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Table of Contents
INTRO 6
PASSION 8 Why It's Important to Have Passion 10
How to Come Alive Again by Re-Engaging With Your Passions 12
How to be a More Passionate Person 14
Wise Words About Passion 16
OPTIMISM 17 Are you an Optimist, Pessimist, or Realist? 19
Important Benefits of Optimism 21
How to be More Optimistic 23
Wise Words About Optimism 25
HAPPINESS 26 Understanding Happiness 28
The Neuroscience of Happiness 30
Self Happiness 32
Wise Words About Happiness 34
CONFIDENCE 35 Never Underestimate the Power of Confidence 37
What is Your Confidence Quotient? 39
5 Tips to Achieving Success with Confidence 41
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POSITIVITY 44 Tips to Eliminate Negativity and Increase Positivity 46
Eliminate Negativity by Developing a Positive Attitude 48
5 Tips to Eliminate Negativity 50
Wise Words About Positivity 52
INSPIRATION 53 Five Effective Ways to Get Inspiration 55
The Key to Finding Inspiration – Inspiration Walks 57
How to Use a Moodboard to Get Inspiration 59
Wise Words About Inspiration 61
PRESSURE 62 Common Causes of Pressure 64
The Keys to Understanding Pressure 66
Three Easy Ways to Reduce Pressure 68
Wise Words About Pressure 70
LEADERSHIP 71 Top 7 Traits of a True Leader 73
What is Your Leadership Style? 75
5 Common Mistakes Leaders Make 77
Wise Words About Leadership 79
MOMENTUM 80 What is Momentum and How Can It Work in Your Life? 82
The Unstoppable Power of Momentum 84
5 Simple Exercises to Create Daily Momentum in Your Business 86
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Wise Words About Momentum 88
ASSERTIVENESS 89 How Assertive are You? 91
You Can Learn to be Assertive 93
How to Set Personal Boundaries 95
Wise Words About Assertiveness 97
THE END? 98 Your “Better-You” Goals 100
A Month Until A Better You 105
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INTRO
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Thisbookisdesignedtobeusedwheneveryouneedali5leboostofself-helpcontent.
Whileyoucouldeasilyreadandenjoythisbookfronttoback,itisalsoagreatideatokeepitsomewhereconvenient.Thatway,whenyouneedaboostonaspecifictopicyoucaneasilyfinditinthetableofcontents.
Youdon’thavetoworksuperhardtobecomethebestversionofyourself—youjusthavetoworksmartandhavetherightmindset.ThisbookhelpsyouaccomplishthatbycuCngoutthefat,andsharingdirect,helpfulDpsonspecificareasweallneedtoworkon.EachsecDonalsoincludespowerfulquotesthatyoucanuseforinspiraDon,orasanaffirmaDon.
Hopeyouenjoyandgoodluckonyourjourneytobecomingabe5eryou.
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PASSION
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Why It's Important to Have Passion Ifyou'veeverfeltasthoughlifedoesn'tmakemuchsenseorasthoughyou'redriKingkindofaimlessly,thenwhatyou'remissingisrealpassion.HavingpassioninyourlifeisoKenthesecrettofindingrealhappinessandtherearecountlessreasonsthatthisisthecase.Ifyou'rewonderingwhatitmeanstohaverealpassionandwhyit'ssoimportantthenreadonandre-discoverwhatreallyma5ers.
WhatisPassion?
Whenwe'retalkingaboutpassions,we'renottalkingaboutsex.Sure,it'simportanttohavepassioninyourrelaDonshipandthisisonetypeofpassionbutitisalsonottheonlytypeofpassionthereis.
Passionthenrefersinsteadtoanythingthatyoufeelsuperexcitedaboutandanythingthatmakesyoueagertogetoutofbedinthemorning.Everyonehasdifferentpassionsandthere'snolimitonwhatyoucanbepassionateabout,oronhowmanypassionsyoucanhave.Forsome,musicistheburningpassionthatdrivesthemwhileforothersit'smoreaboutteaching,ormathorStarTrek.
Reallyitdoesn'tma5erwhatyou'repassionateaboutbutwhatma5ersisthatyouhavethingsthatyoufeelcompletelyexcitedaboutandthatyouletyourselffeelthatwayaboutthem.
WhyPassionisSoImportant
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Wellforstarters,havingapassion–evenonethatotherpeopledon'tfindexciDng–willgiveyoutonstolookforwardtoandtobeinterestedin.Evenifyoupassionisjust'acDonfilms',itmeansthatyou'llhavesomethingtodointheevenings(watcholdacDonfilms)andthingstolookforwardtoexcitedly(DieHard).
Likewise,passionstellusaboutourselvesandtheyforceustogrow.Ifyou'repassionateaboutmusicthenyou'llnodoubtpracDceplayinganinstrumentwhichwillhelpyoutodevelopdexterity,Dming,rhythmandcreaDvity–andwhichwillmakeyoumorea5racDveeventotheoppositesex.
PassionscanalsogiveusdirecDoninlife.Ifyoufeelpassionatelyaboutstoppingglobalwarmingthenthatgivesyouamission.Nolongerareyoujustlivinglifefromdaytoday,insteadyouareworkingtowardsagoalandforacausethat'sbiggerthanyourself.ThisiswhatmakespeoplefeelmoDvatedandimportant.
Soifyou'rewonderingwhatit'sallabout,you'reaskingthewrongquesDon.ThequesDonshouldbe:what'sitallaboutforyou.Timetofindout.
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How to Come Alive Again by Re-Engaging With Your Passions
SomeDmes,lifecanfeelali5lebitlikeyou'rejusttryingtosurvive.IfyoucomehomefromworkeverydayfeelingDredandlistlessonlytolieonthecouchandifyouareconstantlystressedandaggravatedwhileyou'reatwork…thenwhatisitthatyou'relivingfor?
Theproblemisrest.Manyofusworksothatwecanrest.Butthenwhenwedogetachancetorest,wedon'tfeelveryrewardedbecauseulDmatelyrestnormallyjustmeansstaringattheTV.That'shardlyrewarding!Sowhatdoyoudoinstead?Howdoyoumakeyourself'comealiveagain'?Simple:youre-engagewithyourpassions.
WeAllHadDreams
Allofushavedreamsandpassions.Atsomepoint,thesedreamsandambiDonsarewhatputyouonthepathyou'reonnow.Perhapsyouraimwastoworkthatjobjustlongenoughtoearnthemoneyyouneedtofundyourdream.Orperhapsyou'reworkingbecauseyoufoundapartneryoulovedandyouwerewillingtopostponeyourambiDonsforthem.
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NeitheroftheseaCtudesarewrongbutifyouhavelostsightofwhyyoustartedpuCngintheDmeandworkinthefirstplace,thensomethinghasgonewrong.Ifyou'velostareasontowork,thenyouwilljustbelistlessandcruisingthroughlife.
Sowhatdoyoudo?YoureignitethosepassionsandyouchaseaKerthemagain!Askyourself:whyisitthatyoudowhatyoudo?Wheredoyouseeyourselfinthefuture?Whatareyourbeliefsandyourvalues?WhatwerethethingsthatgaveyoudirecDonwhenyouwereayoungteenager?Andhowcanyougetyourselfbackontrack?
Theproblemisthatmanyofusfeelthatourpassionsare'silly'ormaybethey're'childish'orthey'reirresponsible.Thusweendupjustburyingthemformorerespectableaimslike'beingareamanager'.ButwhosaidthatbeingareamanagerofastaplecompanywasmorerespectablethanbeinganacDvistoranarDst?
Thepointisthatyoudon'thavetogiveupyourjoboryourresponsibiliDes.Youjusthavetokeeptheburningpassionalivesothatyou'repursuingitwhenyoucan.Whenyoudothisandyourememberthe'why',thenlifewillhavemeaninganddirecDon
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How to be a More Passionate Person Mostofusadmireandlookuptopeoplewhoarehighlypassionateandfirey.SomeDmestheymightfrustrateoraggravateussure,butdeepdownthat'soKenbecausewewishwecouldbethem:wewishwecouldfollowourpassions,speakourmindandlivelifetothefullest.
Wellguesswhat:youcan.Beingpassionateisn'tama5erofgeneDcs–it'sachoice.Andonceyouknowthatthat'swhatyouwant,it'ssomethingthat'sverymuchworthworkingtowards.Readonandlet'slookatsomethingsyoucandotostartlivingamorepassionateliferightnow…
BeWhoYouReallyAre–WithNoApologies
Themostimportantthingyouneedtodotobetrulypassionate,istobewhoyoureallyareandtonotapologizeforit.Thatmeansthatyoushouldfollowwhatinterestsyounoma5erhowweirdorstrangeitis.Whenyoudowhatyoulove,yougiveit100%andwhenyougiveit100%thenyoudoitbe5er.Don'tdothethingthat'sexpectedofyou–dothethingthatyoureallywanttodo.BeBillyElliot!
SpeakYourMind
Thisextendsgenerallytostoppingworryingwhatpeoplethink.NoDcehowpassionatepeoplealwaysseemtobeshouDngorproclaimingtheirlove?TheyareinfilmsandTVanyway.Thisisbecausetheyarefollowingtheirheart
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andnotworryingwhatothersthink.
Mostofusaresoafraidtospeakourmindsbecausewethinkwe'regoingtooffendpeoplethatweendupwalkingaroundwithourheadsdown.You'llsDlloffendpeople–becauseit'simpossiblenotto–soyoumightaswellbeyouandhaveagoodDmewhileyou'redoingit.
GetBackYourEnergy
What'salsoimportantifyouwanttobepassionateandfulloflifeistogetyourenergyback.Tobepassionate,youneedtoindulgeyourselfinthethingsyoulove.Andtodothatyoucan'tbebrowbeatenandexhaustedalltheDme.Iflifeandworkalwaysseemtobeontopofyou,thenit'sDmetomakeachangebyspendinglessDmecommuDngandworkingandmoreDmeeaDngright,geCngsunshineandgoingtothegym.IfitseemslikelifewillgetontopofyouifyoutakeDmeout,thenthat'ssignenoughthatsomethingneedstochange!
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Wise Words About Passion
"Passionisenergy.Feelthepowerthatcomesfromfocusingonwhatexcitesyou."OprahWinfrey
"Wemustactoutpassionbeforewecanfeelit.”
Jean-PaulSartre
"Nothingisasimportantaspassion.Noma5erwhatyouwanttodowithyourlife,bepassionate." JonBonJovi
"Ihavenospecialtalents.Iamonlypassionatelycurious."
AlbertEinstein
“PleasureinthejobputsperfecDoninthework.”Aristotle
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OPTIMISM
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Are you an Optimist, Pessimist, or Realist? Everyonehasadifferentpersonality.Thisiswhatmakestheworldgoround.Whenitcomestohowyoulookatthingsorwhatkindofoutcomeyouexpect,peopletendtofallintooneofthreecategories:opDmist,pessimist,orrealist.AnopDmistwilltypicallymakelemonsintolemonade.ThismeansthattheyseeeverythingthathappenstotheminaposiDvelight.Apessimististheexactopposite.PessimiststendtolookatthingsnegaDvelyandbelievethatmostthingswillturnoutbadly.Arealisttendstoseethingsastheyareandacceptsthatthingsarenotalwaysperfect.TheydealwithproblemsinapracDcalway.
