hide their emotions, because they are not sure how to deal with them. Regardless, anyone who dates or having a long-term relationship with them should know that they have strong, deep feelings even if they find it difficult to express them.

- Support and mutual respect are important factors in the relationship for people of this pattern; they do not like all forms of conflict and criticism, especially if the criticism comes from a close person. They tend to take such criticisms very personally, as they need to know that they are beloved and appreciated, which affect their mood and self-esteem.

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- People of this pattern excel in dealing with daily matters such as financial management and others and they will happily take this responsibility. They will work hard to make sure that everything goes well in this aspect of their relationship, on the other hand, they tend to be very traditional in the emotional relationship

2- Friendship: - People of this pattern are very sociable and seek to establish as much

of friendships and prove themselves in that, they are loyal friends who are known for standing by their friends under any circumstances and providing their emotional support and encourage them.

- People of this pattern adhere to the tradition of friendship; they see it as their responsibility to support friends, which brings the happiness for them as well. They do everything possible to make their friends happy, and they listen to small conversations with joy, they are very popular in any environment.

- They expect the mutual interest from friends and the lack of it frustrated them, and it bothers them to be criticized from their close friends for their customs and traditions. What bothers them most is that friend is so openly expressing it, and it also bothers them as well of any person criticize their friends. They defend their friends and believe they are not making mistakes.

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- They are good and kind people, their energy, and their voluntary intelligence drive them to get many friends. their support and dedication helps them to keep those strong and solid friendships, and it may pass some moments with their friends which would be boring moments, but it will not be long

3- Raising children:

- people of this pattern have an excellent opportunity to show their love and influence in positive ways to their children, they can impose their authority and set their rules in a way that can be tolerated and their kindness and support to soften the misunderstanding which can be occurred

- People of this pattern are interested in the growth of their children when they grow up and start the exploitation phase, but they often provide them with extra protection, not only physical but also social protection, when they prepare for them playing dates, camping and many other activities, which their children do not have time for preparing it.

- People of this pattern appreciate the harmony and enthusiasm and try in this spirit to teach their children indirectly, or by giving examples. When they forced to confront the actions of their children, people of that pattern would speak in a firm manner and expect a respect for their words. They believe in traditionally

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traditional roles between parents and children, they expect their authority to be decisive.

- In maturity and adulthood, children start to move away from their loved ones. People of this pattern feel that they are losing their children. It is important to know that when the adult children leave the house that means that the parents have been successfully accomplished the mission in preparing them for their next stage of life. This makes people of this pattern proud of this achievement.

- Children who are belonging to parents of this pattern always appreciate the warmth and tenderness that they were raised on it when they were young. When the days pass and those children have kids, they will be grateful that their children have unconditional grandparents who love and take care of them. they have a problem when they stop to guide their children to the right path even when they become adults

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- The best things that characterize people of this pattern are the patience, good knowledge, and social skills, and they are just like all the defensive patterns. They cannot be stopped when they find the opportunity to contribute to the organization of which they

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belong to or the community as a whole, here they feel stable and safe, but to get such a chance it may be a major challenge.

- people of this pattern succeed when they accept the administrative roles, and the roles when they deal with customers, as well the positions that revolve around the development and implementation of laws and regulations whatever their hobbies or aspirations. It is not really important if people of this pattern want to enter the commercial or administrative areas - which is one of the best options for them. Sometimes the areas, which they work in, are quite different, however, what concerns people of this pattern is their ability to take care of others and their needs and to manage resources in the best way.

- People of this pattern are dependable and adhere to the ethics of the profession, they remain consistent in performing their work, and they are characterized by high accuracy. In addition to the most important and essential thing in their personality which is their ability to find the best ways to protect people, processes, and organizations.

- People of this pattern differ in their way from intuitive patterns such as diplomat and analyst. They focus on theories and methods of providing information when needed. They focus on abstract matters and fixed facts.

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- People of this pattern cannot succeed in situations that are unfamiliar to them in a short time

Their attributes as co-workers:

Good team members.

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Office Manager - Customer Service - leading sales Team - Office Work - Retail Department - Human Resources

and Professional Development - Retail Purchasing Committees - Shipping Department Manager - Personal

Office Assistant - Insurance Agent - Hotel Management - Chef- head chef -Kitchen manager-receptionist-project

manager- family doctor-nurse-dentist- medical secretary-. physiotherapist-social worker-dietician- worker at nursing

houses- diseases specialist which related from different professions- diseases specialist which related to speech and

expression - veterinarian - teacher in primary schools -Librarian-Teacher of Home Economics - Sports Trainer or

any skill-based on activity - teaching language to non-native speakers.

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They tend to consider their co-workers as personal friends. Very social, and they may find it difficult to work alone. They are sensitive and simply deal with stress. They want to help their co-workers and carry themselves too

much They are influenced by criticism and feel insulted if their co-

workers do not care about their ideas. They are good at working in organized working groups. They do everything according to the rules. They appreciate security and stability in their workplace. They hate brainstorming, gathering information and

everything that is theoretical and they enjoy putting ideas into practice.

They may find it difficult to recognize the validity of ideas that oppose their views unless they strongly respect who suggest those ideas.

Their attributes as managers:

They naturally enjoy managing others. They are good at persuading and adding new elements to their

team. They make an effort to make their work environment

conflict-free and carrying a friendly nature

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they have the ability to make everyone feel his importance in teamwork

Respect the traditional inherent strength in the cohesion of the work environment.

They may be sensitive to their position and react badly to those who challenge them.

They may be less impatient with work pressures. Strongly oppose being above the laws They love the responsibility and authority resulting from it.

Their attributes as subordinates:

Their role must be specific and the rules and guidelines that define their work are clearly defined.

Patient, competent and hard workers in their work. They are loyal and trying to move with their manager if he

moved to another job. They do not mind doing routine tasks. They respect authority and traditions. They prefer to be cohesive in the work structure and feel safe

about freedom and improvisation. Accurate and logical. They need to emphasize the importance and value of what

they add to their work.

