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BODY LANGUAGE & VOICE MODULATION
Enhancing Non-Verbal Communication!
Who Am I?
Tell us about yourself in fifteen words.
Example: I am Shahnaz Patel, a soft skills trainer who loves dancing and reading books.
A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.
A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.
I am blind, please help
Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?"
The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way."
What he had written was: "Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it."
Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?
Today is a beautiful day and I cannot
see it."
Communication skills- Definition
Communication is referred to as the exchange of information, knowledge or thoughts between individuals and groups.
It can be a one-way or a two-way process.
The Communication Cycle
Types of Communication
Verbal
Non-verbal
Verbal
Oral
Written
Oral Communication
Oral - Involves aspects of Voice:
Tone
Inflection
Pitch
Intonation
Rate of Speech
Volume
Tone
It is the expression of emotions and feelings in your voice.
Tone of voice is most basically defined as the quality of a person's voice. These qualities are made of the pitch, characteristics and volume of the voice.
The way the words are delivered and the manner are speaking also make up the tone.
Inflection
In grammar, inflection is the modification of a word to express different grammatical categories such as tense, grammatical mood, grammatical voice, aspect, person, number, gender and case.
It is also the alteration of pitch or tone of voice.
Pitch
The quality of a sound governed by the rate of vibrations producing it; the degree of highness or lowness of a tone.
Intonation
Intonation is the relative emphasis that may be given to certain syllables in a word, or to certain words in a phrase or sentence.
Say It!
Placement of the emphasis Why don’t I take you to
dinner tonight? Why don’t I take you to
dinner tonight? Why don’t I take you to
dinner tonight? Why don’t I take you to
dinner tonight? Why don’t I take you to
dinner tonight? Why don’t I take you to
dinner tonight? Why don’t I take you to
dinner tonight?
What it means I was going to take someone
else. Instead of the guy you were
going with. I’m trying to find a reason
why I shouldn’t take you. Instead of going on your own.
Do you have a problem with me?
Instead of lunch tomorrow.
Not tomorrow night.
Repeat the following sentence intonating each word:Why don’t I take you to dinner tonight?
Rate of Speech
It is the rate at which you speak.
Read This!
As a representative of your organization, it is important that you speak clearly. That means that you must articulate. It also means that you must speak so that you can be understood. Although there is no set rate of speech, most expert speakers talk at between one-hundred-forty and one-hundred-sixty words per minute. That is a good speed for verbal communication. It is not too fast to be understood. It does not give the listener the impression that you are under pressure nor is it too slow. The one-hundred-sixty word rate adds an element of dignity to your voice. The one-hundred-sixty word rates also gives a sound image to your audience that establishes both you and your company as efficient and well-organized. To give the audience the kind of impression of yourself and your company that you wish, speak correctly, speak at one-hundred-sixty -- that's one-hundred sixty words per minute.
Written Communication
Reports
Letters
Non-verbal
Gestures
Facial Expressions
Eye Contact
Body Movement & Posture
Proximity/Personal Space
What is Body Language?
Body language is the unspoken or non-verbal mode of communication that we do in every single aspect of our interaction with another person. It is like a mirror that tells us what the other person thinks and feels in response to our words or actions. Body language involves gestures, mannerisms, and other bodily signs.
Body Language may be conscious or involuntary.
History of Body Language
Dates back to the 1960s
Julius Fast published a book about body language in 1970 , one of the first books to talk about the non-verbal cues and their impact.
Technical study on the subject dates back to Charles Darwin, 1872.
Charlie Chaplin- Silent Movies
Silent actors like Charlie Chaplin were the pioneers of non-verbal communication skills.
They were the only means of communication available on the screen.
Each actor was classed as good or bad by the extent to which he could use gestures and other body signals to communicate effectively.
Impact of a Message- Albert Mehrabian
7%
38%55%
Impact of a Message
VerbalVocalNon-Verbal
Gestures-Across Cultures!
is 'good' to Westerners, 'one' to Italians,'five' to Japanese and 'up *****' to the Greeks
Gestures
A gesture is a body movement used to express an idea or an emotion.