AnopDmistasmenDonedwilllooktowardstheposiDve.Forexample,iftheyarelookedoverforapromoDonatworktheywillbeunderstandingandthinkthattheymaynotbereadyfortheposiDonrightnow.
ApessimistlookstowardsthenegaDvewhensomethinghappens.IfapessimistisoverlookedforapromoDonatworktheywilllikelystartblamingthemselvesandlookforallofthereasonsthattheywill“never”bepromoted.
Arealistismoregrounded.WhenarealistisoverlookedforapromoDontheyseethebigpicture.TheywillbeclearheadedaboutbeingpassedoverandlookforwhattheycandosothatthenextDmethereisapromoDonopportunityavailabletheyarechosen.
Generallyspeaking,mostpeoplefallbetweenthesecategories.NoteveryopDmistwillalwaysbeposiDveandnoteverypessimistwillalwaysbenegaDve.Thereareprosandconsofeachtypeofpersonality,butresearchshowsthatbeingopDmisDctendstobethehealthierchoice.
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WhilethereareposiDveandnegaDveaspectsofeachpersonalitytype,researchhasrecentlyshownthatbeingmoreopDmisDccanactuallybebeneficial.NegaDvitybreedsnegaDvity.ThismeansthatbeingnegaDveorapessimistcanaffectyourqualityoflife.ChangingyourthoughtprocesstosomethingmoreposiDvecanactuallyhaveaposiDveeffectonyourenDreoutlook.TheresearchshowsthatpeoplewhotendtothinkmoreposiDvelytendtogetalongbe5erintheworkplace,arehealthier,andfeelbe5eroverall.
TryingtolookfortheposiDveinthingscanhelpyouimproveyoursituaDon.WhilethisisnotpossiblealltheDme,itispossibletochangeyouraCtudeaboutyourlifeandreaptherewards.
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Important Benefits of Optimism Whenitcomestohowyoulookatlife,studiesshowthatbeingmoreopDmisDccandramaDcallyimproveyourlife.OpDmismissimplylookingatadversityinaposiDvelight.TakingtheDmetoseethingsfromadifferentperspecDveandshiningalightontheposiDvecanbeextremelybeneficialinallareasofyourlife.
HerearejustafewwaysthatbeingopDmisDccanhelpyouinyoureverydaylife.
1.OpLmismpromoteshappiness2.ItwillhelpyoukeepyouremoLonsincheck.3.ResearchintoopLmismshowsitcanactuallyincreaseyourlifespan.4.BeingopLmisLccanreducethelevelofstressyouexperienceduringcertainevents5.OpLmismprovidesyouwithareasonforliving.6.OpLmisLcpeoplearemoreproacLve.7.ItprovidesyouwithawaytodealwithfailureinaconstrucLvemanner.8.ItisanessenLaltraitthatisnecessaryforbeingsuccessful.9.ItincreasesyourproducLvity.10.OpLmismprovidesyouwithawaytodealwithlifeinabalancedmannerasitprovidesyouwitha
waytodealwithnegaLvethoughtsthattendtopopupduringyourdaytodaylife.
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ThesearejusttenofthewonderfulbenefitsofbeingmoreopDmisDc.Therearemanymorea5ributestotakingamoreposiDveapproachtothethingsthatlifethrowsyourway.Peoplewhotendtoseethegoodinthingsratherthanthebadaretypicallyhealthierasitimprovesbothyourpsychologicalandphysiologicalwell-being.
Whenyouarefacedwithadversitythewaythatyouapproachitisextremelyimportant.ThosewhotakeanegaDveapproachtendtoliveinaworldthatis“outtogetthem.”ThesepeopleoKenfailtoseethebiggerpicture,whichcanhaveanegaDveimpactontheirlife.
ThosewhofaceadversitywithaposiDveaCtudetendtohaveahappierlifesimplybecausetheychoosetoseethelightattheendofthetunnel.WhenlifethrowssomethingatthemtheylookfortheposiDvesthatcancomeoutofitandmoveontowardsafuturethatlooksmuchbrighter.
ThenextDmeyouhavenegaDvethoughtstakeamomenttothinkabouthowthisnegaDveexperiencecouldactuallybeagoodthing.ThiswillbenefityourenDrewell-beingandhelpyouexperienceamorefulfillinglife.
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How to be More Optimistic ResearchhasshownDmeandDmeagainthosewhothinkposiDvelyor“opDmists”tendtohavehappierandhealthierlives.Ifyouareapessimistyoucancreateaworstcasescenariooutofanyevent.Forexample,yougetinvitedtodinnerwithanewco-workerandyouimaginehowawkwarditwillbeandhowthiswillturnintoatormentedworkrelaDonshipfortherestofyourcareer,buyingnewclothesisatorment,ortakingatriptoafabulousislandresultsinyouthinkingaboutsunburnanddiseases.WhileitmayseemthatbeingnegaDvecanbeagooddefensemechanism,itcanaffectyourenDrelifefromyourrelaDonshipstoyourwork,school,andsports-takingthisapproachcanbedepressing.
HowtoBecomemoreOpLmisLc
OneofthetrickstochangingyourthoughtprocessfromnegaDvetoposiDveisthatyoucannottrytobetoohappy.Inordertotrulybehappyyouhavetostoptrying.Insteadofthinkingaboutwhetherornotyouarehappieryet,becomemoreengagedinthings.WhenyougetfullyinvolvedwithsomethingitcanhelptodistractyoufromyournegaDvethoughts.
AnothertricktobecomingmoreposiDveistoadjustyouraCtude.LookforquickdistracDonstohelpyouwhenyouconDnuetohavethesamenegaDvethoughts.TryanacDvitythatwilldemandallofyoura5enDon.Exerciseclassessuchasyogaorkickboxingcanbeagreatwaytodistractyourself.ExercisewillhelpimproveyouraCtudebyreleasingendorphins,or“happyhormones,”intoyourbodythatcanimproveyourmoodoverall.
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ReframingProblems
WhenitcomestobecomingmoreopDmisDcitisaboutlearningtoreframeproblemsastheyarise.Whenyouarefacedwithanissueinsteadofblamingyourself,reframeitsothatitisnotallyourfault.Forexample,ifyouarealoneatapartyandthinkingthatyouareboringandnoonewantstotalktoyou,trythinkingaboutwherethehostofthepartyisandwonderingwhytheyhavenotintroducedyoutoanyoftheguests.WhilethismethodoflookingforascapegoatisnotsomethingatrueopDmistwoulddo,itwillgiveyouadifferentoutlookonthesituaDonandcanhelpyoutofindothersoluDonstotheissueasyourealizethatyouarenotenDrelytoblame.
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Wise Words About Optimism
“Apessimistseesthedifficultyineveryopportunity;anopDmistseestheopportunityineverydifficulty.”WinstonChurchill
“ChoosetobeopDmisDc,itfeelsbe5er.”DalaiLamaXIV
“Weareallinthegu5er,butsomeofusarelookingatthestars.”OscarWilde
“Thereissomegoodinthisworld,andit’sworthfighDngfor.”J.R.R.Tolkien
“Pessimismneverwonanyba5le.”DwightD.Eisenhower
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HAPPINESS
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Understanding Happiness Justwhatishappiness?ManypeoplehavedifferentviewsonthisbutthemostcommonlyagreedupondefiniDonis:Happinessisamentalstateofwellbeingencompassingfeelingslikethankfulness,enjoymentandjoy.LivingameaningfullifecanmakeyouhappyasyouuseyourknowledgeandyourDmetoleadingyourlifewithapurpose.
Feelinghappyformostpeoplecanbeachievedbybecomingpartofacommunity.Humanshaveastrongdesireto‘belong’somewhere.Peoplebecomehappywhentheymakeanefforttodosomething.Thiscanbelearninganewskill,helpingsomeoneorjustdoinganythingthatgivesthempleasure.
Livingameaningfulliveisthoughtbymanytobethepathtohappiness.Butjusthowdoyouachievethis?OnewayistositdownandthinkaboutwhatyoutrulywanttodowithyourlifeandthentakingacDontomakethishappen.
HowmanyDmeshaveyouwishedorthoughtabouthowyourlifecouldbe?Youdon’ttakeacDonsoyourdailylifebecomesamundanerouDne.Whatisstoppingyoufromchangingyourlife?
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Oneofthebiggestreasonsthatpeopledon’tchasetheirdreamsisbecauseoffear.Fearoftheunknownorof‘whatif’ishugeandisanenormousroadblockformanypeople.
WhilebeinghappyhasalottodowithyourownemoDonalfeelingsandwellbeing.Yourstateofhappinesscanbeinfluencedbyoutsidefactors.Mainlybythosearoundyou,haveyouevernoDcedthatifyouarewithagroupofpeoplewhoarefeelingdejectedyoustarttofeelthesamewaytoo?
Otherpeoplecaneasilyreflecttheirmoodandfeelingsontoyouandyoutakethismoodonwithoutevenrealizingit.ThisiswhyitisimportanttosurroundyourselfwithwellmeaningpeopleandpeoplewhoaretakingposiDveacDonintheirlives.
Manypeopleassumethatmoneywillbuythemhappinessandwhileitwilltosomepointmoneycan’tbuyyoueverythingyouneed.Moneycannotboostyourwellbeingoryourfeelingsbutdoinggoodthingswithyourmoneycan.Haveyoueverconsideredgivingsomemoneytocharity?Youmaybesurprisedathowyouractofgenerositywillbereceived.Thisthankfulnesscanreallyexplodethatjoyfulfeelinginsideofyouandmakeyouhappy.
Therearesomanythingswhichcontributetoyourhappiness.Liveyourlifeinthebestwayyoucan,createyoubucketlistanddoeachthingonit.
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The Neuroscience of Happiness Whetheryou'rehappy,sad,angry,creaDve,stressedorsomethingelseenDrely,itallulDmatelycomesdowntoyourneuroscience.Thewiringandchemistryofourbrainsiswhatdefinesoureveryexperienceandoureverybehaviorandassuch,thebestwaytounravelandunderstandanyaspectofthehumanexperienceistolookinwardstowardsthebrain.
ThisisparDcularlyusefulifyou'retryingtoimproveyourmoodandbeconsistentlyhappier.Whatisgoingoninsidethebrainwhenyoufeeltrulycontentandatpeace.AndwhatcanyoudototryandgetyourstubbornbraintobelikethatmoreoKen?
Neurochemicals
UlDmatelyourmoodcomesdowntochemistry–specificallyitcomesdowntoneurochemicalsor'neurotransmi5ers'whichareproducedinthebraininresponsetocertainotheracDviDesinthebrain.Whenyouthinkofsomethingorexperiencesomethingthatishappy,sad,scaryorstressful,thebrainrespondsinkindbyproducingtherelevantneurotransmi5er.Thesetransmi5ersincludeserotonin,corDsol,norepinephrine,dopamine,oxytocin,adenosineandmanyothers.
