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Counseling Grief. Why students need it and counselors must use it! By Charlie Piper. Preview. Why grief counseling? What are the stages of grief? Grief does NOT affect everyone! What type of atmosphere should be maintained? Technology is so impersonal; should I use it? . - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
Counseling GriefWhy students need it and counselors must
use it!By Charlie Piper
PreviewWhy grief counseling?
What are the stages of grief?
Grief does NOT affect everyone!
What type of atmosphere should be maintained?
Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?
Why grief counseling?
As Baker and Gerler (2004) state:
“because they lack experience and their cognitive development is incomplete, children and adolescents often respond to the death of loved ones and contemporaries maladaptively and may manifest inappropriate responses in school” (p. 119).
Why grief counseling?
So the other question is…will a student really be affected by a death?
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What are the stages of Grief?
According to Dr. Kubler-Ross (five/six stages):
• Denial (and isolation)• Anger• Bargaining• Depression• Acceptance• Hope
What are the stages of Grief?
Denial (Isolation)Anger
What are the stages of Grief?
Bargaining
Depression
• Pleas• Mood Swings• Frustration
What are the stages of Grief?
"It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on Earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it were the only one we had." ---Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
"Optimism is a cheerful frame of mind that enables a tea kettle to sing though it's in hot water up to its nose." ---Unknown
Acceptance
Hope
Grief does NOT affect everyone!
What about the students who have NOT lost loved ones…yet?
• Prepare lesson plans for all students
• Initiate preventive classroom opportunities • Read stories about dealing with grief
• Let each student share how they feel • Listen to songs
Grief does NOT affect everyone!
Yes, but what about the ones affected?
• Utilize intervention counseling
• Group counseling
• Create memory books
• Discuss the stages of grief
• Be a role model!
What type of atmosphere should be maintained?
• Safe and open
• Truthful • One that allows laughter
• One that allow rituals
• An understanding climate
What type of atmosphere should be maintained?
Stay engaged in activities:
• Write letters to the deceased
• Discuss ways to help others
• Share information about funerals
• Draw pictures of happy times
• Remember a funny situation with a loved one
Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?
The simple answer is…
UHH, YEAH!!
Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?
Technology encompasses many things
Computer use
• Sites about other students dealing with grief
http://kidscopewithgrief.comhttp://kidsaid.comhttp://amandathepanda.org
• Are these kids tech literate?
Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?
Lastly, remember to use technology with personality
Which reminds me of a story
Feelings
Write down how you felt after hearing my story
So what can you do about those feelings?
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What in that video replicates what was presented today?
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