Some universal gestures are: Smiling Nodding Sneering
Sneering Example
Human and animal sneering — you wouldn't want to go on a date with either of these two
Negative Gestures
There are some negative gestures which should be avoided: Pointing at people- It is perceived as accusatory. Fiddling with your items-It gives the impression that
you are nervous. Head Down- It suggests timidity. Drooping shoulders- It implies weariness and
lethargy. Shifty eyes- It suggests nervousness. Arms crossed on the chest- It is a defensive gesture. Shaking feet or legs- It shows indifference and
disinterest.
Avoid these hand gestures
Use these hand gestures
Which smile is fake?
False smiles pull back only the mouth, real smiles pull back both the mouth
and eyes
Types of Smiles
1. The tight-lipped smileThe lips are stretched tight across the face to form a straight line and the teeth are concealed. It sends the message that the smiler has a secret or a withheld opinion or attitude that they will not be sharing with you.
Types of Smiles
2. The Twisted SmileThis smile shows opposite emotions on each side of the face.In picture A below, the right brain raises the left side eyebrow, the left cheek to produce one type of smile on the left side of the face while the left brain pulls the same muscles downwards on the right side to produce an angry frown.
Types of Smiles
3. The Drop-Jaw SmileThis is a practised smile where the lower jaw is simply dropped down to give the impression that the person is laughing or playful.
Types of Smiles
4. Sideways-Looking-Up SmileWith the head turned down and away while looking up with a Tight-Lipped Smile, the smiler looks juvenile, playful and secretive. This coy smile has been shown to be men's favourite everywhere, because when a woman does it, it engenders parental male feelings, making men want to protect and care for females. This is one of the smiles Princess Diana used to captivate the hearts of people everywhere.
Facial Expressions
There are six categories of facial expressions:• Happiness• Sadness• Anger• Disgust• Surprise• Fear
Eye Contact
Our eyes are a very significant aspect of the non-verbal signals we send to others.
To a lesser or greater extent we all 'read' people's eyes without knowing how or why, and this ability seems to be inborn.
Eye Contact
Eye contact Encouraged in America, Canada,
Europe Rude in most Asian countries and in
Africa Raising eyebrows
“Yes” in Thailand and some Asian countries
“Hello” in the Philippines Winking eye
Sharing secret in America and Europe flirtatious gesture in other countries
Eye Contact
Closed eyes bored or sleepy in America “I’m listening and concentrating.” in Japan,
Thailand, China
Ears
Ear grasp “I’m sorry.” in parts of India
Cupping the ear “I can’t hear you.” in all societies
Nose
Holding the nose “Something smells bad.” universal
Nose tap “It’s confidential.” England “Watch out!” or "Be careful.” Italy
Nose
Pointing to nose “It’s me.” Japan
Blowing nose In most Asian countries, blowing the
nose at social gathering is ‘disgusting.’
Arms
Some cultures, like the Italians, use the arms freely. Others, like the Japanese, are more reserved; it is considered impolite to gesticulate with broad movements of the arms.
Folding arms are interpreted by some social observers as a form of excluding self, “I am taking a defensive posture,” or “I disagree with what I am hearing.”
Arms
Arms behind back, hands grasped is a sign of ease and control.
Arms in front, hands grasped, common practice in most Asian countries, is a sign of mutual respect for others.
Hands
Of all the body parts, the hands are probably used most for communicating non-verbally.
Hand waves are used for greetings, beckoning, or farewells.
Hands
The Italian “good-bye” wave can be interpreted by Americans as the gesture of “come here.”
The American “good-bye” wave can be interpreted in many parts of Europe and Latin America as the signal for “no.”
Hands
Beckoning The American way of getting attention
(raising a hand with the index finger raised above head) could be considered rude in Japan, and also means “two” in Germany.
In China, to beckon a waiter to refill your tea, simply turn your empty cup upside down.
Hands
Right hand- The right hand has special significance in many societies. In certain countries in the Middle East and in Asia, it is best to present business cards or gifts, or to pass dishes of food, to get an attention, using only the right hand or both.
Left hand is considered unclean in much of the Middle East and in parts of Indonesia.
