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Calibre CreatorsManagement Consulting Human Resource Consulting Education and Training Management Research

Volume 3, Issue 01 - September 2014

LEARNING LETTERFor Free and Private Circulation Only

ITS OUR SSEECCOONNDDANNIVERSARY

WE THANK ALL OUR READERSFOR THEIR WISHES

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MESSAGES OF CONGRATULATIONS!

Weve enjoyed bringing this to you and also enjoyed every bit of the journey so far.

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support, sharing and helpfulnessthat took place in these groupswas unforgettable. Find otherslike youdevoted to becoming thebest in the world at their craft.And create an alliance.

#12. Keep a journal. Writing in ajournal each morning or every

night is a superb way to buildexpertise. It allows for you toreflect deeply on what youredoing rightand celebrate thosewinsand what areas ofperformance you can mostimprove.

#13. Remember that expertiseis a process, not an event.

#14. Reward your successes.Staying passionate with your fieldof expertise and your lofty goals isabsolutely essential to gettingyour through the inevitable

failures/plateaus and obstacles onthe path to Mastery. By setting upa clear reward structure, youllfuel your energy and stay ampedto win.

#15. Read Talent is Overratedby Geoffrey Colvin. Superbbook.

#16. Stick with the new movefor 66 days. According toresearch at The University Collegeof London, it takes 66 days ofpractice to wire in a new habit. Soas you work on a new elementwithin your field of expertise, do

it for 66 days until the neuralhighway in your brain has beeninstalled. The new move will thenbecome automatic.

#17. Raise your standards. Ourbehavior reflects what wevesettled for. All experts areobsessed with becoming the bestthere ever was. And so theirperformance matches thatmindset.

#18. Know that becoming anexpert isnt easy (otherwiseeveryone would be doing it).But itll be truly worth it. That Ipromise you.

#19. Clear your mind. A messymind causes messy results. Makeall efforts to have fewer goals,

see steady gains in yourperformance standards.

#4. Become mono maniacallyfocused on knowing all thereis to know about one or twothings. The secret to Mastery isconcentration of attention.Period.

#5. Read. Its something too fewpeople do on a daily basis.Reading collapses learning timeand allows the brilliance of thebest to rub off on your thinking.

#6. Get a mentor. Ive had anumber of key mentors in my lifeand watching them show up atpeak was a game-changer. Youjust cant reach your personalEverest without some help.

#7. Practice insane amounts ofhours. Anders Ericsson is theworlds pre-eminent researcher

on exceptional performance. Hisresearch (popularized byMalcolm Gladwell) showed that ittakes 10,000 hours of deliberatepractice to make an expert. Put inthe time and out will come theexpert.

#8. Go to your edges. Eliteathletes, violinists, writers andchess players all do the samething: every day they havespecific times that they pushtheir skills to the edge. And byrelentlessly pushing their talentspast whats comfortable, their

talents quickly expand.#9. Play to win versus playingto avoid failing. Experts have atendency to pursue theiridealized image of excellencewhile average performers behavein a way designed to avoidmaking mistakes. Big difference.

#10. Remember that things youonce found hard you now findeasy. You are built to grow, toflourish and to adapt to newstandards.

#11. Set up a support team. At

our annual self-mastery eventThe 48 Hour Transformation Iencouraged the hundreds ofparticipants to form Navy SealTeams. The level of connection,

Average performers work hard tofit in. Ultra Performers workreally, really hard to stand out.

True, the global economy remainsa mess (and I predict it will get alot worse). But for those aimingfor iconic and settling for nothingbut their absolute best, economic

volatility is irrelevant.

Why? Because they are soexceptional at what they do andthe value they produce thattheyve created their own personaleconomy.

They are playing at such a high-level, so original and indispensableto their companies and customersthat theyve becomefamous.

Its a pretty awesome goal for youto aspire to

Becoming famous for how goodyou are at what you do.

Famous for your Mastery.

Famous for your Acumen.

Famous for your Expertise.

Famous for how superbly yourwork serves the world.

And the truth is that theres justnot much competition up in rare-air.

So to assist you in claiming yourfameso that masses of peoplebeat a path to your doorIve listedthe 27 best ways that I know ofto become an expert

Here you go:

#1. Model the mindsets, habitsand behaviors of the peopleperforming at the level you

want to play at. Surroundyourself with as many world-classexperts in your field as you canpossibly network with.

