Chapter 5 & 6

FAMILIES TODAY10

Social Health

• 1st relationship • Learn Interdependence – one person’s

actions affect the lives of all family members

• Lessons that people learn about relationship remain with them for life

FACTORS FOR CHANGES

• More women in the work force

• High divorce rate• Postponement of Marriage & parenthood

Family Forms

• Nuclear Family

• Single-parent Family

• Extended Families

Family Forms

• Blended Families

• Foster Care Families

• Other Family Forms

Adult Responsibilities

Shelter

Love

Food

Clothing

Education

Security

Setting

Rules

Health Care

Socialization

Food

ClothSheltEducaHealtLove

SecurSettiSocia

SERIOUS FAMILY PROBLEMS

• 1. Separation and Divorce• painful experience for all

• 2. Drug Abuse• Alcohol, illegal drugs

–Helpful groups:»Alcoholics Anonymous»Al Anon»Alateen

Family Problems cont.

• 3. Financial Problems• Personal debt

»Credit card abuse»Living above one means

• Loss of Job• Serious Illness

• 4. Family Violence–a. Physical Abuse–b. Sexual Abuse–c. Emotional Abuse

• 5. Runaways

SKILLS FOR SOLVING FAMILY PROBLEMS

• Communication• 1. Resolving conflicts:

–speak openly, honestly and lovingly

–say what you mean, listen to others, voice disagreement respectfully

• 2. Express emotions:–Express emotions constructively

–Use “I” message–Be Assertive–Body Language

• Unspoken language:• 93% of a message’s credibility is

communicated non-verbally

• 55% communicated with body language

• 38% with tone, pitch & variation in voice quality

• 7% impact made by message is by words

Body Language

• 3. Use decision making skills–Describe the problem to the

other person–Explore the other person’s point

of view• Active Listener

– Invent solutions• Compromise

–Agree on a solution• Cooperation

FRIENDSHIPS

Types of Friendships1. Casual Friendships

• Made out of convenience• Usually short-term

2. Close Friendships• Shares similar goals, values• long-term

Close Friendships

• Four Qualities– Loyalty: a good friend sticks by you

in both good and bad times.– Honesty: would be truthful, not out

to hurt you– Empathy: the ability to understand

how another feels– Reliability: can be counted on

Friendships

• 3. Friendships with the Opposite Sex

• Learn more about Gender Roles

• Brings all teachings, stereotypes, and ideologies to the relationship

Problems with Friendships

• Envy - is a reaction to lacking something• Jealousy – is a reaction to the threat of

losing something or someone.• Transferring Anger• Cliques and Gangs

Intimate Relationships• Physical Attraction

– Infatuation– Dating

• Opportunity to learn about an person• Develop communication and decision

making skills• Learn about another’s views on gender

roles• Discover qualities you want in marriage

partner

• Physical Intimacy–Starts with holding hands–Progresses to kissing (deep)–May lead to exploring bodies–May lead eventually to sex,

• (though the last two are not necessary for the establishment of a wonderful relationship)

Dating Violence• Cycle of Violence

– Tension – it builds over time• Yelling and screaming at each other

– Violent Episode• Hitting

– Calm Stage• False “honeymoon”

– 30,000 females visited a hospital emergency department because of a nonfatal sexual assault injury during 2004–2006

Sex & Effects

• 1. Effects on Emotional Health• 2. Effects on the relationship• 3. Risk of Pregnancy & Sexually

Transmitted Diseases

• Emotional Intimacy – refers to an open, sharing, affectionate and trustful relationship