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by Dawn Barclay http://www.dawnbarclay.com Dare to Be You

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Dare to Be You

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Dare:

An act of daring, to have courage, a challenge

What you‟re about to read may rattle you up a little.

You may get annoyed as you become aware of all the little things you

wish you had dared to yourself to do. Let it go. The past is done.

You may get irritated at me for pointing them out (that‟s okay, feel free, I‟ll

understand, get annoyed with me, not yourself. Be gentle.)

It calls for action, it will annoy the bitter know it all‟s and amuse the

doubting one‟s. It will rub some of you up the wrong way; it will just go

over the heads of many.

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How to Read This Little Book

Let it wash over you. Read it quickly. What you need to see, you will see.

It‟s not a heavy read. It‟s not going to magically transform your life

overnight. You‟ll (probably) still be in the same bed in the morning, and

your children (if you have any) will still be trying your patience. The dog will

still need fed and the cat will still be ignoring you.

Observe your thoughts. You may be urged to bring the future closer.

There are little quotes all the way through, and I‟ve popped in a few

questions. If you notice anything underlined, it‟s a link back to the website

for a post or article.

If something here brings up a little resistance fantastic, that‟s what you

want. What we resist persist.

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There is no scientific answer for

success. You can't define it.

You've simply got to live it and do it.

Anita Roderick

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And So We Begin …

The people I meet are ready, they generally have deep desires and have

got to the point where „enough is enough‟ and they are prepared to

strike at life: to do whatever it takes to push past imaginary boundaries

and limitations.

Ordinary peeps like you and me.

They have gifts; they have dreams and goals, when I read their words I

know they have the power to create something marvellous.

So, let me say this. I utterly believe that you, me, everyone has the power

to recreate and redesign our life.

That if we choose to, we can at any moment begin the process of

change on our terms.

Regardless of your past.

Deep down within them and perhaps you there is a spark and they refuse

to sit idle, and are ready to create little mini-revolutions.

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Yet, they arrive here with a fear (or a number of them). Here‟s the thing, if

you want to create your life on your terms, you‟ll need to have to have

courage, and faith, spirit and stamina to dig deep, get to know who you

really are and be 100% willing to do whatever it takes.

It doesn‟t matter who you are, where you are, if your past was good or

bad. It doesn‟t matter your her-story or his-story, your life success and

quality is created with what you did do, not by what you could’ve done.

Success.

Look, I have no idea what it means to you. But it will mean something. For

the majority of people who pass this way, they want to be happy, to

flourish, to not be miserable or work jobs that are killing their soul.

To choose love over fear.

I want you to dare yourself to start your crusade.

For you to stop pissing about and blaming, excusing, worrying, fearing,

holding back and ignoring your true passions, desires and purpose.

I want you to dare yourself to live an awesome, remarkable life.

To lay aside all the crap from the past, to question the systems, to ask

„why‟ more often, to answer ‘is this true for me’, to accept that you are

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here for just a brief moment, a blink of an eye, for you to create good, to

know that you are supported by that thing called Source (call it what you

like, that‟s what I call it.)

To dare yourself to accept that you have everything you need right now

for where you want to go next.

That there is an abundant supply of the most amazing resources,

connections, tools and people that if you finally admit to yourself, ‘this is

who I am’ that you will start to recognize and see them.

I dare you to not be a sheeple.

To never accept other folks versions of who you are.

Nobody knows you better than you.

.

Your biggest dare isn‟t out there, it‟s inside you.

To stop listening to them who say „this is success, this is the truth, this is what

you must think, believe and how to act.‟

They aren‟t you. The whole world is dictated by a select few; you may find

that all your limits and boundaries come down to believing another‟s

message more than your own.

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Wake up, really wake up, stop buying into dogma, to systems, rules,

regulations, ideas and theories.

Declare to yourself the legacy you want to leave behind, and start to

create it.

You are a worthy, capable, important, living breathing soul: you are. We

all are.

The ones who want to „rule‟ and tell us how to live are running scared .

People all over the world are waking up and asking different questions;

they no longer are bowing down to the mini-dictators.

You are here, now, make your journey count.

Make it count.

Make that difference.

Make that deep longing and desire in you come alive.

People are waiting on you.

Where others try and separate their lives into little boxes, I say don‟t.

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It‟s all connected: all one big system.

As soon as you start to live on your terms, and share it with others,

everything changes.

