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Diakonos CounselingDiakonos Counseling
Essential Elements for Essential Elements for Developing a Healthy Developing a Healthy
MarriageMarriage
Essential Elements for Developing Essential Elements for Developing a Healthy Marriagea Healthy Marriage
““However, each of you also must However, each of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” the wife must respect her husband.” NIVNIV
Ephesians Ephesians 5:335:33
Dr. David Olson says “Change is Dr. David Olson says “Change is inevitable but growth is intentional. inevitable but growth is intentional. We seriously over-estimate what we We seriously over-estimate what we can accomplish in one day’s time, can accomplish in one day’s time, and we seriously under-estimate and we seriously under-estimate what we can accomplish in one what we can accomplish in one year’s time.year’s time.
Romans chapter 12Romans chapter 12
FOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL CORE FOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL CORE ISSUES THAT IMPACT CHANGEISSUES THAT IMPACT CHANGE
Self-Talk ProficiencySelf-Talk Proficiency Mood ManagementMood Management Behavior ModificationBehavior Modification Stress ResistanceStress Resistance
THREE POWERFUL EMOTIONS THREE POWERFUL EMOTIONS THAT IMPACT CHANGETHAT IMPACT CHANGE
LoveLove FearFear AngerAnger
TOOLS IN THE DEVIL’S WORKSHOPTOOLS IN THE DEVIL’S WORKSHOP
Low-Self-EsteemLow-Self-Esteem PerfectionismPerfectionism CriticismCriticism ContemptContempt DefensivenessDefensiveness StonewallingStonewalling
HARLEY’S FOUR LOVE BUSTERSHARLEY’S FOUR LOVE BUSTERS
Angry OutburstsAngry Outbursts Disrespectful JudgementsDisrespectful Judgements Selfish DemandsSelfish Demands Thoughtless DecisionsThoughtless Decisions
Dr. Richard HarleyDr. Richard Harley
THE RELATIONSHIP CLOCKTHE RELATIONSHIP CLOCK
Love is a ChoiceLove is a ChoiceRobert Hemfelt Ed.D. - Frank Minirth M.D. - Paul Meier M.D.Robert Hemfelt Ed.D. - Frank Minirth M.D. - Paul Meier M.D.
FOUR DYNAMICS THAT WILL FOUR DYNAMICS THAT WILL DESTROY A MARRIAGEDESTROY A MARRIAGE
EscalationEscalation InvalidationInvalidation Withdrawal and AvoidanceWithdrawal and Avoidance Negative InterpretationsNegative Interpretations
Fighting for Your MarriageFighting for Your Marriage Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan
L. BlumbergL. Blumberg
THE COMMUNICATION-THE COMMUNICATION-CONSIDERATION QUADRANTCONSIDERATION QUADRANT
COMMUNICATION: THE FOUR COMMUNICATION: THE FOUR BASIC KEYS TO SUCCESSFULLY BASIC KEYS TO SUCCESSFULLY
COMMUNICATING WITH ANYONECOMMUNICATING WITH ANYONE
TimingTiming ToneTone ContentContent Non-verbalNon-verbal
COMMUNICATION: TAKING THE COMMUNICATION: TAKING THE RIGHT STEPS IN THE RIGHT ORDERRIGHT STEPS IN THE RIGHT ORDER
Step 1: Conversations for Step 1: Conversations for UnderstandingUnderstanding
Step 2: Conversations for DecisionsStep 2: Conversations for Decisions
COMMUNICATION: REACHING FOR COMMUNICATION: REACHING FOR LEVELS OF EXCELLENCELEVELS OF EXCELLENCE
Level 5…..PRN Level 5…..PRN
Level 4…..Feeling Level 4…..Feeling
Level 3…..Belief Level 3…..Belief
Level 2…..FactLevel 2…..Fact
Level 1…..ClichéLevel 1…..Cliché
BELIEVE THE EXPERTSBELIEVE THE EXPERTS
Gary Smalley says that anger has 3 outlets. 1. Stuff it. 2. Gary Smalley says that anger has 3 outlets. 1. Stuff it. 2. Spew it. 3. Study it. Spew it. 3. Study it. From Anger To IntimacyFrom Anger To Intimacy
Josh McDowell has said, “Rules and expectations without a Josh McDowell has said, “Rules and expectations without a relationship will equal rebellion.”relationship will equal rebellion.”
James Dobson said “The most vulnerable victims of family James Dobson said “The most vulnerable victims of family instability are the children.” instability are the children.” Love Must Be ToughLove Must Be Tough
Carl Rogers UPR Unconditional Positive RegardCarl Rogers UPR Unconditional Positive Regard Stephen Covey Habit #5: “Seek First to Understand Then Stephen Covey Habit #5: “Seek First to Understand Then
to be Understood”to be Understood” John Gottman NSO Negative Sentiment Over-rideJohn Gottman NSO Negative Sentiment Over-ride Leslie Vernick “Reacting versus Responding” Chapter 3 of Leslie Vernick “Reacting versus Responding” Chapter 3 of
How To Act Right When Your Spouse Acts WrongHow To Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong Emerson Eggerichs “The Crazy Cycle” Emerson Eggerichs “The Crazy Cycle” Love and RespectLove and Respect Richard Harley “The Love Bank” Richard Harley “The Love Bank” His Needs, Her NeedsHis Needs, Her Needs Gary Chapman Chapter 3 “Falling In Love” “The in-love Gary Chapman Chapter 3 “Falling In Love” “The in-love
experience does not focus on our own growth nor on the experience does not focus on our own growth nor on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived.” gives us the sense that we have arrived.” The Five Love The Five Love LanguagesLanguages
THE PATHOLOGY PROBLEMTHE PATHOLOGY PROBLEM
DepressionDepression AnxietyAnxiety PerfectionismPerfectionism AngerAnger PTSDPTSD Low Self-EsteemLow Self-Esteem Personality DisorderPersonality Disorder AddictionAddiction MedicalMedical
Diakonos Diakonos CounselingCounseling
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