Ch 04 Ppt Lecture-revised

Chapter 4 Lecture

Access to HealthThirteenth Edition

Building Healthy Relationships and Communicating Effectively

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Intimate Relationships

• Characteristics of intimate relationships include:– Behavioral interdependence– Need fulfillment– Emotional attachment– Emotional availability

• Intimate relationships are a means of need fulfillment. They include:– Intimacy– Social integration– Nurturance– Assistance– Affirmation


Relating to Yourself

• Being accountable means recognizing that you are responsible for your own decisions, choices, and actions.

• Self-nurturance means developing your potential through a balanced and realistic appreciation of your worth and ability.


Self-Esteem and Self-Acceptance

• The way you define yourself is your self-concept.

• The way you evaluate yourself is your self-esteem.

• Your acceptance of yourself influences your relationship choices.


Family Relationships

• A family is a recognizable group of people with shared roles, tasks, boundaries, and personalities.

• Healthy families foster a sense of security and feelings of belonging.

• Healthy families nurture and support.

• It is from our family of origin, the people present in our household during our first years of life, that we initially learn about feelings, problem solving, love, intimacy, and gender roles.


Friendships

• Friendships are unique

because they are

voluntary relationships.

• Friends provide

emotional stability, and having strong

friendships may predict

success in loving

relationships.


Romantic Relationships

• Romantic relationships typically include all the characteristics of friendships as well as the following characteristics related to passion and caring: – Fascination– Exclusiveness– Sexual desire– Giving the utmost– Being a champion or advocate


Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love


Strategies for Success in Relationships

• Characteristics of healthy relationships:– Predictability means that you can predict your

partner's behavior because he or she acts in consistently positive ways.

– Dependability means that you can rely on your partner to provide support in all situations.

– Faith means that you feel absolutely certain about your partner's intentions and behavior.


Strategies for Success in Relationships

• Choosing a romantic partner:– Choosing a relationship partner is influenced by more

than just the chemical and psychological processes described in researchers' theories of love.

– One important factor is proximity, or being in the same place at the same time.

– You also choose a partner based on similarities.

– A final factor that plays a significant role in selecting a partner is physical attraction.


Communicating: A Key to Good Relationships

• Learning appropriate self-disclosure– Get to know yourself.– Become more accepting of yourself.– Be willing to discuss your sexual history with

your partner.– Choose a safe context for self-disclosure.– Be thoughtful about self-disclosure via social

media


He Says/She Says


Becoming a Better Listener

• The three basic listening modes– Competitive, or combative, listening happens when

we are more interested in promoting our own point of view.

– Passive, or attentive, listening occurs when we are genuinely interested in hearing and understanding the other person's point of view.

– Active, or reflective, listening is active in confirming our understanding before responding with our own new message.


Using Nonverbal Communication

• Nonverbal communication includes all unwritten and unspoken messages, both intentional and unintentional. Nonverbal communication can include the following:– Touch– Gestures– Interpersonal space– Body language– Tone of voice – Facial expressions


Managing Conflict through Communication

• Some strategies for conflict resolution include:– Identifying the problem or issues– Generating several possible solutions– Evaluating the alternative solutions– Deciding on the best solution– Implementing the solution– Following up


Committed Relationships

• Commitment in a relationship means that there is an intent to act over time in a way that perpetuates the well-being of the other person, oneself, and the relationship. – Marriage– Cohabitation– Gay and lesbian

partnerships– Staying single– Choosing whether

to have children


Common Parenting Styles


When Relationships Falter

• Relationship breakdown usually begins with a change in communication.

• College students are particularly likely to remain in unhealthy relationships because they may feel socially isolated.

• Honesty and verbal affection should not be abused to cover up irresponsible or hurtful behavior.


Confronting Couple Issues

• Jealousy may be caused by:– Overdependence on the relationship– Severity of the threat– High value on sexual exclusivity– Low self-esteem– Fear of losing control


Confronting Couple Issues

• Changing gender roles: Modern society has very few gender-specific roles.

• Sharing power: The dynamics between men and women changed as women began enjoying their own financial success.

• Unmet expectations: The failure to communicate our expectations can lead to disappointment and hurt.


When and Why Relationships End

• The divorce rate in the United States has never exceeded 41 percent.

• Relationships may end because of illness, financial concerns, or career problems.

• Unmet expectations, failure to communicate, and differences in sexual needs can all lead to the ending of a relationship.


Coping with Failed Relationships

• Consider these tips for coping with a failed relationship: – Recognize and acknowledge your feelings.– Find healthful ways to express your emotions,

rather than turning them inward.– Spend time with current friends or reconnect

with old friends.– Don't rush into rebound relationships.

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