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Building Strong Families
Chapter 3
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q1CmP0sLTK8
Essential Questions
• What qualities contribute to building a strong family?• What are family structures and how are they
the same/different?• What trends affect families?• What are the three parenting styles and how
do they differ?• How do you determine effective ways of
guiding children’s behavior?
Vocabularycustodial parent
intergenerationaldeprivation
guidance
selfdiscipline
conscience
consistent
fosterchild
How would you define family?
A group of people who:
care for one another
teach you life skills
provide shelter/basic needs
share close connections
teach you values
Does a family….•Have to agree on every thing?
•Be related by blood?
•Have arguments?
•Spend a lot of time together?
• Love and care for each other?
Some things that strong families share
• Everyone feels accepted and safe
• Everyone learns and grows together
• Emotional support, security
• Bonds and traditions
• Values and acceptable behaviors
Assessment Prompt: How do families do this when they do not live together?
• Stick up for each other
• Family reunions
• Support system for each other
• Make time to be together
• Honest with each other
• Love each other
• Shopping together
• Family night
• Boundaries
• Talk about problems
• Attend church
• We are close---couldn’t imagine a day without them
Characteristics of Strong Families• Members work together
• Listen with an open mind
• Share responsibilities
• Share goals and values
These are vital life lessons!
What are the functions of families?•Meet basic needs
• Prepare children to live in society
• Provide support
• Form traditions
•Share values
•Handle conflicts
For each of the above…what does it mean and how do we do it?
Family Structures
Nuclear
Family Structures
oasis-church-nj.com
Single Parent
Family Structures
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Blended Family
Family Structures
lookherenow.org
Extended Family
Family Structures
Legal Guardian
Family Structures
FosterChild
Family StructuresTalk to your partner about whether each type of family can be strong?
Do some have a better chance?
Do some have less of a chance?
Which family structure is the best?
What trends affect families?
Mobility
What trends affect families?
Aging Population
What trends affect families?
Economic Changes
What trends affect families?
Workplace Changes
What trends affect families?
Technology
What trends affect families?
Talk to your partner
Explain what trends are affecting your family and how.
Then talk about how your family stays strong while
facing these trends.
What do you think?Many families are facing hard times. Image one of your parents lose their job and the only job they can find is 100 miles away and doesn’t pay well. As a teen, would it be easier to move to a new community or have to cut way back on spending? Explain
There is also a family life cycle we go through…
Stage Advantages Disadvantages
Beginning /Couples
Expanding
Developing
Launching
Middle / Empty Nest
Retirement
There is also a family life cycle we go through…
Talk to your partner about what whether this life cycle is the same for everyone?
List things that may cause it to change.
Another thing that makes families unique is the parenting style used.
Authoritarianhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj64B6P9bxs
Parent Centered
Obedience
Discipline (physical)
No Rewards
Another thing that makes families unique is the parenting style used.
Permissivehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oknZ-Hp5QEw
Child Centered
No Authority
Child Decides
Actions Teach
Another thing that makes families unique is the parenting style used.
Democratic https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YxVMYXO57k8
Parent = Child
Develop self confidence
Limits from parents
Punishment = Crime
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbkzpgBlHUs
What type of families are you looking at here?
PARENTING SKILLS•These do not come naturally
•Learned through practice
•Different for everyone
•Learn by mistakes
• It’s all about the child’s needs
Categories of Children’s Needs
Physical needs
What is included in physical needs?
• Nourishing meals
• Clean, dry, comfortable clothes
• Safe, clean place to call home
• Regular doctor visits and immunizations
• Car seat for safety
• Environment for learning
Categories of Children’s Needs
Emotional and Social Needs
What is included in Emotional/Social needs?
• Raise happy, independent adults
• Function in the world
• Get along with others
• Learn how to care for others
• Learn though relationships with parents
• Show nurturing
• Show restraint (over protective)
Categories of Children’s Needs
Intellectual Needs
What is included in intellectual needs?
