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Either you control your mind,or your mind will control you.

INSPIRING MILLIONS WORLDWIDE

SANDEEP MAHESHWARI

How to control your

Mind?

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Feelfreetoshareitwithasmanypeopleasyoulike.

SandeepMaheshwariisanameamongmillionswhostruggled,failed

andsurgedahead insearchofsuccess,happinessandcontentment.

Justlikeanymiddleclassguy,hetoohadabunchofuncleardreamsand

ablurredvisionofhisgoalsinlife.Allhehadwasanundyingattitudeto

holdonto.Rowingthroughupsanddowns,itwastimethattaughthim

thetruemeaningoflife.

Andoncediscovered,heconsistentlykeptresigningfromhiscomfort

zonetosharpenhisunderstandingandshareitwiththeentireworld.

His unshakable faith in the divine power is what grants him the

strengthtothrive.

Inspiringcountlesspeoplefromallwalksof life indiscoveringtheir

true potential through his Free Seminars, he strongly believes that

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itthemost.”

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About Sandeep Maheshwari

WeashumanbeingsaredrivenbytheMind.TheMindthatpersistently

seekspleasureandavoidspain.Itonlythinksaboutnowandwhat’s

immediate.Labeling things inacertainway, theminddifferentiates

pleasurefrompainpurelyfromtheimmediatepointofview.Itisshort

sighted and turns blind when it comes to thinking about the

consequences.FortheMind,there’snorightorwrong.Instinctsare

whatdrivethemind.SoconditionedarewebytheMindthatweare

usedtoseeingthingsinacertainway;dothingsthewaywehavealways

done.However,whenwe learn tocontrolourmindandmasterour

thinking,itisonlythenwehavethepowerandfreedomtochangeour

livesprofoundly.

Ever since the video ‘How to Control your Mind’ by Sandeep

Maheshwari went live on YouTube, countless people reported

signi�icanttransformationintheirlives.Requestsstartedpouringin

andthevideowastranslatedintothisE-Bookformoreandmoreto

bene�itfrom.

ThisbookisthecruxofadialoguebetweenSandeepMaheshwariand

theaudience.Thedialoguemainlypointsoutthedifferencebetween

duallevelsofexistence.TheMindandtheIntellect.Itoutlineshowthe

IntellectcanbeusedtodirecttheMindintherightdirection.While

giving you a complete demonstration punctuated with real life

relatable examples of how to control the Mind, the narrator also

spotlightsthetruelevelofexistenceandunveilsthein�initeamidstthe

�initeworld.

Preface

Sandeep Maheshwari:Goodmorningeverybody.Pleasehaveaseat.

Audience:GoodmorningSir!Wearedeeplyoverwhelmedseeingyoulive,inperson,forthe�irsttime.

Sandeep Maheshwari:So,youguystellmewhichtopicshouldItouchupontoday?

Audience: Simplifyinglife!

Sandeep Maheshwari:Simplifyinglife!Fine.

Audience:Howtomakebetterdecisions?

Audience:Howtoreducethegapbetweenknowinganddoing?

Sandeep Maheshwari:Knowinganddoing.Youmeanweknowwhatisright,butstill,weendupdoingthewrongthings.

Audience:Exactly.

Audience:Howtomakelifepeacefulirrespectiveofthesituation?

Sandeep Maheshwari:Okay!Anythingelse?

Audience: Weknowthatweshouldnotbefearfulbutstill,weendupbeingafraid.Weobservehowlazyweareineverydaylife.Forinstance,rising up early, eating healthy, we all know are a few good habits.Knowingso,wearestillunabletoimplementthesethoughts.Butwhenitcomestoadvisingothers,wegoaheadandtellpeopletobefearlessandtakelifeasitcomes.Welectureotherstobeindifferenttothesituationandtofocusonwork,gooddeedsandwhatnot.Butassoonaswe�indourselvesinsuchasituation...

Sandeep Maheshwari: …wegetstuck,right?

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How to Control your Mind?

Audience: Exactly! And even if we are aware of the right actionmomentarily, it so happens that something else comes our way anddistractsusagain.

Sandeep Maheshwari:Okay,takingyourpointfurther.NowwheredoyouthinktheMindgetsdistracted?Where?

Obviously, towards pleasures, towards anything and everything thatgivesuspleasurableexperiences.Wetrytoavoidanythingthatgivesuspain.Therefore,thepointishowtopersuadetheMindintodoingthingsthatareactuallyright,butdonotassureusofanysuchpleasure.HowcanthisMindbemanaged,ifatallitcanbe?Thereisonlyonewaytodothat and that is to use our Intellect. The deeper we understand aparticularissueatanintellectuallevel,thesoonerweshallrealisewhatthatissueisallabout.Anditisnotthatwedonotunderstandtheissueanditsconsequencesatpresent.Buthavingsaidthat,ourunderstandingor knowledge is not deep enough regarding that very issue. In otherwords,itissuper�icial.Butifyoureallycontemplateanddigdeep,you’lldropitandletgoofit.

Audience: Sir,wemostlypay lipservice to these things.As in, Ihavelistenedtoallyoursessions.Infact,Istartmydaybylisteningtoyoursessions.Butasthedayprogresses,everythingIheardinthemorningfadesofftheMindbythenight.

