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Delete this slide before using this presentation! • Please remember to tell the audience you will be talking about incidents that have happened and giving examples where you may be referring to the female as the victim and the male as the abuser. This does not mean Someplace Safe believes all victims are females and all abusers are males, it is just an example that is being used. Some examples may also refer to males as the victim and females as the abuser. This does not mean Someplace Safe believes all victims are males and all abusers female. Someplace Safe provides services to all victims of crime. • Please remember to delete this slide before printing handouts. • Please begin this PowerPoint on slide 2. www.someplacesafe. info
Delete this slide before using this presentation! Please remember to tell the audience you will be talking about incidents that have happened and giving
Delete this slide before using this presentation! Please
remember to tell the audience you will be talking about incidents
that have happened and giving examples where you may be referring
to the female as the victim and the male as the abuser. This does
not mean Someplace Safe believes all victims are females and all
abusers are males, it is just an example that is being used. Some
examples may also refer to males as the victim and females as the
abuser. This does not mean Someplace Safe believes all victims are
males and all abusers female. Someplace Safe provides services to
all victims of crime. Please remember to delete this slide before
printing handouts. Please begin this PowerPoint on slide 2.
www.someplacesafe.info
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Healthy Relationships Diane Kittelson, Director of Training
& Education Friday, April 18, 2014 www.someplacesafe.info
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Our Mission To Create a Safer World for Everyone, We Work to
Eliminate Violence and Oppression through Advocacy, Education and
Services Our Vision Someplace Safe for Everyone
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Safety Someplace Safe provides emergency services and support
for victims of violence, and their families. We collaborate with
systems professionals to create safe, healthy communities. Options
Someplace Safe offers information and resources to individuals
utilizing our services. We create opportunities for volunteers,
donors and supporters to get involved. Hope Someplace Safe empowers
survivors to live a violence free life. We inspire social change
through advocacy, education and awareness. Your support makes this
all possible! www.someplacesafe.info
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Agency History Originally opened as Region IV Council on
Domestic Violence, an emergency Shelter for victims of domestic
violence in 1979 (located in Fergus Falls) Beginning in 1990, began
to open Advocacy offices to provide crime victim services locally.
Advocacy Offices are now open in Big Stone, Douglas, Grant, Otter
Tail (2 locations), Pope, Stevens, Traverse, Wadena and Wilkin
Counties Beginning in 1993, we began to open Parenting Time Centers
to assist children and families. PTCs are located in Fergus Falls,
Glenwood, Morris, Ortonville, and Perham In 2003, we changed our
name to Someplace Safe to better reflect our expanding programming
and services. June 2010, opened the Someplace Safe Thrift Store in
Alexandria. In August 2013 added another location in Morris.
September 2012 ceased operation of the Someplace Safe Shelter and
implemented the S.T.E.P.S. program. www.someplacesafe.info
Who Someplace Safe Serves Victims of crime Including victims
and survivors of domestic violence, sexual violence, and other
crimes Families General Public/Communities Systems Professionals
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Someplace Safe Programs Advocacy Programs Domestic Violence
Sexual Assault General Crimes Short Term Emergency Placement
Services (S.T.E.P.S.) Parenting Time Centers Thrift Stores
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24-Hour Crisis Line For help at any time, call a 24-Hour
hotline: Someplace Safe Crisis Line: 1-800-974-3359 Minnesota
Domestic Violence Crisis Line: 1-866-223-1111 National Domestic
Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) TTY: 1-800-787-3224 If you
are in immediate danger, call 911. www.someplacesafe.info
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Annual Agency Numbers 4,500 Individuals receive services.
Approximately 1,000 Nights of Safety are provided to crime victims
annually. Over 12,000 people benefit from Community Education
annually. www.someplacesafe.info
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Annual Agency Numbers Parenting Time Centers provide services
to over 500 children annually through more than 1,100 exchanges and
900 supervised visits! www.someplacesafe.info
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Annual Agency Numbers Our Thrift Stores provide in excess of
200 vouchers annually to help Someplace Safe clients and other
community organizations! Over 600 volunteers donate at least 10,000
hours of service agency-wide each year Nearly $245,000 worth of
time!