Share, connect, give, be the person who is prepared to shine light so

others can find their way, but let them walk their own path.

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Every journey begins with a single step

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I Dare You to Step

Do you actually want to be an adventurer?

Helen Keller stated that “Life is either a daring adventure or nothing”.

What‟s your definition of adventure?

When I speak about adventure, I‟m not talking about travelling or a string

of risky outdoor pursuits, or walking on fire.

Of course, if that‟s how you seek adventure, great, nothing wrong with

that. I‟m talking about „the adventure of life‟.

Become the explorer and pioneer of your own life.

Do you want to Captain your own ship? Do you want to pilot and sit in the

driving seat of your life. Most people reply yes, but they aren‟t willing to

take off or set sail.

What about you?

Are you willing to step forward?

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It may seem strange asking you that but some people think they do, but

they are uncertain, they hover back and forth never making up their mind.

Before they know it, they are asking regret questions and are filled with

fear.

So many people say they „want to change their lives‟ but how many do?

How many are committed to doing whatever it takes to make it happen?

Is change hard? The way I see it, it (change) happening already, whether

we like it or not.

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If only – the saddest two words in the

world.

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By this time next month, you will have shed and regrown your entire outer

layer of skin cells, in the time it has taken to read this last paragraph three

hundred million cells will have died in your body (don‟t panic, you have

trillions of them!) By this time tomorrow you will have produced up to 300

billion new cells anyway.

Change is the only constant, before you start on the great adventure, let's

be dead sure you want to take it.

If you aren‟t really interested, there is no way you are going to fully

participate. If your heart isn‟t 100% committed there will be nothing or

anything that will get you moving.

Do you dare yourself to live the best life for you?

Do you dare yourself to live in your way?

This is not aggression or at the exclusion of others, it‟s not a two finger

salute to the rest of the world. It‟s exactly the opposite.

It‟s about daring yourself to no longer accept fear being the ruler of your

life. All fear isn‟t bad, courage and bravery are not the absence of fear,

it‟s about conquering it.

Are you able to not let your fear become the driver of your life?

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Do you dare yourself to grab opportunities that come your way? To stop

ignoring the adventure and to quit waiting on things to happen or to

come to you?

Do you have the courage? If not, are you prepared to build it?

If you‟re thinking I‟m asking something too big of you because your

„problems‟ are different, worse or more complex than anyone else‟s. I

have to turn it back on you. You more than anyone need to take a stand.

If that pisses you off, stop reading, you aren‟t ready for this.

I can’t make you believe anything you don’t want to believe, and to tell

you the truth, I don’t want you to believe me.

All I’m asking you to do is be utterly truthful with your own self: to stop

being your problems and to dare you to think, act and be bigger, bolder,

and stronger.

Before you read anymore, at least get real and truthful with yourself.

What is your life like?

How do you feel about you?

Have you reached your full potential?

Where is a different life waiting for you?

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Have you become all that you are

capable of becoming?

Have you created all that you are

capable of creating in your life?

Have you decided that enough is

enough?

Which way are you going to go?

Is today your someday?

Is this moment the one where you

finally decide „I‟, here, I‟m in, I‟m

playing‟?

Is this now the now that you finally put a

stop to not living life on your terms.

Has your dare finally come?

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Why Dare To Be You?

I was 10 years old and it was summer, I was standing on the top of chute

in our local playground.

Not at the top of the slide, on the top of the chute. Don‟t ask me why, I

was only 10! We had to climb outside the „safety‟ bars and pull ourselves

up.

Long before the days that Health and Safety dictated what height a

chute was safe, this beast was huge: 40ft? 30ft? 100ft! Okay, to a 10 year

old, it was big.

With me was my BFF in the entire world. Well, my best friend in the universe

that week, friendships are fickle at that age.

She and I never usually hung out, but it was the summer holidays so BFF‟s

were pretty hard to come by, most were away to Majorca or being

dragged camping around Scotland by their parents.

As we both looked down to the ground from the top of the chute, she

said, ‘I bet you couldn’t jump from here to the ground. I could.’

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I so wanted to keep her as a best friend, so I replied ‘Yeah, I could, I’m just

like you’.

‘Go on then’ she replied, ‘I dare you.’

I didn‟t.

She then said, „See, told you couldn’t, it’s too high.‟ Then she laughed at

me.

I leapt.

No rejoicing please, it really really hurt.