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They may be calm and inflexible. They respect traditional authority and leadership. They need clear instructions and specific responsibilities. They may be very reluctant to give up their responsibilities

even if it turns out that someone else is more suited to the task or if the workload becomes uncontrollable.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ESFJ) pattern, (Consul)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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Chapter Four: Category Four: Category of

Leadership Exploration

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Introduction: Explorers are one of the most spontaneous patterns and they use their ability to communicate with their surroundings in a way that goes beyond the limits of any other pattern. They are practical and seeking for achieving benefit, and they are good and shining in situations, which require a quick reaction and the ability to think directly. They are experts in techniques and its usage in many fields and in many ways from their experience in physical tools to ways to convince others. It is not surprising that personality pattern is distinctive and irreplaceable in crises, as they excel in manual trades and sales. Before going into the details of these patterns in this category, we must identify that category has two general common characteristics in all its forms:

- (Observant)they care about the details which related to anything and they do not care about the generalities of things as much as they care about the molecular stuff and tiny details, which is symbolized by Letter (S)

- (Prospecting) they have a great deal of flexibility at all levels of the social, professional or emotional levels, and their method generally depends on organizing the environment around them in a flexible manner, which is symbolized by (P)

It includes four patterns

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1- ISTP Pattern (Virtuoso)

2- ISFP Pattern (Adventurer)

3- ESTP Pattern (Entrepreneur)

4- ESFP Pattern (Entertainer)

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ISTP Pattern (Virtuoso)

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What does it mean to be from ISTP Category?

Introverted-ISTP They listen carefully, preferring individual activities, feel more comfortable when they are alone more than being surrounded by many people, and social activities exhaust them. Observant-ISTP They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They do not make their decision until they are fully familiar with all the information and details of the matter under study. Thinking-ISTP They tend to rational thinking and the emotional thinking reduced, which does not mean that they are free of emotion, but mostly they depend on rational thinking. Prospecting-ISTP They tend to be not organized and love the change and seek for freedom. They do not settle down with routine and quickly adapting, they prefer to keep their options open. They described as researchers; they are always looking for alternative options, believing that there are better ways, which may lead to endless having many projects in their lives

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Summary of personality traits - People of this pattern are usually very rational and using logic, but

they can surprise everyone by suddenly becoming spontaneous and enthusiastic. Deep down, they are spontaneous people whose actions cannot be expected but they hide these traits from the outside world successfully most of the time. They are optimistic, generous and confident.

- People with this type of personality tend towards projects and ideas that have a clear and rational nature and they can maintain their calm and rationality for a long time. People of this pattern can control their energy and keep it for things, which they see it as important; it is obvious when they are doing the things they like.

- As closed people, the ISTP is somewhat private, which making it more difficult for people who want to tell them what they have in mind to communicate with them. They may become increasingly stubborn and noisy when their theories and hobbies are criticized, but unlike the rest of the explorers, they do not care much about the personal space. They do not hesitate to express their interest in other people's affairs and do not care if someone wants to engage in a project, which they work on it, as long as that does not threaten their theories and lifestyle.

- Justice and equality are important principles for people of this pattern, where they prefer to bend the rules and even break them

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so as not to fail to achieve their own goals and rules regarding these ideas.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS - Optimistic and full of energy: They always have what they can do;

they rarely get nervous, preferring to take things as they are instead of planning to the next step.

- They are good at dealing with catastrophic situations: They do not care about risk - it may also be a weakness - and they can easily think straight and make quick decisions when it is necessary.

- They are creative and practical people: they have a vivid imagination, especially with regard to practical or mechanical matters, and they find it easy to find distinct ideas and perform some things in a way that no one did before them.

- They are relaxed: they are living in the present and simply in line with that current, they are not very concerned about the future, this is one of the main reasons of why they rarely worry about anything at all.

- They know how to dispense their priorities: no matter how unpredictable their actions are, they are good at maintaining their energy and liberating them when necessary.

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- Spontaneous and rational people: They have the ability to combine logic and spontaneity, moving from one situation to another depending on the situation they are in, and makes them very flexible and multifaceted people.

- They are fearless: They want to test things, try everything, and they do not mind going out of their comfort zone and exploring things that others are reluctant to do.

- They are honest and straight people: They do not choose their words and prefer frank and sincere answers, and فاثغ do not like small deception and social compliments.

- Very noticeable: they can observe changes in one's habits or his appearance, and they always know how to use that information to communicate with others.

WEAKNESSES

- They can be very stubborn: they are not sensitive about clashes and criticism, but they can be very upset if someone tries to criticize their habits, lifestyle or even their thoughts.

- Private people: It is surprising that there is a difficulty in identifying them as a result of keeping most of the ideas and what they think for themselves, especially with regard to sensitive private matters.

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- They get bored quickly: they find it difficult to maintain their focus on something specific for a long time as a result of deviating their thinking about things that may have a greater interest in them.

- They may be insensitive: they are practical and logical and often unintentionally hurt others by failing to notice the importance of emotions.

- They take risks: they often do it just for fun, for example, they can get into a clash with a colleague just to see how their reaction will be.

- They do not like commitment: They prefer to review what they are forced to do daily instead of committing to something specific for a long time, and it may cause them great problems in their emotional relationships.

- They do not care too much about the rules: they have more interest in what suits them than what might happen or expected by the community, and they hate to be bound by rules and regulations.

- They have a difficulty in the academic environment: they are very practical, making it difficult for them to cope with tasks that require patience, repetition and theoretical knowledge.

- They are impatient: they want to stay enthusiastic, their minds used to move from one thing to another, and they always look at the most exciting things, and as a result, they may find it difficult to maintain their concentration for a long time.

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- They often miss the whole picture: they prefer to deal with problems directly, which may cause them to lose the big picture.

Basic features in the social and human relations: 1- Emotional relations:

- They are very independent people and need a lot of personal space, especially in emotional relationships, and it is important to note that they tend to be attracted to sensory and practical activities.

- People of this pattern have low skills in long-term planning, but they are almost devoid of what they should do in the present, which helping them to create regeneration, spontaneity, and unpredictability in their relationships.

- They live in the present and looking for new activities and experiences and avoiding routine and restricted work, they resist any attempt to control them, either directly or indirectly, and all these features must remain in mind when thinking about engaging with a person who has this pattern.

- They may not be very emotional, and they usually try hard to protect and hide their emotions, because they are not sure how to deal with them. Regardless, anyone dating or having a long-term relationship with them should know that they have strong, deep feelings even if they find it difficult to express it.

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2- Friendship: - It is not easy to be a friend with people of this pattern but to be a

close friend to them, this requires a lot of effort, and they have no problem in making peers participate in their activities. Being a friend is also a challenge that is not easy to pass.