#2. Teach your craft. As youshare what youre learning aboutin your area of expertise, itdeepens your understanding. Andheightens your awareness.Teacher learns the most is a

smart motto.#3. Fail as quickly as you can.Each time you stumble, study thedata, recalibrate and iterate yournext move. Do this daily and youll

Any Answers?

Can a cemetery raise its

prices and blame it on the

cost of living?

Can atheists get insurance

for an act of God?

Why do they lock the lid on

a coffin?

Why is there a light in the

fridge and not in the

freezer?

Inside this issue:

Calibre CreatorsManagement Consulting Human Resource Consulting Education and Training Management Research

Volume 3, Issue 01 - September 2014

LEARNING LETTERFor Free and Private Circulation Only

How to Become Famous - By Robin Sharma

Leadership Quotes 3

Humour 4

Improve Your Child's

Concentration at Home

4

Do you have the Guts? 4

Help Your Teen Understandthe Basics about Emotions

5

Active Scholarships 5

Live Kids Alone 5

Advice for People in theirTwenties

6

18 Things Mentally StrongPeople Do

6

Caliberisms ! A good teacher is like a candle

that consumes itself to light theway for others.

The teacher who is indeed wisedoes not bid you to enter thehouse of his wisdom, but rather

leads you to the threshold of yourmind.

A single conversation with a wise

man is better than ten years ofstudy.

A minute of success pays foryears of failure.

Vision is the art of seeing things

yet not visible.


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leaders raise the bar for others; great leadersinspire others to raise their own bar." OrrinWoodward

"Don't blow off another's candle for it won't makeyours shine brighter."Jaachynma N.E. Agu

"Whenever you see a successful business, someoneonce made a courageous decision." Peter F.

Drucker"When you put together deep knowledge about a

subject that intensely matters to you, charismahappens. You gain courage to share your passion,and when you do that, folks follow."Jerry Porras

"A good leader leads the people from above them. Agreat leader leads the people from withinthem."M.D. Arnold

"The ultimate measure of a man is not where hestands in moments of comfort, but where hestands at times of challenge andcontroversy."Martin Luther King, Jr.

"The very essence of leadership is that you have tohave vision. You can't blow an uncertaintrumpet." Father Theodore M. Hesburgh

"It is absolutely necessary...for me to have personsthat can think for me, as well as executeorders." George Washington

"A leader takes people where they would never go ontheir own." Hans Finzel

"You don't lead by pointing and telling people someplace to go. You lead by going to that place andmaking a case." Ken Kesey

"A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turnhis back on the crowd."Max Lucado

Become the kind of leader that people would followvoluntarily; even if you had no title orposition.Brian Tracy

I start with the premise that the function ofleadership is to produce more leaders, not morefollowers.Ralph Nader

Anyone can hold the helm when the sea iscalm.Publilius Syrus

A great person attracts great people and knows how

to hold them together. Johann Wolfgang VonGoethe

"My job is not to be easy on people. My job is to takethese great people we have and to push them andmake them even better." Steve Jobs

People buy into the leader before they buy into thevision.John Maxwell

To have long-term success as a coach or in anyposition of leadership, you have to be obsessed insome way.Pat Riley

A good leader is a person who takes a little morethan his share of the blame and a little less thanhis share of the credit.John Maxwell

A good plan violently executed now is better than aperfect plan executed next week. George Patton

Earn your leadership every day.Michael Jordan

Success at the highest level comes down to one

question: Can you make the choice that yourhappiness can come from someone else's success?No one has qualities like courage, vision,charisma, adaptability, and decisiveness in equalmeasure. But every great leader does make thesame decision--and so can you.Jeff Haden

"I don't see myself being special; I just see myselfhaving more responsibilities than the next man.People look to me to do things for them, to haveanswers." Tupac Shakur

"If you would convince a man that he does wrong, doright. But do not care to convince him. Men willbelieve what they see. Let them see." Henry DavidThoreau

"I cannot trust a man to control others who cannotcontrol himself." Robert E. Lee

"The day the soldiers stop bringing you theirproblems is the day you stopped leading them.They have either lost confidence that you canhelp them or concluded that you do not care.Either case is a failure of leadership." Colin Powell