Stupid act.

The pain was excruciating. My legs blackened before my eyes. There was

so much blood and it took me a while to realise the screams were coming

out my mouth.

Being a kid, I needed my Mum. So I scrambled home. With my BFF away

to see if someone else would play with her.

Expecting sympathy and a bit of TLC, my Mum did what Mum‟s do best in

emergency situations when their kids do stupid things.

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She shouted, a lot, and screamed.

“How could you be so bloody stupid! If so and so, jumped off a cliff would

you follow them? You need to stand up for yourself, say no, and mean it.

Are you thick? Are you?”

Whilst at the same time dressing the wounds, and applying stingy gunk to

my legs. Parents are a funny breed: loving and a riot act at the same

time.

I did what wounded kids (physical and pride) do best and continued to

wail and do the „sobbing through gasping breath‟ action.

That was the day I learnt about dares.

What about you?

Were you ever dared as a child?

To not accept the challenge the consequences were so much worse,

huh?

To lose face with our peers, to be called scaredy-cats, chickens, we just

didn‟t have enough self-awareness or experience yet to say, ‘Screw that!

Do it yourself if you really want!‟

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We aren‟t in the playground anymore; nobody is daring or double daring

us.

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What are you afraid to try because

you don‟t think you can do it?

Where is the proof? Is it accurate?

Who did you listen to in the past?

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I hope that when you read this, you‟ll accept that I‟m not daring you in

the same way my 1980‟s BFF dared me, what I did was verging on a

death wish.

At 10 years I didn‟t have the maturity to realise I was letting someone else

dictate to me what I was capable of.

To be told that I couldn’t do something made me determined I would.

I’d love you to dare yourself. Maybe the word dare doesn‟t do it for you

as much as it does for me.

Choose a word that does, and all this will make sense to you. See, as an

adult, it‟s down to you, and you alone, to make things happen.

I know you know that. That needs no lecture or condescending speech.

You know that you‟re life is a result of your actions, and if the results at

present aren‟t what you want, you know you‟re the only one with the

power to change that.

You also know that in order to make life changes you are the only one

who can stop pussyfooting around with reasons and excuses, or blame,

misplaced anger, perfectionism, or finding something else to distract you

from not doing what you know needs to happen next.

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You know it‟s all down to you. All of it.

You‟re not stupid.

But then if we all know that, why they hell aren‟t we doing it?

Why aren‟t we living a life with no fear?

Why aren‟t we all just „being ourselves?‟

Living a life that is true and authentic to us, where we don‟t have to prove

ourselves to anyone?

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What are the hardest lessons you

had to learn?

Is there a common theme or „set of

problems‟ that keep arising for you?

How committed are you, on a scale

of 1-10, 10 being „Utterly Determined‟

to do something about the areas of

your life you aren‟t happy with?

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Dare to Be You.

It‟s ballsy.

It instantly triggers a sit up reaction, we humans hate being dared and

hey, if it gets attention to motivate us into action, that‟s only a good thing.

Only if we are the ones doing the daring!

I don‟t know you (yet). But I do know my website. I know what it‟s about. I

know the types of phrases you may have typed in to Google to be

returned my page.

You‟re on a journey there huh?

Either finding the you that you think is lost, or turning away from the life

you have created.

A journey of recovery.

Or…

A journey of discovery.

One of them. Or both.

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Right now, that‟s all I know.

When you dare yourself to be really who you are, there will be others who

mock, belittle, judge and criticize you.

Can you hack that?

Life is tough enough without having to others.

And you know what?

Here‟s my biggest dare for you.

Say „Fuck It‟ every now and do it anyway.

Daring yourself to do what scares the hell out you will teach you much

more than I, or anyone else could.

Oh, I dare you not to be easily offended by swear words!

For me the worst words in the world are „can‟t‟, „should‟, „must‟, „ought

to‟, „impossible‟.

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If your current „problems‟ were

sorted what resources would you

have used to help? Do you believe

you have these resources now?

How do you feel about „change‟?

What have been your biggest

challenges in recent years? What

resources did you use to overcome

them?

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I dare you stop play the

waiting game.

Does it feel like you are always in „training‟ to lead a life which is

meaningful, powerful, authentic, and on your terms?

A life that is genuine, positive, with real confidence and self-esteem?

I dare you never to feel guilty about releasing who you really are upon the

world.

I dare you to come out of permanent education mode.