• Learning begins at birth
• Infancy is a time of constant learning
• Use the senses (many exposures/experiences)
• Reading is the single most important activity
• Everyday play objects (not expensive toys)
•When needs are met, better prepared for school
What if a child’s needs are meet?• Deprivation• Not meeting needs of child• Nothing to do with money (rich and poor
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http://dontwelookalike.files.wordpress.com/2012/07/yangximattresses.jpg
An example
•https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=thIDCL3NClQ
Talk about what caused this situation
Talk about what needed to be changed
Can you imagine ever having a life like this?
Think about….A time when you did not behave properly?
Briefly explain what happened
Tell us how people around reacted
Tell us how an adult reacted (parent)
Was that effective in stopping the behavior
Some Examples
• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aILxZYr7J1s&feature=related (car seat)
• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q1ZR4Av-HBI&NR=1 (change dress)
• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mx8S9AKb_oM (grocery store)
• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H30YrFg3rqQ&playnext=1&list=PLC51D728EE4267841 (guitar hero)
Guidance• Define?
process of controlling actions of child
giving advice
help understand behavior & consequences
• Goal?
have child act in a developmentally appropriate manner/socially acceptable
self discipline
• How?
• use firmness and understanding to teach behavior control
Remembering that guidance is the big picture…
Why do children need guidance
throughout their life?
1. Help learn to get along with others
2. Learn to handle feelings in an acceptable way
3. Develop positive feelings about themselves
4. Learn moral development (conscience)
Discipline• Define?
small part of guidance
control behavior
• Goal?
obedience?
acceptable behavior
• How?
age appropriate
punishment/praise
Punishment• Define?
penalty/consequence for misbehavior
small part of discipline
• Goal?
control behavior
• How?
individual decision
self esteem of the child is essential
What is the most important word for a parent to
remember?Consistency
What does it mean?
Everyone doing the same thing, the same way, every time!
Why is consistency so important?Children learn to trust the adults in their
life.
Without consistency:
lose trust --- lose confidence --- become confused --- become insecure
--- child will not listen (behave)
Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior
•Tell child exactly what is expected.
• Examples:
• Toys away
• Dishes away
Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior
• Set a good example.
• Children imitate adults.
• Child learn by being shown.
• Examples:
• Language
• Actions
Parents Need to Encourage Appropriate Behavior• Praise appropriate behavior
• Positive reinforcement
•Works for most children
•Behavior and not child
Praising Behaviors1.Be specific/clear
2.Notice behavior when happens
3.Recognize small steps
4.Help them be proud of themselves
5.Encourage in problem areas
Offering ChoicesChildren do not have good problem
solving skills.
Encourage them to make their
own decisions.
Be sure to offer no more than 2
good choices.
Setting Limits for Children•What should limits achieve?
• Keep children from hurting themselves
• Keep children from hurting others•Keep children from hurting property
Inappropriate Behavior• Let’s face it, event the best child
misbehaves sometimes.
• As a parent or caregiver, you must
• learn to deal with misbehavior
• appropriately and effectively.
Inappropriate BehaviorIntentional Misbehavior
First time, give a warning, not punishment
Second time, negative reinforcement
(discourage them from repeating it)
Be sure child knows you disapprove of behavior and not them!
Inappropriate Behavior•When you give punishment, be
sure it is in proportion to the misbehavior.
•Punishment =Crime
Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors
Natural Consequences
The end result of the misbehavior is
it’s own punishment. Nothing else needed.
Examples
Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors
Loss of PrivilegesNot effective until about age 5
Loss should be related to misbehavior
Example:
Dealing with Inappropriate Behaviors
Loss of Privileges
Not effective until about age 5
Loss should be related to misbehavior
Example:
Dealing with Inappropriate BehaviorsTime Out
Time away from activity or people
Chance to calm down and regain control
Steps in time out:
Poor Disciplinary MeasuresBribing
Child always expects something
Child doesn’t learn self control
Promise to BehaveFeel like they let you down
Afraid you will be mad at them
Poor Disciplinary MeasuresShouting and Yelling
Child can be scared
Loud voices affect children emotionally
Shaming/Belittling
Destroys child’s self esteem
Makes them feel worthless