- To be a friend with people of this pattern can be rich and highly profitable. They are talented people in terms of their senses, usually competitive, and their hobbies - especially physical activities such as hunting and handicrafts - are uniquely enjoyable with few comrades.

- They are rational and tend to think deeply, they usually enjoy new ideas but in the end, sharing of these ideas need to make decisions. Dreams for them are good but cheap and discussions on random or far-fetched topics like European politics can attract their attention for a long time before they decide to shift their focus to something they can do.

3- Raising children: - People of this pattern give their children the freedom and the

opportunity to do whatever they want, within reasonable limits of course, and more than any other personality type, but they expect their children to use their freedom wisely, and use it for discovery and experimentation.

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- When people of this pattern raise their children and share their basic qualities of spontaneity and passion for physical activities, they are happy to accompany them with any activity. Nevertheless, none of this compels their children to do anything, and people of this pattern find a need to convey their interests and principles to their children, instead of just enjoying that their children enjoy doing things.

- Parents of this pattern have a difficulty in their relationships with others when it comes to emotional attachment. Parents who relatively unemotional are often confused in this period. They may need to rely on a more capable partner, otherwise, it takes a great deal of conscious effort from them to be able to provide this kind of emotional understanding, and support the needs of their children.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- Some of the best things for people of this pattern that they are patient and their ability to adapt, even in school, which is a source of frustration for many of them. people of this pattern do the improvising, experimentation, and coexistence with the daily challenges in a way that confuses other patterns because they make

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their decisions at the moment and location they refuse to make contingency plans, which a trait they are proud of.

- People of this pattern are called artists because they have the accuracy of detail observation, and they are raised in areas that encourage on social skills and the ability to remain calm in stressful situations.

- Whatever their hobbies and aspirations they shine when they are at the front of the business, such as selling cars or driving a plane, and the main thing is their desire to be professionals at their work which they do

- They cannot be compared when it comes to exploring the unknown and reaching the highest human capacity, which motivates them. What they should focus on is to place themselves in a position to focus on their spontaneity, their influence and their skills in solving problems, while maintaining the adequate freedom to them in choosing their own ways.

- They are excellent at situations that require doing unusual work under time pressure. People of this pattern are able to make decisions and stay calm in critical situations, but they tend to feel comfortable in making decisions directly and engage in adventures and risks where others will avoid it

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Their attributes as co-workers:

They are social and friendly people and they enjoy working with groups and they will be brilliant in it

they are very observant Brilliant speakers They may be insensitive to the feelings of their co-workers. They have a special charm. They are patient and adapt to anyone around them.

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Business Administration and Management - Insurance sales department - Investment banking - Contractors and

founders of private businesses - Financial management - Real estate - Non-profit organizations - Strategic planning -

Sales of any kind - Public relations and advertising - . Organization and management - Emergency medical cases -

Nurse or A doctor in the emergency department, a police officer, a firefighter, the army, an assistant officer, an

investigator, and a crisis management

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Their attributes as managers:

They pay attention to the current moment and pay no attention to the future.

They care more about what is practical than traditional or popular. They are open-minded, flexible and willing to experiment with

new ideas. Very practical They inspire their team. They are adept at managing crises and emergencies.

Their attributes as subordinates: They hate to be bound by laws and regulations. They enjoy the experiment They think fast They are likely to get bored quickly. They have high improvisational skills. They are taking unnecessary risks. They seek for tangible rewards. They hate routine work.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness.

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Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ISTP) pattern, (Virtuoso)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ISFP Pattern (Adventurer)

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What does it mean to be ` from ISFP Category?

Introverted-ISFP They listen carefully, preferring individual activities, feel more comfortable when they are alone more than being surrounded by many people, and social activities exhaust them. Observant-ISFP They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They do not make their decision until they are fully familiar with all the information and details of the matter under study. Feeling-ISFP the emotion control them over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and they follow their hearts and emotions, which does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. Prospecting-ESFP They tend to be not organized and love the change and seek for freedom. They do not settle down with routine and quickly adapting, they prefer to keep their options open. They described as researchers; they are always looking for alternative options, believing that there are better ways, which may lead to endless having many projects in their lives

Summary of personality traits: They are the most spontaneous patterns where their actions are unpredictable, and the only constant thing in their lives is the change. They

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love exploration and they are excited about all new ideas and activities that thrive in capturing opportunities as their personal traits drive them to experiment and create ideas that never came to anyone’s mind before They love freedom and very independent and very reluctant to all forms of control. They see almost all rules and traditions as determinants that make life boring. They always feel the need to withdraw from social interactions and make their minds rest. People of this pattern are sensitive to the feelings of others. They seek for achieving harmony in all cases, but they can become fierce competitors and may have bad reactions to any form of criticism.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS - They considerate the feelings of others: they find it easy to rely on

others and observe their emotional state and seek to achieve harmony and hate the clashes.

- They have a charming personality and open-minded personality: They are relaxed and warm people who rarely find it difficult to establish friendships as they seek to be flexible and tolerant.

- Artists: They have an excellent sense of aesthetics and this is the basic way, which they express themselves.

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- They have a broad imagination: They have a creative mind and they are often seen as launching fashions and came with distinguished and unusual ideas. Their vivid imagination and technical skills make a unique combination, which often helps them in an unexpected way.

- Curiosity: people of this pattern style tend to be very inquisitive, possessing the will to experience new things and they may enter into adventures rather than miss an exciting opportunity.

- Passionate and enthusiastic: They are often calm and cautious people, however, they can become incredibly passionate if they work on something that inspires and stimulates their attention. They also have strong feelings but their passion and enthusiasm are often hidden from the outside world.

WEAKNESSES - They may have low self-esteem: they face problems of self-

confidence especially in the early stages of life, and most of their positive traits are centered on sensitivity and technical expressions, and such things are usually seen as secondary to other things such as academic performance.

- They may have difficulty in the academic environment: they usually find scientific materials and research very difficult and their performance may be very weak in high-tech areas.

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- They are easily get stressed: they are very passionate individuals and as a result, they may have difficulty adapting to clashes and tension, which may reduce their self-esteem and stifle their creativity.

- Very competitive: Regardless of being calm, cautious and even shy but they become very competitive in specific situations, these features are common among explorers.

- Their actions are unpredictable: people of this pattern hate long-term commitments and plans and they often live entirely in the present trying to avoid thinking about the future. This may lead to a lot of tension and misunderstanding in emotional relationships.

