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Strengthening Your Family an empowering and inspiring webinar series
Creating School Year Success: Supporting Your ADHD Child at Home and School
featuring Julie Bulitt, LCSW-C
LIVE SANE, LLC
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Creating School Year Success; Supporting Your ADHD Child at Home and
School
Julie Bulitt, LCSW-C 2014 LiveSane
What is ADHD? (Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder ) A neurobiological condition affecting attention, impulsivity and
activity in children and adults
ADHD—Primarily Inattentive Type: Fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes
Has difficulty sustaining attention
Does not appear to listen
Struggles to follow through on instructions
Has difficulty with organization
Avoids or dislikes tasks requiring sustained mental effort
Is easily distracted
Is forgetful in daily activities
ADHD—Primarily Hyperactive/Impulsive Type:
Fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in chair
Has difficulty remaining seated
Runs around or climbs excessively
Has difficulty engaging in activities quietly
Acts as if driven by a motor
Talks excessively
Blurts out answers before questions have been completed
Has difficulty waiting or taking turns
Interrupts or intrudes upon others
ADHD in REAL terms:
• Inability to focus on tasks that are boring or hard
• Poor self regulation ( esp. when things get hard or uncomfortable)
• A sleepy brain that needs more stimulation than one that doesn’t have ADHD
• Thinking mostly in the NOW 2014LIVSANE
Possible Causes ADHD
• Neurobiological basis (hereditary)
• Difficult pregnancies (exposure to virus, tobacco, alcohol, premature birth)
• Brain injury from Trauma,Tumors, Strokes or Disease
• Emotional Trauma (stress model)
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Why are so many adopted people ADHD? Heredity
• Unplanned pregnancy: poor impulse control, not good at planning ahead
• Unable to take care of child: addiction, poverty, other factors
Good News! How we treat ADHD is primarily Environmental
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Parent issues: Expectations
Mismatch
Attachment issues
Loss of fantasy
Social issues
Rejection and loss
Walking on eggshells
What makes ADHD in an Adoptive family unique?
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Kids issues: Rejection
Disconnection
Shame
All of these issues can increase chances of:
LOW SELF ESTEEM, DEPRESSION, ANXIETY
What this may look like:
>Acting out behaviors
>Retreat into own world
>Poor coping skills
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What does ADHD look like in your child?
• Lazy
• Oppositional
• Unmotivated
• Inconsistent
• Overwhelmed
• Self-centered
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ADHD CAUSES IMPAIRMENT OF THE EXECUTIVE FUNCTION (EF) SYSTEMS IN THE BRAIN. EFFECTS INCLUDE:
Difficulty planning for the future Low self-esteem/self-worth Developmental delays Organization/Time Management Social skills Poor self-control Inflexible thinking
EF is centered in frontal lobe of brain- it develops into the 20”s
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Value of Assessments?
• Helps with reasonable expectations at home and school
• Allows school to formalize accommodations
• Helps identify ADHD vs another condition (depression, anxiety, mood disorder, learning disability, autism)
• Can determine if medication is needed 2014LIVESANE
How Do We Treat ADHD? • Behavioral interventions
self/parent improvement strategies
therapy
coaching
• Medication
• Diet
• Exercise
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5 Focus Areas • Goal setting
• Organization (home and school)
study habits
• Time management
• Procrastination
• Motivation
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I want to fail two classes piss off my teachers
and not pass in my homework
Goal Setting
Help your child set goals
• Be a role model for goal setting- write down (personal, family and professional)
• Make plans on how you are going to reach goals (baby steps)
• Model problem solving and dealing with challenges
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Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.” - African Proverb
-Backpack
-Notebook system
-Locker
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Room
Homework space
Schedule
Calendar (assignments, appointments, events)
Launch pad
Landing pad
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SUE’S AFTERNOON SCHEDULE:
4:15 - 5:00 Break (TV,COMPUTER)
5:00-5:30 Homework
5:30-5:40 Break
5:40-6:10 Homework
6:10-6:20 Break
6:20-7:00 Homework
7:00-7:45 Dinner
7:45-8:30 (TV)
8:30 Reading and bedtime routine
9:00 Bed
Study Habits
• Create schedule
• Use timer (Time Timer)
• Finding the best place- public or private
• Conditions
• Techniques- mind map, flash cards
• Study buddy ( parent or mirror)
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Association is a key to memory:
You remember approximately 10 percent of what you read.