"Consensus: The process of abandoning all beliefs,principles, values, and policies in search ofsomething in which no one believes, but to whichno one objects; the process of avoiding the veryissues that have to be solved, merely because youcannot get agreement on the way ahead. Whatgreat cause would have been fought and wonunder the banner: 'I stand for consensus?'"MargaretThatcher

"A leader takes people where they want to go. A

great leader takes people where they don'tnecessarily want to go, but ought to be." RosalynnCarter

"There is a difference between being a leader andbeing a boss. Both are based on authority. A bossdemands blind obedience; a leader earns hisauthority through understanding andtrust." Klaus Balkenhol

"You get in life what you have the courage to askfor."Nancy D. Solomon

"In the end, it is important to remember that wecannot become what we need to be by remainingwhat we are."Max De Pree

"We're here for a reason. I believe a bit of the reasonis to throw little torches out to lead peoplethrough the dark." Whoopi Goldberg

"A leader isn't someone who forces others to makehim stronger; a leader is someone willing to give

his strength to others so that they may have thestrength to stand on their own." Beth Revis

"Always remember, Son, the best boss is the one whobosses the least. Whether it's cattle, or horses, ormen; the least government is the best govern-ment." Ralph Moody

"If you really want the key to success, start by doingthe opposite of what everyone else is doing." BradSzollose

"The art of leadership is saying no, not yes. It is veryeasy to say yes." Tony Blair

"Wisdom equals knowledge plus courage. You haveto not only know what to do and when to do it,but you have to also be brave enough to followthrough."Jarod Kintz

"Remember teamwork begins by building trust. Andthe only way to do that is to overcome our need

for invulnerability." Patrick Lencioni"No guts, no story." Chris Brady

"Leadership is an action, not a position." DonaldMcGannon

"Surround yourself with great people; delegateauthority; get out of the way." Ronald Reagan

"I cannot give you a formula for success, but I cangive you the formula for failure, which is: try toplease everybody." Herbert Bayard Swope

"Show me the man you honor and I will know whatkind of man you are." Thomas John Carlisle

"The challenge of leadership is to be strong but notrude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not abully; be humble, but not timid; be proud, butnot arrogant; have humor, but without folly."JimRohn

"A man always has two reasons for doing anything: a

good reason and the real reason." J.P. Morgan

"If you spend your life trying to be good ateverything, you will never be great at any-thing." Tom Rath

"Average leaders raise the bar on themselves; good

LEADERSHIP QUOTES

Leadership is lonely. No matter how big your team,sometimes it's just you--which means you sometimesneed to look inside yourself for motivation andinspiration.

Or you can find personal inspiration from someonewho has been there, done that...and done it well.

Here are some of leadership quotes. use them to helpyou become an even better leader than you alreadyare.

"To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others,use your heart." Eleanor Roosevelt

"The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacherexplains. The superior teacher demonstrates. Thegreat teacher inspires." William Arthur Ward

"It's hard to lead a cavalry charge if you think youlook funny on a horse."Adlai E. Stevenson II

"Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to bewhat we know we could be. "Ralph WaldoEmerson

"Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage

with others." Robert Louis Stevenson"The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who

does the greatest things. He is the one that getsthe people to do the greatest things." RonaldReagan

"Power isn't control at all--power is strength, andgiving that strength to others. A leader isn'tsomeone who forces others to make him stronger;a leader is someone willing to give his strength toothers that they may have the strength to standon their own." Beth Revis

"Don't tell people how to do things, tell them whatto do and let them surprise you with theirresults." George S. Patton Jr.

"I have three precious things which I hold fast andprize. The first is gentleness; the second isfrugality; the third is humility, which keeps mefrom putting myself before others. Be gentle andyou can be bold; be frugal and you can be liberal;avoid putting yourself before others and you canbecome a leader among men." Lao Tzu

"Leadership is the art of getting someone else to dosomething you want done because he wants to doit." Dwight D. Eisenhower

"Victory has a hundred fathers and defeat is anorphan.John F. Kennedy

"Management is doing things right; leadership isdoing the right things." Peter F. Drucker

"You are not here merely to make a living. You arehere in order to enable the world to live moreamply, with greater vision, with a finer spirit ofhope and achievement. You are here to enrich theworld, and you impoverish yourself if you forgetthe errand." Woodrow Wilson