Sandeep Maheshwari:Look,thisisanimportantpointtounderstand.Lifeislikea�lowingriver.Andwhatwearetryingtodo?Wearetryingtodrawlinesonafree�lowingriver.Isthispossible?No,ofcourseit’snot.Weallknowthat.So,whattodo?

Forexample:let’slookatthewavesbeingformedintheriver.Nowwhatisthereasonbehindtheirveryformation?AsIsaid,wehavetodigdeepandunderstandthisphenomenaattheIntellectlevel.Therearerockslyingontheriverbed.And it is theseveryrocks thatwhenkept inaparticularformation,aremakingthewater�lowfaster.Whileatotherplaces,wheretherockformationsaredifferent,thewaterisrelativelycalmer.Itimpliesthattheseveryrocksarecausingwavesinthewater.Similarly,whileI’mspeaking:ImagineI’mdrawinga�igurativelineinthe


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riversofyourMind-youhearmeandthenpromptlyforgetwhatIjustsaid.Itwon’tmakeadifferencetoyourlife.Buttomakesomelifealteringchanges,youneedtochangetheformationofthoserockslyingattheriverbedofyourlife.Anditneedssomeseriouseffort.Sowhenyoustartmaking these alterations by bringing them in practice, your entirepersonalitybeginsundergoingtransformation.Andoneday,youareabletodemolishalltherocksinyourlife’sriverbed.Henceendingtheverycauseofall therestlessnesswithinyou. It is thatverymomentwhenyourlifebecomesaserene�lowingriver.However,ifyoudon’tbringasinglethingtoactualpractice,allthesesessionsarelikelinesdrawnonwater.Drawnanderased.Andthiswillgoonlikethis.Nouse.

Right now, driven by our old habit patterns, we have no controlwhatsoeveronourlives.Ourhabitsmouldusthewaytheywant.Thesehabitsarenotrecent.Theyhavebeenformedoveracontinuousprocessofseveralyears.Howcanyouevenexpectthemtoevaporatebysimplylisteningtojustonesession?Forthat,the�irststepistotellyourmind:See,thisistherightthingtodoandthisoptionisnotrightforme,hence,Imustavoidit.Afterthis�irststep,youhavetotheninculcatetherightthings into your everyday life. This will make your Intellect developgradually,making itstronger.Now,howdoes thishappen?See, ifyouthinkcorrectly,yourIntellectstrengthens.Varioususelessconversationsdotheroundseverywhere.AnditistheseverybaselessconversationsthattriggertheMindwithevenmorewastefulthoughtsdayinanddayout. These thoughts weaken our Intellect. And in turn, our Mindbecomespowerful.

It’sthisveryMindthatmakesusdrinkalcohol,playloudmusic,dancelikecrazy,andthendriveat200km/hour.Isthisnotwhatpeopleusuallydo?Whydoyouthinktheydoit?JustbecausetheirMindcontrolsthem.Rather,iftheirIntellectwouldhavecontrolledthesamesituation,whatwouldhavebeentheadvice?Goaheadanddrink,perhaps,evendanceinanightclub,butdrivingafterdrinkingisNOTpermitted.

Whosejobistotalksense?IsityourMindorIntellect?Intellectofcourse.However,mostofthetimeweignorethisIntellect.Soallweneedtodoistostrengthenit.Buthow?


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The�irstandforemoststepistoplantcorrectthoughtsintotheMind.AndIguess,they’resomewherewithinourselvesonly.ButtheproblemsurfaceswhentheMindfeedsonourinstinctivenatureofbeinginclinedtowards immediate pleasureswhich are highly enjoyable.And this iswherewestoppayingheedtowardsthe Intellect. Isn’t it?Ourmind’sbasicnatureistorunafterpleasures.Whowouldn’tloveifeverythinginhislifeoccursaccordingtowhatonefeelslike?Ontheotherhand,whatI’mtryingtodoisanoff-beatthing.Nowlet’ssayyouacceptsomeofthethings I’m saying andperhaps reject the rest. Somepart ofwhat I’msayingwouldmakesensetoyou,supposeyoustartapplyingitinyourlife.Thisinitialpushstartsaprocessoftransformationinyou.Youwillnotice changes in yourself. The joy that you feel from these gradualimprovementsinyourselfwillbeamilliontimesbiggerthanthejoyyoudrawfrompettypleasures.It’saprocesswhereyouacceptthatyouhaveweaknesses,youacceptthemandgraduallyyouovercomethem.Whatdoyouthinkwillgiveyougreaterjoy?OvercomingyourweaknessesorcarryingonbeingapuppetoftheMind,likeyouhavealwaysdone?

Audience:Overcomingourweaknesses…

Sandeep Maheshwari: De�initely! But having said that, what is thepresent scenario? It all startswith these small badhabits giving youthesemeagrepleasures.ThencomesaphasewhentheMindgetsboredof them and gravitates you towards worse habits to draw moremomentarypleasure.Andthesehabitsonlyworsenfurtherwithtime.Thisiswhatusuallyhappensinourlives.However,thereisnodenyingthatoneneedstoheadinthedirectionofpleasure,butbydoingcorrectthings.Thereisacertainpleasureinbeingrightful.Forinstance,beingtruthfulshouldmakeyouhappy.Let’ssaythereareathousandpeoplelyingaboutsomething,yougothereandspeakthetruth.Imagine,whatfunitwouldbe!

