Conversation Skills: Conversation Skills: Listening Listening

IntroductionsIntroductions RED – “What is your favorite book and why?”RED – “What is your favorite book and why?” BLUE – “What is the last movie you saw? BLUE – “What is the last movie you saw?

How was it?How was it? GREEN – “What is your favorite musical GREEN – “What is your favorite musical

group and your favorite song?”group and your favorite song?” BROWN – “Do you have a collection? What BROWN – “Do you have a collection? What

is it and how old were you when you started is it and how old were you when you started it?”it?”

YELLOW – “What country would you like to YELLOW – “What country would you like to visit and why?”visit and why?”

ORANGE – “What was your best vacation ORANGE – “What was your best vacation ever and why?”ever and why?”

Is This a Conversation? Why?Is This a Conversation? Why?So what do you

think of the color, I look good don’t you

think?

What is a What is a Conversation?Conversation?

At least 2 peopleAt least 2 people Take turnsTake turns

She Says…… He Says

Conversation Skills: Conversation Skills: ListeningListening

Look at the person who is talkingLook at the person who is talking

ListeningListening Look at the person who is Look at the person who is

talkingtalking Think about what is being saidThink about what is being said Wait your turn to talk – don’t Wait your turn to talk – don’t

interruptinterrupt Stand at an appropriate Stand at an appropriate

distancedistance

What facial expressions or body What facial expressions or body postures show that you are too postures show that you are too close during a conversation?close during a conversation?

Am I Too Close? Activity

Genuine Genuine ListeningListening

Listen with your eyes, Listen with your eyes, heart, and earsheart, and ears

Stand in the other Stand in the other person’s shoesperson’s shoes

Give feedback to Give feedback to show you’re listening show you’re listening (role play)(role play)

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Let’s Try It:Let’s Try It:

Read your statement to Read your statement to me.me.

Everyone watch and rate Everyone watch and rate how well I listen. Did I:how well I listen. Did I: Look at the speaker?Look at the speaker? Wait my turn to speak?Wait my turn to speak? Listen genuinely?Listen genuinely? Stand at an appropriate Stand at an appropriate

distance?distance?

4 Poor Listening Skills4 Poor Listening Skills Spacing OutSpacing Out Selective ListeningSelective Listening Word Listening(no feeling)Word Listening(no feeling) Self-centered ListeningSelf-centered Listening

From: 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey

Hearing only parts I’m interested in…….

Role PlayRole Play

Identify Identify examples of examples of good and poor good and poor listeninglistening

How Well Did You Listen?How Well Did You Listen? RED – “What is your favorite book and why?”RED – “What is your favorite book and why?” BLUE – “What is the last movie you saw? BLUE – “What is the last movie you saw?

How was it?How was it? GREEN – “What is your favorite musical GREEN – “What is your favorite musical

group and your favorite song?”group and your favorite song?” BROWN – “Do you have a collection? What BROWN – “Do you have a collection? What

is it and how old were you when you started is it and how old were you when you started it?”it?”

YELLOW – “What country would you like to YELLOW – “What country would you like to visit and why?”visit and why?”

ORANGE – “What was your best vacation ORANGE – “What was your best vacation ever and why?”ever and why?”

So, what do you think?So, what do you think?

Can you think of any times when you should NOT listen?

Listening Skills:

•Look at the person Look at the person

who is talkingwho is talking

•Think about what is Think about what is

being saidbeing said

•Wait your turn to talk Wait your turn to talk

– don’t interrupt– don’t interrupt

•Stand at an Stand at an

appropriate distanceappropriate distance

•Listen genuinely Listen genuinely

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