I dare you to do what you need to do.

I dare you to ask questions.

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I dare you to step into your personal power (not power over) it‟s there

ready and waiting for you.

I dare you to take a step forward and start.

I dare you to draw the line and set your own boundaries.

I dare you to thrive not merely survive.

I dare you to be the person you know you can be, not what others think

you are.

I dare you to learn that your happiness is within your control, not external

events.

I dare you to answer ‘what is it I truly need?’

I dare you to open your heart to hearing answers you may have dismissed

in the past.

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Have you started to think

that you’re never going to

make the grade?

Who taught you that?

What grade? Who‟s grade?

Oh, nothing could be further from the truth.

You‟ve made the grade. You have no exam to sit, not when comes to

your life.

I dare you not to buy into the „messages‟ that there is

„something wrong with you‟.

I dare you to see yourself as ready.

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I dare you to see yourself already passed the test.

I dare you not to see yourself as broken or needing fixed.

Take part. There is no audition period.

This life, the one going around you now, is the life you created. I dare you

to really accept that.

I dare you to accept that you can change any part of your life.

I dare you to stop blame.

There is only one person who can measure the quality of your life.

You.

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Where have you given up control over

your life to others?

Where in life do you compare yourself

to others? Why? What are the benefits?

If you have areas of your life you would

like to change but don‟t know how, if

you did know, where would you start?

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You are the only person who truly knows.

I believe you are smart. Really smart.

I dare you to accept that you have all the resources you need to take

you to where you want to go.

I dare you to answer ‘what will I need when I get there?’ And find it.

I believe that you already know what you need to do in order to change.

I believe that you know what has to go and what has to stay. I believe

you can measure your own happiness, satisfaction and emotional and

physical wellbeing based on how you feel.

Am I right?

But…

I also know that you may think you don‟t.

You do.

I dare you to see that we are all in recovery for something.

I dare you not to compare yourself to others.

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I dare you to trust yourself.

I dare you to listen.

That deep down, when you truly listen to yourself, in the moments when

you aren‟t in „fear‟ that you can hear the „real‟ you, speak.

Hear what others have to say, but in the end only listen to you.

I dare you to wake up, to lift your head, open your eyes and really see.

To question the „rules‟ and have the courage to write your own: no matter

the opinion of others or the belittling of naysayers.

People talk about „follow your dreams‟, hey sleepy, time to wake up and

bring them into reality.

I dare you to stop procrastinating.

I dare you to focus on what you want to achieve.

I dare you to explore what your core values are.

I dare you to use your brain.

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Some of its hard drive was already installed before your birth; most of it

was programmed by others.

You have complete control over what stays, what‟s changed, what goes

and what is entered.

I dare you to stop being a perfectionist. It‟ll prevent you from taking

action. Refine as you go. But get things done.

I dare you to push past fears and resistance.

I dare you to live with your weaknesses and your strengths.

Where you are weak, others are strong. Where you are strong, others a

weak. Find each other.

I dare you to really connect, to bond, to build meaningful relationships.

I dare you to stop hiding behind your reasons and excuses.

I dare you to try, rather than not try at all.

I dare you to stop defining yourself by labels.

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I dare you choose your state of mind, and accept that you can in a

moment: change how you feel (good or bad) about a situation,

experience or event.

I dare to feel every emotion.

I dare you to realise that you are never going to be perfect in the eyes of

another human being.

I dare you to not please others because you can‟t please yourself.

I dare you to say „I‟m strong, I‟m powerful, I‟m magnificent‟.

And if you‟re having the worst day ever, that‟s okay, miserable days,

weeks, months, years don‟t define you.

I dare you to be okay with your mistakes.

I dare you to say „I‟m only human‟.

I dare you to say sorry when needed

I dare you to be thankful.

I dare you to live authentically.

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I dare you to be creative.

I dare you to show gratitude

I dare you not be jealous of others.

I dare you to see the potential within you. I double dare you to stop

ignoring it.

I dare you to leap up the ladder every now and then rather than step up

one rung at a time.

I dare you to make full use of everything that is available to you and

realise that it‟s no one‟s fault but your own if you don‟t take it.

I dare you to waken up and view the beauty around you: be thankful and

grateful for what you have already created (even if you don‟t want it

there no more).

I dare you to forgive.

I dare you to add value to another‟s life first. As soon as you add value

then the whole world starts to open up.