Audience: But Sir, in that case we may also have to face the wrathsometimes.

Sandeep Maheshwari:Yes,maybe.Butthat’swheretheIntellectcomesin.Youneedtounderstandwhetheritisnecessarytotakeastand.For


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example, you know somepolitician is a crook.And supposedly, he isaddressing a rally surroundedbyhis supporters.Now if youwalk intherecallinghimacrook,theywillbeatthelifeoutofyou.Thepointisnottobecomeahero.Thepointistotakeastandwhereitisnecessary.Or else, be silent.Being silent is also taking a stand in itself. Isn’t it?Supposetherearetenpeopleataweddinggossipingandbitchingaboutpeople. This iswhat happens at such get-togethers usually.NowyoudecidethatnomatterhowmuchtheMindprodsme,youwillbesilent.Isn’tthistakingastandinitself?

Audience:Sir,butthisMindisextremelypowerful.

Sandeep Maheshwari:Yesindeed.VeryPowerful.

Audience:Sointhiseffortofcontrollingit,wewillfailrepeatedly,won’twe?

Sandeep Maheshwari: Yes, obviously. But the Intellect is also verypowerful. In fact, don’t underestimate the Intellect. For it is farmorepowerfulthantheMind. Ifyouunderstandsomethingdeeplyenough,thenyoucanchangethedirectionofyourthinking.Letmegiveyouanexampleyouallcanrelatewith.

Let’s say,when you look at yourmother andwhen you look at yourgirlfriend,areyourreactionssameinboththecasesordifferent?

Audience:Different…

Sandeep Maheshwari:Andwhy’sthat?

Audience:Becausetherelationshipsarede�ined.

Sandeep Maheshwari: Butwhere are these relationships de�ined? InyourMindorinyourIntellect?

Audience:IntheMind.


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Sandeep Maheshwari: No, they’re de�ined in the Intellect. Get thisabsolutelyclearinyourhead.

See,what is the basic nature of theMind?TheMind has no interestwhatsoeverinpeopleorthings.TheMindratherfeedsonexperiences.As far as theMind is concerned, it considers both yourmother andgirlfriendtobejustanotherbody.Themindisnotdiscerning.TheMinddoesnotcaretodifferbetweenthetwo.ThisistheveryIntellectthatdifferentiatesbetweenyourmotherandyourgirlfriend.AtthelevelofIntellect,everythingchanges.Theentirechainofreactionsisreversed.Ifyou touch or look at your mother, the feeling generated in you isdifferent. Whereas if you touch, hear or see your girlfriend, it’s acompletelydifferentfeeling.Whyisthishappening?Whyisitthatwhenyoutouchyourmotherthefeelingisdifferentaltogether?Itisbecausethereisadeeprootedculture,especiallyinIndiaortheEast.Here,themother is considered to be synonymous to God. This is somethingalreadyfedtotheIntellect.AndifsomethingisfedverydeeplytotheIntellect,theMinddoesnotdaretogoagainstit.Forinstance,afteryouget married, and you realise that from now on, you are committedtowards yourwife. It’s her andher alone, nobody else. This is calledclarity given by the Intellect. Now what happens when you seesomebodyelse?Itdoesn’tprovokeanyreactioninyouwhatsoever.Themindthusisneutralised.SuchisthepoweroftheIntellect.

AndanyonewhotakesdecisionsonthebasisoftheMind,getstrapped.Let’ssay,youhaveagoodrelationshipwithyourwifebutsomehow,yourmindisdriftinginthedirectionofanotherfemale.Now,howwillyoucontroltheMind?Howwillyougetoutofthisattraction?YourIntellecttellsyouthatyouwillendagoodrelationshipwithyourwife.Andallthisforwhat?Justforthesakeofmomentarypleasure.Yourentirelifegetsdestroyed.Andwhodidallthis?Someoneelse?Wasitbecauseofthatfemale?Thinkaboutit.Itwasyou.YourMind.That’swhy,ithastobeabsolutelyclear.Ithastobeclearastowhatiscorrectandwhatisnot.You must grasp this concept in its entirety. And that’s not going tohappeninaday.


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Audience: Sir, we got what you’re saying. But even if we make adeterminedeffort.Sayforinstance,ifweseetheMinddivertingallovertheplace,wecanmakeoutthatitiswandering.Butwhenwemakeanefforttocontrolit,doyouthinkitwillbeuseful?

Sandeep Maheshwari:Seeit’simportanttounderstandwhatdoestheword‘effort’exactlymean.EffortdoesnotmeantostoptheMindfromrunningintosomedirection.Becausethemoreyoustopit,thefasteritwillruninthatverydirection.That’sthebasicnatureoftheMind.Andyoucanseeitforyourself.Let’ssayyouareayoungmaleandyourMindisgettingattractedtowardsafemale.Now,trytocontrolit.“Nono,ImustcontrolmyMind;Imuststopitfromgoingthere.”ThemoreyoustoptheMind, themore it goes towards her andmost likely youwill end upfallinginlovewiththatverygirl!

Thisiscalledmisplacedeffort.Effortmustbeintheformofwisdom,theIntellect.Themindisrunningtowardssomebody,bringtheIntellectintothepicture.Bringinyourunderstanding,yoursensibility.Takeittothelogicallevelofconclusion.Whytomakeyourlifesocomplex?Whytorunafterinstant,short-drivenpleasures?It’sthatsimple.