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Whenitcomestohappiness,wewanttoincreasethenumberof'feelgood'neurotransmi5erswhichincludeserotonin,oxytocinanddopamine.Thesearechemicalsthatmakeusfeelalert,happy,contentandevenloved.Ontheotherhand,wewanttoreduceoneslikecorDsol(whichmakesusstressed).HowtoControlNeurochemistry
Atthispoint,youmightbewonderinghowyoucancontrolyourneurochemistry.Onewayofcourseiswithdrugsandthat'swhererecreaDonaldrugsandanDdepressantscomein.AnDdepressantsoKenworkbyincreasingtheamountofserotonininthebrainorincreasingGABAwhichmakesusDredbutalsoreducescorDsol.
TheproblemwithchangingbrainchemistrydirectlythoughisthatthebrainisallaboutadaptaDon.IfyouaddacertainamountofparDcularchemicalstoyourbrainthenitwilloKenrespondbyproducinglessofthosechemicalsnaturally.Thiscanthenleadtotolerance,dependenceandwithdrawalsymptoms–worseningdepressionandtriggeringaddicDon.
Youcanalsoalteryourneurochemistrythroughlifestylechanges.Dietimpactsonwhichneurotransmi5ersourbraincancreate,whilethingslikesleep,exerciseandsocialinteracDonscanallalsoboostourmood.
UlDmatelythough,theverybestwaytocontrolyourmoodistochangewhatyoufocusonandthewayyoureacttowhatyoufocuson.Remember,yourneurotransmi5ersarereleasedinreacDontoyoursubjecDveexperiences.Changeyourexperiencebychangingyourbeliefsandyoucanimprovethatneurochemistry.
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Self Happiness Youhavenodoubtheardaboutselfhelp.TherearethousandsofbooksandarDclesonthetopicofselfhelp.Whenitcomestobeinghappyhaveyouthoughtabouthowyougetyourselfintothatstate?
Happinessisamentalstatewhichyoufeelasjoyandcontentmentandjustfeelinghappy.WhenwasthelastDmeyoucantrulysayyoufeltthisemoDon?Ifitwasawhileagohaveyouconsideredselfhappiness?
SelfhappinessissimplytheactofplacingyourselfintherightsituaDonsoyouexperiencetheseemoDons.Thereareseveralwaysyoucanachievethis.Oneisbyreadinghappinessquoteseachandeveryday.FindonesthataremeaningfultoyouandrepeatthemoutloudseveralDmesaday.ThereareenDrewebsiteswithhappinessquotesonthem.Searchthroughsomeandcopydowntheoneswhichyoulike.
YourownacDonscanbringyouhappinessaswellandbydoingorsharingsomethingwithothersyoucaneasilyexperiencethis.Itiswellknownthatifyoumakesomeoneelsehappyyouwillfeelhappytoo.Whynottryhelpingsomeonewithataskorchore.Doyouhaveanelderlyneighborthatneedshelp?Oristhereayoungmominyourneighborhoodwhowouldappreciatesomehelpwithherkids?Youcouldoffertowatchthemforawhileortakethemtothepark.
ManyexpertswilltellyouthatallyouneedtobehappyisaposiDvemindset,thismaynotalwaysbetrue.Anotherstreamofthoughtisbeingconsciousofthethingsyoushouldnotbedoing.Inotherwordsyouknow
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whatdoesn’tmakeyouhappy,sodon’tconDnuedoingthem.
Soitmaybeworththinkingthiswayinstead.Themajorityofpeopleareeagertogooutandbuythenextgadgetortoolthatwillsupposedlymakethemhappy.Inrealitywhathappensisyouenduphoardingitemsandendupwithaclu5erofuselessorunusedtoolsaroundyourhome.
Declu5eringyourhomeandyourmindisonewaytofindhappiness.Insteadofsearchingforhappinessgetridofeverythingthatmakesyouunhappy.YouwillbetakingacDoninsteadofchasingrainbows.YournewfoundpathcouldleadtothetruejoyofhappinessaKerall.
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Wise Words About Happiness
“Foreveryminuteyouareangryyoulosesixtysecondsofhappiness.”RalphWaldoEmerson
“Happinessisnotsomethingreadymade.ItcomesfromyourownacDons.”DalaiLamaXIV
“Themostimportantthingistoenjoyyourlife—tobehappy—it'sallthatma5ers.”AudreyHepburn
“Nomedicinecureswhathappinesscannot.”GabrielGarcíaMárquez
“Tobehappy,wemustnotbetooconcernedwithothers.”AlbertCamus
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CONFIDENCE
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Never Underestimate the Power of Confidence YoucanhavealltheeducaDonandthebestexperienceintheworldandlacktheconfidenceyouneedforulDmatesuccess.Confidenceisacatalystwhichcanmakearealdifferenceinthescopeofyourlifeandpropelyoutoagreatnessyouwouldn’thavewithoutit.
Withconfidence,youcanturntheimpossibleintothepossible–createsuccesswhereothersmightgiveup.WhileyoucangainconfidencefromeducaDonandexperience,theconfidencemustcomefrominsideandyoumustprojectitinawaythatothersfindinspiring.
ConfidenceprovidesthepoweryouneedtostepintounknownsituaDons–unafraidanddeterminedtosucceed.Leavingbehindthesecureandtheknowninyourlifemaytakeincredibleconfidence.Withoutit,youmaybecomestuckinamilk-toasttypeoflifeandnevergetoutofarutoracareerthat’sgoingnowhere.
Ifyoudolackconfidence,itmaynotbeobvioustoyouunDlyougetrealwithyourself.IfyouprocrasDnateorfeeloverwhelmedmuchoftheDme,itmaybeverydifficulttoturntheDdesunlessyoudoaddressyourconfidenceissues.It’sdifficultforyoutotakeacDontogetoutofrutsandbadsituaDonsbecauseyoufeelyoucan’tdoitrightoryouneedtolearnmore.
Confidencecanalsohelpyourdecision-makingskills.YoumaybehesitanttomakedecisionsabouteventhesmallestofissuesbecauseyoulackconfidenceinyourownabiliDestosucceed.Youmaybecomeparalyzedwithindecisionandbecomeisolatedandwithdrawn.Second-guessingyourselfonlymakesitworse.
SomeDmesyoujustneedtobehaveasifyou’reconfidentandusethatpowertotakeacDonratherthansimplywaiDngforsomethingtohappentocementanideaorsolveaproblem.Atleastbeconfidentinyour
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determinaDontoworkonyourgoals.ThatdeterminaDonwillspuryouontotaketheacDon(s)youneedtosucceed.
Soon,confidencecanbecomeahabitinyourlife–agoodhabitthatyou’llwelcomeandwanttoculDvate.Thatingrainedhabitwillhelpyouleaveyourcomfortzoneandtakechances.Evenifyoufail,you’lllearnfromthemistakesyoumakeandhavetheresolvetogoontotrythenextideaorlevelofsuccess.
Confidenceprovidesthepoweryouneedtocommitandworktowardgoalsandknowthatyoureffortsaregoingtosucceedinthelongrun.Notonlydoesthatincreaseyourchancesofsucceeding–italsocreatesasenseofsaDsfacDoninyourmind.
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What is Your Confidence Quotient? Whileyoudon’twanttobetooconfidentsoastoseemarrogant,youdowanttoprojecttheamountofconfidenceneededtosucceedinlifeandreachthegoalsthatyou’vesetforyourself.ReadandanswerthefollowingquesDons(allyesorno)andthenlookbackonyouranswers.Youshouldhaveapre5ygoodideaifyourconfidencequoDentishighorlow–orinthemiddle--andwhatareasyouneedtoworkontoraiseit.
• Doyoufeelguiltywhenyousay“no?”Saying“no”canbeextremelytraumaDcforyouifyoulackconfidenceinyourdecisions.Youmayfindyourselfmakingupliestogetoutofthingsratherthanjustsaying,“no.”
• Doyoucompareyourselftoothers?There’salwaysgoingtobesomeonesmarter,richerandbe5erlookingthanyou.UnDlyoubecomecomfortablewithyourselfyou’lllackconfidencetogofartherinlife.
• DoyoufeelinLmidatedinmostsituaLons?You’relikelytofeelinDmidatedbyothersifyoucompareyourselftoothers(seepreviousquesDon)andseeyourselfasinferiortothem.Stopcomparingyourselfandenjoythemoment.
• Doyoustandupforyourvaluesandbeliefs?Ifyoueasilygetswayedbyothersordon’tspeakupwhenyou’reinanuncomfortablesituaDon,youcouldlackconfidence.Compromisingyourbeliefsystemcanbeaconfidencekiller.
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• Doyoutryhardtoimpressothers?Whenyou’reconfident,youdon’thavetostrivetoimpress–otherswillbeautomaDcallyimpressedbyyourpresence.Confidenceexudesanimagethatmeansyoudon’thavetotrytoimpress–itwillcomenaturally.
• Areyoufinanciallysound?Financialwell-beingcanaddtoyourconfidencequoDent.Ifyouhaveproblemswhenitcomestoplanningabudgetandspendingmoney,youmayneedhelpfromaprofessionalfinancialplannertomakeyoufeelmoreconfidentinyourfinancialfuture.
• DoyouhesitatetotaketheiniLaLveonprojectsorideas?Partoflearningtobecomeconfidentistheabilitytofeelgoodabouttakingonchallengesandnewideas.It’sokaytotakeabackseattosomeonewhoknowsmoreandwhomyoucanlearnfrom,butputyourselfouttherebytakinginiDaDveatDmes.
• Doyoufeelconfidentaboutyourfuture?It’simportantthatyoufeelcomfortableaboutthechoicesyou’remakingthatwillimpactyourfuture.Thatfutureencompassesyourhealth,familyandjobdecisionsthatyou’remakingnow.Besurethey’rebasedonfacts.
AKeryou’veassessedyourconfidencequoDentanddeterminedwhatyouneedtodotoraiseit,begintotakeacDononthosedeterminaDons.Later,whenyoufeelyou’vemadeprogressintheareasyouneededtoworkon,answerthequesDonsagainandseehowfaryou’veprogressed.
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5 Tips to Achieving Success with Confidence Achievingsuccesscanmakeyouamoreconfidentperson,butit’sdifficulttoreachthelevelofsuccessyoudesirewithoutconfidence.Confidenceisthecatalysttoovercomingdoubtsandfearsandcanhelpyouthroughtheworstobstaclesyou’llencounterontheroadtosuccess.Herearesomesure-fireDpstohelpyougettheconfidenceyouneedtoclimbthesuccessladder:
1. Betruetoyourself.Yourvaluesandbeliefsystemmustbefirmlyinplaceifyouwanttoachieveasuccessyoucanbeproudofandtoensureyoulikeyourselfwhenyoudoreachthetopoftheladder.
Ifyouachievesuccessinwayswhichcompromisewhoyoutrulyare,youwon’tbeabletoenjoyyourachievements.ItwillbeasuccessbuiltonsandratherthansolidgroundandmaycrumbleandfallwithDme.