- Extremely independent: they appreciate freedom and they do not worry about traditions, rules or guidelines, believing that they frustrate free thinking and artistic expression, and it will not be surprising to collide with more routine patterns, especially in the work environment.

Basic features in the social and human relations: 1- Emotional relations: - People of this pattern are often considered as a complete mystery

to others, and even their long-term partners may be surprised from time to time. They tend to be very sensitive and emotional but they do their best to hide these features from the world. They are the most pattern who get criticism, clashes, and tribulations; anyway,

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they can also be incredibly warm and enthusiastic if their partners have the desire to accept them for what they are.

- People of this pattern are realistic and partners who know their position in the real world well, they have the will to spend a lot of time and effort to make sure that those who care for them feel this interest and feel excellence. As they have excellent listening skills and have an interest in knowing the feelings of the partner, but the logic, rationality and strategic planning are not much suitable for them. Most of them who have this pattern will be happier than if they let their partner take the lead, especially with regard to emotional matters.

- People of this pattern have low skills in long-term planning, but they are almost devoid of the things they should do in the present, it helps them to create regeneration and spontaneity and the inability to expect in their relationships.

2- Friendship: - In friendships, people of this pattern are the most relaxed,

spontaneous people, and they will not spoil things with complex and long-term arguments and plans, but the exhausting intellectual debates such as debates on European economic policy will not be among their concerns.

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- People of this pattern believe in actions, not in words, this passion

with taking actions is a blessing for them. As it helps them to overcome their shyness when they meet new people in their lives. People of this pattern are very sensitive more than the other patterns, and they take a lot of time to build enough of trust with new friends and feel that they are in their own nature when they are beside them.

- The availability of personal space and freedom are important to them, which often for all kinds of explorers, who share their view of life, which is “Live and let live". They enjoy doing things that attract them; you will not find a better friend out of people of this pattern to complain about concerns, enjoyment, and entertainment.

3- Raising children: - People of ISFP pattern are distinguished with their affection by

nature, practical and calm in nature, which helps them to settle and appreciate every moment of joy and hardship they face when raising a child.

- People of this pattern adore having fun and manual activities when their children grow up; they encourage them to acquire hobbies, which focused on those kinds of activities, even when these

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distinctive activities have developed. people of this pattern reject the introversion and spend time with their children and enjoy the common activities which focus on time, such as improvised trips, home improvement projects such as repainting bedrooms, or simply preparing for some surprises, all of them likely to be beautiful memories for their children

- people of this pattern believe that the only way for their children to grow up and become open-minded and balanced is to allow them to discover and experiment with new things, make mistakes and learn from them, and they always know that they will be able to return home in the end, as interventions and strict rules do not belong to people of this pattern

- When children reach the age of adolescence, people of this pattern want to know that if their work and effort are estimated from their children, who cannot that age - adolescence - to express this estimate easily, as well people of this pattern need to control their feelings should not be exaggerated when things do not work out the way they imagined.

Career and professional development: features of people of this pattern:General practical

- They are starring in artistic roles such as photographing the nature, designing houses and composing music. The main thing is

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that they want to master the techniques. These techniques are likely to be of a practical nature, such as working with colors, sounds, and images. However, it is impossible for people of this pattern to choose their skills in unexpected ways, such as starting their own work.

- People of this pattern recover from risk, and predictable situations. This feature can be useful in different scenarios.

- People of this pattern by their ability can understand the nature of the business, and they can increase their responsibilities without burdening themselves with burdens. This is one of the ways to get on the job and gain recognition, which will ensure their work stability and increase their future profits as well.

- people of this pattern like to be creative as long as it is not just a theoretical proposition, and they have it through the arts and crafts of all kinds, they love perfection, and even they need it, and they like to reach something new and different, music can appeal to them , And they seek to become talented.

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Their attributes as co-workers: •Good advisers, especially when it comes to practical issues. •May be overwhelmed quickly if their role requires a lot of social interaction

•they seek to harmony in the workplace and seek to win •Unpredictable، depending on what their personal goals are •Tolerant and friendly، but they also very sensitive •they often isolated and be cautious

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the most

appropriate (but not the only ones):

Musician - with any effective kind, composer, vocalist - painter - photographer - sculptor - design artist - tailor - interior designer - fashion designer - jewelry designer -

blacksmith - photographer - Carpenter - mechanic for small engines - equipment repairer-mechanical engineer for heavy equipment (mechanical, computer, structural, environmental, acoustic, robotic ... any of the many branches of engineering.)

-veterinarian or veterinarian assistant-preschool teacher -nanny - secretary of children's museum or lecturer If based on

another.)

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Their attributes as managers: •They usually hate being in a leading position. •They are sensitive and good listeners •They hate long-term planning •They find it difficult to discipline their subordinates •They know how to inspire people. •They are very good at securing cooperation from others •They tend to give subordinates a lot of freedom •They may prefer nonverbal forms of communication. •they are open minded and flexible, and ready to experience new ideas. their attributes as subordinates: •They hate being in a small department. •they need to know that their work is appreciated. •They love to learn new things •They are very flexible and open-minded •Prone to take risks. • They need clear goals •They may use unconventional methods, regardless of existing rules or policies. •They may be unwilling to step up and suggest their services. •They hate long-term commitments, but they will be very loyal. •Enjoy the experiment. •They hate boring tasks.

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*To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ISFP) pattern, (Adventurer)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ESTP Pattern (Entrepreneur)

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What does it mean to be from ESTP Category?

Extraverted-ESTP They derive their energy and ideas from their presence with others; they prefer group activities and have a distinctive way of social communication. Observant-ESTP They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They do not make their decision until they are fully familiar with all the information and details of the matter under study. Thinking-ESTP They tend to rational thinking and the emotional thinking reduced, which does not mean that they are free of emotion, but mostly they depend on rational thinking. Prospecting-ESTP They tend to be not organized and love the change and seek for freedom. They do not settle down with routine and quickly adapting, they prefer to keep their options open. They described as researchers; they are always looking for alternative options, believing that there are better ways, which may lead to endless having many projects in their lives

Summary of personality traits The most confident, persuasive and realistic pattern, they are always living on the edge by using their social skills with impressive effectiveness. They are tough people who put results and effectiveness above social traditions.