Audience:Let’ssayIhavedecidedtotakefruitsindinner.MyIntellecthasmanagedtoexplaintomyMindthatthispracticeishealthyforme.SoIhavebeenabletodothateveryday,butonlyforafewdays.Onsaythe�ifthday,itislikelythatmyMinddominatesmyIntellectandtellsmeit’stimetotakeabreak.So,onceagain,IambacktonormalandeatingwhateverIfeellike.

Sandeep Maheshwari: That’s a very good point. I, myself haveexperiencedallthesesituationsinmylife.SoIcanrelatetowhatyouaresaying.NevertrytocompletelyopposetheMinduntilyourIntellectispowerful enough. Always start with making small changes in thebeginning.

Sincechildhood,weareintoahabitofeatingacertainkindoffood.Let’ssay,youtrytochangethesehabitsatonceandgoonadiet.Whatdoyouthinkwillhappen?YourMindwillgetagitated.Therewillbeallkindsof


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reactionsinyourbody.Youwillgetaheadache.You’llfeelpanickyandsoon.Ultimately,youwillgiveupandeatanythingandeverything.Isn’tit?

Sowhatisthewayout?UseyourIntellectandtellyourself,“JustbecauseI’vechosentoeatfruitsatnight,doesnotmeanit’shealthyforme.”Nowhere,I’mtalkingaboutfacts.Inmyopinion,eatingfruitsatnightisnotthecorrectthingtodo.Thebesttimetoeatfruitsisinthemorningasthemetabolismisatitslowest.Sosugarisbestconsumedthen.

Nowwhich sideofmeknowsabout all these facts?TheMindor theIntellect?TheIntellect,ofcourse.Ifwetalkaboutdieting,thegoldenruleis:Nevermakemajorchangesinyourdiet.It’snotgoodbothforyourbodyandyourMind.Instead,whatyoucandoisstartconsumingthesamediet inadifferentway.Suppose theoilyouareusing ishigh insaturated fats. Perhaps you can replace that oil with the one havinghigher levelsofPUFAandMUFA.PUFAmeansPolyUnsaturatedFattyAcids.MUFAmeansMonoUnsaturatedFattyAcids.Whenyoustartusinghealthieroils,itwillreducethefatinyourbody.Veryoften,wemistakefat with weight. However, losing weight is not always good for you.Weightcanreduceduetotworeasons.Losingmusclemasswillmakeyouloseweightquickly.Butitisnotgoodtolosemuscle.Ontheotherhand,losingfatisgoodforthebody.Butfatlossdoesn'tshowmajorlyontheweighingscale.Say,ifyoulosesomemusclemass,youwillinstantlyseea3kilodropinbodyweight.Butloosingthesameamountoffatwillonlyshow1kiloofweightlossonscale.Sowhatisitthatyou’retryingtoremovefromthebody?Muscleorfat?

Audience:Fat.

Sandeep Maheshwari:Youhavetoremovefatandincreasethemusclemass.Youdon’treallyknowwhatiscausingthisweightloss.Fruitshaveverylittleproteinsowhathappens?Fatincreasesandmusclesreduce.Youlookatyourweightinthemorningandarehappythatyou’velostweight.Thisweightlossisofnouse.Andyouwillonlyknowitthroughthe Intellect. Your Intellect will bring about minor changes in yourlifestyle,inyourbodyandinyourdiet.Yourmindwillnotevennotice


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thosechanges.Inotherwords,theMindwillbetrickedbytheIntellect.

Audience:Soisthereagapbetweenwhatwethinkandwhatactuallyiscorrect?

Sandeep Maheshwari:Ahugegap…

Audience:Sowhatshouldonedoinordertoreducethisgap?

Sandeep Maheshwari: Sharpen your understanding. There are someissueswhereitdoesn’tmatterwhetheryouhaveadeepunderstandingornot.Let’ssaytherearetwopoliticalparties.Somethinkonepoliticianisrightwhileothersfeelanotherpoliticianistherightone.Itwillbeaneverendingdebate.Butwhat’sthepoint?Ifyouasktheseverypeoplewhattheyunderstandabouttheirownbody,Whoosh!Abigzero.ThisiscalledgettingdraggedawaybytheMind.TheyareusingtheirIntellectinthings thatareuselessandthus,awasteof time.Discussingall thesesubjectsareatotalwasteofyourIntellect.Thisishowwedepleteourenergy.IfyouspendyourIntellectontherightthings,theMindwillbeincontrol. Rather, youwill not have tomake an effort to control it. Doeverything in a balancedmanner. That is the only solution. Going toextremesiswhatmakesusperish.

TheMindisverycunning.Everybody’sMind.Notjustyours,orminebuteverybody’s.Wehave torealisehowtricky theMind is.Andonceweunderstand this,we can then control theMind.As soon as theMindtricksyou,youcanbringinyourIntellectandthereinkicktheMindaway.

Audience:Then,howshouldwetrainourIntellect?Howcanwemakeitstrong?

