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communication is the method of family culture
Stone - impact of family stories.
Birthdate/Where were you born?
Parents and Grandparents names, What did they do for a living?
One memory about each
Where did you go to school? what did you like about school? Least?
What was your favorite activity as a child?
Describe the house/town you grew up in.
What made you afraid when you were a child?
First date?
Describe your best childhood friend.
What has changed most in your life?/ What would you change?
DeGenova & Rice suggest that parental socialization is one of the strongest influences in determining children's family formation behavior. Respond.
DeGenova & Rice suggest that parental socialization is one of the strongest influences in determining children's family formation behavior. Respond.
93% of Americans say they are very comfortable talking with their children, but only 75% say they are effective.
From our family we usually learn:
• how gender is played out
• how to deal with loss
• how ethnic differences are perceived
• how and if affection is shared
• how family boundaries are managed
• how to deal with conflict
Domestic violence: one family member imposes her/his will on another through verbal abuse or physical violence.
Domestic violence: one family member imposes her/his will on another through verbal abuse or physical violence.
87% of Americans say they are very comfortable communicating with their spouse/significant other, but only 73% say they are effective.
77% of Americans say they are very comfortable communicating with their parents, but only 69% say they are effective.
78% of Americans say they are very comfortable communicating with their siblings, but only 65% say they are effective.
62% of Americans say they are very comfortable communicating with their in-laws, but only 52% say they are effective.
We need to have intimate moments in relationship
• physical
• intellectual
• emotional
• shared activities
Alternatives trust and self-disclosure in family relationships:
• lying: white lies, intentional deception
Why we lie
• save face
• avoid tension or conflict
• guide social interaction
• expand/reduce relationship
• gain power
We can choose to develop a participatory attitude in families, which tends to be reciprocal:
• Being thoughtful
• Being careful
• Being full of good humor
Masters of family communication:
communicate acceptance amidst conflict.
They move from gridlock to dialogue or avoidance.
Well-functioning families manage communication patterns
• adapt
• create change
• share intimacy
• manage conflict