Dealing with frustrationNora Femenia, Ph.D

There are plenty of sources offrustration in our lives!

1st Step: Detach

• Take nothing personally. If you get frustratedbecause someone let you down, or a loved onedid something aggressive to you, calm down. Youshould detach from anything people do, even as itlooks like they directed that phrase as a directaffront to you.

• People have their reasons for the way they act;their behavior has nothing to do with you andeverything to do with their emotional mind-set atthe time you crossed their paths.

2nd Step: Take perspective

• Accept life as it is. In the game of life there arenot guarantees, and you could be dealt a badhand from time to time.

• Identify previous difficult moments in yourlife, and remember what you did then to getout.

• Now, you know what you can do to changeyour current state of affairs.

3rd Step: Play the game of life!

• Recognize that you can be the frustratingentity for someone else…

• We are learning in life by our interactions, andhere the lesson is: don’t get wrapped up infrustration: Ask yourself

• “What do I have to learn here”?

4th Step: Your Lesson

• Now you are happier because you havetransformed frustration into learning…

• It’s good to be wiser, because you will not yield tothe feelings of frustration again…

• So keep breathing deeply, and enjoy your newlesson!

• If you would like direct support and techniquesfor dealing with frustration, ask now for yourcomplimentary coaching session at:http://conflictcoach.me/services

Get to Know Coach Nora!

Nora Femenia is a conflict coach, the author of several books that will support youin your search for personal growth and joyful, nurturing relationships... so you canfinally feel happy and secure. Do you want to develop self-confidence and trust inyourself fast? CoachNora reveals the secrets of developing a secure attitude in life,through her phone/email coaching sessions.

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