Sandeep Maheshwari: Goodquestion.Justthink,whatisthefoodfortheMind?Experiences.IfyoufeedtheMindwithalltheexperiencesthatyoufeelarepleasurable,theMindenjoysthemmoreandmore.TheMindconstantly demands such experiences. In a way, it is addicted. If forinstance,todayyoutookonepegofliquor,willyourMindbesatis�ied


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withit?Yes,butonlyforthatveryinstance.Thenexttime,itwilldemandoneandahalfdrink.Andthentwo,threeandsoon.Themoreyouwilldrink, themore itwilldemand.This is theverydesignof theMind’sworking.Itdoesnotcareifthethingisrightorwrong.TheMindjustseekspleasure,irrespectiveofwhetheritisrightornot.

Facts,knowledgeandreasoning!Whatdoyouthinkmysessionsarefor?ForyourMind?

Audience:FortheIntellect.

Sandeep Maheshwari:TheyareforyourIntellect,exactly.Strengthenit.Lookat thereality.Whatever taskyouareengaged in,be fullyawareabout it. People are rushing outside, wandering everywhere. Why?Because theirMinddrives them.Thisworld isahugemarketplace.Aplacewheretomakemoney,marketerswon’teventhinktwicebeforesellingyoupoisoninthenameofpleasure.AndyourMindwillrunforitwithouteventhinkingabouttheconsequences.As longas it likesthetasteandfeelofit,theMindwillliterallyfeedonevengarbage.

So, the only savior is the Intellect. And how to sharpen it? Rightknowledge,in-depthinformation.Knowingthedifferencebetweenrightandwrong.Thus,whenwehear,read,understandandthinkabouttherightthingsandifweapplytheminourdailylives:whatdoyouthinkwill happen? Will this strengthen the Mind or will it sharpen theIntellect?

Audience: TheIntellect.

Sandeep Maheshwari: Exactly. The more powerful your Intellectbecomes,thegreatercontrolyouwillhaveovertheMind,andonyourlife.

Todecodeitfurther,theMindhasthreeweaknesses.Andifyouareabletoconquerthesethree,oneaftertheother,thenyouarethemasterandtheMindisnothingmorethanyourslave.


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The�irstweaknessiswhensomethinggoodhappenstoyou.Somethingthatyou’vebeenwishingforsolongtohappen.Let’ssayyou’vebeenplanningaboutwhatyouwoulddoatyourbestfriend’swedding.Whatwould youwear?Howwould you dance? And then that day arrives.What happens at such situations? One loses one’s control and getscarriedaway.TheMindtakesoverandthingsgetmessy.Likeadominoofmistakesoneaftertheother.Youmayhavenoticedhowsomepeoplegocrazywhentheybecomemadwith joy.Peoplestarttalkinginsolentlyandregrettheirbehaviourlater.Thus,the�irstweaknessoftheMindisbecomingover-excited.Although,gettingexcitedisperfectlyallright,buttobeoverexcitedisn’t.KeepacomposedMindandstaybalanced.Thisisthe�irstartwehavetolearn.

Second.Imaginewhatyoufeelwhensomethingadverseishappeningtoyou.Whathappenstoourpeaceatthattime?Itstartswavering.Wegocrazy.Westartgettingirritated.Let’ssayyourwifeorgirlfriendoryourparentssaysomethingtoyouthatgetsyouirritated.Orperhapstheyaredoingsomethingyoudonotlike.Onewayistogetangryandloseyourcalmness.Butthere’sanotherwaytoapproachitaswell.Nowyouarelookingatthesituationcalmly,withoutreactinginanyway.Youdecideonlyaftersometimeastohowyouwanttoreact.Thattoo,onlyifitisnecessary for you to react. Notice the difference between the twosituations. Inonecaseyouaregenuinelyangryandexpress it. In thesecondcaseyouaren’tangrybutactingasifyouare.Thismeansthatyouareabletounderstandthatangerisrisingwithinyou.Youareincontrol.Youcanseethatsensationofangercomingandgoing.Soifyouareincontrol, you won’t label your feelings or sensations as good or bad.Becauseyouwouldbeincompletecontrol.It’syourchoice,whetheryouwantthissensationofangertocontrolyouornot.

Alittlewhileago,I’dgonetoadentistasIhadpaininmytooth.Hesaidhe’dgivemeaninjectiontosedatemymouthsoIdon'tfeelanypain.Iaskedhim togoaheadwithout the injection. Sohe starteddoinghisprocedureandofcourse,allofusknow,toothacheisanintenseone.It’svery painful. But I wanted to see what happens. With childlikefascination,Iwaswatchingit.Watchingthewholeprocessasithappens.


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NowwhatInoticedwereseveraltypesofpain.Oneoccursafewsecondsevenbeforetheknifetouchestheskin.Whatwecallpain,isactuallyfear.Fearfromaparticularsensation.Thisfeartriggersthesensationevenbefore it actuallyhappens. Ifwe capture that fear in thatmoment, itdisappears.

Afterthat,whentheknife�inallytouchestheskin,that'swhenthepainfulsensationsactuallybegin.Anditisatthatverytime,asonewatcheswithfascination,ifoneremovesthelabelofpainassignedtothesensation,itremainsameresensationonly.Doyouunderstand?It’snotapain,it’sasensation.Theperspective changes from that of being scaredof it tobeing curious to observe it. It’s a part of life. Just as pleasure andpleasurable sensations are essential, painful feelings are needed too.Imaginethis.Ifthereispaininsomepartofyourbody,isitgoodorbad?It’sgood.Becauseitindicatesthatthereisaproblemsomewhereandyouneedto�indasolutionforit.Ifyousuddenlydieonedaywithoutanypriorindicationorsymptomsinyourbody,thenisitgoodorbad?

