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BEHAVIOR COMMUNICATION
ASSERTIVENESS
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prepared by Mark Sweet PhDTrainer and ConsultantDisability Rights WisconsinSummer 2009
Most frequent Words
Most Frequent Topics
What we think & believe What we do
Most of us watch & listen to confirm what we already think & believe.
HOW can we watch & listen to understand the child’s POV?
be a beginner – soft eyes, soft ears
What makes behavior good or bad?
Words & Characterizations manipulative noncompliant stubborn uncooperative lazy perseverating challenging distractible wild out of control doesn’t care inappropriate
Are these how children would describe their intentions?
POINTS OF VIEW
time / schedule sensation lesson / activity attractions expectations understanding rules impulses what s/he didn’t do emotions what s/he did wrong coping
(adults) (children)
POWER & CONTROL
ASSERTIVENESS: Why & How did you learn?
Wanting creates Energy
Energy can be __ skillful or __ unskillful
When do children with disabilities learn to be assertive?
What if they don’t learn?
Bad Behavior / Unskillful Assertiveness
Compliant Assertive
Would you rather support someone Who’s easier to take advantage or harm?
Behavior is an Act of Assertiveness
from: Behavior Specialists to: Assertiveness Specialists
Is our GOAL to achieve compliance, or TO STIMULATE THINKING?
They Are Not Adults
They Have Their Points of View
Learning Is Not The Same As Learned
To Understand – Ask more questions – & invite others to think with you
What do you see or hear …?
When is it more likely to occur?
(if you wanted to provoke it…)
When is it less likely …?
What does s/he probably understand (about the activity, things, relationship…)
What is s/he probably experiencing?
What is s/he probably feeling (emotions)?
What is s/he trying to accomplish?
What might s/he be coping with?
What is s/he trying to accomplish?
With ease of language, what message?
What are your expectations (today)?
How are you helping her/him to learn?
What else is usable information?
What is USABLE Information?
Values / Curiosity
Humor
Relationships
Temperament
Well-Being
Possible Trauma History
Sensory Sensitivities
Learning
TO MAXIMIZE THINKING
Make ‘asking’ routine
not just when there’s a problem
Ask routine questions
to create thoughtful anticipation
Listen well & Ask more
‘The Story’ should include
the child’s POV
Thinking can lead to relationships
What might help…
…to prevent or avoid
…to make more understandable
…to make more manageable
…to help cope
…to help participate
…to teach skillful assertiveness
How Could You Inhibit Assertiveness?
Issues for Assertiveness Coaches?
______________________________________ What will you do with this session?
A Thinking Guide to Inclusive Childcare
by Mark Sweet PhD
The CORE of a Good Life: Guided Conversations with Parents on Raising Young Children with Disabilities
by Molly Murphy PhD & Mark Sweet PhD
Available at: disabilityrightswi.org
Click: Publications & Search: the title
Creating Safety
Mark Sweet PhDTrainer & ConsultantDisability Rights Wisconsin 608 267 [email protected]