"Leaders must be close enough to relate to others,

but far enough ahead to motivate them." John C.Maxwell

"Leadership is not about titles, positions, orflowcharts. It is about one life influencinganother."John C. Maxwell

"You have to be burning with an idea, or a problem,or a wrong that you want to right. If you're notpassionate enough from the start, you'll neverstick it out." Steve Jobs

"A leader... is like a shepherd. He stays behind theflock, letting the most nimble go out ahead,whereupon the others follow, not realizing thatall along they are being directed frombehind."Nelson Mandela

"Do you know that one of the great problems of ourage is that we are governed by people who caremore about feelings than they do about thoughtsand ideas."Margaret Thatcher

"A leader is a dealer in hope."Napoleon

"The best executive is the one who has sense enoughto pick good men to do what he wants done, andself-restraint to keep from meddling with themwhile they do it."Theodore Roosevelt
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"What would life be if we had no courage toattempt anything?" - Vincent van Gogh

Are you stuck in place and afraid to act

because you are afraid you might fail?

If so, you arent alone!

Most of us at some time find ourselvesimmobilized by the fear of failure, especially when thepossibility of failure is strong or the consequences offailing are severe. It takes strength and will power tomove forward. We might fail, but if we take no action,

we cant succeed.

Here are some tools to help overcome a fear of failure,

so you can move toward success.

Belief Makes a Difference

Inventor Thomas Edison didnt call himself a failure

when the 100 attempt to create a light bulb failed, orwhen the 1000 attempt failed. Lets face it, many of uswould have chucked the idea after a few dozenfailures! How did Edison keep going? He didnt view

each attempt as a failure; he saw it as feedback that

showed him what wouldnt work.

Here are some other famous people who didnt take

failure to heart and went on to succeed:

J. K. Rowlings Harry Potter and the Sorcerers

Stone was rejected 12 times before a publisher

picked it up.

Henry Ford went broke five times before founding

Ford Motor Company.

Actor Harrison Ford was told he would never make

it as an actor.

Vincent Van Gogh completed more than 800 knownworks in his lifetime and sold only oneto a friend.

Each of these people believed in their abilities andtalent and refused to stop despite what some wouldhave labeled as failure. Imagine what our world would

be like if they had stopped trying.

Learn to Reframe

Stop seeing failure if you don't succeed and refuse toconsider the situation unbeatable. Instead, reframe it.When you reframe, you take a different perspective onthe situation. When you change the frame around apainting, it changes how you view the painting. Askyourself what this situation can teach you. Maybe youneed to make a course correction, try something

different, get help, and so on.

Do a Risk Assessment

What is the worse case scenario if you dont succeed?Be objective! Dont exaggerate. Perform some real duediligence and research to uncover the worst result thatmight happen. Now, assess the likelihood of thishappening, decide what steps you can take to mitigate

or even eliminate this likelihood, and take action.

What do you think went through the mind of NASAemployees when JFK charged them to land a man onthe moon by the end of the decade? There were risksgalore, including the loss of life. Risks can becontrolled, and when you recognize and face them, you

can perform what initially seems like a miracle.

Success does not come by avoiding failure. It comesfrom looking failure in the face and facing it down! Itonly becomes failure when it stops you and keeps

you stuck in place.

"Every strike brings me closer to the nexthome run." - Babe Ruth

T

o accomplish any task you need to be able toconcentrate your attention for a time. It is a re-

quirement for learning. Kids not only need to beable to focus on tasks but to stay in the one place

long enough so they can listen to and follow instructions.

Most kids, from time to time, will experience some concen-tration or focusing difficulties. This is particularly true whenthey are over-tired, over-stimulated or over-loaded. Howeversome children due to either their physiology or psychologyhave greater difficulty focusing on tasks and on people thanothers.

Either they find settling into or starting a task a problem or

they lose focus easily and leave tasks half done.

There are many things you can do at home to impact onchildren' concentration levels. Like any skill, concentrationcan be enhanced and made automatic. The trick to effectiveconcentration is to know what to concentrate on and what tofilter out.