Painisgoodforoursurvival.Itkeepsuscautious.Ifitwouldnothavebeenthere,thenachildwillgoandjumprightintothe�lame.Buttheinbuilt intelligenceof thechildraisesanalarmbycausingpainandaburningsensationwheneverthechildgoesnearthe�lames.So,pleasureandpain,boththesesensationsaregoodforus.It’sjustthatweneedtounderstandthem.Theproblemisnotwithpleasure.Theproblemisinrunningawayfrompainandbeingattachedwithpleasure.Theproblemis in the actions we undertake in seeking that pleasure, out ofdesperation. Otherwise, there is absolutely no issue in experiencingpleasurablesensations.Youarethirsty,youdrinksomewater: there’snothingwrongwiththat. Itmerelymeanssomethingisworkingwell.Nowifyouputchillipowderinyoureyes,andtheystartburning,you’reobviouslydoingsomethingwrong.There’snopointcryingnow.Ifyoustopdoingfoolishacts,thepainwillgoaway.It’sthatsimple.Thus,ifyouareabletowatchthisprocessas itunfolds, thenall thatremains isasensation.Youcansitandobserveverycalmlyastowhatisgoingon.Mymindisgettingadangersignal.ButmyIntellecttellsmethatthisisnotdangerous,itisinfact,vitalformyexistence.IfIdonotgetthissignal,the


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problem will magnify. Hence, what I should tell my mind is: Thissensationisnotbad,it’sgoodforthebodythatyouareprotecting.

Incidentally,thesufferingexperiencedbytheMindiscalledbydifferentnamessuchasstress,anxiety,restlessnessordepression.Ontheotherhand,whattheBodyfeelsisdescribedaspain.Neitherofthemisbad.Justaswespokeaboutitearlier,bothsufferingandpainareinfactgood.WheneveryourMindfeelsstressed,yourealisethatsomethingiswrongandhenceyoustartfeelinguncomfortable.Otherwisetherewillbenostress.Thereisnosuchthingassufferinginthisworld.It’sactuallyanillusionorourimagination.Wehavemistakenalieforthetruth,andthissuffering is caused by ignorance. Otherwise it is not possible and iscompletelyillogicaltobedepressed.

Allright,let’stakeonemorestepforward.Onecaneitherfeelextremelypleasurable sensationsorextremelypainful sensationsbutonly forafewminutesorsecondsinaday.Butwhathappensintherestoftheday?Nothing, neutral. What should one do in those times? People areunawareofthat.Understandcarefully.Whenwearenotdoinganything,whatareweactuallydoing?Thisisthebiggestart.Ifyoujustsitquietly,andeveninthatneutralstate,arefeelinggreatjoyfromtheinside,whatdoyouthinkwillhappentothestressinyourlife?Will it increaseordecrease?

Audience:Decrease,ofcourse…

Sandeep Maheshwari:Yes,itwillalmostbeover.Afterall,whatisallthisstressabout?Wearenotstressedoutabouttwosquaremealsaday.Theadditionaldesiresthatwehavecultivatedoveryears,causethisstress.Thisbaggageofourposition,reputation,fameandwhatnot.Ifwekeepourlifesimple,therewillbenostress.

Sitcalmly,inaneutralstateandfeelthepeacewithinyou.Thenyouwillbeabletounderstandwhat itmeanstobeabsolutelycontentedwithyourself.Thisisthehighestlevelofexistence.Alltheotherthingsaretoolsthathelpyougettothisstate.Untilyouthinkdeeplyaboutlife,you


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can’treallyreachhere.Ifyousitdowncalmly,Icanassureyouthatinamaximum of �ive minutes, you will get bored. You always needsomethingtodo.Andwhy’sthat?Everthoughtaboutit?Eitheryouseeksomethingbecauseyouthinkitwillgiveyouapleasurableexperience,oryoufearthatwhatifyoucomeacrossasituationthatgivesyouapainfulexperience.Isthereanythingyoucanthinkofbesidesthesetwothings?Boththesethingsaretemporary.Theycomeandgo.Whatispermanent?Outof24hoursinaday,thesetwostatesremainonlyforafewseconds,butwhatoccupiesyourtimefortherestoftheday?Theneutralstate.Whatisthisneutralstate?HaveyouexperiencedtheSoundofSilence?

Audience: Yes

Sandeep Maheshwari: Now observe it closely and you’ll understandwhat I’m saying. When there is neither a pleasurable nor a painfulexperience,what’s there?One isyourconsciousness,oryourself.TheotheristheSoundofSilence.

Audience:YesSir!

Sandeep Maheshwari:Soareyoualoneornot?Thinkcarefully.Whoiswithyou?

Audience:It’stheSoundofSilence.

Sandeep Maheshwari:It’stheSoundofSilence.NowwhatisthisSoundofSilence?Weneedtomakethisabsolutelyclear.