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They have a great ability to observe things that others miss. They have a great ability to promote anything, whether it is an idea or a product, so they are invaluable friends, employees, and partners. However, on the other side, they often appear to be uninterested and dominant. They may also find it difficult to maintain calm and rely on logic and facts. They may be very selfish, rejecting facts and traditions, considering them burdensome, and using their wonderful skills to their own pure advantage.

Strengths and Weaknesses

STRENGTHS - They have an audacity: They want to test things and experience

everything, and they do not mind getting out of their comfort zone and explore things that others hesitate to do.

- They are honest: their words show their naivety innocent and prefer the frank and sincere answers, and they stay away from games of mind or social courtesy.

- Very flexible: they can observe changes in one's habits or appearance, and they always know how to use that information to communicate with others.

- Creators: They love testing and finding solutions and ideas, that no one has ever come across it before.

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- Rational and practical people: people of this type of personality do not recognize the importance of emotions, feelings or philosophical ideas; because they care more about what makes sense for them, as well what has a practical use.

- they have great social skills: they do not seek to lead or manage people, but they tend to have excellent communication skills and know well how to optimally use each social interaction

WEAKNESSES - They do not care much about the rules: they have more interest in

what suits them more, and what they have more sense than might happen or expected to happen by the community, and they hate to be bound by rules and laws.

- They take many risks: they do not mind to have adventures and enjoying the rush of adrenaline, so they might inadvertently get away with it if they are bored.

- They have a difficulty in the academic field: they are very practical, interested in actions, and they may find it difficult to adapt to tasks that require patience, repetition, and theoretical knowledge.

- They might be insensitive: they make rationality superior to emotions, they may never be comfortable in emotionally charged

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situations, and unaware of how to deal with others' feelings, and they may find it difficult to express their own feelings.

- They are impatient: they want to stay enthusiastic, their minds used to move from one thing to another, and they always look at the most exciting things, and as a result, they may find it difficult to maintain their concentration for a long time.

- They often miss the whole picture: they prefer to deal with problems directly, which may cause them to lose the big picture.

Basic features in the social and human relations: 1- Emotional relations: - People of this pattern tend to be enthusiastic, their actions are

unpredictable, they know how to enjoy the present and enjoy time regardless of what they do. This applies to their emotional relationships as well, and they are great in improvisation, which is clearly shown as usual, especially in the introducing phase. Their partners will not be able to complain about their relationship, which is not boring.

- They are very flexible and they are able to observe the smallest changes in the partner's mood or behavior. However, they are not sensitive or emotional, as their flexibility makes it easier for them to observe the partner's needs and desires. As mentioned

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above, they will always know how to surprise the partner. The ability to predict their actions will keep the nature of the relationship burning as long as they have the will to make the necessary efforts to do so.

2- Friendship: - People of this pattern are the center of celebration life, with an

unforgettable imagination and a high sense of spontaneity, you will not be bored with people of this pattern, and they like to explore interesting ideas through discussions or by going out, which means they always hide entertaining activities.

- Practical and physical activities are at the center of their entertainment. These environments give them many opportunities to make new friends, as they seem to be in close contact with almost everyone and make friends wherever they are.

- Exploration, excitement, adrenaline, and taking risk are things which friends of people of this pattern style must be prepared for. They will often be happy to play a role in front of crowds, but they also tend to encourage their friends to join them. Many people of this pattern may take a rejection personally, however, people of this pattern will be more comfortable with their own knowledge as they will simply compete with those who are adventurous.

- People of this pattern are tolerant and have an attractive personality, which makes them by nature very famous.

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3- Raising children: - The parents who belong to ESTP pattern are open to children.

They are the ideal parents on many levels. They are beloved, funny, understanding and flexible. They spend their most time playing with their children and they are eager to have fun and happy time.

- People of this pattern have the curiosity and spontaneity of children to learn and play, indulge in the activities of their children, and they cannot leave their children to seek for a partner to play or help for a school homework. They are always attending and be fans for their children in their activities, sports, hobbies and everything, and they do not force them to practice and activities, which they do not want to do, but they leave them free to choose what pleases them.

- They urge their children to have a special vision and an independent look and to follow their intuition and hearts and accept the other despite the difference between them. They pay attention to their children and observe even the simplest changes in their mood and habits; they never ignore it and quickly intervene if things go wrong.

- The most distinguished thing in the relationship between children and parents who belong to this pattern is - and because of the nature of their parents who have open and fun mind-the transparency of this relationship to them and the simplicity of

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admitting their mistakes and problems that will not be hidden and ashamed of them.

Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- People of this pattern are called the sellers because they have the precision to observe details, and they are raised in areas that encourage social skills and the ability to survive quietly in stressful situations. People of this pattern are not interested in building complex systems or even planning the worst life scenarios, but they leave this feature to the analyst's people with a technical orientation.

- Some people tend to be better in management roles, make sure things go well without problems, and ensure that the shareholders are happy, and all goals are implemented on time. This means that they should not find it difficult to use career development methods well, especially in large organizations that have multiple opportunities to use leadership and management skills.

- people of this pattern have many characteristics that make the private business suits them perfectly, they are practical and not afraid of taking a risk.in addition, they are friendly and tactful and convincing people, they are captivating by nature because of their

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talking ingenuity and attract brands to deal with them easily. Furthermore, they are constantly looking for everything that is modern and new which will make them in the lead, as it is something effective in competitive business.

- Because they are able to put their ideas into action quickly, people of this pattern are the best personalities in emergencies, for their ability to find quick solutions and to focus accurately on what is happening here and now, which makes their presence in crises invaluable.

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Business Administration and Management - Sales Department in the field of insurance - Investment banking - Contractors and founders of private business - Financial management - Real estate - Non-profit organizations - Strategic planning - Sales of any kind - Public relations

and advertising - Organization and management - Emergency medical cases Specialist in the emergency

department) - nurse or doctor in emergency department - police - firefighter - army - assistant officer - investigator -

crisis management

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Their attributes as co-workers:

They are social and friendly people and they enjoy working within groups

They are very observant for any beginning of any tension that may arise.

Good speakers They may be insensitive to the feelings of their co-workers. They are very patient and adapt to anyone around them.

Their attributes as managers:

They pay attention to the current moment and pay no attention to the future.

They care more about what is practical than traditional or popular.

They are open-minded, flexible and willing to experiment with new ideas.

they are very practical Inspiring their team. They are good at managing crises and emergencies.

