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Chapter Objectives To contrast real love (“self-donating”) with lust (“self-seeking”) To explain the difference between abstinence and chastity To recognize and explain why love is the only proper attitude (or response) toward another person To measure the quality of a relationship based on “giving” vs. “using”
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THEOLOGY OF THE BODY
CHAPTER TWO – LOVE DEFINED:
GIVING VS. USING
Chapter Objectives• To contrast real love (“self-donating”) with
lust (“self-seeking”)• To explain the difference between
abstinence and chastity• To recognize and explain why love is the
only proper attitude (or response) toward another person
• To measure the quality of a relationship based on “giving” vs. “using”
Key Concepts• In order for a person to love another
properly, he or she must first desire what is good for the other person
• Lust is sexual desire apart from God’s love. It is a selfish desire to please oneself, and it treats people as objects to achieve that pleasure.
• Chastity is the virtue that orients ALL our sexual desires, emotions, and attractions toward the true good of the other person and, thus, the real meaning of love.
• Chastity frees us to love.
Chastity vs. Abstinence• Chastity is not
merely controlling one’s desires.
• It is really about learning how to love another the right way.
• Abstinence: Not having sex
What is Love?• Love is not merely
a feeling; it is an act of will that consists of preferring, in a constant manner, the good of others to the good of oneself.
What is Chastity?• Chastity is the
virtue that directs our sexual desires and attitudes toward the truth of love.
• Chastity falls under the cardinal virtue of temperance – the virtue of controlling and moderating our desire for pleasure, enabling us to enjoy pleasure in good things the way God intends
Total Self-Donation• Love is more than just feeling good.• Love is an active decision to give oneself
to another and to do so totally.• St. John Paul uses the term, “total self-
donation” to describe this type of giving.
Personalistic Norm• The principle that
recognizes that the only proper and adequate attitude toward human persons is love.
• The opposite of love is to use a person as a means to an end.
• Love as attraction: Recognizing the good of another person; seeing the inner and outer beauty of another person.
• Love as desire: Wanting a good for yourself; desiring goodness and happiness
• Love as goodwill: Willing (or desiring) the good of another person
Utilitarianism• The opposite of love
is not hate - it is the using of persons.
• Utilitarianism is the philosophy of maximizing pleasure and minimizing pain, often at the expense of others. In relationships, one ends up “using” a person for one’s own gain.