2. TrustinyourabiliLes.Youmayhavemuchtolearnbeforeyoucansucceedinachosenfieldorpath.Thinkofallthatyou’veachievedsofarandobstaclesyou’vealreadyovercomeandtrustthatyoucandomore.
Don’tdismisswhatyou’velearnedsofarinlife.Youmightthinkitwaseasyandthatanyonecoulddoit,butothersmayseeitasremarkableandlookuptoyouforit.
3. Useyoursubconsciousmind.RepeaDngposiDveaffirmaDonsandshooingnegaDvethoughtsawaybuildsstrengthforyoursubconsciousmind–apowerfulallyinyourquestforsuccess.
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Yoursubconsciousmind,whentrainedtodoyourbiddingcanmakearealdifferenceinhowyouandothersseeyourself.ItcanalsobeadetrimentifyouletnegaDvethoughtspermeateandgaincontrol–makingyoudoubtyourtrueabiliDes.
4. Usecorrectbodylanguage.Watchyourposture,stanceandcontrolofyourbodylanguage.ItcanbepowerfulwhendealingwithothersandexpecDngagreatoutcome.SiCngupstraight(asyourmotherusedtotellyou)cansendafardifferentandmoreposiDvemessagethanslumping.
StudybodylanguageandbegintopracDceit.Whenyouenteraroomwithyourheadheldhighandwalkinglikeyouownwhereyouareandhowyoupresentyourself,peoplewilltakenoDceinaposiDveway.
5. PayafenLontoyourpersonallook.Whenyoupresentyourselfasunkemptandlookingwrinkledandungroomed,theimageisn’tonethatreapssuccess.
Ifthisisanareaofyourlifewhereyoulackskills,seekthehelpofothersanddevelopastyleyou’recomfortablewithandwhichfitstheimageyouwanttopresent.
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Wise Words About Confidence
“Selfconfidenceisthebestouoit.Rockitandownit”Unknown
“Acceptwhoyouare;andrevelinit.”MitchAlbom
"Thewaytodevelopself-confidenceistodothethingyoufearandgetarecordofsuccessfulexperiencesbehindyou."
WilliamJenningsBryan
"Ifyouhearavoicewithinyousay'youcannotpaint,'thenbyallmeanspaint,andthatvoicewillbesilenced."
VincentVanGogh
“Self-confidencecanbelearned,pracDced,andmastered--justlikeanyotherskill."BarrieDavenport
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POSITIVITY
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Tips to Eliminate Negativity and Increase Positivity HereareafewDpsthatcanhelpyoueliminatenegaDvityandhelpyoutobringaposiDvespintoyourlifeandmakeposiDvethinkingeasier:
ReadbooksaboutposiLvethinking. WhenyoureadbooksthatareposiDveandupliKing,ithelpsyoutobemoreposiDve.InspiraDonalquotesandaffirmaDonscanalsohelpyoueliminatemorenegaDvityandgetintoaposiDvemindset.
Learnhowtovisualize. YourimaginaDonandabilitytovisualizethingsisanextremelypowerfultool.ByimaginingyourselfbeingposiDve,anddoingmoreposiDveacDons,yourbodyactuallyrespondsinthesamewayasifyouweredoingthethingsthatyouareimagining.AthletesandothersuccessfulpeoplehaveusedvisualizaDonforyearstohelpimprovethemselvesandtheirabiliDes.Bytappingintothisability,youtoocaneliminatenegaDvityandbecomemoreposiDve. FocusonusingposiLvewordsasmuchaspossible. AvoidnegaDvewords,orturnthemintotheiropposite.Whenthinking,ortalkingtoothers,trytoalwaysuseposiDvewords.AvoidsayingIcan't,andstartsayingIcan.ThismaytakesomeDmetoputintopracDce,butasyoudoitmore,itwillgeteasier.
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Remembertosmile. UseyoursmiletoprojectyourposiDveaCtude.Itisamazinghowmuchofadifferenceasmilemakes.Peoplecanactuallytellyouaresmilingwhentalkingtoyouonthephone,eventhoughtheycan'tseeyousmiling.SmilingmakesyouandthosearoundyoufeelmoreposiDve.
Donotquit– nomaferwhat. Whenyouquit,youtrulyfail.Whatmostpeoplethinkoffailureisreallyjustachancetolearn.OKen,peoplequitjustbeforetheyreachtheirgoal.ThisissomethingthatsuccessfulpeopleknowandusealltheDme.Theyknowthataslongastheydonotquit,theywilleventuallyachievewhattheywant.
BecomemoreawareofyournegaLvethoughts. LearningtorecognizewhenyouarehavinganegaDvethoughtandturningitimmediatelyintoaposiDveoneisimportant.ItcantakeDmetodevelopasenseofwhenyouarehavingnegaDvethoughts,butitisaskillwellworthfocusingon,soyoucanchangethem.OverDme,youwillfinditeasiertorecognizewhenyouarehavinganegaDvethought.RememberittakesDmetochangeahabit,sobepersistent.
MakeLmetodothethingsthatmakeyouhappy. WhenyoutakeDmetodothingsthatmakeyouhappy,itcanoverflowintotherestofyourlife.Evenwhenlifehasmajorchallenges,youwillfindyouhavemoreenergytotacklethem,ifyouspendDmedoingthingsthatmakeyouhappy.
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Eliminate Negativity by Developing a Positive Attitude ThebestwaytoeliminatenegaDvityistodevelopaposiDveaCtude.Yourthoughtsandoutlookonlifehaveaprofoundeffectonhowyouliveyourlife.Theyarealsocontagiousandaffectthosearoundyou.Youcan'thavebothposiDveandnegaDveinthesamespace.SowhynotfocusonturningthenegaDvityintosomethingmoreposiDve?
YouwillfindyouhavemoreenergyandenthusiasmwhenyouhaveamoreposiDveaCtude.Peoplewillwanttobearoundyoumore,andwillbemoreposiDveaswell,leadingtoacascadeeffect.NegaDvitytendstobringyoudownandstealawayyourenergy.ItcanalsocausehealthissuesoverDme.SomewaysyoucandevelopamoreposiDveaCtudeare:
ReadBooksaboutPosiLveThinking TherearemanybooksouttherethatcanteachyouabouthowtodevelopaposiDvemindsetandeliminatethenegaDvityinyourlife.Readingisnotonlyagreatwaytolearn,butithelpsyourbrainbuildmoreconnecDonswhichkeepithealthyforalongerDme.Youcanevenfindmanyverygoodbooksonthissubjectinyourlocallibraryandreadthemforfree.
AffirmaLons AffirmaDonsareawayofreprogrammingthenegaDvethoughtsyoutellyourself– andinmanycases,youmaynotevenbeawarethatyouhavethem.BydoingaffirmaDons,youcanchangethesenegaDvethoughtsintoposiDveones.Youcanstartthinkingbe5erofyourself.
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MeditaLon MeditaDonisagreatwaytohelpeliminatenegaDvityandturnitintoposiDvethinking.Italsoreducesstress.Becauseyougetpasttheconsciouslevel,youcanreallyhelpreprogramyourmindsetwithmeditaDon.IfyoucombinethiswiththeaffirmaDons,youcanincreasetheresults.
SpendLmewithposiLvepeople TrytoeliminateorlimitcontactwithpeoplewhotendtohaveanegaDvemindset.SomeDmesyoucan'tcompletelybreakoffcontactwiththem,especiallyiftheyarefamilyorpeopleyouworkwith,butasmuchaspossibletrytospendDmewithposiDvepeople.NotonlywillyoufinditeasiertobeposiDvearoundthem,butyoumaylearnnewwaystohelpyourselfbemoreposiDve.
YoucaneliminatenegaDvityifyousetyourmindtoit,andusetoolsandtechniquestomakeithappen.Youwillnotonlyfeelbe5eraboutyourselfandhavemoreenergyandzestforlife,butyouwillbephysicallyhealthier.NegaDvepeopledraintheirmentalandphysicalwell-beingbytheirmindset.SolearntohaveaposiDveaCtude.
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5 Tips to Eliminate Negativity NegaDvitycanreallyaffectyourlife.Itcanleadtodepression,causehealthissues,anddestroyyourconnecDonswithothers.HereareafewDpstohelpyoueliminatethenegaDvityinyourlife.
1.First,figureoutwhatistriggeringthenegaLvity. Beforeyoucaneliminateit,youhavetoidenDfyit.YouwillprobablyfindthatmuchofyournegaDvitycomesfromthoseself-tapesyouplayinyourhead.YouneedtofindwaystochangethosetapesfromnegaDvetoposiDve.OnewayofdoingthisisusingaffirmaDons.JustmakesuretheaffirmaDonsareveryspecificallyDedtotheactualnegaDvethoughts.
ThisiswerealotofpeoplegowrongwithaffirmaDons.Theyusegeneralonesthatreallyarenotrelevanttotheirownissues.Thisislikegeneralpraise,itworkssomeoftheDme,butcanbeoverdone.“Goodjob” isnotasusefulas,forexample,“IlikethewayyousharewithBobbyduringplayDme.” SamewithaffirmaDons,trytosDckasclosetothenegaDvetapeaspossible,andonlychangethenegaDvetoaposiDve.
2.MeditaLonandyogaarebothgreatwaystocutdownonthenegaLvityinyourlife. Bothfocusonusingbreathingexercisestoreplenishyourbody.Yogaalsohelpswithdevelopingflexibilityandstrengthinyourbody.MeditaDonmainlyfocusesonmind,butcanreallyhelpyouchangehowyouthinkaboutthings,especiallyifyoucombinethiswiththeaffirmaDons.
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3.Smilingmorecanhelp,too,andisasimplewaytohelpeliminatenegaLvity.Studieshaveshownthatyoucanevensensewhentalkingonthephonetosomeonethattheyaresmiling.SmilingiscontagiousandcannotonlyhelpyoufeelmoreposiDve,buthelpthosearoundyou,aswell.
4.HaveyouevernoLcedthatwhenyouareinagoodmood,andyoutalkwiththatonepersonwhoisalwaysnegaLve,itbringsyourmooddown? FocusonpeopleinyourlifewhoareposiDve.Asmuchaspossible,getridof,orlimitcontactwithnegaDvepeople.SomeDmesyoucannotcompletelydothis,especiallyiftheyarefamily,buttrytolimitasmuchasyoucan.
5.PlayingthevicLmkeepsyouinanegaLvemindset.Bytakingcontrolofyourlifeandyourchoices,youcaneliminatealotofthenegaDvity.Noma5erhowmuchitseemseverythingisoutofyourcontrol,youdohavechoices.EvenifyouhavedisabiliDes,orhealthcondiDons,youcanfindwaystoworkaroundthemtoaccomplishwhatyouwanttodo.
