Breaking The Cycle

After realizing there are too many arguments, you must break the cycle.

There are two points of view, yours and your parents’.

Ineffective Communication

Independence versus Dependence

Understanding why the conflict occurs will help you to break the cycle of continuous fighting.

Style of Communication

Starting the conversation or request

Things to notice during the arguments:

Criticism Defensiveness Contempt Ignoring

Notice the patterns

What Can I Do?

While you can’t make your parents change their behaviors, you do have the power to change your behaviors

Decreasing the number of arguments.

Avoid criticizing, being defensive to, being rude to, or ignoring your parents.

Self timeouts Talking calmly and respectfully, Listen, and Be

honest Compromise

What Can I Do? Cont.

After the argument

Apologize

Make-up

Do something fun together; laugh together

Families Are Safe

Disagreements can be Healthy

Disagreements teach Social Skills Negotiation Listening and hearing other’s perspectives Compromising

Disagreements in the family

Disagreements can be healthy, but continuous fighting is NOT.

It is now timeto engage inthe Activities

Wrap-up

What was the importance of today’s session?

What do negative patterns in fighting look like?

How can you Repair your relationship after an argument?

What have you learned today and how can this be applied in your own home?