Developing Personal and Social

Competence

Christian education enables us to be

Found

MY DEFINING

SPACE

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Lex Pete

PeaceSam

HOW do we help our children grow emotionally?

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Sam

Each of them faces a challenge....

Sam’s challenge is to trust herself and others.

She can only do this if she understands that her

SPACE is valid.

Her risk is TRUSTING other people.

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Sam

This affects the FOOTPRINT Sam leaves on others and others leave on Sam

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Each of them faces a challenge....

Peace’s challenge is to trust herself.

She can only do this if he understands that her

SPACE is valid.

Her risk is TRUSTING her own opinions.

Peace

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This affects the FOOTPRINT Peace leaves on others and others leave on Peace

Peace

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Each of them faces a challenge....

Lex’s challenge is to trust other people.

He can only do this if he relinquishes control.

His risk is discovering that he is VALID regardless of

what he achieves.

MY DEFINING

SPACE

Lex

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This affects the FOOTPRINT Lex leaves on others and others leave on Lex

MY DEFINING

SPACE

Lex

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Each of them faces a challenge....

Pete’s challenge is to trust himself (and others) a

little less.

He can only do this if he realises that he cannot cope with everything.

His risk is to LEARN this... Probably the hard way.

Pete

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This affects the FOOTPRINT Pete leaves on others and others leave on Pete

Pete

So the children’s SOCIAL competence (their FOOTPRINT) is informed by their EMOTIONAL competence (their SPACE)

And their EMOTIONAL COMPETENCE (their SPACE) is formed by their experience of care

And TRANSFORMED by their experience of GOD’s LOVE

MY DEFINING

SPACE

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Lex Pete

PeaceSam

Each child needs to experience God’s love in a different way. There is no single way.

MY DEFINING

SPACE

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Lex Pete

PeaceSam

How do we enable our Sams, Peaces, Lexs and Petes to experience God’s love?

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Sam

...Needs to be trusted and discover that other’s can

be too...

Practical examples...

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.... Needs to be accepted, not rejected, and learn to

value herself appropriately.

Peace

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.... Needs to learn to allow others to give to

him, to fail and to receive love.

MY DEFINING

SPACE

Lex

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.... Needs to learn to be realistic about himself, to accept struggle, challenge

and difficulty with out being able to solve

everythingPete

MY DEFINING

SPACE

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Lex Pete

PeaceSam

God’s love is Gods.... It comes through our HANDS

What have we learned?

• Christian education is NOT at odds with social, emotional formation

• We enable people to grow personally, emotionally and socially within God’s love

• Each child needs to experience a different outworking of that love

• The arenas for this will be the classrooms, playgrounds and sports pitches of our schools

Christian education enables us to be

Found

St Irenaeus