Fingers
The “O.K.” signal. (the thumb and forefinger form a circle) means “fine,” or “O.K.” in most cultures, “zero” or “worthless” in some parts of
Europe “money” in Japan an insult in Greece, Brazil, Italy, Turkey,
Russia and some other countries
Fingers
“Thumb-up” means: “O.K.” “good job” or “fine” in most cultures, “Up *****!” in Australia “Five” in Japan; “One” in Germany
Avoid a thumb-up in these countries: Australia, New Zealand, Greece, Turkey, Iran, Russia, and most African countries.
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Fingers
Pointing Pointing with the index
finger is common in North America and Europe.
But it is considered impolite in Japan and China where they favor using the whole open hand.
Malaysians prefer pointing with the thumb.
Legs and Feet
In Asia, do not point with your toes.
In Asia and some European countries, putting feet up on a desk or any other piece of furniture is very disrespectful.
Sitting cross-legged, while common in North America and some European countries, is very impolite in other parts of the world.
In the Middle East and most parts of Asia, resting the ankle over the other knee risks pointing the sole of your shoe at another person, which is considered a rude gesture.
Walking
Walking can reflect many characteristics of a culture. For example: In parts of Asia and some of the Middle
Eastern countries, men who are friends may walk holding each other’s hand.
In Japan and Korea, older women commonly walk a pace or two behind male companion.
Asians often regard Western women as bold and aggressive, for they walk with a longer gait and a more upright posture.
Posture
Body posture can be open or closed.
Interested people pay attention and lean forward.
Leaning backwards demonstrates aloofness or rejection.
A head held straight up signals a neutral attitude.
A head down is negative and judgmental.
Posture
Some negative postures should be avoided:
Rigid Body Posture-Anxious/ Uptight
Hunched Shoulders –Lacks interest/ Feeling inferior
Crossed Arms-Protecting the body/ Negative Thoughts
What impression do the following people give you?
What impression do the following people give you?
Proximity/Personal Space
Proximity refers to the interpersonal distance between two or more people.
It is the region surrounding the individual in which he is comfortable.
Any intrusion in this space makes the individual uncomfortable.
Proximity/Personal Space
Imagine you have an invisible bubble surrounding you.
This bubble contracts and expands depending on the relationship we share with other people and the situation we are in.
Your personal space is different isn’t the same as mine!.
Proximity/Personal Space
When you interact with a stranger the bubble is becomes larger.
The better you know the person you're communicating with, the smaller the bubble becomes.
Research suggests that the bubble is usually larger for two men than for two women.
The bubble size may differ for different cultures.
Proximity/Personal Space
According to Edward T. Hall’s research there are four bodily distances:
Intimate Space(0-18 inches)Personal Space (1.5 feet-4 feet)
Social Space (4 feet-12 feet)
Public Space (12 feet and beyond)
Intimate Space(0-18 inches)
Of all the zone distances, this is by far the most important, as it is this zone that a person guards as if it were his own property. Only those who are emotionally close to us are permitted to enter.
These include lovers, parents, spouse, children close friends, relatives and pets.
Personal Space (1.5 feet-4 feet)
This is the distance that we stand from others at cocktail parties, office parties, social functions and friendly gatherings.
Social Space (4 feet-12 feet)
We stand at this distance from strangers, the plumber or carpenter doing repairs around our home, the postman, the local shopkeeper, the new employee at work and people whom we don't know very well.
People from asparsely populatedarea keeping theirdistance
Public Space (12 feet and beyond)
Whenever we address a large group of people, this is the comfortable distance at which we choose to stand.
Body language at an Interview
Who are you?
Based on your body language, an interviewer may know whether you are confident or not.
They can tell if you are capable of handling the job, if you are devoted, or if you’re someone who can get along with other employees.
Based on their questions, the interviewer will not only pay attention to what you say, but also on how you say it. The interviewer generally will find responses from you that match their qualifications.
The First Encounter
When the interviewer comes to the room to meet you, do not offer your hand for a handshake unless the interviewer offers his hand. Shake hands firmly, but do not squeeze. Maintain eye contact.