Here are five ideas you can use to help kids to concentrate

better:

1. Attend to their physiological needs: Most children and

teenagers concentrate best after nine hours sleep so makesure they get sufficient sleep. Reduce sugar intake andincrease protein levels with lean meat, almonds and eggs.This stimulates their dopamine levels which make concentra-tion easier, particularly for lethargic kids. Frequent breaks for

exercise have a similar effect.

2. Remove distractions at home: List the distractions athome that may prevent your child from concentrating. Theseinclude; noise, people, lighting, fighting, fatigue and hunger.List ways to eliminate or reduce, and work at them system-

atically.

3. Create the mood for concentration: Calming back-

ground music, placing a fish tank (with fish) in a place ofwork and removal of fluorescent lights are some simple waysto make the environment more amenable for concentration.These strategies have been used successfully in overcoming

concentration problems in many 'boy-friendly' schools.

4. Introduce sequencing and organisation activities: Thelink between sequencing and concentration is a strong one.Following recipes, setting the table and putting things inalphabetical order are great activities for kids who have

concentration difficulties. Board and card games promotechildren's ability to focus on tasks as well.

5. Figure out what activities your child focuses on best:

Some kids concentrate better when they are involved inhands-on activities, while others focus better when there areplenty of visual cues to help them. That's why teachers usehand signals such as 'hands on heads', and 'fingers on lips'to indicate quiet. Look for activities that your child gets lostin; and those activities that they can spend literally spendhours in. These activities enhance children's concentrationlevels.

Like any skill, concentration can be improved and madeautomatic. Anyone who has learned to drive a car will havehad the experience of thinking, "How will I concentrate on allthese things?" Extensive practice allows for the pathways of

concentration.

It helps before you begin to assist kids to concentrate betterif you pay close attention to their pattern of concentrationand see if there are links between diet, their energy pattern,

sleep and your own behaviour.

HUMOUR

H.R.M. : SUCCESSION PLANNING

A new manager spends a week at his new office withthe manager he is replacing. On the last day, the

departing manager tells him, I have left threenumbered envelopes in the desk drawer. Open anenvelope if you encounter a crisis you cant solve.

Three months down the road there is major dramain the office and the manager feels very threatened

by it all. He remembers the parting words of hispredecessor and opens the first envelope. Themessage inside says Blame your predecessor! Hedoes this and gets off the hook.

About half a year later, the company is experiencinga dip in sales, combined with serious productproblems. The manager quickly opens the secondenvelope. The message read, Reorganize! Hestarts to reorganize and the company quicklyrebounds.

Three months later, at his next crisis, he opens thethird envelope. The message inside says Preparethree envelopes.

OPERATIONS: PROCESS CHECK

Teacher: The first of September, first lesson. Pleasesit quietly, if you want to ask somethingraise yourhand.

Peter immediately raises his hand.

You want to ask something?

No. Just checking how the system works.

TRAINING: ITS NEVER TOO LATE

Johnny, why are you late again?

But you only have said that it's never too late tolearn..

ORGANISATIONAL CULTURE: WORKINGSTRENGTH

Interview with a successful businessman: Tell me,how many people work in your company?

Hmm... Approximately half.

POLICY: HOW DO YOU WORK?

Manager for his subordinate: What are you doinghere?

Subordinate: Executing your command.

Manager: But I haven't told you anything.

Subordinate: So and I do nothing.

SAVING THE ECOLOGY: ENERGY SAVER

Customer to Shopkeeper: Yesterday I have boughtan energy saving bulb in your shop, returned home,

but it does not work.

Shopkeeper: `It should not, it saves energy.

RECRUITMENT : JOB INTERVIEWInterviewer: Why did you leave your last job?Candidate: Company relocated and didn't tellmewhere

TECHNOLOGY: BEFORE GOOGLE (B.G.)

Respect your parents - they did high school withoutusing Google or Wikipedia.

Source: Unknown

Do You Have the Guts?Improve your childsconcentration at home

Like any skill, concentration can be improved and made automatic.


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In times of peer pressure and competition, we tellyou how to raise chirpy, tantrum free children

one are the days when life as a 10-year-old was all play and no work. Times aremore competitive and peer pressure hasfound a different meaning altogether.

You may not realise, but in a world where people areleading virtual lives, kids are facing the brunt. They

worry about making more friends on social-networking sites, succeeding at school and sports,and try to fit in with their peers. But a childs naturalstate is supposed to be chirpy and curious. Here ishow to raise a happy kid.

