Body Language and Attraction v2.0

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Body Language and Attraction, 2nd

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Prologue

This is the second edition of Body Language and Attraction.

After the astounding response to the first edition, I decided

to put together a second edition sporting more information,

and links to further reading where appropriate.

As you begin to enjoy this book, be aware that distribution is

encouraged. Spread it around in any way you see fit. All I

ask is that you don’t sell it for profit. This information

should be freely available for all.

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website, blog, or webpage somewhere on the face of the

internet, link back to the site this ebook came from, with the

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For more ebooks like this one, information, and advice, visit:

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Joanne.

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Contents

1. Introduction, So Where Do We Start?

2. Rules for Accurate Body Language Reading

3. Practice Makes Perfect

4. The Eyes are the Windows to the Soul

5. Dilating Pupils

6. Looking Up

7. Eye Contact

8. Smiling Makes the World Go Round

9. Tight Lips

10. Sideways, Looking Up

11. You're all Hands

12. Arm Signals

13. Crossed Arms over Chest

14. Self Hug

15. Elbow Touching

16. The Body Points to Where the Mind Wants to Go

17. Open Positioning

18. Closed Positioning





19. Leg and Foot Pointing

20. Personal Territory

21. Touch and Personal Claim

22. General Flirting and Attraction Gestures

23. Conclusion

24. Recommended Reading

25. Love Systems

26. Contact Me





Introduction; So Where Do We Start?

Well, what is body language? Technically, it’s been defined

as the nonverbal and mostly unconscious communication

through use of gestures such as posture, facial expressions,

hand movements, and alike.

With training, the ability to notice and define body language

can be used to reveal the true thoughts, intentions, and

current emotional condition of everyone.

Various studies have concluded that face to face

communication consists of a less than 35% verbal

Component, and an 85% non verbal component.

Examples of this are seen in every day life; but few notice

them. For example a woman who isn’t having a good time at

the bar will sit with her arms crossed, legs crossed, and a

slight frown on her face, and the guy who’s trying to impress

her might display the typical “cowboy pose” of hands in

pockets with thumbs protruding, pointing at his crotch.

The purpose of this ebook is to help you become aware of

the varying body language used by those feeling attraction

for another; because the more aware you become, the better





able you are to determine whether someone has a crush on

you.

As well as being able to spot gestures of attraction, this

ebook will teach you gestures of dislike too – it’s important

to know these in order to gain a balanced view of a person’s

true feelings.

Rules for Accurate Body Language Reading

One of the most common mistakes a rookie body language

reader could make is to interpret individual gestures in

isolation of other gestures.

For example, when someone rubs their left hand on their

right arm it can indicate many things – negative feelings,

sore arm, or perhaps they’re just cold. It all depends on the

other gestures being displayed at the time.

With this in mind it’s important to remember that external

circumstances influence gestures made at any given

moment. A classic and often used example is the “woman in

miniskirt” who sits with her ankles crossed tightly in front of

her.





If you remember that ankle crossing is usually associated

with negativity and defence you might believe that this

woman’s feeling a little angry or unhappy.

But then you realise the surroundings, and the size of her

skirt, then realise that she has to keep her ankles (and legs)

crossed for certain obvious and necessary reasons – perhaps

she’s just trying to stop people seeing up her skirt!

Practice Makes Perfect

Reading body language isn’t always easy, but it is always fun

(and useful!). You’ll agree that the more you practice

reading it, the better you’ll get. My suggestion is that you

take at least 15 minutes each day and dedicate it to reading

people’s body language. This way, in time it’ll become

second nature.

The Eyes are the Windows to the Soul

A very true and often used saying; the eyes are the windows

to the soul. Perhaps not literally! But they do tell us a whole

bunch of useful information about a person’s thoughts and

feelings.





Dilating Pupils

When you’re feeling positive, when you like the

company you’re in, and when you hear something you

agree with, your pupils dilate.

Likewise the opposite is true when people are feeling

negative and dislike a situation – their pupils contract.

Dilating pupils are known within the body language

community as ‘micro-gestures’, because they cannot be

consciously controlled and often go unnoticed by the

untrained eye.

Although dilating pupils are often a signal that a person

likes you, it’s important to read this gesture in context.

Pupils also dilate and contract with changing light

conditions; they contract in bright light, and dilate in

low light. Read this micro-gesture in context with other

gestures and surrounding conditions.





‘Looking Up’

Used frequently by women everywhere, this gesture

involves lowering the head at the neck, and looking

upwards at the other person.

This gesture makes you appear more childlike and

evokes a parenting reaction in both men and women. If

someone uses this gesture with you, it’s likely that they

want to be perceived as cute and vulnerable.

