DISCIPLINE

What Is Discipline?

In simple terms, it’s your BEHAVIOUR.

What Is Included In Behaviour?

Behaviour encompasses many topics, but the main topics we will learn are:

Behaviour In Class Behaviour On Road Behaviour At Home

Behaviour In Class• Strive for ihsaan (i.e. excellence, proficiency &

perfection) in your studies:The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) said, “ ع�ل�ى ان� ح�س� اإل� �ب� �ت ك �ه� الل إن�

ء� ي� ش� �ل� Verily, Allaah has prescribed ihsaan in – كevery thing.” [Muslim (1955)]• Be silent & pay attention• Don’t Disturb Others:The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) said, “ ار� ضر� و�ال� ر� ض�ر� There – ال�should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.” [Ibn Maajah (2341)]

• Respect your teachers:The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) said, “ ل��ج ي �م� ل م�ن� ي م�ت

� أ من� �س� �ي لح�ق�ه� �ا من ع�ال ل �ع�رف� و�ي �ا ن ص�غير� ح�م� �ر� و�ي �ا ن ير� �ب Whoever“ – ك

fails to show honor to our elders, mercy to our children, and respect to our scholars is not one of us.” [Musnad Ahmad (21693); Saheeh al-Jaami’]Respect includes:-Seeking their permission & greeting them first-Obeying them-Not to increase voice when talking to them-Not to argue with them-Not to mock them

Behaviour On Roads• Fulfill the rights of roads:The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) said, “ ق�ات الط3ر� ب �ج�ل�وس� و�ال �م� �اك ي – إBeware of sitting in the street.” They said, “We have no alternative; that is where we sit and talk.” He said, “If you insist on sitting there, then give the street its rights.” They said, “What are the rights of the street?” He said, “(They are)1. �ص�ر �ب ال ,Lowering your gaze – غ�ض32. �ذ�ى األ �ف3 ,Refraining from harming others – و�ك3. �م ال الس� د3 Returning greeting, and – و�ر�4. �ر �ك �م�ن ال ع�ن �ه�ى� و�الن وف �م�ع�ر� ال ب م�ر�

� Enjoining what is – و�األgood, and forbidding what is evil.”

[al-Bukhari (6229) & Muslim (2121)]

•Covering the mouth when yawning as not covering it while yawning is offensive to people:The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) said, “ م�� ح�د�ك

� أ �او�ب� �ث ت ذ�ا إ فيه ع�ل�ى �ده ي ب ك� �م�س �ي When one of you – ف�ل

yawns, he should keep his mouth shut with the help of his hand...” [Muslim (2995)]•Also cover your mouth when sneezing or coughing.•When you address someone, use decent titles.

Behaviour At Home• Respect your parents:Allaah (هلالج لج) says in the Qur'aan, “And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and BE THE BEST (iHsaan) to parents. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], ‘uff,’ and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. * And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.’” [al-Israa', 23-24]

Being best to parents includes:- Greeting them first- Obeying them- NOT preferring others over them- Lowering voice in their presence- Facing them when speaking to them- Being quite when they speak- Striving to serve them- Consulting them- Making du`aa for them

• Being good to neighbours:The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) said, “ �ه �لل ا ب �ؤ�من� ي �ان� ك م�ن�

ه� ار� ج� �رم� �ك �ي ف�ل خر اآل� �و�م �ي Whoever believes in – و�الAllaah and the Last Day, he should honour his neighbour.”And in another narration, “ ه� ار� ج� �ؤ�ذ ي � He – ف�الshould not harm his neighbour.” [al-Bukhari (6018, 6019) & Muslim (47)]

COMMUNICATION

What Does Communication Mean?

Basically, it means HOW YOU TALK

Today, we will see three things:

What to say What not to say How to speak

What To Say

•A Muslim should use good language and say only that which is good:Allaah (هلالج لج) says in the Qur'aan, “And tell My servants to say that which is best. Indeed, Shaytaan sows disagreements among them.” [al-Israa', 53]The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) said, “ �و�م �ي و�ال �ه �لل ا ب �ؤ�من� ي �ان� ك م�ن�

�ص�م�ت� ي ل و�� أ ا Pر� ي خ� �ق�ل� �ي ف�ل خر Whoever believes in – اآل�

Allaah and the Last Day, he should speak good or remain silent.” [al-Bukhari (6018, 6019) & Muslim (47)]

What Not To Say• Leaving useless talk, evil talk & vulgar language:`Abdullaah Ibn `Amr said, “The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) was neither a FaaHish nor MutafaHHish (i.e. he did not curse or speak lewdly).” [al-Bukhari (6035) & Muslim (2321)]• Do not abuse & insult another’s parents:The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) said, “ ج�ل الر� �م� ت ش� ر �ائ �ب �ك ال من��ه د�ي ”.Abusing one's parents is one of the major sins – و�الThey asked, “O Messenger of Allaah, does a man abuse his parents too?” He replied, “ ج�ل الر� �ا ب

� أ �س�ب3 ي �ع�م� نم�ه� � أ �س�ب3 ف�ي م�ه�

� أ �س�ب3 و�ي �اه� ب� أ �س�ب3 Yes, one abuses the – ف�ي

father of another man, who in turn abuses his father. One abuses his mother and he in turn abuses his (the former's) mother.” [Muslim (90)]

• No backbiting (gheebah)Allaah (هلالج لج) says in the Qur'aan, “And do not backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting).” [al-Hujuraat, 12]-What is backbiting? The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) defined it as, “ ه� �ر� �ك ي م�ا ب خ�اك�

� أ ك� �ر� Saying something about your – ذكbrother that he dislikes.” It was said, “What if what I say about my brother is true?” He said, “ م�ا فيه �ان� ك ن� إ

�ه� �ه�ت ب ف�ق�د� فيه �ن� �ك ي �م� ل ن� و�إ �ه� �ت �ب اغ�ت ف�ق�د �ق�ول� If what you – تsay is true then you have backbitten about him, and if it is not true then you have slandered him.” [Muslim (2589)]

How To Speak

`Aa'ishah said, “The Prophet (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) used to talk so clearly that if somebody wanted to count the number of his words, he could do so… The Messenger of Allaah (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) never talked quickly and vaguely…” [al-Bukhari (3567) & Muslim (2493)]From the above Hadeeth, we learn that one should:•Speak clearly•Be clear in our ideas•Speak neither too fast, nor too slow

• Turn completely & face the one you are speaking to:Abu Hurayrah said, “When he (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) faced someone, he (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) faced him completely. When he (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) turned away, he (ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص) turned away completely.” [al-Adab al-Mufrad (255)]•Be cheerful & friendly:When the companions used to meet the Prophet they used to think that he loved them the ,(ملسو هيلع هللا ىلص)most; it is because of the way he used to treat every individual. He used to treat everybody with sensitivity and avoid something what the person would not like. Every companion thought that they were the most beloved.