Their attributes as subordinates: They hate to be bound by laws and regulations.

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they enjoy the experiment they think fast it is possible that they get bored quickly They have high improvisational skills. They are taking unnecessary risks. They seek for tangible rewards. They hate routine work.

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ESTP) pattern, (Entrepreneur)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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ESFP Pattern (Entertainer)

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What does it mean to be from ESFP Category? People of this pattern are closely associated with the patterns. They are open-minded people with a passionate personality n=and love the regularity and order. Extraverted-ESFP They derive their energy and ideas from their presence with others; they prefer group activities and have a distinctive way of social communication. Observant-ESFP They care about the generalities of things more than their attention to detail and the particulars and details of things. They do not make their decision until they are fully familiar with all the information and details of the matter under study. Feeling-ESFP the emotion control them over rational thinking, they are sensitive people, and they follow their hearts and emotions, which does not mean that they do not think with their minds at all, but they have mostly used the emotion. Prospecting-ESFP They tend to be not organized and love the change and seek for freedom. They do not settle down with routine and quickly adapting, they prefer to keep their options open. They described as researchers; they are always

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looking for alternative options, believing that there are better ways, which may lead to endless having many projects in their lives

Summary of personality traits People of this pattern love to be in the center of attention and enjoy even the simplest things. Their fun and their rushing nature usually make others very attracted to them. They like to communicate with others and they can spend a lot of time talking about multiple themes. People of this pattern may be compatible with the open-minded patterns, they are realistic, practical and sympathetic characters who have the ability to observe and respond to a person's painful emotional state. They will not hesitate to encourage and advise him if it was necessary. They always try to cheer around and encourage them, and they are talented in making others feel excited and they enjoy it so much.

Their main weaknesses are the inability to plan or work for the future. Their focus is usually on the present moment and they do not excel in planning or long-term thinking. As we have said, they are very practical, but not with repetitive and analytical tasks. Instead, they will depend on their luck or ask others for help instead of spending time trying to understand complex theories.

Strengths and Weaknesses

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STRENGTHS - They have an audacity: They want to test things and experience

everything, and they do not mind getting out of their comfort zone and explore things that others hesitate to do.

- Creators: They love creativity and excellence among others, and they do not care about the traditions or what other people might expect from them

- They have excellent social skills: they tend to be cheerful and chattering as they do not run out of topics that can be discussed, and they do not like to die alone and enjoy communication with others when it possible.

- They have a great sense of aesthetics and beauty: they are artists, especially with regard to other people's pleasure, as they do not compare with them any kind of other characters in this area.

- Practical people: They care about practical matters only, and they do not like theories and philosophical discussions, they see it as a waste of time.

- very realistic: they live at the present moment and focus especially on what is happening here and now, as they find it easy to note the facts and tangible things and changes.

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- They find it hard to concentrate: they get bored quickly and want to stay as excited as possible, no matter where they are, and it will not be surprising that they will find it difficult to deal with tasks that require patience, concentration, and attention.

- Very sensitive: they express their feelings and emotions significantly without making an effort to hide their feelings. They also tend to show a very emotional reaction to the criticism or if they are confined to a corner and are unable to discuss.

- Weak planners: They rarely think about the future and they are more interested in the present moment, refusing to worry about the next steps or possible outcomes.

- Always seek for excitement: people of this pattern take risks and often tolerant with themselves, putting present fun over balance and long-term planning.

- Find it difficult in the academic environment: they see the school as a waste of time and they are more interested in creativity, practical issues, and social networking, as they find it difficult to adhere to a schedule and make the necessary effort to succeed in the academic environment.

- Hate the clash: people of this pattern do everything they can to ignore the underlying clashes and often demonstrate interest, but they will then go to do some entertaining things.

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Basic features in the social and human relations: 1. Emotional relations:

- People of this pattern are fun, honest, and passionate, their emotional relationships are built on a simple, pure, realistic love that focuses on daily pleasures. Being social, this will bring a lot of energy and innovation into their relationship.

- People of this pattern live fully in the present, taking advantage of every moment applied the same way to their relationships; for example, they often enjoy dating someone without thinking about the next step or long-term planning.

- People of this pattern expose to very much of clashes and their reactions often are bad. If someone said something negative about their relationship, and it may be worse if the partner criticized them for any reason because they are very emotional personalities and they prefer to take things as it looks instead of trying to know the catalyst and causes.

2. Friendship: - People of this pattern are known for their passionate and optimistic

social behavior. Much of their own qualities does not inspire them so that they share in any capacity even if with a small percentage of intelligence to trust in appearance to the enthusiasm and even optimism with their wide circle of friends. They are explorers by their nature for the pleasure of life, and their practical pleasure takes

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it when they share this experience with others. For them, no benefit for the life we live unless we do not feel that we love and live it with our vitality and happiness.

- Making new friends is not difficult for them, so they use a tempting combination of absolute confidence, attractive openness, and magic to make things go as they wish, and they have trouble in maintaining their new friends.

- People of this pattern love the special touch on intellectual and philosophical topics and they strive to find this touch between people of different personalities and views around them, especially among their friends.

- They care about their friends sincerely, so they make every effort to create a set of life experiences that - as they think - will make everyone around them enjoy it, so they resent their immediate conflicts that end the relationships with their friends.as they grow older and being mature they learn to respect a different kind of personalities around them and find out the similarities with them

3. Raising children: - People of this pattern are considered one of the most relaxed people

in dealing with their children, parents of this pattern love the fun and playing with their children represent the best moments of pleasure. However, they innovate constantly new ways to have fun with their children and they are thrilled from the first moment they

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hold their children and ask about their children's experience in everything around them, and they participate and encourage them as much as possible.

- The philosophy which parent of this pattern depends on is the experiment. When their children ask about something new, their response is "let us discover the answer together". Solid foundations and routine activities are not part of their parenting. They take things fairly and allow their children to explore new things that are blocking their way, their children appreciate it, and that does not mean there are no rules and laws since they have passed through the youth stage before.

- People of this pattern do not comply with discipline and the negative effects appeared in their lives. When they are being mature, they are careful that their children do not suffer the same damage and setbacks they have already experienced.

- They continue to bargain for the end despite providing a lot of emotional support. While they are required to feel and have a sense of practical and they have a very good parenting style and nurturing and fill the gap between them and their children well. If their children say that they want to become astronauts, they build their spaceship with all happiness and help them focus on their school assignments and goals.