MAKE TIME FOR PLAY

Unstructured playtime is essential for kids to buildtheir imagination, relieve stress and simply be. How-ever, kids these days seem to be busier than theirparents. They hardly have time to eat, let alone freetime for play. Pushy parents, cut out unnecessaryactivity classes. Instead, invite the kids who livearound you over and provide them with simple toyslike blocks and dolls that allow for creative play.

FEED THEM WISELY

If you constantly feed your little one with comfortfoods like burgers, colas and pizzas, it can cause aserious mental health imbalance. Research shows, adiet rich in processed-food causes increased moodswings and even depression among children. This isbecause a large chunk of serotonin, which is in-

volved in mood control, depression and aggression,is found in the intestines, not the brain. Therefore,even if it takes time, cook them a nice meal and steerclear of junk options. But more importantly, getthem to eat on time. If a child goes too long without

eating, it may lead to fluctuations in blood sugarlevels, causing irritability. Children need to refueltheir growing bodies on a regular schedule, so keepyour childs meal times consistent.

LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY

No matter how many toys you buy or PlayStationsyou gift them, children crave nothing, but uncondi-tional and selfless love, and they need it consistently.

If your child makes a mistake, dont reprimand him/her, let them know you are still around for love andsupport. Research show, kids who are constantlycompared to their peers by their parents, grow up tobe resentful adults.

EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION

The next time your kid throws a tantrum, dontreach out for the stick. Instead, let him vent. Chil-dren need to cry, scream, stomp their feet and runaround with excitement. This is how they expresstheir emotions, which doctors say is healthy foremotional development and will prevent a life-timeof internalising negative emotions.

HEAR THEM OUT

The next time you surf the Internet and simultane-ously hear your child out, be mindful. Kids are quickto gauge when youre paying attention to them, and

when you are not. So, when you are spending timewith them, be mentally present too.

REGULAR SLEEP

Too little sleep not only makes kids grouchy andcauses mood swings, it also negatively impacts theirbehaviour and attention. Studies suggest, childrenbetween five and 10 years need at least 10-11 hours ofsleep a night for optimal mood and health. To helpyour child get a good nights sleep, keep the TV,computer, video games and tablets away from yourchilds bedroom. Make sure they are off to bed by 9pm.

BE HAPPY YOURSELF

Happy parents make happy children. If youre con-stantly stressed and angry, your child will sense thisand turn anxious. Likewise, if you keep grumbling

about your situation, the child will learn to do thesame. You are your childs first role model, so set anexample, and no matter how hard life gets, or howmany challenges it throws up, sail through with asmile.

Source: The Times of India

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Help Your Teen Understandthe Basics about Emotions

Sometimes teens struggle to identify andunderstand how they're feeling. Frequentmood shifts and an inability to cope with thoserapidly changing emotions make it atumultuous time for many teens. Teaching yourteen to identify and understand her feeling hasmany advantages.

The Difference between Thoughts, Feelings andBehavior

Teens can benefit from learning the distinctdifference between thoughts, feelings andbehavior. Many teens struggle to understand

the difference. Often, when I ask a teen howhes feeling, hell say something like, I think Ishouldnt have to go to math class. Instead ofsaying how hes feeling, hell tell me what hethinks. Sometimes, teens struggle to label afeeling word that describes their emotions andthey can benefit from learning that theirthoughts, feelings and behavior are separateissues.

Here is an example: FeelingAngry ThoughtI dont like it when people ignore

me. BehaviorPounding a fist on the table.

Help your teen understand that just because hefeels angry, it doesnt give him a right tobehave in an aggressive manner. Teach your

teen that he can learn how to be in control ofhis behavior, no matter what hes feeling.

Also, help your teen identify thoughts thatinfluence how he feels. A teen who thinksconstantly about an upsetting incident is likelyto continue to feel angry. If he can refocus histhoughts on something else or change the wayhe looks at the situation he may feel better.

Although it sounds like a fairly simple concept,most teens I meet need help understanding thedifference. Ask your teen how hes feelingabout specific situations or circumstances.Then, help him label a feeling word thatdescribes his emotion. With practice, hellbecome more used to describing how hesfeeling, not just what hes thinking and it willempower him to take control over his behavior.

