CURRICULUM FOR FOURTH AND CURRICULUM FOR FOURTH AND FIFTH GRADE STUDENTSFIFTH GRADE STUDENTS

TAKE A STAND TAKE A STAND AGAINST BULLYINGAGAINST BULLYING

BULLY definitionBULLY definition

Webster’s Dictionary defines Webster’s Dictionary defines bullying as:bullying as:

• A person who hurts or frightens those A person who hurts or frightens those who are smaller and weaker.who are smaller and weaker.

BULLY definition:BULLY definition:

Bullying happens when:Bullying happens when:

• Someone hurtfully teases you. Someone hurtfully teases you. • Someone physically hurts you or says they are Someone physically hurts you or says they are

going to hurt you.going to hurt you.• Someone takes something that belongs to you Someone takes something that belongs to you

without your permission and won’t give it without your permission and won’t give it back. back.

• Someone leaves you out of activities on Someone leaves you out of activities on purpose. purpose.

• Someone bigger or stronger than you makes Someone bigger or stronger than you makes you do something that you don’t want to do.you do something that you don’t want to do.

BULLIES PICK ON BULLIES PICK ON DIFFERENCESDIFFERENCES

and differences are what make us and differences are what make us

unique!unique!

Bullying happens in 5 Bullying happens in 5 waysways

With spoken wordsWith spoken words

With unspoken wordsWith unspoken words

Physical bullyingPhysical bullying

Property damageProperty damage

Cyber-bullyingCyber-bullying

WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?

Spoken wordsSpoken words• ThreatsThreats• Group threatsGroup threats• TeasingTeasing• JokesJokes

Unspoken wordsUnspoken words• Ignoring / IsolationIgnoring / Isolation• GossipGossip

WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?

PHYSICAL PHYSICAL • Blocking someone’s pathBlocking someone’s path• Holding someone so they can’t moveHolding someone so they can’t move• PunchingPunching• PushingPushing• KickingKicking• FightingFighting

WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?

PROPERTYPROPERTY• Hiding belongingsHiding belongings• Taking something that does not belong Taking something that does not belong

to youto you• Saying you will hurt someone (with Saying you will hurt someone (with

physical harm or taking something) if a physical harm or taking something) if a person does not do what you askperson does not do what you ask

• Destroying someone’s belongings or Destroying someone’s belongings or propertyproperty

Cyber space and Cyber-Cyber space and Cyber-bullying…bullying…

How do your family or friends use How do your family or friends use the Internet?the Internet?

What is good about using the What is good about using the Internet?Internet?

What can be bad about it?What can be bad about it?

What is Cyber-bullying?What is Cyber-bullying?

Someone says something that makes you upset Someone says something that makes you upset or teases you in a hurtful way on the Internet or teases you in a hurtful way on the Internet

One child or a group of children talk about One child or a group of children talk about something that someone said on a computer something that someone said on a computer about you and it makes you feel bad.about you and it makes you feel bad.

Someone uses a computer to say something Someone uses a computer to say something that scares you like:that scares you like:

– They are going to try to find where you live or go to They are going to try to find where you live or go to schoolschool

– They are going to hurt you, your family or friendsThey are going to hurt you, your family or friends– They will take something that belongs to you or They will take something that belongs to you or

damage your propertydamage your property Someone from school is using the Internet to get Someone from school is using the Internet to get

other people to tease you or to not be your other people to tease you or to not be your friend.friend.

Someone takes a picture or movie of you with Someone takes a picture or movie of you with their phone without your permission.their phone without your permission.

Why is cyber-bullying bad?Why is cyber-bullying bad?

When you say mean things about When you say mean things about people, in-person or on the people, in-person or on the computer, it hurts.computer, it hurts.

You are being used by someone You are being used by someone else if you join in cyber-bullying.else if you join in cyber-bullying.

Cyber-bullies and their friends often Cyber-bullies and their friends often end up being bullied themselves.end up being bullied themselves.• Be nice to other people, do to them Be nice to other people, do to them

what you would want done to you.what you would want done to you.

Some cyber-space Some cyber-space questions…questions…

What is okay to say on the What is okay to say on the Internet?Internet?

What is not okay to say on the What is not okay to say on the Internet?Internet?

How would you feel if someone How would you feel if someone said something bad to you or said something bad to you or about you on the Internet?about you on the Internet?

What is okay to write on a What is okay to write on a computer?computer?

What are good manners when sending a What are good manners when sending a message in cyberspace?message in cyberspace? • Write only what you would say to someone Write only what you would say to someone

face-to-faceface-to-face• Do not use rude wordsDo not use rude words• Do not hurt others' feelingsDo not hurt others' feelings• Stay calm when you get a rude messageStay calm when you get a rude message• Be clear in your subject and message; check Be clear in your subject and message; check

your spelling; don't type in upper case letters; your spelling; don't type in upper case letters; – Maybe use smiley faces so people will understand Maybe use smiley faces so people will understand

you better.you better.

Cyber-Bullying examplesCyber-Bullying examples

You are playing a computer game and someone You are playing a computer game and someone comes on line and calls you a name, or writes comes on line and calls you a name, or writes something else that makes you feel bad. something else that makes you feel bad. • Log off the computer and get an adult for help.Log off the computer and get an adult for help.

You get a message on instant messaging that is You get a message on instant messaging that is mean toward or making fun of another student. mean toward or making fun of another student. • Close out the message and get a teacher or and adult Close out the message and get a teacher or and adult

for help.for help. Someone at school tells you to get on a web-Someone at school tells you to get on a web-

site, you log on and you see that it says a lot of site, you log on and you see that it says a lot of mean things about someone in your class. mean things about someone in your class. • Log off the web-site and get an adult for help.Log off the web-site and get an adult for help.

WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF BULLYING?BULLYING?

EMOTIONAL EMOTIONAL EFFECTS: EFFECTS: HOW DO HOW DO YOU FEEL?YOU FEEL?• left outleft out• afraid or upset and you afraid or upset and you

are not sure whyare not sure why• bad about yourselfbad about yourself• fear of coming to fear of coming to

schoolschool• sadsad• want to be alonewant to be alone• angryangry• want to get back at want to get back at

someonesomeone

PHYSICAL PHYSICAL EFFECTS: EFFECTS:

HOW DO YOU ACT?HOW DO YOU ACT?• stomach achesstomach aches• don’t want to eatdon’t want to eat• don’t want to playdon’t want to play• tiredtired• headachesheadaches• start doing bad in start doing bad in

schoolschool• hurting someone hurting someone

physicallyphysically

EFFECTS OF BULLYINGEFFECTS OF BULLYING

More than 160,000 students More than 160,000 students do not go to school each day do not go to school each day because they fear being because they fear being bullied.bullied.

- National Education Association, National Association of School - National Education Association, National Association of School PsychologistsPsychologists

What to do if you are bulliedWhat to do if you are bullied

Tell the bully how they are making Tell the bully how they are making you feel.you feel.

Look right at the bully and tell them Look right at the bully and tell them that they are bullying you. that they are bullying you. • Tell them firmly that you don’t like it and Tell them firmly that you don’t like it and

that they need to stop, then walk away.that they need to stop, then walk away. If they will not stop, tell a teacher or If they will not stop, tell a teacher or

an adult.an adult.

OK, SO HOW CAN I HELP OK, SO HOW CAN I HELP SOMEONE ELSE?SOMEONE ELSE?

BULLYING BULLYING STARTSSTARTS AND AND STOPSSTOPS WITH WITH YOU!!YOU!! If you see another student being hurt by a bully If you see another student being hurt by a bully

or bullies, tell someone.or bullies, tell someone.• Teachers, counselors, principals, adults and parents Teachers, counselors, principals, adults and parents

are all willing to listen and help.are all willing to listen and help. When you hear words that hurt, try to change When you hear words that hurt, try to change

the subject to something more positivethe subject to something more positive Say something nice to the person being bullied. Say something nice to the person being bullied.

Helping someone else feel good about Helping someone else feel good about themselves only makes you feel better!themselves only makes you feel better!

Include someone who is left out in what you are Include someone who is left out in what you are doingdoing

DO NOTDO NOT LAUGH OR join in. LAUGH OR join in.

Tattling versus TellingTattling versus Telling

It is important to know the difference It is important to know the difference between telling and tattling. Students do between telling and tattling. Students do not want to be known as “tattle-tales,” not want to be known as “tattle-tales,” but if what someone is doing hurts, but if what someone is doing hurts, scares, or puts another person in danger, scares, or puts another person in danger, an adult must be told right away. an adult must be told right away. • Telling is letting an adult know about Telling is letting an adult know about

something that may get someone else hurt.something that may get someone else hurt.• Tattling is telling on someone just to get them Tattling is telling on someone just to get them

into trouble into trouble

Telling or tattling?Telling or tattling? ““Bill is punching some smaller kids and making them cry.” Bill is punching some smaller kids and making them cry.” __________________________________________________ ““Taylor keeps taking my lunch money from me. Taylor keeps taking my lunch money from me. __________________________________________________ ““Kelsey forgot her sweat pants for gym class again.”Kelsey forgot her sweat pants for gym class again.” __________________________________________________ ““Patrick and Mark keep trying to kiss me. They are scaring Patrick and Mark keep trying to kiss me. They are scaring

me.”me.” ____________________________________________________ ““Justin and David keep pushing little kids off of the swings.”Justin and David keep pushing little kids off of the swings.” ____________________________________________________ ““Richard won’t let me use his eraser.”Richard won’t let me use his eraser.” ____________________________________________________ ““Jessica keeps trying to stab me with a pencil.”Jessica keeps trying to stab me with a pencil.” ____________________________________________________

When to report When to report bullying:bullying:

Students should report a bullying Students should report a bullying incident to an adult immediately if:incident to an adult immediately if:

• Bullying continues even after a student Bullying continues even after a student tells the bully to stop.tells the bully to stop.

• Someone is physically hurt.Someone is physically hurt.• Someone does not feel safe telling the Someone does not feel safe telling the

bully to stop.bully to stop.• Report the who, what, where, how and Report the who, what, where, how and

whenwhen

TRUE OR FALSE?TRUE OR FALSE?

A kid who gets teased and bullied knows A kid who gets teased and bullied knows we’re just kidding around. Even if it does we’re just kidding around. Even if it does hurt his feelings right now, he’ll get over hurt his feelings right now, he’ll get over it.it.

FALSE. Bullying is kind of like pounding a FALSE. Bullying is kind of like pounding a nail into a board. You can take the nail nail into a board. You can take the nail out, but the hole is still there. You can out, but the hole is still there. You can even use some kind of putty to fill the hole even use some kind of putty to fill the hole up. The bottom line is that piece of wood up. The bottom line is that piece of wood will never be quite the same again. will never be quite the same again. People who have been bullied carry those People who have been bullied carry those scars, big or small, forever.scars, big or small, forever.

Finally…Finally…

Do you think you have bullied Do you think you have bullied someone? someone? STOPSTOP…starting today.…starting today.

Most schools have rules about not Most schools have rules about not bullying others, and if you break bullying others, and if you break the rules you might be suspended the rules you might be suspended from school.from school.• At the very least, your parents will be At the very least, your parents will be

calledcalled