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Career and professional development: General practical features of people of this pattern:

- They cannot be compared when it comes to exploring the unknown and reaching the highest capacity of a human being, which motivates them and they should focus on it to put themselves in a place that allows them to focus on their spontaneity and their impact and skills in solving problems, with maintaining the adequate freedom to choose their own ways

- They are brilliant in situations that require unusual actions under the pressure of time. They may be nervous in dangerous situations but they tend to feel comfortable by making decisions directly and engaging in adventures and risks that others will avoid.

- Combining their own attractions and storytelling skills, this makes them prominent faces. This can be evident by taking each character by acting or presenting a subject like a teacher. People of this kind are the masters of communication. They accept new and interesting ideas and use them to present something in a way that captures the imagination of those who speak to them.

- They can be brilliant, inspired and quick, and they are normal when it comes to creating spontaneous materials. They work more enjoyable than those that are traditional or predictable. This

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quality is useful for speakers who need to prevent their audience from getting bored.

Professional development: Appropriate job opportunities

Their attributes as co-workers: They cannot be replaced when interesting and exciting ideas are needed they are very social and spontaneous, enjoying interacting with other people. They are likely to be famous. Smart and enthusiastic.

This makes the following occupations and jobs are the

most appropriate (but not the only ones):

Social worker- life coach- behavioral therapist- counselor-sports coach- nutritionist- school guidance counselor- actor- teacher- politician- Public relation speaker or advertising agent- investigation reporter- religious man-lawyer- lecturer to motivate the audience- insurance sales- baking investment-entrepreneur-financial management- non-profit Fund-raising-strategic planning-sales of any kind-advertising and public relations-event management.

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Very observant, they are able accurately to judge the atmosphere at work. They hate criticism, especially when it comes to their customs. Brilliant Storytellers. They are very tolerant and can go along with everyone.

Their attributes as managers:

Enjoy by getting to the center of attention. They focus on "here and now". They are very good at preventing conflict situations and making their subordinates feel relaxed. They do not care much about their authority or social situation and prefer horizontal hierarchies. They can be resourceful and inspiring. They are open -minded and flexible, and willing to experience new ideas. Very practical. They are able to inspire the team. Their attributes as subordinates: Enjoy the experiment and try to come up with new ideas and they hate normal tasks. Excellent mental ability, they are able to jump from one idea to

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another. They somewhat quickly forgetful and focus on quick returns. Creative and practical at the same time. Honest and direct. They prefer freedom and independence to safety and security they hate repetition and precisely defined tasks they hate being restricted by regulations and laws Fast thinkers. They get bored quickly they have excellent improvisation skills. They maybe take unnecessary risks they seek for financial rewards

* To learn more about the nature of this pattern and distinctive personality traits ،and the contents of detailed hidden points of strength and weakness. Describing the basic frameworks of this pattern, whether at social and human relations or professional development level. Look at “(ESFP) pattern, (Entrepreneur)" Book By the author, Mohammed al-Jefairi

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The conclusion: What is meant by personality classification theories and tests is to lead you to some of the personality traits and to be a starting point for you to discover your character more. It is not meant to stick you in a particular mold, such as telling you that your personality is so-and-so! In addition, putting your actions in a particular frame, which based on what people think about your personality. There is a big difference between using character classification theories such as "MBTI" in helping you to discover yourself and the risk of putting yourself in a certain personality and convinced that you cannot act the opposite.

Social science, especially psychology, is a dynamic changing science where there is new constantly. If we talk about psychology, we find that the human psyche is very complex and full of mysteries. It is too large to be interpreted theoretically or placed in a block of templates. Psychologists every day in a new state, they seek constantly to reach more self-knowledge and secrets, so you should not take what you know about yourself on the inevitable. However, you have to realize that it is only a way to try to discover your nature and your original traits, which you were born with them and that may be buried with time. Therefore, it would be a mistake if you put yourself in a certain mold to act and deal with people according to it and you do not know what secrets of your character you will discover in the future. You have to deal with the

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names of the given patterns by the theory in this sense, such as the pattern of the defender, the mastermind, the counselor or the artist. All of them are just indicative names which give only an indicative on how the general orientation for people of this pattern, which are just illustrative names. So do not make a serious mistake to put your character in a particular template, and no one should read about a certain pattern and thinking that he belongs to him only after being sure of the test.

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Why should we question the results?

The accuracy of the test is very high up to more than 93%, yet we cannot put all humans in only 16 types. Therefore, this test helps us to discover ourselves, but not to determine our capabilities and ambitions; it gives us results based on our answers We may be inaccurate in answering because of the following reasons: 1- I had a bad mood when I took this test 2- I am not enthusiastic about it. 3- I am successful in my life, I know myself well, and there is no need

to test. 4- I refuse to know me or to classify by others. 5- I have done the test and forced to do so. 6- I do not like answers and tests. 7- I do not like to be evaluated by others. 8- My positives are correct and my negatives are wrong. 9- I was like that and I have changed 10- It is accurate but I do not care.

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References: Books and publications

1. The sixteen character patterns that define how you live, love and work, Utrocruger and Janet M. Theosin.

2. Discover your personality, and a person around you, Mureed El-Kullab, Bedaya Publishing Foundation, 2013.

3. My Personality, Mary McGinnis, Mary Mac Publishing Corporation.

4. Understanding personality and the difference of talent patterns, Isabel Myers, Dar Ruslan for printing, publishing and distribution, 1900

5. A combination of character patterns according to the MBTI standards -Clayton Geoffries, 2015.

6. True to Type, William C. Jeffries, Hampton Roads Publishing Corporation, 1991.

Electronic Resources

1. www.16personalities.com 2. www.myersbriggs.org 3. http://www.jass.im/

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Test Questions First group:

1- You find it difficult to introduce yourself to other people. a. Yes ( E ) b. No ( I)

2- Initiate phone calls to new friends: a. Yes ( E) b. No ( I)

3- you do not mind to be the center of attention: a. Yes ( E) b. No ( I)

4- You find it difficult to start talking when the idea you want to express is not clear to you well:

a. Yes ( I) b. No ( E)

5- you prefer to read an interesting book or play an entertaining video game rather than social activities:

a. Yes ( I) b. No ( E)

6- Allow my feelings to appear in front of everyone: a. Yes ( E) b. No ( I)

7- Getting used to the social environment in your new job does not require much time:

a. Yes ( E)

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b. No ( I) 8- you prefer to work within a team to work alone:

a. Yes ( E) b. No ( I)

9- In your opinion, being a good consultant is better than working in a team:

a. Yes ( I) b. No (E)

10- Meeting with a group of people gives you a load of energy: a. Yes ( E) b. No ( I)

11- you like to isolate yourself from the surrounding environment when you do your work, such as putting the headphones

a. Yes ( I) b. No (E)

The questions of the first group ended.