Eye Contact

Making lots of eye contact is a way to show interest and

respect. The more eye contact you make, the more the

person likes you. Studies have actually shown that the

more you look into someone’s eyes the more romantic

and enjoyable they find you, and your company.

On the other hand, too much eye contact early on in a

relationship can sometimes make people feel under

pressure; they might be weirded out!





To make a great first impression, build up a slight

rapport first, and gradually increase the amount of eye

contact you’re giving.

Smiling Makes the World Go Round

Money doesn’t make the world go round – smiling does! It’s

infectious. It spreads happiness all over. It’s true - you can

brighten someone’s day just by smiling the ‘right’ smile.

There are different types of smiles – guys in particular don’t

realise it though. If you’re one of the guys who can

distinguish the types of smile, you’re a little ahead of the

rest. If you’re one of the guys that was clueless about this,

you’re about to become an expert!

Many people use a fake smile to make them appear polite

and agreeable. A fake smile can always be spotted because

it involved only the jaw muscles working. A true smile

involves both the jaw muscles, and the muscles around the

eyes. That’s where the adage “you smile with your eyes”

comes from.





A true smile often produces crows feet in even the most

baby-faced of people, in addition to this the teeth are

usually visible. A smile honest and true is an indicator that a

person likes you. Here is a list of smiles we commonly see

from day to day:

Tight Lips

A tight lipped smile is spotted frequently. It’s exactly

what it says on the tin – the lips are stretched across

the face forming a near-straight line. The teeth are not

visible.

The tight lipped smile is often used by someone who’s

hiding something they don’t want to share. It’s also

often used by those who’re “just being polite”.

It’s a favourite used by women who don’t want to show

that they don’t like someone. Most men were

completely oblivious to the true meaning of this smile,

until now.





Sideways, Looking Up

This gesture consists of two parts; a bigger, friendlier

variation of the tight lipped smile where the lips are

loose, and the ‘looking up’ gesture from the eyes

section.

It’s a common gesture used by women to convey that

they like, or are attracted to someone.

This smile evokes the parental, caring instinct in men,

who see this person displaying this gesture as playful

and youthful.

You’re all Hands

There are two basic rules to remember when looking at hand

gestures: open palms = openness, honesty, and liking,

closed palms (where you can see the back of someone’s

hands) suggests hiding something, being closed to ideas, or

are feeling as though they’re in authority.

Life is riddled with examples of this. When people apologize

to each other they might say something like “I’m sorry”

coupled with presenting their two open palms.





Open palmed gestures are like saying “I feel comfortable

around you, I like you, I’m being honest, and I have nothing

to hide”. If you see someone making opened palm gestures

at you, take this to heart and read their other gestures to

confirm how they’re really feeling.

Arm Signals

They’re used in other things besides guiding planes you

know! Arm signals are used frequently and are commonplace

in any person’s body language repertoire.

In body language, the arms are known as barriers put up to

protect a person from harm. They’re typically used to

gesture when a person’s lacking self confidence, feels

threatened, or just doesn’t want to hear what another

person’s preaching.

They’re not a definitive “I don’t like you”, however they do

indicate when a person’s having negative feelings. If

someone’s using repetitive arm gestures coupled with

crossed legs and ankles, you’ll know it’s time to change the

conversation.





Crossed Arms over Chest

Both arms folded across the chest – Coupled with a

strong frown this has a universal meaning: “I don’t

agree with what you’re saying, I am uncertain, I don’t

like this situation”.

Guys often use this gesture exude dominance and

strength – sometimes to detrimental effect when

they’re wanting to pick up women.

Women on the other hand, use this gesture to signal

that they feel threatened, unhappy, or under pressure –

they typically cross their arms over their breasts.

Self Hug

The self hug is characterized by one arm at a person’s

side, and the other arm clutching at their elbow. As

children, our parents and carers hug us when we’re

feeling sad, uncertain or tense.

The self hug is an attempt to recreate the feelings or

safety and security we got from those lovely parental

hugs. A person using this gesture is likely to be feeling





insecure. Be sure to use this knowledge to your

advantage; if you know the person’s feeling insecure,

do things to make them feel more comfortable.

Elbow Touching

People like to be touched. Interestingly, studies show

that people who touch others’ elbows are more liked

and loved than those who do no touching at all. I write

elbows in italics because it’s just that, elbows only.

The reason elbow touching is acceptable is because it’s

far away from the intimate parts of the body; touch a

stranger anywhere above or below the elbow and their

reaction may be a little different!

It’s a fact that girls do more touching than guys but

equally; if a guy or girl touches your elbow it’s a sure

sign they like you, and want your attention.





