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Chris Dilley & Kathy Rolington The Laura Centre

Copyright The Laura Centre 2017

9.30-10.00 Introduction to day 10.00- 10.15 Guide to Resource Manual 10.15-10.45 Childhood Loss Exercise 10.45 -11.30 The Needs of Bereaved

Children 11.30-11.50 Break 11.50-12.20 FAQ’s – group exercise 12.20-1.00 Grief Theories 1.00 – 1.15 TLC Services/Other Agencies 1.15 – 1.30 Summary, Evaluations & Close


1 in 29 children will be bereaved of a parent or sibling – that equates to 1 child in every class

Source – CBUK/CRUSE Bereavement Care



Up to 70% of schools have a bereaved pupil on roll at any given time





92% of young people will experience a significant bereavement before they are 16.





92% of young people will experience a significant bereavement before they are 16.

1 in 10 of the UK workforce may be affected by a bereavement at any time



For anyone affected by the death of a child or young person

For any child or young person affected by the death of a parent or carer

Based in Leicester with services in Derby and Coventry/Warwickshire

Open access, self-referral (usually) www.thelauracentre.org.uk (includes notes

for parent/carers)


http://www.thelauracentre.org.uk/

1: 1 Counselling Pre-bereavement support On – Call Service Groups for all ages including parallel

child/parent Family Therapy work Parental support/education inc. groups Drop –in Support group - Derby Training, supervision and consultancy for

professionals


Walking Group Alternative Therapies Annual Family Memorial Events Quiet Room and Book of Remembrance Library Resource for clients and professionals Flagship fundraising event: The Laura Centre

Colour Blast Dash


1. To provide an opportunity to consider the

needs of children suffering bereavement and loss.

2. To promote helpful and compassionate support to bereaved children, their family and friends.

3. To enhance the understanding of the differing roles and responsibilities of various agencies who may be involved.


1. That participants will gain a deeper

awareness of bereavement from a child’s point of view.

1. That they will be enabled to offer

appropriate support to bereaved children.

2. That they will know how to access agencies who provide help for bereaved children.


1. Children need adequate information


2. Children need their fears and anxieties addressed


3. Children need reassurance that they are not to blame.


4. Children need you to watch and listen to them carefully


5. Children need to know their feelings are accepted


6. Children need help with overwhelming feelings


7. Children need to be involved and included


8. Children need to carry on with routine activities


9. Children need to see other people grieving


10. Children need opportunities to remember


Grieving Acknowledging reality of loss Loss Orientation

Getting on with life and associated tasks – secondary losses Avoiding /diverting from grief Restoration orientation

Dual Process Model

Stroebe and Schutt Copyright The Laura Centre 2017

Alarm - wake up remember mum’s not there Memory triggered - walking to school and seeing other mums Tutorial lesson - letter for “parents” Get home - house feels empty

Get dressed, remember PE kit at last minute, hurried breakfast Hurry to not be late Concentrate on morning lessons Break - talking about who fancies who Science test - oh no! Get to friend’s house - try out new video game

Grieving Getting on with life A bereaved child’s

day?


Me

Dept

School

Teaching - Profession

Society

Personal Culture


Experiencing Loss and Grief

Getting on with life - professional duties

Personal Factors

Work Culture Papadatou Copyright The Laura Centre 2017

“Letting go” is not always what bereaved people want to do - they often want to “hold onto”.

Clinicians talked about the need to “let go” perhaps because they looked at “unhealthy” rather than healthy responses to grief.

We need to find ways to “relocate” the deceased (in our heart, in heaven, in our memories, in our bodies, in our family…)

Mourning is often about identification - finding a place for the deceased in one’s sense of self

Silverman, Nickman & Klass


Sharing stories, memories, photographs … keeps the connection and the reality of the relationship alive

This theory re-affirms the need of bereaved children to have “opportunities to remember”.

Grief is never finished it evolves through our personal development, growth and life cycle

Silverman, Nickman and Klass (1996)


5 guiding principles to intervention Aim to promote:- A sense of safety Calming A sense of self- and community-efficacy Connectedness Hope


The Laura Centre – www.thelauracentre.org.uk 0116-254-4341

more downloadable resources and info Winstons Wish – www.winstonswish.org.uk

0845 20 30 40 5 Childhood Bereavement Network

www.childhoodbereavementnetwork.org.uk directory of childhood bereavement services

This presentation and its contents are the property of The Laura Centre. Unauthorised use is strictly forbidden. Copyright the Laura Centre 2017

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http://www.winstonswish.org.uk/

http://www.childhoodbereavementnetwork.org.uk/

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