--- Collect all the answers now and know which character is your highest so you can know the first character of your personality----

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The second group:

1- Often you feel like you tend to compare yourself to other people: a. Yes (S) b. No( N)

2- often you feel jealous of others: a. Yes (S) b. No (N)

3- (difficult) ideas are more important than the facts we live in a. Yes (N) b. No (S)

4- If someone does not respond quickly to your message, you will be concerned about whether you have made a mistake in what you have written to him:

a. Yes (S) b. No( N)

5- your thoughts tend to be imaginary or far from reality: a. Yes (N) b. No (S)

6- you find that you are better in the operational aspects than the invention:

a. Yes (S) b. No( N)

7- you care about what people think about you: a. Yes (S) b. No( N)

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8- Often you spend time in exploring imaginary and impractical ideas:

a. Yes (N) b. No (S)

9- you do not mind to get a severe criticism if the discussion is logical:

a. Yes (N) b. No (S)

10- you focus on probabilities rather than actual results (the result does not matter in any experiment, but the important thing is to discover all the possibilities in the experiment):

a. Yes (N) b. No (S)

11- You like to take a summary of topics or you like the details: a. Summary (N) b. Details (S)

The questions of the second group ended.

--- Collect all the answers now and know which character is your highest so you can know the second character of your personality----

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The third group:

1- The logical decision for you is the best decision, even if it will hurt someone's feelings:

a. Yes (T) b. No (F)

2- watching emotional films make you feel sad: a. Yes (F) b. No (T)

3- Do you prefer to call yourself a practical person who loves practical things or imaginary who loves fantasy and dreams:

a. Practical (T) b. imaginary (F)

4- Often your mood fluctuates: a. Yes (T) b. No (F)

5- Your mood may change quickly: a. Yes (F) b. No (T)

6- When someone is in trouble, usually you start by offering emotional assistance instead of offering practical solutions:

a. Yes (F) b. No (T)

7- When you break your relationship with someone you break it immediately:

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a. Yes (T) b. No (F)

8- When making decisions that affect other people, do you follow these emotional or logical methods with those people:

a. logic (T) b. emotion (F)

9- It is difficult to hide your feelings: a. Yes (F) b. No (T)

10- You find that it would be good to show a little emotion in the work field:

a. Yes (F) b. No (T)

11- You often think with your mind or your heart: a. Mind (T) b. Heart ( F)

The questions of the third group ended.

--- Collect all the answers now and know which character is your highest so you can know the third character of your personality----

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The fourth group:

1- You try to respond to your e-mails as soon as possible and cannot stand a messy inbox.

a. Yes( J) b. No( P)

2- you do not like to adhere to specific dates and love to be given freedom and flexibility to the obligations:

a. Yes( P) b. No( J)

3- In your opinion, being adaptable is more important than being organized:

a. Yes( P) b. No( J)

4- Your business environment and your home are very organized: a. Yes( J) b. No( P)

5- you prefer to leave problems pending as long as possible because you think you can find better solutions over time:

a. Yes( P) b. No( J)

6- Your travel plans are accurate and carefully laid out: a. Yes( J) b. No( P)

7- you do not have the skill of careful planning and more inclined to improvise (love improvisation and initiate without thinking about all the results):

a. Yes( P)

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b. No( J) 8- Your work pattern is closer to random than to be systematic and

carefully planned: a. Yes( P) b. No( J)

9- When solving problems, consider methods and solutions which tested earlier than new ideas not tested:

a. Yes( J) b. No( P)

10- our decisions are random and spontaneous and not characterized by planning and organizing:

a. Yes( P) b. No( J)

11- Keeping your options open is more important than committing to specific items:

a. Yes( P) b. No( J) c.

The questions of the fourth group ended.

--- Collect all the answers now and know which character is your highest so you can know the fourth character of your personality----

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About the author “Mohammad Hassan el Jefairi” He is a writer, a coach ,and a Qatari citizen broadcaster Got the following degrees:

Mr. Mohamed ALJefairi has received a diploma in information and communications technology - College of the North Atlantic (graduates first batch) ICT CAN Qatar 2004

in 2014 he has received a master's degree in strategic planning from the French university HEC

Currently, he is studying a Ph.D. in NTU University in Britain.

He worked in the following positions: a weekly writer in Al Arab Qatar newspaper broadcaster of Alkhbeir program (Qatar TV) Currently, works as a consultant in the development and training

of the Qatar Foundation for Media.

His most important works: the author of more than 25 books in the field of leadership and

technology, including (leading personalities analysis - leadership

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with guidance - Leadership - Strategic Planning - design your a website without programming)

Several books have translated in leadership and technology in many languages.

The founder of the project Waqf online - the largest Arab free training network on the Internet.

a certified instructor since 2004 and train more than 3,000 people around the world not only in the field of leadership but in other areas such as information technology and media, project management, strategic planning

His mission: Mr. Mohamed ALJefairi carries a clear message, which is the contribution of preparing a new generation armed with science, skill, and wisdom, and qualified to lead the Arab world to join the ranks with the Great Nations. he fully faith believes in the capabilities of young Qatari and Arab, so he is doing all his energy in training and rehabilitation, motivate and support young Qatari and Arab to convert their ideas and goals into reality to contribute in drawing a bright future for Qatar and the Arab and Islamic nation's

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About the creativity makers group Creativity makers Group were founded to be the umbrella that is sponsoring the youth skills and abilities through several underneath small institutions 1- Creativity makers House for publication and distribution. 2- Creativity makers’ production company for imaging and

directing 3- Creativity makers network for online training. 4- Creativity makers Center for the development and

management of youth projects. The main goal is to unleash the capabilities and potential of Arab youth and motivate them to the dissemination of science and knowledge in various fields. This is my dream and this is what I lived for the founder of creativity makers group – Mohammed ALJefairi