The Body Points to Where the Mind Wants to Go

The body points, the mind goes. The angles people adopt

during any interaction speak volumes about how they feel,

where they want to go, and who they want to be with.

Open Positioning

Just like with palm gestures, when a person likes and is

interested in you, they’ll adopt an open position. They’ll

face their body at yours in varying degrees. The rule is

that the closer you are to actually standing face to

face, the closer and more in like with you they feel.

Typical “we’re just friends” encounters will see a 45

degree pointing angle, whereas an “I really like this

person” encounter sees an angle between 0-45 degrees.

Closed Positioning

Closed positioning is used when two people want a bit

of privacy. You’ll see this when two people are really in

like or love – they’ll simply stand there and face each

other. It’s a signal they like you!





Leg and Foot Pointing

Remember that the body points to where the mind

wants to go. Watch out for body pointing as an

indicator of like and interest, but also be aware of leg

and foot pointing.

You’ll see in clubs that women’s feet point to the most

attractive (or most interesting) guy in their immediate

field of view – it’s another sign of interest.

The same is true of guys on girls; they’ll be standing,

or facing the girl they’re most interested in. If you look

carefully, you’ll often notice that a seated man’s knee

will be pointed in the direction of the girl he finds most

attractive.

Also notice that when someone wants to leave the

room, their feet will often be pointing at the door

before they even say they want to leave.

Personal Territory

It’s a scientific fact that when two people are closer

emotionally; they’ll stand, sit, and lie closer than those





who’re not. Imagine a bubble around each and every person.

The bubble encompasses the person, and a small area

around the person.

To a person, everything inside their bubble is known as their

“personal space”. The size of a person’s personal space

differs slightly from person to person, but generally falls

within a certain range:

When people are ultra close – for example: lovers, spouses,

close friends, or children, they can be seen standing

between 15 and 45 centimetres of each other. Only those

who’re emotionally close to us can stand at that distance

without us feeling intimidated and under pressure.

Touch and Personal Claim

People touch and lean against things that they feel are

theirs. For example, a person will sometimes lean on their

walls at home, but wouldn’t dream of being invited into a

stranger’s house then leaning on their walls. Lovers hold

hands, brush each other’s arms, or “tidy” their partner up by

brushing imaginary lint off their shoulder.





One of the most unmistakable signals made by women to

show claim to a man, is when she places her flat palm on his

chest. Similarly, a man will place his hand on his partner’s

waist or back.

They key thing to remember here is that we touch things we

feel are ours and we do this in a variety of ways. Watch for

the slightest touches; fingers, arms, or even feet – they’re

signs of attraction and desire.

General Flirting and Attraction Gestures

When in the company of the opposite sex, the body language

of both sexes changes dramatically. Men stand a little taller

with no slouching or slumping.

They’ll stick their chests out and suck in their stomachs –

they’ll usually do everything they can to appear more

dominant. These actions happen automatically around

women he’s taken fancy to, or finds attractive.

If a woman takes a liking to the described man, she’ll

respond to his gestures by drawing attention to her breasts,

tilting her head, touching and playing with her hair, and





exposing her wrists. She does this to make herself appear

more submissive.

There are of course, more deliberate and seductive flirting

and attraction gestures which are made, consciously. They’re

much easier to spot yet most people miss them, and they

represent a much stronger attachment because they’re done

by someone who’s actually trying to get your attention.

Many of these are described in the Body Language Project.

Conclusion

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this book as much as I’ve

enjoyed writing it. Body language is a subject far too deep

to be covered in such a short space, although I do feel I’ve

at least brought light to some of the main points you should

watch out for, if you’re looking for attraction.

Recommended Reading:

The Body Language Project is an extremely interesting

project, further exploring the body language signs and

signals used in attraction.

http://links.verotel.com/cgi-bin/showsite.verotel?vercode=30650:9804000000008578






It’s the perfect partner for this ebook because it explains in

greater depth the things explained here, as well as other

important signs and signals used in attraction.

Video and photo examples are included, so you can actually

see the body language. Sounds great, doesn’t it?

Click here to visit the Body Language Project website.

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and outlines a set of methods guaranteed to get you almost

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The entire thing is routed in female psychology, so it’s

guaranteed to work. Sounds amazing? If you’d like to learn

more, watch the videos on the Love Systems website.

And if you’d like to know how to seduce any woman you like;

whether she’s the one you’ve been after for ages, or just

that hot girl across the street, go grab yourself a copy of

Love Systems’ flagship book, Magic Bullets.

Contact Me

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I’d love to hear your opinion on this ebook! And finally; I

wish you all the best in love and life.

Joanne Fallwater.

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