Understanding Emotions Helps Establish CopingSkills

When teens don't know how they're feeling ordon't understand how emotions work, copingwith those feelings in a healthy way becomesvery difficult. Teens need to know how to dealwith uncomfortable feeling like anxiety,sadness and anger. Once teens have a betterunderstanding that emotions are acceptableand its okay to feel them, they can learnhealthy ways to deal with them.

Teens may need help finding healthy copingskills to deal with their emotions while talkingto a friend may relieve anxiety for one person,

drawing may be the best strategy for anotherteen. Help your teen identify coping strategiesthat will help him tolerate the discomfort heexperiences when he has strong emotions.

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priorities and responsibilities so your mindbecomes incredibly centered on the dominantfocus of your professional life: the one field

you are committed to mastering.#20. Go first-class. If youre really seriousabout world-class performance then have theguts to invest in world-class training tools,world-class coaching, world-class instruments,world-class conference, world-class nutritionand a totally world-class environment tosupport your rise to the top.

#21.Watch the uber-inspiring documentaryof expertise Jiro Dreams of Sushi.

#22. Sleep less to achieve more. Yes, sleep isessential for peak results. I get it. But too manypeople sleep too much. Most of the ultraacheivers I work with sleep very little. Theydrather use that time to practice, study, produceawesome work, grow their fortunes, build theirfamilies and contribute beautifully to theworld.

#23. Understand that mastery loves thehardworking.

#24. Keep the self-promises you make toyourself. Its a fantastic way to increase self-discipline.

#25. Keep a written daily schedule. Thethings that get scheduled are the things thatget done. Expertise comes from clear andstructured effort. A written schedule of yourpractice times, study times, coaching times aswell as a listing of your other essential life

commitments will ensure youre on track.#26. Show up when you dont feel like it.Experts dont show up to do the work onlywhen they feel strong, energized and excited.They show up when theyre tired, discouragedand exhausted. Thats what it takes to be thebest.

#27. Do it for yourself as much as for theworld. Becoming an expert is one of the finestmethods I know of to move toward self-mastery. The process of expressing yourgreatest talents and potential develops yourcharacter. You teach yourself patience,perseverance and toughen your faith. Yes,youll help/inspire/create value for so manypeople via your inevitable expertise. But dontjust do it for that. Choose it for what thisuncommon journey will make of you as aperson.

Advice for People in TheirTwenties by Johnny Webber

1. Find three hobbies you love: one tomake you money, one to keep you inshape, and one to be creative.

2. Getting a degree matters, but getting the rightdegree matters even more.

3. Leave every job you have on good terms. Do not

burn your bridges.4. See the world while you still dont have a ton of

responsibilities.

5. Dont live on the Internet. Go out and experiencereal life.

6. Dont give up what you want most for what youwant now.

7. Read. A lot.

8. Dress to impress.

9. Never pinch pennies on brakes or tires.

10. Never stop learning

11. Marry someone you consider your best friend.

12. All adventures in life start by just showing up.

13. Drama is never worth putting up with.

14. Value experiences over possess-ions.15. Drive slow in bad weather.

16. Money comes and goes. Time just goes.

17. Dont judge yourself on your intentions but youractions.

18. Always make new mistakes.

19.Dont rely on other people to make you happy.

20.Bite less; chew more.

How to become FamousContd. from page 1

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Reduces Behavior ProblemsTeens who understand their feelings are able touse their words rather than their actions toexpress themselves. For example, a teen whounderstands he's feeling angry may be able totalk about those feelings or address theproblem. A teen who lacks understanding ofanger may blame others for his angry feelingsand not accept responsibility for damagingproperty when he's upset.

As your teen begins to develop a betterunderstanding of his feelings hell be able tofind positive ways to cope with his emotions

before things get out of control. A teen whorecognizes warning signs that hes getting veryupset, will look for strategies to solve theproblem or cope with his emotions, rather thanallowing his behavior to get out of control.

1. They Move on. They dont waste timefeeling sorry for themselves.

2. They keep control. They dont give awaytheir power.

3. They embrace change. They welcomechallenges.

4. They stay happy. They dont complain. Theydont waste energy on things they cantcontrol.

5. They are kind, fair, and unafraid to speakup. They dont worry about pleasing aboutother people.

6. They are willing to take calculated risks.They weigh the risks and benefits beforetaking action.

7. They invest their energy in the present.

They dont dwell on the past. 8. They accept full responsibility for their

past behaviour. They dont make the samemistake over and over.