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Wise Words About Positivity
“AnaCtudeofposiDveexpectaDonisthemarkofthesuperiorpersonality.”BrianTracy
“Successconsistsofgoingfromfailuretofailurewithoutlossofenthusiasm.”WinstonChurchill
“Theonlyplacewhereyourdreambecomesimpossibleisinyourownthinking.”RobertHSchuller
“Hopeisawakingdream.”Aristotle
“Ifyouthinkyoucandoathingorthinkyoucan’tdoathing,you’reright.”
HenryFord
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Five Effective Ways to Get Inspiration LostforinspiraDon?HerearefivetechniquesyoucanusetotryandcoaxsomethingnewandexciDngoutofyourbrain!Theywon’talwayswork,butgivethemago,andyoumightjustbesurprised.
GoforaWalk
Walksareinspiringforanumberofreasons.Forstarters,theyallowustotakeabreakfromwhatwe’redoingandtochangeourenvironment.Inturn,thisleadstonewinputthatcanhelpustogainnewperspecDveonwhateverproblemortaskwe’rewrestlingwith.
AtthesameDme,walkingisamonotonoustaskthatallowsourdefaultmodenetworktokickin.This,essenDally,meansthatwe’redaydreaming,whichis,oKen,asourceofgreatinspiraDon.
AsktheRightQuesLons
SomeDmes,inspiraDonisjustaboutaskingtherightquesDons,whichcanhelptoreframetheproblemyou’refacinginordertolookatitinanewway.Forinstance,ifyou’rewonderinghowtosolveaproblemandyoucan’tcomeupwithananswer,tryaskingyourselfhow‘Johnny’wouldapproachit.Likewise,insteadofthinkingaboutwhatyouwantsomethingtobe,decidewhatyoudon’twantittobe.
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TakeaBreak
SomeDmes,thebestthingyoucandotosparksomecreaDvityorsolveaproblemistotakeabreak.Thisway,youstoptryingtoforcetheidea,whichsimplycreatesstress,andinstead,yousimplyletitcometoyounowthatyou’veenteredallyourinput.Thisiswhywe’reoKenencouragedtosleeponbigdecisions.
ListentoMusic
Musiccanbehighlyinspiringasitaltersourmoodandenergylevelandtakesustodifferentplaces.OKen,you’llfindthatmusiccanleaveyoulostinthought,sotrylisteningtosometrackswhileyoumulloverasubject,andseeifthathelps.
TalkitOver
There’samyththatideastaketheformoflightbulbsorlightningstrikesandthattheycomeinaflash,fullyformed.Actually,whenquesDoned,mostpeopleadmitthattheirbestideasformulatedslowly,thattheygestatedfordays,months,orevenyearsbeforeemerging.OKen,thebestideasarenotformedinisolaDoneitherbutratherwhenwediscussthemwithotherpeople.Evenifwe’rejustthinkingaloud,thiscanhelpustoseenewperspecDvesandwilloKenresultinnewbreakthroughs.
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The Key to Finding Inspiration – Inspiration Walks LookingtofindinspiraDonforthenextgreatnovel?Foryourmusicalmasterpiece?Foryournextbusinessidea?OKen,thebestwaytofinditisjusttogoforawalk:an‘inspiraDonwalk’!
WhatisanInspiraLonWalk?
Theideabehindan‘inspiraDonwalk’istoleavetheconfinesofthehomeorofficetogoforastrolland,indoingso,todiscovertheinspiraDonyou’relookingfor.
So,whymightthiswork?ThereareseveralreasonsthatinspiraDonoKenliesinthegreatoutdoors.Forstarters,walkingisamindlessacDvitythathasbeenshowntoacDvatethebrain’sdefaultmodenetwork.Thedefaultmodenetworkisaseriesofbrainareasthatkickintogearwheneverwe’redoingsomethingthatdoesn’trequirealotofhigher-orderthinking(thinkingwiththeprefrontalcortex).
ThistypeofbrainacDvityisimplicatedindaydreamingandoKenleadstothediscoveryofgreatideas.Infact,it’sthoughtthatEinsteinwasinthisbrainstatewhenhediscoveredhisworld-changingSpecialTheoryofRelaDvity.EffecDvely,walkingletsourmindwander,andthisiswhatoKenleadstothebestideas.
RelaxaLon
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Anotherkeyaspectofgoingforawalkisthatittakesusoutsideandletsusexploreourenvironment.ThisworksbestwhenwewalkinanaturalseCng,whichhasbeenshowntotriggercreaDvityallonitsown.
EssenDally,whenwe’rerelaxed,thisalsoallowsourmindtowanderandexploredifferentideasandmemories.Inturn,thisleadstonewcreaDvebreakthroughsandinsights.Thisistheoppositeofwhenwe’reinastressedandfocusedstate,whichcausesustofocusonjustonethingattheexpenseofother,relatedideas.
BeinginscenicseCngshasbeenshowntotriggercreaDvitybecause,toourprimiDvebrains,alushenvironmentrepresentsnaturalresourcesandsafety.Inthewild,comingacrossanareaoflushgreenplantswouldhavemeantsourcesoffood,water,andshelter.Thousandsofyearslater,thissDlltriggersarelaxaDonreflexinourbraintotheextentthathavingplantsaroundtheofficeorevenjustpainDngawallgreencanincreasecreaDvethinking.
Finally,goingforwalksgivesusachangeofscenery,givesusexerciseandgetsfreshairinourlungs;allthingsthatresultinanewperspecDveandachancetobreakoutoflazyorhabitualthinkingpa5erns.
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How to Use a Moodboard to Get Inspiration Whenyoustartonanewproject,youcanoKenfindyourselfgeCngstuckbeforeyouevenmanagetogetstarted.It’slikeatypeofwriters’block,exceptitaffectseverykindofproject–fromwebsitedesignstoweddingplanningtointeriordesign.
TheproblemisgeCngthatiniDalsparkthatwillsubsequentlyleadtoalltheotherideascomingthroughlikeanavalanche.It’saboutgoingfromnothingtosomethingandpullingthatsomethingeffecDvelyoutof‘thinair’.ButdesignersandarDstswhodothissortofthingforalivingneedawaytoreliablyovercomethisproblemonaconsistentbasis.Onetooltheyusetothisendisthe‘moodboard’.Let’stakealookatwhatthatisandhowitcanhelpyou.
Whatisamoodboard?
EssenDally,amoodboardisatypeofcollage.Thismeansyou’llbetakingdifferentimagesandarrangingthemonasinglepage.TheycanbecuCngs,ortheycanbesnapshotstakenfromwebsites.Theideaistofindeverythingthat’srelatedtothetopicorthingyou’retryingtocreate.
So,ifyouweremakingawebsiteforafitnesscompany,youmightcreateyourcollageusingscreenshotsofotherfitnesscompanywebsites,imageryrelatedtofitnessthatcouldinspirealogo,inspiraDonalphotosofpeopleworkingout,etc.Collectasmanythingsthatinspireyouaspossible,andfromthere,youshouldhaveasingle
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pagefullofinspiraDon.
WhymoodboardsaresoeffecLve
Whenyou’relookingforanabstractdirecDonforadesignorprojectthatyoucan’tquiteputintowords,moodboardsoffertheperfectsoluDon.Whenyouhaveallthesethingsarrangedonasinglepage,youshouldstarttonoDcethatcommonthemesandideasstarttoemerge.This,inturn,shouldallowyoutostartgeCngafeelforthedirecDonthatyouwanttotakeforyoursite.
Youaren’tcopyingtheimageryyou’vetaken.Instead,you’recombiningitintosomethinguniquebutinspiredbythebestexamplesinyourniche.
ThisactuallycorrespondsnicelywiththewayweknowthatcreaDvityworks,bycombiningexisDngideastocreatesomethingnew.IfyoucantakeallyourinspiraDonandputitinoneplace,youshouldfindthatideasstartflowingandyouovercomethatcreaDveblock!
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Wise Words About Inspiration
“IdreammypainDngandIpaintmydream.”VincentvanGogh
“WhileItakeinspiraDonfromthepast,likemostAmericans,Iliveforthefuture.”RonaldReagan
“We'retaughttobeashamedofconfusion,anger,fearandsadness,andtomethey'reofequalvaluetohappiness,excitementandinspiraDon.”
AlanisMorissefe
“Youcan'twaitforinspiraDon.YouhavetogoaKeritwithaclub.”JackLondon
“InspiraDonexists,butithastofindusworking.”PabloPicasso
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PRESSURE
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Common Causes of Pressure TherearenumeroussituaDonsthatcausepressure.WeusuallythinkofcausesofpressureasbeingnegaDve,suchasarockyrelaDonshiporanexhausDngworkschedule.However,anythingwhichputshighdemandsonyouorforces you to adjust can cause pressure. This includes posiDve events such as purchasing a house, receiving apromoDon,geCngmarriedorgoingtocollege.Pressurecanalsobeself-generated,forexamplewhenyouhavepessimisDcthoughtsaboutlife.Whatcausepressuredepends,atleastinpart,onyourpercepDonofit.Belowaresomecausesofpressure.
1.Money
Financialtroubleisacommoncauseofpressure.Rent,notbeingabletomakeendsmeet,orcreditcarddebtcanputaseriousamountofpressureonaperson.Inthissociety,wherealotofemphasisisonwhatyou’veandwhatyoucanafford,financialpressureissomethingthatalmosteveryonecanrelateto.
2.RelaLonships
Argumentswithaparent, childora spousecan increasestress.Whenyou live together, thepressuremay feelcompounded. Issues among members of family or relaDves, even if you are not directly involved can causeaddiDonalpressure.
3.ProcrasLnaLon
Everybody procrasDnates for different reasons. However, inmany causes,many of us despair becausewe feeloverwhelmedorscaredofwhatweneedtodo.ThiscandevelopfrustraDonandunnecessarypressure.Insteadof
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tacklingathought-provokingprojectinstages,peopletrydoingtheenDreprojectatonce.Weshouldbeproudofourselvesforeveryaccomplishmentwemake,regardlessofhowli5leitis.
4.PercepLonsandAltudes
HowyouviewaparDcular situaDonor theworld candeterminewhether it causes stress. Forexample,peoplewhothinkthattheyaredoingagreat jobatworkwillhave lesspressureoutbyahugeupcomingprojectthanthosewhoworrythatthey’reincompetentorincapable.
5.UncertaintyandFear
Fearanduncertaintycanhitclosertohome,suchbeingworriedthatyouwillnotfinishaprojectatworkorwon’thaveenoughmoneytopayyourmonthlybills.Thismakesyoufeel likeyouhavenocontroloverthoseeventsandthiscanbeamajorcauseofpressure.
6.CogniLveDissonance
When there’s a split between what we think and what we do, we do experience dissonance that is felt aspressure.DissonancealsooccurswhenwefailtomeetourobligaDons.Mostofusbelievewearecommi5edandhonest,butwhen situaDonspreventus frommeeDngourobligaDonsweareall facedwithpossibilityofbeingseenasincapablethusgeneraDngalotofpressure.
