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Coaching with Confidence
Clare Moore
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I’ve got my prep work
What is it, where does it
come from
Anchoring for confidence
Your confident situations
Lunch
Coaching With Confidence
My sources of
confidence
Reflection, Summary and Close
Inner Game and Self
Talk
Choosing my Self Talk
Group Dynamic
• Diverse knowledge & understanding • Different rela:onships • Varying levels of comfort • Individual styles and levels of self awareness
• Different values and beliefs • Expecta:ons may vary
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My Confident Situations Where I’m Confident Where I want to be more confident
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Where does confidence come from?
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What does confidence look like?
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Why do we behave the way we do? Neurological levels
Source: Robert Dilts, Logical Levels 7
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What Drives Behaviour?
Source pic: Paul MaShews, People Alchemy Ltd.(2008) 9
My Sources of Confidence
Environment
Behaviour
Skills and Abili:es
Values and Beliefs
Iden:ty
Purpose
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Anchoring Technique
• Iden:fy the state you want to elicit • Remember, vividly, a :me when you were in that state
• Expand that memory, really be there • Connect an anchor (e.g. gesture, picture, sound) to that state
• Repeat
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Self Talk
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Inner Game – Timothy Gallwey
Performance = Poten6al – Interference
P= p-‐i
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Our inner dialogue
• Self 1 – the ego mind or “teller”
• Self 2 – the natural ability (it likes images and pictures) To play our best game, we must quiet Self 1 and let Self 2 do what it knows how to do
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Gallwey’s 4 step process
1. Non-‐judgmental observa:on 2. Visualise the desired outcome 3. Trust Self 2 4. Non-‐judgmental observa:on of the change and
results
“There is no failure, only feedback” Robert Allen
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Choosing My Self Talk Nega6ve Self Talk Replace With
I’ve got to… I failed… I always… I never…. I’m such a xxxx It’s a disaster… I can’t do this here… I’ve never done this before…
I get to…. I learned… On this occasion… On this occasion…. I’m human and I’m learning… That’s interes:ng… I wonder how I can do this here? I’ve faced new situa:ons before..
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I’ve got my prep work
What is it, where does it
come from
Anchoring for confidence
Your confident situations
Lunch
Coaching With Confidence
My sources of
confidence
Reflection, Summary and Close
Inner Game and Self
Talk
Choosing my Self Talk