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Presented by:

Herb Kaighan

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Dynamic Process

Action

Experience Information

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“The consciousness that created the

problem cannot be the consciousness that

solves the problem.”

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SET ASIDE PRAYER

God, please set aside everything that I think I know about myself, my brokenness, my spiritual path and You, for an open mind and a new experience with myself, my brokenness, my spiritual path and especially You.

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Reflections

Where is my life not working?

How effective are my efforts?

Do I really want my life to change?

What change(s) would I like?

What is the invitation?

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SelfTranscendence

Compassion

Self RealizationConsciousness Spiritual?

Self ActualizationConscience

SocialAcceptance, Affection, Connectivity

PhysicalAir, Water, Food, Sleep

Human Development –

Human

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Emotional/PsychologicalSelf Awareness/Esteem, Respect

Organic Process

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BIOLOGYGENETICS

FAMILYCULTURE

EMOTIONSEXPERIENCES

PSYCHOLOGYEDUCATION

SPIRITUALMEANING

Core of Goodness

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BIOLOGYGENETICS

FAMILYCULTURE

EMOTIONSEXPERIENCES

PSYCHOLOGYEDUCATION

SPIRITUALMEANING

Ego Deflation at Depth “My Story”

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“Our Story”

Negative

Suffering HealingVictim Responsible

Powerless PowerFalse Self True Self

No Meaning MeaningDarkness Light

Positive

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The Story

Summary – Our 12-Step Experience

• Philosophy Life of Virtue

• Religion Doing Will of God• Psychology Sense of Well-being

• Research Balance:

To Be TurnedFrom

• Pleasure• Meaning

World of selfTo World of Spirit

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Problem Addiction

Substance and / or Process

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Twelve StepSpirituality

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History

1932Dr. Carl Jung

Spiritual Psychology/Theology Experience

1933Rev. Frank Buchman/Oxford Group

Religion Six Steps

1934Dr. William Silkworth

Medicine Fatal Disease

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Twelve Step Spirituality

Steps A Relationship With…

1-3 POWER

4-7 Self

8-9 Others

10-12 Our Way of Life

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Problem Powerlessness

Substance /Process

1/10 5/10 10/10

Unmanageable

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Unmanageable Bedevilments

✔ I am having trouble with personal relationships.✔ I can’t control my emotional natures.✔ I am a prey to misery and depression.✔ I can’t make a living…

✔ I have a feeling of uselessness.✔ I am full of fear.✔ I am unhappy.✔ I can’t seem to be of real help to other people…

that satisfies me.

nor do I really care!

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Is God Necessary?

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Step Two Decision About

POWER

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Step TwoPOWER

WILLINGNESS

FAITH

= CORNERSTONE

Decision About

MY CONCEPT

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Decision AboutMy Concept

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Step Three Decision For

RELATIONSHIP

POWER

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Step ThreePOWER

MYRELATIONSHIP

TRUST

= KEYSTONE

Decision For

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Decision ForMy RelationshipMy Alignment

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Spiritual Arch

Freedom

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Step Four Obstacles to Power

Resentments

SexFears Dishonesty

SecretsGuilt

Shame

Self-Centeredness

Identify and Analyze

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Removal of Obstacles

Steps 5, 6, and 7

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More Action

Step 8 Name Harms

Step 9 Make Amends

• Change• Repair

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AForgiveness

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Forgiveness A Process

•To Release Them

Decision:

•To Be Released

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“A forgiving person has no past;

An unforgiving person has no future!”– HERB K, 2016

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Step Ten Enter World of Spirit

Body

Will

Mind

Physical Sobriety

Recovered

Not Cured

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Emotional andSpiritual Sobriety

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CONSENT PRAYER (Third Step)

God, I offer myself to You, to build with me and to do with me as You wish. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Your will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Your Power, Your Love, and Your Way of Life. May I do Your will always!

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Herb Kaighan(310) 377-3194www.herbk.com

PO Box 4268Palos Verdes Peninsula, CA 90274

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HEALING PRAYER

My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character that stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from here to do your bidding. – Amen

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