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The Keys to Understanding Pressure It's easy enough to give the dicDonary definiDon of pressure.We know that it is a feeling of intense urgencycausedbyan impending task.Butwhatdoes that reallymean?Andhowdoespressureaffect thewaythatwework?Mostimportantly,howcanwecopewithpressureinordertokeepfromgeCngstressed?ThedicDonarywon'ttellyouanyofthat,butthey'reallkeystounderstandingpressure.
WhatisPressure?
Firstand foremost,pressure isapsychological feeling. Just likeangerandsadness,we feelpressuresomeDmeswhenit'sappropriateandotherDmeswhenitdoesn'tseemtobe.Healthyamountsofpressurecanhelpustowork more efficiently and effecDvely, moDvaDng us to do our very best. Unhealthy amounts of pressure, orfeelings of pressure at Dmeswhen it's not really there, can cause us to lock up nervously, siCng around andprocrasDnaDngunDltheverylastminute.Thechancesaregoodthatyou'vefeltbothtypesofpressurebefore.
WhatDoesPressureDo?
Pressuredoesdifferentthingstodifferentpeople,it'sacomplicatedfeeling.Forsomepeoplepressureraisestheirheartrate,causessweaDngandnervousness,and leadstostress.Stress intensifiesthefeelingsofpressureandcan cause a feedback loop that leaves us feeling u5erly worthless and unable to complete the task at hand.AlternaDvely,pressurecanbeseenasachallenge.ItcanmoDvateustodoourverybestwork.Pressurecanbeseenasachallengetoriseabove,orasanopportunitytodeliveronadifficultassignment.Believeitornot,it'slargelyuptoyouwhichkindofpressureyoufeel.
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ThekeytofeelingpressureasaposiDvealllaysinyourcopingskills.Ifyouknowhowtohandlepressure,thatcangoalongwaytowardunderstandingpressureandrisingaboveit.Forsomepeople,handlingpressureisassimpleasdoingafewdeepbreathingexercises.Ontheotherendofthespectrum,somepeoplewithsituaDonalanxietyneedtherapyandoccasionallymedicaDontohandlepressureandstress.Mostofusfallsomewhereinthemiddle.
Thatmeansthatit'spossibletobuildcopingskillstohandlepressure.Onthissite,thereisalistofdifferentthingsyoucantry,butthemost importantthing istodistractyourselfwhenyou'refeelingstressed.Stress isnegaDvepressurethatweplaceonourselveswhenthingsseemhopeless.StrivetofeelpressureasaposiDvefactor,asachallenge,andyou'llnotonlyunderstandpressurebutyou'llbeabletoriseaboveit.
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Three Easy Ways to Reduce Pressure Whenyouhaveaninsurmountableamountofpressureinyourlife,itcanfeelasifyouarecarryingalargeburdenonyourbackthatcanreallyslowyoudownwhenitcomestoachievingyourgoals.
Fortunatelyhowever, likemostoftheproblemsin lifethatwewillcomeacross,pressure isall inourminds.Assuch,therearesomethingsyoucandotochangeyourpercepDonofthesituaDonwhichwillresultinthereleaseofpressurefromyourlife.
1)Don'tStriveToBeAPerfecLonist
Manypeopleagreethatthewholeconceptofa5empDngtobeaperfecDonist ispre5ypointless.Bystrivingtoensurethateverythinggoesexactlythewayyouwantitdo,ulDmatelyyouwillbeseCngyourselfupforfuturefailureaswellastoputunnecessarilypressureonyourselfaswell.ThishasacounterproducDveeffectwhichwillessenDallyreduceyourabilitytodoanexcellentjob.
Thatisn'ttosaythatyoushouldn'tstrivetocompletethejobinaDmeefficientmanner,however,youshouldbeawareofthefactthatobstaclesorshortcomingsmaymanifestthemselves.Assuch,asopposedtostrivingtobeaperfecDonist,understandthatyoumayexperienceafewshortcomingshereandthere.
Themostimportantthingtorememberisthatyoushouldn'tletthemaffectyourperformance.
2)ForgetAboutWhatOthersThink
Mostof thepressure that you're experiencingmaybedue to the fact that you'reoverly concernedabout theopinionsofothers.Butasawisemanoncesaid,thetrickisn’ttoavoidhurDng,thetrickistonotmindthatthatit
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hurts.ThesamethingcanbesaidabouttheopinionsorvalidaDonofothers:thetrickisn'ttochangethewaytheythinkortogaintheirvalidaDon,thetrickistonotcareaboutwhattheythink.Asfaraspressuregoes,thetrickisn'ttoseehowyoucanpreventyourselffromexperiencepressure,becauseyouwill,thetrickistonotmindthatyou'reexperiencingpressureandassuch,youwillreleaseit.
3)JustDoIt
OneoftheinteresDngthingsaboutpressureisthatithasawayoftrappingusinastateofprocrasDnaDon.Wemayexperiencesomuchpressure, thatwesimplydonotknowwheretobegin.Assuch,westrive to focusonotherthingsorinessence,procrasDnateasopposedtofocusingonthetaskathand.However,by"justdoingit",itcanhelptostopoverthinkingaswellastogetyououtofastateofprocrasDnaDon.
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Wise Words About Pressure
“Pressuremakesdiamonds”GeorgeS.PafonJr.
“Courageisgraceunderpressure.” ErnestHemingway
“Pressureissomethingyoufeelwhenyoudon'tknowwhatyou'redoing.” ChuckNoll
“WhenwelongforlifewithoutdifficulDes,remindusthatoaksgrowstrongincontrarywinds”PeterMarshall
“TheonlypressureI’munderisthepressureI’veputonmyself.”MarkMessier
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LEADERSHIP
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Top 7 Traits of a True Leader
Therearesomecommontraitsfoundinapowerfulleader.Youmayalreadyhavesomeofthesetraits–andotherscanbedevelopedifagoalinyourlifeistobecomeatrueleader.Remember,youdon’thavetowanttoleadanarmytoreapthebenefitsoflearningleadershipskills.
Thetopseventraitsofatrueleaderinclude:
1. Knowingwhentodelegatetasks.Animportantskillforaleadertolearn–delegaDngtoothersmeansthatyoumustidenDfythestrengthsandweaknessesofthoseonyourteamandcapitalizeonthestrengthsbypassingouttasksaccordingly.
2. MaintainaposiLvealtude.KeepingyourteamupbeatandopDmisDcmeansthatyoumustmaintainaposiDveaCtudeandpresentanenergeDcfront.TheremustbeproducDvitytomeetgoals,butyoushouldbeabletobalancetheworkinghourswithsomefunDmes.WhenthosearoundyouseeyourposiDveaCtude,itwillruboff.
3. Beethicalandhonest.Holdyourselfandthosewhoworkwithyoutoahighlevelofhonestyandethicalconduct.YourfamilyandfollowersarereflecDonsofyou,soifyoupracDcehonestandethicalbehavior,theywillfollowyourpa5ern.
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4. Abilitytocommunicate.RonaldReaganwasknownas“TheGreatCommunicator,”andlookingbackathislifestyle,it’seasytounderstandwhy.Hewasabletoclearlyexplainandfocusonwhatneededtobedoneandexpressitinawaythatwasunderstood.IfyouhavetroublecommunicaDng,readbooksortakeacourseinachievingbe5ercommunicaDonskills.
5. Abilitytocommit.GeorgePa5on,commandinggeneralinWorldWarIIwasasoldierwhogotupcloseandpersonaltothoseunderhiscommand.Hefoughtinthetrenchesandmadeitapointtobewhereverhismenwereexperiencingdifficulty.Asaleader,youmustmakeacommitmenttoleadbyexample.
6. Maintainasenseofhumor.Thedaytodaybusinessofbeingaleadercanwearyoudown,butifyoumaintainasenseofhumorthroughthediscouragingDmes,yourfollowerswillmaintainhighermorale.
7. CreaLvity.Aleadershouldhavetheabilitytochangefromapaththey’reontoanotherpathbytakingacreaDvestance.SomeDmes,thedecisioninvolveshowyou’reguidingothers,butwhateverthereason,creaDvityhelpseveryoneworktowardthegoalyou’reseeking.
Youneedtobecomeatrueleaderofyourselfifyouwanttoaccomplishgreatthingsorevenmeetsmallgoals.LeadingyourfamilythroughtrialsandtribulaDonsisanotherreasontoknowhowtolead.IfyouraspiraDonistobecomeCEOofyourowncompany,it’svitallyimportantthatyouknowhowtolead.
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What is Your Leadership Style?
Knowingyourleadershipstylecanhelpyouinmanyareasofyourlifeandcareerchoices.StylesofleadershipdifferfrompersontopersonandinvolveyourstyleofimplemenDngstrategies,howyoumoDvateothersandhowyouprovidedirecDontofollowers.Somestylesofleadershiptostudyare:
1. PaternalisLc–Asyoumighthaveguessed,thepaternalisDcstyleofleadershipisbecominga“fatherfigure”foryourfollowers–whetherfamilyorwork-oriented.ThepaternalisDcstyleofleadershippromotestrustandloyaltyandfollowerstendtobecomecommi5edtotheperson.
2. Laissez-faire–Aleadershipstylewheretheruleofthumbis“handsoff.”Thisleaderletstheworkersandsubordinatesmakeallthedecisionsandonlyoffersupportwhenit’srequested.TheLaissez-faireworker/leaderrelaDonshipmaybeeffecDveincertaincases–suchasinanenvironmentwheretheworkersareveryskilledand/oreducatedandwherethefollowerscanbetrusted.
3. Authoritarian–Strictnessisthestyleofthistypeofleader.Theymaymicromanagebecausetheyprefertokeepclosecontrolovertheirfollowers.PoliciesandproceduresarethemainemphasisoftheAuthoritarianleadershipstyleandthefocusisonefficiency.
4. DemocraLc–Decisionmakingissharedwithfollowersinthistypeofleadershipstyle.PromoDngthedesiresandneedsofgroupmembersisparamountandtheleaderbelievesthateveryoneshouldplayapart
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ineverydecisionmade.
5. TransformaLonal–ThistypeofleaderhastheobjecDveoftransforminghisorherfollowers.TheseleadersmaybeverycharismaDc(suchasevangelistsorpoliDcalleaders)andmeetchallengeswithexcitementandaclearpurpose.They’regreatcommunicatorsandmayoKenbefoundintoprolesofleadership.
6. TransacLonal–ThefocusofthisleadershipstyleisonmoDvaDngthroughrewardsorformsofpunishment.Theseleadersrecognizegoodperformancesandmayprovidematerialorpsychologicalrewardsforeffort.TheymayalsousecorrecDveintervenDoniftheyfeelthataworker’sperformanceisn’tuptopar.TransacDonalleadersaregoodatenforcingrulesandlaws.
Whenyouknowyourstyleofleadership,youcanbe5erhaveavisionoftheworkyoumaybesuitedfor.Ifyoudecideyou’rea“laissez-faire”typeofleader,youlikelywouldn’tbehappyinacareersuitedforanauthoritarianstyle(suchaspolicemanorjudge).
Knowingyourleadershipstyleisespeciallyhelpfulifyou’reconsideringmakingacareerchangeortakingcourseswhichputyouonacertaincareerpath.Gettoknowthevariousleadershipstylesbeforeyoumakeacruciallife-decision.