9. They celebrate other peoples success.They dont resent that success.

10. They are willing to fail. They dont giveup after failing. They see every failure as achange to improve.

11. They enjoy their time along. They dontfear being alone.

12.They are prepared to work and succeedon their own merits. They dont feel the

world owes them anything.

13.They have staying power. They dontexpect immediate results.

14.They evaluate their core beliefsandmodify as needed.

15.They expend their mental energy wisely.They dont spend time on unproductivethoughts.

16.They think productively. They replacenegative thoughts with productive thoughts.

17.They tolerate discomfort. They accept theirfeelings without being controlled by them.

18.They reflect on their progress. Theycontinuously monitor the milestones,hurdles, opportunities and work on them.

18 Things Mentally StrongPeople Do

Why Its Important to TeachTeens About Emotions

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Improves Social Skills

A teen who is more in-tune with his feelings willexhibit better social skills compared to a teenwho doesn't understand his emotions. Forexample, a teen who is feeling anxious becausehis friends don't seem to be including him intheir conversation may exhibit attention-seekingbehavior, such as making strange noises or lyingto get attention. A teen who understands hisemotions may be able to be assertive and say,I'm feeling left out.

Teens are likely to experience betterrelationships and less conflict when theyunderstand the emotions they're experiencing.Help your teen think about how other peoplemay feel in certain situations. This can help himempathize with his friends and understand how

his behavior influences how others feel. Anemotionally intelligent teen is more likely tothink about other peoples feelings in socialsituations and can be more accepting of otherpeople.

PRINCIPLES OF LIFE

1No point using limited lifeto chase unlimited money.

2No pointearning so much money you cannot live to

spend it.

3 Moneyis not yours until you spend it.

4 When you are young,you use your health to chase

your wealth;when you are old, youuse your wealth

to buy back your health.Difference is that,it is too

late.

5 How happy a man is, is not how much he has but

how little he needs.

6No pointworking so hard to provide for the people

you have no time to spend with.


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Calibre Creators : Our Guiding Philosophy

Calibre Creators believes in building Life-Long

Relationships with the participants of its training

programmes, especially the students. We expect

to become their mentors and be able to provide

them effective solutions till the time they are well

established in their careers.

Our Business Focus: We aim to provide training and life-changing

interventions in these principle areas:

Personal and Corporate Training and Development

Academic : Programs that would enable Management, Teachers and students to enhance their abilities / attitude for future education oriented endeavours.

Career / Corporates:Programs that would help individuals enhance their attitude, ambition, personality, skill profiles to improve their journey in their chosen

vocations or professions

Life :Programs that would equip individuals of all ages and profiles with essential skills or outlook to further enhance their routine life experiences with the

objective of building a better society.

Community: Programs that would enable individuals or groups of individuals to improve their relationships within / with their immediate environment and

those touching their lives.

Have Faith : Whatever Happens, happens for Good

Once upon a time there was an old man called Sthira, who lived alone ina village. He would go about his business alone, even in his old age. Hewas a nice, friendly man who was liked by all the people in the village.They would often come over to the old mans house and express theirsympathy that his only son had gone so far away to study. Theywondered aloud if his son would ever return. To all their concern, Sthirawould always thank them and say, "Whatever happens, happens for thegood."

One day, the old mans son returned to the village. The entire villagewas very happy for Sthira, and streams of villagers came over tocongratulate him. Like always, the old man was polite. He thanked all ofthem for coming over and said, "Whatever happens, happens for the

good."

Barely a few days had passed, when one day, Sthiras son fell off a horsesback and broke his leg. Once again the entire village came over to Sthirashouse to express their concern. And once again the old man thanked themfor their sympathy and said, "Whatever happens, happens for the good."Some of the villagers were surprised to hear this and wondered what goodcould there possibly be in a broken leg.

A few days later, a small army of the local king came to the village andrecruited all able-bodied young men into the army. When they came toSthiras house they found his son with a broken leg. So they left him behind.Once again, all the villagers came to the old mans house to congratulatehim for his good luck. And like always, the old man thanked them for theirconcern and said, "Whatever happens, happens for the good."

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