I dare you to give it your best shot if you lost the race by one tenth of a

second the last time just run a tenth of second faster next time.

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I dare you not to follow the „norm‟, and stand out rather than fit in.

I dare you to stop leaving the decisions about your life to others.

I dare you to see the world around you: if you have already accepted

that there are no opportunities for you, you‟re right.

All the evidence is there. New evidence is waiting for discovery if you dare

to look at it, just start by asking.

I dare you to change your attitude: if you have given up on your dreams

and want them back, if you want success (whatever that means to you)

get really discontent with what is currently happening.

I dare you to realize it‟s no one else‟s fault if you have no ambition, drive

or enthusiasm.

I dare you to find something you can be ambitious and enthusiastic

about.

I dare you to stop being a victim.

I dare you to make the journey inside; it‟s one of the most challenging

journeys you will ever make.

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I dare you not to carry guilt from the past.

I dare you to actually work out what it is the hell you want. And to give

yourself what you need first.

I dare you to have courage in describing your wants and not be led by

the opinions of others. Success comes when you know what you want, a

direction, be willing to dare yourself and act with complete conviction

that it is going to be a successful regardless of the final outcome.

I dare you to make a decision; you can change it later if you have to.

When you have made a decision your imagination will kick in and direct

you to what you need to know, learn, and open your eyes to. Fall back

asleep and you will miss them.

I dare you to stand up and stand tall, no one has ever achieved anything

by sitting on their ass.

I dare you to pursue until you breakthrough. Change will come anyway; it

comes faster when you are open. If you feel that you‟re making a

complete hash of a decision, it‟s no-one else‟s fault, stop complaining

and only make the judgment when you have enough evidence. 1 – 100

„failed‟ attempts is not enough evidence.

I dare you to accept that you will fail, lots.

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I dare you to get stronger convictions and faith in what you want.

Don‟t be shocked; jealous or upset when someone overtakes you

because they had stronger convictions in their decision.

I dare you to START!

If you want to be a writer, then write every day!

If you want to be a doctor, then get studying!

If you want to be a singer, sing!

If you want to be a fantastic parent, then be a fantastic parent!

If you want to speak publicly, speak publicly!

If you want to feel good about yourself, be good to you!

If you want to be a loving partner, be loving.

If you want to teach others, teach.

If you want to give back, give.

This is not hard.

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It‟s so easy.

Decide then act.

I dare you to act and BE now, what your heart desires.

I dare you to plan a little.

A lack of planning or faulty planning leads to most of life‟s failures.

A plan is steps not a stair landing.

You would plan a 2 week holiday, but not a 80+ life, come on, I dare you

to get real with yourself! You can‟t plan without a decision being made.

I dare you to make decisions, your decisions.

I dare you just BE who you want to become now.

I dare you to hold yourself accountable.

I dare you to have faith.

If you say, „I‟ll let the future take care of itself‟, fine. But what you think

today will determine the you in the future.

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Of course, you don‟t know what might happen…at least you know what

can be happening now.

Plan for the worst, expect the best.

I dare you to see all progress, even the small steps as success.

I dare you not to make your life a list of chores.

I dare you to declare yourself a genius.

What‟s a genius anyway? How do you know you aren‟t one? You are

genius in your own life, how can you not be? You‟ve created it.

Special accomplishments do not have to make newspaper headlines.

Genius events happen every day: the smile from a stranger, the „you‟re

welcomes‟ and „thank you‟‟.

Genius does not mean, famous, crowned and expert.

People who place value on being a genius have labelled geniuses

genius.

I dare you to use your mind…that is genius.

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I dare you to be gentle with yourself and everything around you… genius

I dare you to give back… genius

I dare you to say I love you… genius

I dare you to comfort others… genius

I dare you to be empathetic… genius

I dare you to be honest… genius

I dare you to be there… genius

I dare you to show up when you need to show up… genius

I dare you to be persistent… genius

I dare you to be effective… genius

I dare you to motivate and encourage others… genius

I dare you to see that we all have a connection… genius

I dare you stop any blame… genius

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I dare you to get help… genius

I dare you to ask for help if needed… genius

I dare you to stop laying your emotional crap on another human being…

genius

I dare you to accept that how you feel about events is probably not the

same way as others feel and see past events, even those that have made

you feel hurt.

I dare you to forgive yourself for laying blame, no, you don‟t have to

excuse their behaviour but stop using them as an excuse for your

behaviour now.