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5 Common Mistakes Leaders Make
Leadersarepronetotakerisksandthoserisksmaycauseotherstoseethemas‘losers,’especiallyiftheleadersdon’thavefullknowledgeofwhattheendeavorconsistsofbeforetheybecomeinvolved.Somemistakescomefromthinkingsoradicallythatit’simpossibletoknowhowtakingachancewillturnout.Ifitturnsoutwell,theleaderisahero.Ifnot,seriousconsequencesmaybetheresult.
Therearesomecommonmistakesmadeamongmostleadersthatareavoidableifyouknowsomeleadershipstrategies.Herearefivecommonmistakeswhichcanandshouldbeavoidedifyou’reinaleadershiprole:
1. FocusingontasksratherthanreachingtheulDmategoal.Focusingtoomuchon“busywork”cankeepyoufromgeCngtheresultsyouwantanddesirefromateam.GreatleaderstendtofocusontheendresultsbeingreachedmorethanlookingorbeingbusyatallDmes.
2. Checkinguponemployeesratherthanengagingthem.MakeitapointtogettoknowyourteammembersandengagetheminconversaDonwhichcanpinpointwhatmakesthemDck.It’simportanttogetyourvisionacross,andyoucan’tdothatifyoumerelycheckinonceinawhile.
3. Don’tsDcktoyourownleadershipstyle.Youcanlearnfromotherleadersinhistoryandinyourbusiness,butdon’tmimicthemwhenitcomestoyourleadershipstyle.DevelopyourownandsDcktoittobecomealeaderwhostandsoutfromtheothers.
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4. Resistchange.Manyleaderstendtodowhatthey’vealwaysdoneintermsofleading.Onereasonisthatthey’retoooverwhelmedwiththecomplextasksandresponsibiliDesthatleadersmusttakeon.Ifyouwantyourbusinessorteamtoprosperandgrow,takesomeDmetoexposeyourselftonewideasthatwillimpactyourleadershipabilityinaposiDveway.
5. Hirepeopletoofasttofillaslot.Hiringsomeonejusttofillavoidisn’tagoodwaytobuildateamyoucancounton.You’llinvestDmeandeffortinmanagingthe“newhire,”butmayeventuallyneedtolethimgoifyoufindyou’vemadeamistakeinhiring.TrueleaderstaketheirDmewhenhiringandmakesuretheycancompletetheworkandgrowalongwiththecompanyorteam.
Knowwhat’sexpectedofyouintheleadershipposiDon.Youcan’tleadothersifyoudon’tknowwhatyou’restrivingfor,sobesureyou’reclearandfocusedonthevisionratherthanthesmalltasksofthejob.
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Wise Words About Leadership
"Thetaskoftheleaderistogethispeoplefromwheretheyaretowheretheyhavenotbeen."HenryKissinger
"Nevergiveanorderthatcan'tbeobeyed."GeneralDouglasMacArthur
"Tohandleyourself,useyourhead;tohandleothers,useyourheart."EleanorRoosevelt
"Ourchiefwantissomeonewhowillinspireustobewhatweknowwecouldbe."RalphWaldoEmerson
"Keepyourfearstoyourself,butshareyourcouragewithothers."RobertLouisStevenson
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What is Momentum and How Can It Work in Your Life?
ThescienDfictheoryofmomentumcanworksimilarlyinyourownlifeandtohelpyoureachgoals.ThesamefactswhichcanliKajetplaneoffthegroundcanliKyououtofastagnantlifeandputyouinaworldwhereposiDvethingshappenandyoureachthesuccessyoudesire.
ThescienDfictheoryofmomentumisMassxVelocity=Momentum.You’veprobablyseentrucksbarrelingdownthehighwayatrapidspeeds–andtheresultsofhiCngaslickspotintheroad.Thefasterthetruckisspeeding,themoredifficultitistoslowitdown.
IttakespowerfulbrakestoslowthattruckaKeritgathersacertainamountofmomentum.It’sthesamemomentumthatgetsajetplaneoffthegroundandthesamemomentumthatgetsatraintoitsdesDnaDononDme.
Asmomentumrelatestoyourlife–onceyougathermomentumandkeepitgoing,it’sgoingtobedifficulttostoptheforwardmoDonyou’vecreated.Inthebeginningmanythingscanthrowyouofftrack,butwhenyou’veworkedforaperiodofDme,momentumbuildsandcanpropelyouontosuccess.
Momentumcanmakeyousuccessfulinmanyareasofyourlife–ifyouhaveweighttolose,itbecomeseasiertokeeplosingweightaKeryou’velostafewpounds.Yourmindisset,yourhabitsofeaDngandexercisinghaveimprovedandyouhavefewerdoubtsthatyou’llreachthefinishline.
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InrelaDonships,momentumcanworktoestablishcommitmentandsharingwithothers.RelaDonshipsarefragileandmustbenourishedandnurturedconsistentlytobringabouttheresultsyouwant.
Workrelatedmomentumcanguideyouthroughthemazeofclimbingthecorporateladderorbeginningabusinessandmakingasuccessofit.Noonewantstobestuckina“going-nowhere”job,andyouneedtorecognizewhenmomentumjustisn’tworkingandmakeadecisiontomoveforwardinanotherareaorcareer.
LearnallyoucanaboutmomentumandhowthescienDficprinciplecanbeusedinallareasofyourlife.Oncethewheelsstartturning,itwillbedifficulttostopyouachievingwhatyousetouttodo.
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The Unstoppable Power of Momentum
Haveyoueverthoughtaboutwhatitwouldmeantohavethepowerofmomentumineveryaspectofyourlife?Yourcareerwouldsurelysoar,relaDonshipswouldthriveandyou’dprosperinyourfinancesbecausemomentumwouldbehelpingyouachieveeverygoalyouhaveinlife.
Youmayhaveoncehadincredibleexcitementandenthusiasmaboutagoalinyourlifeonlytohaveitshotdowninmid-air.Whathappened?Whycouldn’tyouaccomplishwhatyourmindwantedsomuchtocomplete?
Ifthishashappenedtoyou,youshouldaskyourselfanumberofquesDonsaboutyouraCtudeandabiliDesbeforeyoua5emptedtomeetthechallenge.RenownedspeakerandmoDvator,TonyRobbins,stated:“Themostimportantthingyoucandotoachieveyourgoalsistomakesurethatassoonasyousetthem,youimmediatelybegintocreatemomentum.”
Didyouimmediatelybegintocreatemomentumwhenyoudecidedonagoalinyourlife–ordidyouprocrasDnate,loseconfidence,andbecomeinDmidatedbythechallengeorotherreason?Unlessmomentumisbegunandkeptmovingalong,resistancesetsinanddestroystheheadwayyou’vemade.
Momentumcanbeunstoppableinyourlifeifyouunderstanditspower.Ifyou’veeversatonthebeachandwatchedsurferscatchagiantwave,yourealizedtherewasaphenomenalpowerbehindtheacDonofthesurferwiththewave.CatchingthatwaveatjusttherightDme,propelledhimontotheendofthewave’sjourney.
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CreaDngmomentumatjusttherightDmesinyourlifecanpropelyouontothesuccessyou’vealwaysdreamedof.ItcanbecomeanunstoppableforceinyourlifeandhelpyoucreatesomeposiDvechangesinyourlifestyle.
Momentumcanbeusedinvirtuallyeverypartofyourlife.Youcanchangebadhabitsintogoodones,helpputashakyrelaDonshipbackontrackandmoveforwardinyourcareerorbusinesspathtosuccess.
Asnowballcanturnintoanavalancheifitgathersenoughforcealongthewayandalthoughanavalanchecancausedamage,thesameforceinyourmentalandphysicalacDonscanpropelyouaheadtoallgoodthings.
Thesheerforceofthemomentumyoucreatewillalsomeanthatyou’llturnintoafast-movingmachine.You’llgainmoreconfidencejustasasnowballgathersmoresnowandtherewon’tbeanythingyoucan’tachieve.
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5 Simple Exercises to Create Daily Momentum in Your Business
Howdifferentwouldyourbusinesslookifyouaddedthepowerofmomentumeveryday?Ifyouownyourownbusiness,it’sespeciallyimportantthatyoucreateandgatherallthemomentumyoucantohelpsetyourreputaDonashonestbecauseyoudealwithothersfairlyandaccurately.
Youmaynotneedmomentumtosimplyhangupashingleandcallyourselfabusiness-person,butifyouwanttorealizesuccessandcreateasolidbusiness,base–momentumisessenDal.
BelowarefiveimportantacDonsyoucantaketoensureyourbusinesssuccess:
1. UnderstandyourpresentsituaLon.You’vegottohonestlyandaccuratelyassessyourpresentbusinesssituaDontogettothenextlevelofbusinesssuccess.TakesomeDmetoevaluateyourincome,customersandbillssothatyouhaveagoodunderstandingofwhereyouarenowsoyoucanfocusonwhichthingsyoumightimproveupon.
2. Visualizeyoursuccess.Wheredoyouwantyourbusinesstobeayearfromnow–howaboutfiveyearsfromnow?Researchsomechallengesyoumightfacewhena5empDngtogrowyourbusinessandaddresshowyou’regoingtohandle(minimize)them.Beforemomentumcanhelpyoubecomesuccessful,youhavetovisualizewhatthesuccesslookslike.
3. IniLateaplan.AKeryouunderstandthebackgroundofyourbusiness,looktothefutureandcreateaplanofacDonwhichwillpropelyouaheadofwhereyouarerightnow.Youwouldn’tthinkofbeginninga
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journeywithoutlookingatamapfirst(orcarryingyourGPS)andyoushouldn’tthinkofexpandingyourbusinesswithoutfirstimplemenDngagoodplan.
4. TakeacLon.Momentumwillnevertakeyouoffthegroundfloorifyoudon’ttakesomedecisivestepstocompleteyourgoalsanddreamsofsuccess.Yourmasterplanshouldconsistoflargegoalsbrokendownintosmallones.CompleDngonesmallgoalwillcreatethemomentumyouneedtogoontothenext–andsoon.
5. Neverstop.Noma5erhowdiscouragedyoubecome,insertposiDvethoughtsandacDonsinplaceofthenegaDveonesandkeeponthepathwithyourmomentumpushingyouforward.
Ratherthanself-sabotagingyourbusinesssuccessbylimiDngyourselfwithfearsanddoubt,vowtobecomedeterminedinyourquestforsuccessanddowhatittakestogetwhereyouwanttobe.
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Wise Words About Momentum
“Onewaytokeepmomentumgoingistohaveconstantlygreatergoals.”MichaelKorda
“Theworldiswide,andIwillnotwastemylifeinfricDonwhenitcouldbeturnedintomomentum.”FrancesE.Willard
“Enthusiasmistheenergyandforcethatbuildsliteralmomentumofthehumansoulandmind.”BryantH.McGill
“SomeDmesthinkingtoomuchcandestroyyourmomentum.”TomWatson
“GeCngmomentumgoingisthemostdifficultpartofthejob.”RobertJ.McKain
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ASSERTIVENESS
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How Assertive are You? AnimportantpartoflifeskillsisthedevelopmentofasserDveness.Withoutit,youcouldfeeldisrespectedordisregardedinrelaDonshipsandcareerpaths.AsserDvenessisallaboutfeelingconfidentinyourideas,thoughtsandbeliefsthatyoucanaskordemandwhatyouwantinacalmandeffecDvemanner.