You remember approximately 20 percent of what you hear.
You remember approximately 30 percent of what you see.
You remember approximately 50 percent of what you hear and see together.
You remember approximately 70 percent of what you say (if you think as you are saying it).
You remember approximately 90 percent of what you do.
Time management
• Plan events and time using schedule and calendars
• Big Rocks and Sand
• Clocks, watches, and guestimation
Commons reasons for Procrastination:
• Difficult - the task seems hard or BORING to do; we naturally tend to avoid difficult things in favor of those which seem easy to us.
• Time-consuming - the task will take large blocks of time, and large blocks of time are unavailable until the weekend.
• Lack of knowledge or skills - no one wants to make mistakes, so wait until you learn how before you start.
• Fears - everyone will know how you screwed up.
What’s more fun?
• Break up into doable pieces ( Steps)
• Five-minute plan: Use Timer. “beat the clock”
• Start task with child
• Have child advertise their plans to accomplish something, let peer/sibling pressure push them forward.
• Have child work with a good friend as a positive role model
• Modify environment
Techniques for dealing with Procrastination:
:
• Prioritized and schedule - which emphasize how important the piece work is, and identify precisely when it’s due to avoid it being late.
• Set up fake deadlines – ones that are before the real ones
• Create reward system
• Tackle difficult and/or less appealing tasks during your peak energy
• Verbal praise
• Beat the clock
• Time doing fun activity (screen time)
• Social time (friends or family)
• Tangible goods ( money, itunes, clothes)
Sleep • Kids and teens need between 8-10 hours of
sleep a night
• Set a lights out time
• Allow 30 minutes to fall asleep
• No TV computer, 30 minutes before bed
• Hot bath or shower before bed
• No caffeine after noon
• Melatonin, Neuro water, Sleepytime tea- with Dr consultation
DIET
Getting adequate levels of the right foods optimizes brain function.
Foods rich in protein -- lean beef, pork, poultry, fish, eggs, beans, nuts, soy, and low-fat dairy products -- can have beneficial effects on ADD symptoms -Protein can prevent surges in blood sugar.
AVOID SUGAR and simple carbs- causes ups and downs
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Exercise
20-30 minutes 3-4 a week
Exercise turns on the attention system, the so-called executive functions — sequencing, working memory, prioritizing, inhibiting, and sustaining attention,” says Ratey, author of the forthcoming Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain 2014Livesane
Medication
• Has a 85% helping rate
• Most used stimulants activate parts of the brain. Effects include increased alertness and energy, decreased tiredness, and improved ability to perform dull and repetitive tasks
• Non stimulants, antidepressant, blood pressure meds also used to treat
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The Big Picture
Set up scaffolding • Provide structured home environment • Set up daily schedule/checklists • Launch/landing pads • Prepare homework area • Set up positive reward system
Find outside support for your child • Tutors, teachers, neighbors, therapists, coaches • Assistive technology
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The big picture continued
• Mutually agreeable process to get things done
• Involvement in Positive Activities • Talents, hobbies, clubs, groups, sports
• Medication
• Diet
• Exercise
• Sleep
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Creating a Calm, Accepting, Predictable environment is essential for your ADHD/Adopted child
Is it easy? NO Is it worth it ? YES
In Summary,
Adopted children are more likely to have
ADHD
May be harder to parent child if you don’t understand or have same challenges
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Bibliography Recommend Books: Clark,Lynn (1998). SOS Help for Emotions. Kentucky.SOS Programs & Parents Press Cooper-Kahn &Dietzel (2008). Late, Lost and Unprepared. Maryland. Woodbine House Hallowell, E. & Ratey, J. (1994) Driven to Distraction. New York. Pantheon Books Heininger J. & Weiss, S. (2001) From Chaos to Calm. New York. Berkley Publishing Group Goldberg,D. (2005) The Organized Student. New York. Fireside Book Greene,Ross &J.Stuart Ablon (2006). Treating Explosive Kids.NewYork.GuilfordPress Forbes, Heather & B.Bryan Post (2010).Beyond Consequences,Logic and Control.Colorado.Beyound Consequences Institute LLC Kazdin,Alan(2009) The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child. Boston.Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Recommended Websites www.chadd.org Children & Adults with AD/HD (CHADD) lots of good information for parents and students. www.adoptionsupport.org Website with information about post adoption support services for adoptive families. TIME TIMER - ttp://www.timetimer.com/
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