I dare you to stop letting people hold you hostage to your emotions.

I dare you to be curious by being present in the world around you.

I dare you to ask yourself „If I were to do this a different way, what would

be the outcomes‟

I dare you to look at your life as a rubbish tip! Going through it, ditching all

the crap that you want to get rid of.

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I dare you to find someone who can help you throw out the garbage.

I dare you to daydream and think curious thoughts.

I double double dare you to give yourself the time to sit and think dreams

beyond your wildest imagination…giving your thoughts no tight

constrictions and „yeah, that is going to happen‟ comments.

Who cares? These are dreams…no one can have an opinion on your

dreams.

I dare you to have a playtime in your head.

I dare you not to criticise what could be your best ever decision in the

making.

And I double dare you never to criticise others dreams.

I dare you to never punish yourself or others.

I dare you to develop understanding and compassion.

I dare you to bring your daydreams alive, only the best ideas are the ones

that we take action on. The world is full of great ideas that are kept inside

people‟s head – too frightened to let them out.

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I dare you to change „I don‟t believe it will work‟ to „I‟ll try and see‟ Leader

or follower – which are you?

You don‟t have to lead people to be a leader.

„Somewhere, sometime‟ is not the mindset of someone who gets things

done.

I dare you to try and understand problems for what they are…solvable

thoughts!

Solve the immediate problem first…to try and do them all at once will

burst your brain.

Get specific, what exactly is the problem.

Get the facts, who owns the problem?

Make a decision.

I dare you to accept the fact there is no problem in your life that you

cannot solve.

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Granted you may need to find the information from another source. In

that case, I dare you to go and find it.

I dare you to think positively,

I dare you to cut negative thinking of at the root. It hinders you.

Your life is a mirror image of your thoughts.

People have enthusiasm taken out of them by conforming to the norm.

Enthusiasm is more powerful than fear. In fact, enthusiasm defeats fear.

I dare you to stop associating with yourself with people who say you

„can‟t do that‟ or „that‟s impossible‟. (On the other hand, keep them but

don‟t tell them your plans)

If it is you saying these things, then I dare you to disassociate with these

thoughts, you‟re crushing another person.

I dare you to see you have created your rules.

I dare you to know you can push further 10x more than you think you can.

I dare you to be optimistic.

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I dare you to accept that at some point everyone feels inferior or lacking

confidence about something.

I dare you to accept that a feeling of inferiority and lack of confidence is

just a feeling.

I dare you to accept that all feelings change.

I dare you to acknowledge risks but not live in fear of them.

No one can make you feel anything…they can push hot buttons, yet how

you feel is entirely up to you. Stop and think about how you feel, before

you act. There is no shame in saying to yourself „how do I feel right now,

this second‟.

You‟ve heard the saying „no-one can make you feel inferior without your

consent‟. It‟s true. You choose how you react in every situation. You

choose. You give people consent or you don‟t.

I dare you to get to know yourself better.

I dare you to stop the pitying yourself. The „real‟ YOU doesn‟t like it.

I dare you to accept the fact the past is the past.

There is nothing you can do, say or be that will change that.

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I dare you to stop torturing yourself over events that have long gone. I

dare you to live in the present, having learnt from the past.

A life of regret is one that is wasted.

I dare you to care about you before you can care about anyone else.

You are thought, physical and feelings.

Your problems and worries are not unique; of course you think they

are…but the world is a big place, take courage in the fact that others are

not perfect.

I dare you not to talk about awful life is, unless you are in a place where

people want you to talk about how awful your life is.

YOUR awful is only awful to YOU.

I dare you to say „I can‟ rather than „I can‟t‟.

I dare you to have a little faith in you.

I dare you to think about the person you want to be.

I dare you to make decisions and act upon them.

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I dare you to accept that brilliance is what you make of it.

I dare you to get planned

I dare you to know you are worthy.

I dare you to feel.

I dare you to admit your mistakes and weaknesses.

I dare you to form strong relationships that keep you healthy.

I dare you not to follow the rules of those before you, unless you want to.

I dare you to have a „plan‟ for energy vampires and naysayers.

I dare you to stop seeing life as a disappointment.

I dare you to stand up and pay attention, open your eyes.

I dare you to witness your successes.

I dare you to give something back.

I dare you to show initiative and get things done.

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I dare you to be you. That‟s it.

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