AsserDvenessisalsoaboutrefusingtoacceptwhatyoudon’twant.Forexample,ifsomeonecutsinfrontofyouatthesupermarket,doyoucallthemonitorjustkeepquiet?Ifyoudon’tspeakup,youprobablyleavethestorefeelingangryandfrustrated.
Ifyou’reanaggressivepersonality,youmayreacttothesamesituaDonbybecomingover-angryandshouDngatthepersonwhocutinline.Thattypeofbehaviorisunacceptableandcancauseseriousconflict.
YoumayhaveproblemsbeingasserDvewiththoseinauthority–forexample,parents,bossesorotherswhoyoufeelare“above”you.Youmaynothavetheconfidencetospeakuparoundthesepeopleforfearthatyou’llloseyourjoborbelookedatasconfrontaDonal.
AskyourselfthefollowingquesDonstogaugehowasserDveyouare:
• Doyouspeakupwhenyoudisagreewithsomeone?
• Doyoudowhat’srighteventhoughitgoesagainstwhatothersaredoing?
• Wouldyouremindapersonaboutmoneytheyborrowedandneedtopayback?
• Canyouaskforhelpifneeded?
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• Canyoutellpeoplewhenyou’redisappointedinthem?
• Doyoutellsomeoneifthey’vehurtyourfeelings?
• Ifsomeoneisconsistentlylate,doyoutellhimhowitmakesyoufeel?
• Canyourefuseifsomeoneasksyoutodosomethingwrong?
Thinkaboutpeoplewhomyoureallyadmire?ChancesaretheydisplaythehonorablequalityofbeingasserDvewhenneeded.There’safinelinebetweenaggressivenessandasserDveness,buttheconsequencesmaybefar-reaching.
CommonsensecanleadyouawayfrombeingtooaggressivesothatfeelingsarehurtandrelaDonshipsarelost.AsyoupracDceasserDvenessinyourdailylife,you’llbecomemoreadeptatknowingwhenandwherethelineiscrossedandbeingabletoavoidit.
LearnallyoucanaboutasserDvenessandapplythelessonswhereneededinyourlife.Theself-esteemthatcomesfromstandingupforyourselfanddemandingthatyourrightsberespectedcantransformyourlifeandleadyoutosuccess.
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You Can Learn to be Assertive AreyouDredofleCngotherstakeadvantageofyou?Itcouldhappenatworkorwhensomeonecutsinfrontofyouatthesupermarket.You’reirritated,butdon’tsayanything–andtheangerandfrustraDonbuildstoaboilingpoint.
Ifyou’repassivethatangerandfrustraDonneverescapesyourbodyandmaycausehealthproblems.Ifyou’reaggressive,theangerandfrustraDonmayendwithyoubeingabusivetoapetorlovedone.
YoucanlearntobecomemoreasserDve,speakupforyourselfandbecomemoreconfident.Butfirst,youneedtheasserDvenessskillsthatwillhelpyoubesurerofyourselfandtheacDonsyouwanttotake.
BecomeanAdvocateforYou!
ThefirststepinbecomingmoreasserDveistodecidetobecomeyourownadvocate.Thatmeansyouhavetoassertyourselfinyourjob,withfriendsandfamilyandotherswhomaydisrespectyou.
It’ssomeDmesscarytostandupforyourself–especiallywhenyou’reafraidoflosingyourjoboraspecialrelaDonship.EventhoughitcansomeDmesbeachallenge,havingyourownbackwillmakeyouhappierandhelpyoulivelifeonyourownterms.
TherearethreemainingredientstodevelopingasserDvenessskillsandbecomingyourownadvocate:
1. Knowwhatyouwant.
2. Believethatit’syourrighttohaveit.
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3. ExpressitwithcourageanddeterminaDon.
Learningtosay“no”isoneofthehardestthingstoovercomewhenasserDngyourselfeffecDvely.Friendsandfamily,spousesandyourjobmayhavetakenadvantageofyouforyearsandyou’vebeentrainedtosay“yes”toeveryrequest,eventhoughitmaymeanyou’reoverworkedandunder-appreciated.
Whenyoubecomeanadvocateforyourself,you’reactuallybefriendingyourselfandwhenyoubecomeyourownBFF,goodthingswillbegintohappen.You’llbeabletosDcktoyourbeliefsandvaluesbecauseyoudon’twanttoletyourselfdown.
WhenyoubreakthedestrucDvepa5ernsofpassivenessoraggressiveness,you’llbeamazingatthenewsenseoffreedomandtheposiDveoutcomesyou’llgainwhenyousDckupforyourselfinahealthymanner.
BecomingasserDveinyourpersonalandworkinglifeisthemostimportanttoolyoucanculDvateforyourulDmatesuccess.It’stheabilitytostateyourwantsandneedsclearlyandshareyourfeelingscalmly,butforcefullytogetwhatyouwant.
LearntobecomeasserDve–andlovethefreedomandself-confidenceitbringstoyourlife.
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How to Set Personal Boundaries Ifyouhavetroubletakingupforyourselfandsaying“no”whenneeded,youmayneedtothinkaboutseCngpersonalboundarieswhichwillprotectyoufromthosewhowouldtakeadvantageofyou.
SeCngpersonalboundariesisthetopmethodyoucanusetoimproveyourlife.Bystandingupforyourself,you’llgainself-esteemandfreedomfromtryingtopleaseeveryone.
Youmayhavetroubleinthebeginningtoassertyourselfandsetpersonalboundaries–especiallyifyou’vebeenpassiveinthepast.Ifyou’vebeenaggressive,youmayhavehandledboundarieswithangerandlashingout.Dealingwithboundarieswithpassiveoraggressivemethodsisn’tgoodbehavior.
Someoftheissuesyouneedtodealwithbeforebeginningtostandupforyourpersonalboundariesincludethefollowing:
1. Knowyourboundaries.Beclearwithyourselfaboutyourbeliefsandvalues–whatmakesyoufeeluncomfortableandhowyounowhandlesituaDonswhichcompromiseyourboundaries.
2. Useclearandconciselanguage.AKeryouknowyourboundaries,assertyourselfbyusingclearlanguageabouthowyoufeelwhenboundariesarebeingcrossed.
3. Don’tbea“yes”man.PartofseCngboundariesisknowingwhentosay“no”topeopleyouworkwithandinyourpersonalsphereoffamilyandfriends.Youloseyourpersonalfreedomwhenyoutakeontoomuch.
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4. PayafenLontoyourinternalboundaries.Ifsomeoneoffendsordisrespectsyou,askyourselfifwhatwassaidistrue.Yourinternalboundariesarelinesdrawnwithinyourselfwhichpreventyoufrombelievingeverythingsomeonesaysaboutyou.
5. Knowyourrights.Youshouldn’tfeelguiltyaboutexpressingyourselfandaskingforwhatyouneedinarespecoulmanner.Youhaveeveryrighttodemandthatyou’retreatedfairlyandwithrespectinallareasofyourlife.
BeginseCngpersonalboundariesbyusingsimpleanddirectstatementsinanon-threateningtone.Youmayfeeluncomfortableforawhile,butyou’llsoonfeelapowerthatwillmakeyoustrongerandmoreadeptatdrawinglinesatbehaviorsyouwillaccept–ornotaccept–fromothers.
Youdon’tneedtodebatetheissuesofyourboundariesorexplainyourselftoothers.BefirmandconsistentinrepeaDngyourrequestsorstatementsandreinforceyouracDonsbystayingdetermined.
Youmayneedtoovercomeguiltfeelingswhenyoubegintosetpersonalboundaries.Rememberthatyoushouldfirstconsideryourselfinanydealingsandmakeyourselfthepriority–ratherthansomeoneelse’sbeliefsandfeelings.
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Wise Words About Assertiveness
“Thedifferencebetweensuccessfulpeopleandreallysuccessfulpeopleisthatreallysuccessfulpeoplesaynotoalmosteverything.”WarrenBuffef
“Iencouragepeopletorememberthat"no"isacompletesentence.”
GavindeBecker
“Choosetobepro-acDve,asserDveandself-defining.”BryantMcGill
“TherearealwaysDmeswhenself-asserDvenessrequirescourage”
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“AsserDvenessisyourabilitytoactinharmonywithyourself-esteemwithouthurDngothers. AuthorUnknown
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THE END?
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AnendingisoKenthebeginning.
Nowthatyouhaveworkedyourwaythroughthisbook-youshouldhaveacDonablestepstotakesothatyoucantrulybecomeabe5eryou.
Yournextsteps:
Workyourwaythroughthisguideagain,butthisDmejotdownthreegoalsforeachsecDon.ThesegoalsshouldbespecificstepsthatyoucantaketoincreaseyourabilityineachofthesecDons.
Asanexample,forthepassionsecDonyoucouldmakeitagoaltowritedown3thingsyouarepassionateabout.Thatonegoalmightnotsoundlikea“gamechanger”,butitisjustonesmallpartofawhole.
Ifyouwritedown3goalslikethatforeachofthetensecDonsthenyouwillhaveaneasytofollowblueprintthatwilltellyouexactlywhatyouhavetodotobecomeabe5eryou.
Foryourconveniencewehaveincludedanareaforyoutojotdownyourgoals…
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Your “Better-You” Goals
3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMorePassionate:
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2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMoreOpLmisLc:
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
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3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeHappier:
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMoreConfident:
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
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3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMorePosiLve:
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3GoalstoHelpMeFindWhatInspiresMe:
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
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3GoalstoHelpMeBeferDealWithPressure:
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeABeferLeader:
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
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3GoalstoHelpMeBuildPersonalMomentum
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3GoalstoHelpMeBecomeMoreAsserLve:
1.__________________________________________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________________________________________
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A Month Until A Better You
CongratulaDonsonwriDngdown3goalsforeachsecDon.SimplywriDngdownyourgoalsisaverypowerfulexercise.Sofewpeopledoit,thatyouinstantlygainanedgeassoonasyou“putpentopaper”.
YoumightnothavenoDcedasyouwerewriDngyourgoals,butthe3goalspersecDonwaschosenforareason.Younowhave30goals.Thatisbasicallyamonth.Ifyouworkononeofthesegoalseachday-youwillhavecompletedyourlistinamonth.Thinkaboutit-abe5eryouinjustamonth.Whatcouldbebe5er>
Youdon’thavetoworkthroughyourgoalsthatquicklythough.Theimportantthingisthatyouworkthroughthemassoonasyoucan.Aslongasyourpaceissteady,andyoukeepthemomentumrolling,youwilldogreat.
Bestofluck-IhopeyoulookforwardtomeeDngthebe5eryou.
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