Proper Posture
Body posture is important during job interviews and you can adopt the following stance. At the beginning of the interview, sit up straight in your chair, with your back leaning against the back of the chair.
Do not slouch or move sideways in your chair because it might be perceived by the interviewer as a lack of interest or boredom.
On the other hand, sitting on the edge of your chair can impart a message that you are a little nervous and that you feel uneasy with the situation.
When the interviewer says something, it is advisable to lean forward a little. This shows interest and attention in what the interviewer is saying. You can tilt your head a little to show that you are listening closely.
Proper Gestures
Do not cross your arms because this might be perceived as a defensive move. Just place your hands loosely on your lap or just put them on the armrest of your chair.
While speaking, you may nod your head occasionally to expound on a subject or to give more meaning to what you are saying. Hand movements can also help to spice up the conversation. The interviewer would think that you are comfortable with the interview process if you make hand gestures.
Proper Gestures
Be aware of your interviewer’s hand movements as well. If they use their hands a lot to make a point or to clarify something, you can do the same thing as well.
Be alert to unintentional gestures that you may make sometimes due to tension. Some of the acts that may irritate the interviewer could include:
Tapping your fingers across the desk. Shuffling your feet. Biting your nails. Toying with a pen.
Body language peculiar to each style
Styles of Communication
Aggressive People
Body language Stiff and straight Points, bangs tables to emphasize points Folds arms across body
Verbal language “I want you to…” “You must…” “Do what I tell you!” “You’re stupid!”
Submissive people
Body Language Avoids eye contact Stooped posture Speaks quietly Fidgets
Verbal Language “I’m sorry” “It’s all my fault” “Oh dear”
Assertive People
Body language Stands straight Appears composed Smiles Maintains eye contact
Verbal language “Let’s” “How shall we do this?” “I think… What do you think?” “I would like…”
Being Effective with Body Language!
Reading Body Language
Read gestures in clusters
Look for congruence
Read gestures in a context
Mirroring
When body language and speech characteristics are mirrored or synchronized between people this tends to assist the process of creating and keeping rapport (a mutual feeling of empathy, understanding, trust).
When another person displays similar body language to our own, this makes us react unconsciously to feel, "This person is like me and agrees with the way I am. I like this person because we are similar, and he/she likes me too."
Dress Your Best
Business Attire
Business attire
Formals & Friday Dressing
Belts, Shoes & Socks
Colors that Work and Don’t
Scarves & Ties
Accessorizing
Business Attire-Formals Men
Formal full-sleeve shirts & formal trousers with or without a jacket
You can wear short sleeves on casual days.
Wear khaki trousers, chinos, etc on casual days only
Clothes should be neat and well-ironed
Business Attire-Colors That Work & Don’t
Avoid wearing bright colors.
Men should wear solid colored shirts. Colors to wear are whites, blues and other light colors. Avoid bold stripes or checks on workdays
In trousers men should wear navy blue, black, charcoal, etc.
Women can experiment with color but should stick to wearing lighter colors
Business Attire-Formals & Women
You can wear western formals, a business suit or a shirt & trouser with a scarf
Indian formals, a sari or a salwar khameez
Wear dress shoes, no sandals other than casual days and chappals, are a complete No - No.
Business Attire-Belts, Shoes & Socks
The color of your belt & shoes must match
Wear belts with simple buckles for your formal and semi-formal trousers.
Avoid huge chunky buckles for your belts.
Use conservative shades for your belts
Wear leather shoes only on work days.
Business Attire-Belts, Shoes & Socks
Polish your shoes
Socks need to be long enough to cover your leg
Try and match the color of your socks to your trousers whenever possible or wear white socks
Business Attire- Scarves
Women can wear scarves with their western formals
Remember Less is Better is the rule!
Lesser the contrast between the clothes and the scarf, the better
Lesser the print on the scarf the better.
Business Attire-Ties
Wear good quality ties
Stick to solid colors, geometric prints and stripes
Avoid bold colors and in-your-face prints
Contrast your shirt and tie
Do not wear heavy jewelry
Try and match your bags/purses to your clothing
Carry leather bags/purses preferably to look professional
Wear subtle wrist watches
Business Attire-Accessorizing
Thank You