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Biblical ParentingSession #5
Embracing and applying biblical truth in raising our children
The Goal of Parenting
The glory of God (1 Cor. 10:31, 2 Cor. 5:9)Faithfulness
The Priority of Marriage in Parenting
“One-flesh” vs. “not one flesh” relationships (Gen. 2:24)
Wrong Means & Goals in Parenting
Making children behaveNever telling children “no” – letting them
have their way all the timeSheltering them – “blank slate” approachLegalistic parentingDeterministic parenting
A Common Misunderstanding
Prov. 22:6 - Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Lit. – “train up a child in his own way, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Para – “train your child to always get his way, and when he grows up, he’ll still live to always get his way.”
This verse is a warning, not a promise.
The Means of Parenting
Deut. 6:4-9 A godly example (v. 6, cf. Ezra 7:10,1 Tim.
4:16) “In milieu” instruction (vv. 7-9)
Eph. 6:1-3 Teaching children that the place of God’s
blessing is when they honor and obey
Spiritual danger Spiritual danger
HONOR & OBEY
It will go well with you
Ephesians 6:1-3
Spiritual danger Spiritual danger
HONOR & OBEY
It will go well with you
Ephesians 6:1-3
Dishonors or disobeys
Spiritual danger Spiritual danger
HONOR & OBEY
It will go well with you
Ephesians 6:1-3
Dishonors or disobeys
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Corrective Discipline
Discipline is corrective & restorative, not just punitive. It is designed to train (Heb. 12:11)
The goal of discipline is to bring a child back into the circle of blessing
Discipline should target the heart, not just deal with behavior
The manner and means must be biblical.The attitude and heart of the parent must
be right before God.
The Means of Parenting
Ephesians 6:4 Fathers Do not provoke your children to anger
Lack of marital harmony Establishing/maintaining a child-centered home Modeling sinful anger Consistently disciplining in anger Scolding Being inconsistent with discipline Having double standards Being legalistic (Making man-made rules equal to
God’s law, or a test of spirituality)
Lou Priolo, The Heart of Anger (Calvary press).
The Means of Parenting
Do not provoke your children to anger Not admitting when you are wrong Constantly finding fault Parents reversing God given roles Not listening to the child’s opinion or side of the story Comparing children to others Not having time to talk Not praising the child Failing to keep promises Chastising him in front of others Giving too much freedom Not giving enough freedom Making fun of the child
The Means of Parenting
Do not provoke your children to anger Abusing them physically Calling them names Having unrealistic expectations Showing favoritism toward one child over another Employing child-training methodologies that are
inconsistent with God’s Word
The Means of Parenting
But bring them up – “nourish” In the discipline – “training” – “guidance for
responsible [Christ-honoring] living” And instruction – “admonishment, “instruction” –
“counsel” Of the Lord – Christ & the Scriptures are the
content My example “In milieu” times of instruction Formal times of instruction Corrective discipline Participation in the body of Christ
A Vision for Parenting
Psalm 78