Deconstruction

Ephesians 5:22; Genesis 3:6-7; 16-21

It Shouldn’t Be This Hard

• Why shouldn’t marriage be hard and have its share of difficulties?

• Marriage is perhaps the hardest thing we do in the context of human relationships

• When we understand Scripture, we should know that marriage will take effort to work—effort for a lifetime

It Shouldn’t Be This Hard

• YOU MARRIED A SINNER—even if redeemed we are far from perfect in practice (Gen. 3:16)

• YOU MARRIED A PERSON WITH BAGGAGE

• YOU MARRIED SOMEONE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX—we are different

I Think I Married the WrongPerson

• There are some really wrong people to marry—like a psychopath

• In a real sense, in normal practice, WE NEVER MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON (S. Hauerwas)

• We must learn to LOVE AND CARE FOR THE STRANGER

I Think I Married the WrongPerson

• Remember Heisenberg!

• We must RECEIVE the person God has given us daily in faith—as they are

• We must persevere unless biblical grounds allow us to do otherwise—

Three Important Tips

• Stop comparing—your marriage is your marriage. While we can learn some things from examples, every situation is unique

• Commit to living within a biblical framework (follow the Word and trust)

• Persevere—better days can come!