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2013 Otter Tail Total 1,908 701 Domestic Violence 291 Sexual
Assault 916 General Crimes www.someplacesafe.info
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2013 Douglas Total 1,005 569 Domestic Violence 87 Sexual
Assault 349 General Crimes www.someplacesafe.info
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2013 Grant Total - 71 56 Domestic Violence 10 Sexual Assault 5
General Crimes www.someplacesafe.info
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2013 Pope Total - 179 141 Domestic Violence 17 Sexual Assault
21 General Crimes www.someplacesafe.info
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2013 Stevens Total - 116 87 Domestic Violence 15 Sexual Assault
14 General Crimes www.someplacesafe.info
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2013 Traverse Total - 62 44 Domestic Violence 4 Sexual Assault
14 General Crimes www.someplacesafe.info
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2013 Wadena Total - 147 69 Domestic Violence 11 Sexual Assault
67 General Crimes www.someplacesafe.info
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2013 Wilkin Total - 162 110 Domestic Violence 13 Sexual Assault
39 General Crimes www.someplacesafe.info
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2013 Big Stone Total 89 Domestic Violence
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Equality Wheel www.someplacesafe.info
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Open Communication Being able to express your feelings and
opinions Knowing it is okay to disagree Working together for
mutually satisfying solutions: Clarifying issues Specifying
feelings Take responsibility for hurtful actions or words Make
needed changes www.someplacesafe.info
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Honesty & Accountability Accepting responsibility to self.
Acknowledging past use of violence. Admitting when you are wrong.
Communicating openly and honestly. Not making excuses for your own
or your partners actions. www.someplacesafe.info
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Economic Partnership Making money decisions together Making
sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements Sharing
dating expenses Accepting both partners need to hold a job
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Respect Each person is valued for who they are and what they
bring to a relationship Treat the other person as if he/she is of
value Find ways to appreciate them for who they are Pay attention
to your partner Accept and respect differences in thoughts,
feelings, values etc. Listening non-judgmentally Being emotionally
affirming and understanding www.someplacesafe.info
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Negotiation & Fairness Seeking mutually satisfying
resolutions to conflict Finding solutions that are agreeable to
both people Acknowledging your wants and needs are just as valid as
your partners You dont have to agree to order to respect your
partner Understanding differences in opinion
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Shared Responsibility Making decisions together Splitting or
alternating costs on dates Being mindful of the others needs as
well as your own Doing things for each other Going places you both
enjoy Giving as much as you receive www.someplacesafe.info
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Shared Power Each person has an equal say in the relationship
One person may have more input in a specific area due to more
information or experience in the area Each is mindful of the others
needs and wants Each partner views themselves as a part of a couple
Brings each person more happiness Allows each partner to be
stronger www.someplacesafe.info
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Trust & Support Being supportive and wanting the best for
your partner Being able to rely on your partner Offering
encouragement when necessary Being okay with your partner having
different friends www.someplacesafe.info
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Trust & Support continued Being able to let barriers down
without fear of negative reactions from the other Each is able to
be open to what the other person is feeling The couple feels secure
sharing private aspects of each others thoughts & feelings
since couple feels secure there is no jealousy or possessiveness
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Non-Threatening Behavior Talking and acting so that each person
feels safe & comfortable expressing her/himself and doing
things www.someplacesafe.info
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Personal Integrity Partners are able to maintain beliefs and
sense of self as well as offer time & attention to the
relationship Partners have some independence & privacy and care
about each others quality of life. Working on a relationship always
begins with working on ourselves www.someplacesafe.info
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Intimacy Respecting your partners boundaries Not pressuring
your partner Respecting each others privacy Being faithful
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Physical Affection Holding hands Hugging Kissing Sitting with
your arm on your partners shoulder Respecting each others right to
say no www.someplacesafe.info
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6 Tips for Setting Your Personal and Professional Boundaries
1.Describe the problem and be specific 2.Be positive and avoid
put-downs 3.Identify and express your limits 4.Relate the
consequences of the violation 5.Get the other partys input. Listen
6.Set the limit and follow through www.someplacesafe.info
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Advocacy Offices Located in local communities providing
services to victims of crime Services Include: Medical Advocacy
Criminal Justice Advocacy Civil Legal Advocacy Information and
Referral Safety Planning www.someplacesafe.info
Parenting Time Centers Supervised Parenting Time Safe Exchanges
Contact Exchanges Skype Visits Scheduling Supervised Phone Calls
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Parenting Time Centers Fergus Falls Glenwood Morris Ortonville
Perham www.someplacesafe.info
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Thrift Stores Mission We exist as Viable Cornerstones to Raise
Funds and Awareness for Someplace Safe services, Engage
Communities, Recycle usable goods, and Provide Employment and
Volunteer Opportunities Vouchers Donations Partnerships Alexandria
Morris www.someplacesafe.info
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Someplace Safe Volunteers Large Group Volunteering Special
Event Volunteers Ongoing & Long-Term Volunteers Crisis Line
Volunteers Volunteer Advocates or Parenting Time Center Staff
Monthly Volunteer Orientations: Alexandria Fergus Falls Morris For
more information or to register for a volunteer orientation go to:
www.someplacesafe.info/volunteers www.someplacesafe.info
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Victim & Donation Needs Personal Care Items
Shampoo/Conditioner Diapers Paper Products Household Items Items in
good condition to set up a new household Furniture Douglas, Pope,
or Otter Tail Counties Gift Cards Gas, Phone, Etc.
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