So,observeyourselfcarefully,donotjustbelieveanythingoutofblindfaith.Understandwhatistemporaryandwhatispermanent.Whatdoesit mean when we are attached to something that is temporary orpermanent?IfIamattachedtothepermanent,thenwhatamIattachedtoactually?Andif it isnotpermanent,thenwhytogetattachedwithanythingthatistemporary?Wegetinvolvedintemporarymattersandendupweepingaboutsillythings.


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IfyouaskmewhatSoundofSilencemeanstome?Inshort,whatI’llsayis, for you it’s just a sound. You have not put your mind into itsunderstanding.Whatisit?Thinkofitasaradiosetplayingthatsoundbut there’s nowire. But if there’s nowire, thenwhere is this soundcoming from?Have you thought about this?No, you have not.Why?Becauseyouarebusy.Inpettythings.Myfamily,myhouse,myjobandthingslikethat.InordertoactuallyunderstandtheSoundofSilence,�irstwe must rise above these minor ambitions. A man with an emptystomachcannotreallythinkaboutallthesethings.Nowlet’ssaywithsmartworkandfocus,yousetupacomfortablelife.You’vereachedacertainlevel.Whathappensnext?You’llstillbeunhappy.Nomatterhowhighyourise,youwillalwaysremainunhappy.Don’tconsiderthistobeacurseonyou,itisreality!

TherewillbeadaywhenyouwillhavetounderstandwhatthisSoundofSilenceactuallyis.There’snowireoranythinglikethatbutIcanstillhearit,notjustme,buteverybodycanhearit!Icanhearitwithoutanyeffortonmypart.Evenifyouaska�iveyearoldchild,hecanhearittoo.He’llsayhecan.Whereisthissoundcomingfrom?Whatisthissound?Howisthissoundgenerated?Whydoesthissoundnotdieout?Everyothersoundintheworldisdying.Livinganddying.Butthisoneisnot.Whynot?Perhaps, it isourlifeline.Soifonedayyouunderstandthisdeeply,thenitwillbeasimportanttoyouthen,asitistomenow.Howimportantisittome?Say,ifsomebodytellsmethathewouldtakeawaytheSoundofSilencefromusandpayusahundredcroreinreturn.Whatwould you say? Most probably, you’ll happily give it up for a fewthousand rupees, let go of hundred crores. This is your situation.SupposeIoffertotaketheSoundofSilenceawayfromyouandaskwhatyouwantinreturn.Let’smakeadeal.Youarereadytomakeadealwithme.You’llaskforsomethingortheother.Andwhatexactlythatthingiswoulddependonyoursituation.Supposesomeoneismarriedforalongtimebutnotabletoconceiveachild.Whatwouldtheysaytome?Theywouldsay:Allwewantisachild,takeawaytheSoundofSilencefromme, and just pray for a child tome. Isn’t it? Someonewill ask for asuitablelifepartner.Someoneelsemightaskforadegree,sayaDoctor’sdegree.Butwhateverbethething,youwilltakeitinreturnoftheSound


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ofSilence.Andme?WhatwillIsayifyougivemethisoffer?Ifyoutellme:Sandeep,takeeverything,money,name,fame,relationships,yourbody,or whatever you want, now will you give the Sound of Silence? Myanswer,no.Nope.Iwillnotgiveitup.Sowhenyoufallinlovelikethis,withthatwhichispermanent,what’stheproblem?Isthereanyproblematall?

With whom are you in love with now? Objects? People? Someexperiences?Whom?Areanyofthesethingsgoingtostaythesame?No.Notatall.Ontheotherhand,istheSoundofSilencegoingtochange?De�initelynot.So,whoamIinlovewith?That,whichcannotbechangedbythegreatestofforcesintheuniverse.Somethingthatcannotbetakenawayfromme.Andwhoyouare in lovewith?That,whichcannotbesavedbythemostpowerfulofforces.Themomentyouunderstandthis,youwillbeliberatedfromallkindsofsuffering.IfyoureallyunderstandwhatIamsayingthenyouareaking,evenifyouareapauperintheeyesoftheworld.Andifyoudonotunderstandthissimpletruth,thenevenifyouaretheemperoroftheworld,youarenomorethanabeggar.

Audience: If we consider the Sound of Silence, you once said that Imyself am this Soundof Silence. So, does it imply that this SoundofSilenceistheGodoritisme,orarethesethesame?

Sandeep Maheshwari: I shallmake it simpler. Let’s say you are on astage.Youareenactingtheroleofapoliceof�icer,whereasinreallifeofcourseyouaren’tone.Youareanactor.Soarethesetwodifferentpeopleoristhereonlyoneperson?

Audience:Theyarethesame.Onlyonepersonisthere.

Sandeep Maheshwari:So,whatisitthatmakesusthinkthattheyaretwo?

Audience:Oneisplayingaroleandtheotheroneisreal.

Sandeep Maheshwari: Correct. One is acting and the other isn’t. A


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policemancomesonstageduringtheactandwalksawayafterthat.Nowwhetherthispolicemanisgettingshot,feelinghappy,gettingmarried,havingchildren,andsoon,allthisishappeningtothepoliceman.Howdoes all this affect the actor? If someone doesn’t understand thedistinction,howwouldhelivehislife?Theemotionalupsanddownsofthe policeman will now become those of the actor himself. Whilesomebodywhounderstandsthatthisismerelyaroleoranactthatheisplaying,howwillhelivehislife?Thepolicemancanliveordie,hecanearnorlosemoney;whatdifferencedoesitmaketotheactor?Whowillbe able to do justice to the role more effectively? The man whounderstands that it is just a roleplayor theonewhodoesn’t?Thinkaboutit.

