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Hate it or love it, we all have it: conflict styles
Hello!I am Ilyssa PadridPreferred Pronouns: She/Her/HersB. A. Public Health Policy, Queer Studies Minor @ University of California, IrvineM. Ed. College Student Affairs Administration @ University of Georgia
Where do you see conflict as
a leader?
Conflict is normal!
How comfortable are you in handling conflict?
What factors help mold how
you handle conflict?
1.take Conflict styles
questionnaire2.Add up your
scores3.Find out your top
style
animal
Style A: the turtle (denial or withdrawing)× Withdraw into shell to avoid conflict× Easier than facing it
× Stay away from issues & people in conflict with
× Feel helpless× Give up personal goals & relationships× Believe it is hopeless to try & resolve
conflicts
Style b: the shark (forcing or overpowering)× Try to overpower opponents× Goals highly important to them;
Relationships minor importance× Seek to achieve their goals at all costs× Not concerned w the needs of others× Conflicts are either won or lost× Winning conflicts gives sense of pride & achievement× Losing gives sense of weakness & failure× Try and win by overpowering, overwhelming &
intimidating others
Style c: the teddy bear (smoothing & suppressing)× Relationship of great importance;Own goals of little importance
× Want to be accepted & liked by other people× Conflict should be avoided in favor of harmony
× People cannot discuss conflicts w/o damaging relationships
× Afraid if conflict continues, someone will get hurt & ruin relationship
× Give up own goals to preserve relationship× Like to smooth things over
Style d: the fox(compromising or negotiating)× Moderately concerned w own goals &
relationships w others× Give up part of their own goals× Persuade others to give up part of their
goals× Seek conflict solution where both sides
benefit×Middle ground b/w two extreme
positions× Compromise in order to find agreement
for the common good
Style e: the owl(confronting or collaborating)× Highly value own goals & relationships× View conflicts as problems to be solved
× Means of improving relationships× Seeks solution to maintain relationships× Try to begin discussion that identifies
conflict× Not happy until solution is found
1.Break up into your dominant conflict
styles 2.List pros & cons of
dominant conflict styles
3.Come up with a 30 sec. Skit of conflict
style in action
Pros &
Appropriate× Need a cooling
off period× Nothing to gain
by resolving conflict
× Severe inequity in power
When to be the turtleInappropriate× Conflict is
important & will continue to build
Appropriate× Agreed to
approach before hand
× Limited time× Low stakes issue× Don’t need buy-in
When to be the sharkInappropriate× Others have no
way to express needs
× Trying to develop other leaders or a team envi.
Appropriate× Need to preserve
relationship× Want to elevate
another person’s status, ideas, or self-image
When to be the bearInappropriate× If smoothing over
leads to evading the issue
× Trying to establish self as leader
Appropriate× Both parties
better off w compromise than attempting win/lose stance
× Both parties ready to seek middle ground
When to be the foxInappropriate× Solution too
watered down× Commitment by
both parties is doubtful
Appropriate× Need creative
solutions to complex issues
× Parties committed to approach
× “Us” vs “problem” not “we” vs “they”
× Sufficient time to resolve conflict
When to be the owlInappropriate× Lack of:
× Time× Abilities × Commitment
The ideal conflict styleThe Five Principles of Conflict
Resolution
1.Separate the people from the problem
2.Focus on
interests, not positions
3.Generate
options for mutual gain
4.Assure a fair
process
5.Practice direct communication
s
The ideal conflict style summary1.Separate the people from the problem
2.Focus on interests, not positions3.Generate options for mutual gain4.Assure a fair process5.Practice direct communications
It’s ok to ask for help!
THANKS!Any questions? Comments? Concerns?You can e-mail me at [email protected]