Theonewhoknowsthatheisanactorcanbringchangestohisacting.Hecancontrolhis role.Hecanshapehimself in the role,becauseheknows he’s an actor. He can transform quickly. Hewill be �lexible tochangetheroles.Hecangetoutof thepoliceman’suniformandthenwearasweeper’sgarb.He’snowplayingtheroleofasweeper.Theworldmaylaughathimandseethepolicemanbeingdemotedtoasweeper?However,thepersonwhoknowsthatheistheactor,willsaygotohell.Howwillitmattertohimifyoucallhimapoliceman,asweeper,abeggaroraking?Heknowsthatallofthesearemererolesthatheisplaying.Aren’t they?Now,what if theguydoesnotrealise thathe’s theactor.Whatifhegenuinelythinkshe’sthepoliceman.Nowifyoutakeawayhispoliceuniformandreplaceitwithsweeper’statters,whatdoyouthinkwillhappen?He’llcryandshoutthatheisinpain,whatatragedyhasbefallenuponhimandallthat.However,thisistheonlysimpletruththatyouneedtounderstand.Youareanactorplayingdifferentroles.Thiswill give you thewisdom to look at yourproblemsobjectively, beingdetachedfromeveryroleyouareplaying.

Audience:Asyoualsoexplainedearlier,weconsiderourselvestobeawavebutweactuallyarethewateritself.AndwaterisliketheSoundofSilence,always�lowing,alwaysthesame.Wavesappearanddisappearbutwaterremainsthesame.Similarly,theSoundofSilenceremainsthesame.So,iftheSoundofSilenceisGodandwearetheSoundofSilence,


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thencanwecallourselvesGod?

Sandeep Maheshwari:Obviously!Look,thisisanexcellentquestion.Ifyouhave thecourage to listen to theanswer thenherewego. Ifyouweren’tGod,thentherewouldnothavebeenanyproblem.Imagine,ifsomebodyelsewouldhavebeenGod,wouldhe/sheeverletyoubeintrouble?Evenifyouwereevil,howwouldGodeverseeyoubeingsad?IfsomebodyelsewouldhavebeenGod,he/shewouldhavesolvedallyourproblemsinablink.Isn’tit?

The trouble is, you, yourself are God. You have in�inite powers. Butyou’veassumedthatGodisotherthanyouandyouaresomeoneelse.

Itisjustamatterofrealisation.Andwhatwillhappentillthetimeyoudon'trealiseit?TheGod,whohasin�initepowers,willcontinuetoactthroughthisbodywhichis�inite.Thus,allthetasksdonebythisbodywillendupbeing�inite.So,thebiggestproblemofhumanityisnotthatwe are somehow less and insigni�icant. The problem is that you’rein�inite.Itisn’tthecasethatyou’redifferentfromGod.Ifthatwouldhavebeenthecasetherewouldnothavebeenaproblematall!Understandthiswell.IfIamindeedGod,thenIwillnottolerateseeingyouintroubleevenforasecond.IwillscreaminagonyifIseeyouinpain.IfIhaveallthepowersintheworld,Iwillsolveallyourtroublesintheblinkofaneye.

Audience:Sirthenwhydopeoplevisittemples?

Sandeep Maheshwari:Letthepeoplebe.Ifyoucanunderstandthatyou,yourselfareGod,thenit’snotdif�icultforsomeoneelsetoimaginethesameGodinsomeidol.Forgetaboutwhypeoplegototemplesbecausethat’sanothertopicaltogether.People,mostofthem,gotheretoful�iltheirowndesires.It’snotbecauseoftheirbeliefinGod.Becauseifitwasaboutbelief, thenyourprayersneednotbeoffered fromaparticularplace.Itcouldbeatemple,amosqueorevenagarbagedump.Allthatwouldmatterwouldbetheprayer.Andyoucouldsurrenderyourself.Thatiscalleddevotion.Thisisit.Soifyouhavetouproottheproblem


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thenwhat do you need to do? Sharpen your Intellect. Howwill thathappen?Live in thisworldandactwisely.Therewillbeadaywhen:despiteallyourwisdomandhardwork,despitehavingearnedalotofmoney, despite having strengthened your relationships and despitehavingachievedeverything,therewillbeagreatvacuuminyourlife.IcanpredictthisbecauseIhavebeenthroughallthesestagesmyself.Youwillbeunhappythen.Itisthatveryday,whenyouwillbeneededtocallupon all your wisdom and ask yourself, ‘despite having achievedeverything,I’mstillunhappy.What’swrong?WHOAMI?’

Andthedayyouaskthisquestiontoyourownself,thegamewillbegin.

Namaste!


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How to Control your Mind? (In Hindi)By Sandeep Maheshwari https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7cZDRM28LgM

The Sound of Silence (In Hindi)By Sandeep Maheshwarihttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dD_fk9ELJ24

Multiple names of THE ONE that cannot be named By Sandeep Maheshwarihttp://www.sandeepmaheshwari.com/pdf/THE%20ONE.pdf

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