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  • 1.Becoming Your Own Coach! For Business and for Life! Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan

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  • Introduction
  • 5 considerations of coaching (BSSSS):
    • Basics of coaching
    • Self-awareness how to increase it
    • Sneaky ways how we hide from ourselves
    • Seeing it all from a single viewing point
    • Support - knowing when you need it
  • Recap
  • Resources

Overview Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 3.

  • How many coaches are in the room?
  • How many of you have worked with a coach?

Before we start Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 4.

  • What coaching is/is not
  • Process
  • Tools

Basics of Coaching Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 5.

  • Support the client in:
    • Gaining clarity
    • Gaining insights
    • Seeing the issue in a new way
    • Taking accurate stock of resources
    • Explore potential options
    • Move into action
    • Achieve an outcome/goal

Purpose of Coaching Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 6. Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan

  • Is NOT
  • New (been around for decades, we just never called it coaching)
  • Therapy
  • Counselling
  • Consulting
  • Mentoring
  • A replacement for professional support
  • An opportunity to stay the same
  • Is
  • A partnership dedicated to your success
  • A specialized conversation
  • An opportunity to explore yourself and what is getting in your way
  • A opportunity to overcome challenges with a personalized support system

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  • Coaching is a process that moves us from where we are to where we want to be
      • Determine where we want to go
        • What does it look like as much detail as possible
      • Clearly assesses where we are (no self-illusion)
      • Explore the gap between the want and the have
      • Chart a course to navigate the gap

Process Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 8.

  • Coaches use conversations with 4 main phases (may vary with model)
      • Insight/clarification
      • Taking stock of resources
      • Action
      • Reflection/Evaluation/Realignment

Process Main Phases Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 9.

  • Inner Observer
  • Powerful Questions
  • Coach as an Observer/Outside Feedback
  • Practices/Exercises/Action Items
  • Depending on the coaching model, might be others

Tools Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 10.

  • The part of the mind that can observe us being us
  • Awareness and willingness to SEE ourselves as we actually arenot as we want to be

Tools - Inner Observer Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 11.

  • The Coachs primary tool:
      • Open ended
      • Speak the unspeakable/ask the unaskable
      • Begin with what
      • Open and expand thinking

Tools -Powerful Questions Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 12.

  • What am I tolerating?
  • What am I willing to do/give up/become to have this?
  • What is most important to me or non-negotiable?
  • What gives me peace/serenity? (Where is my peace?)
  • What is the question I need to ask here?
  • What do I not want to see/admit to myself?

Tools -Powerful Questions - Examples Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 13.

  • Coach will look for, explore and reflect patterns and observations to you
  • When coaching yourself-find image-makers and role models

Tools -Coach as an Observer Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 14.

  • May be coach determined OR client determined
  • Exercises to clarify values
      • Most self-help & personal growth books have them
  • Practices to build capacities and muscles
  • Action items to do

Tools -Practices/Exercises/Action Items Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 15.

  • Cultivate your Inner Observer
      • Self Observation Exercises
      • Journaling
  • Explore (make conscious) our inner operating system
      • Beliefs, values, perceptions
      • Emotions, triggers
      • Actions/non-action
  • Listen for Stories/inner myths
      • Anytime there is an emotion, excuse or justificationthere is a story!

Self-awarenesshow to increase it Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan The more we know ourselves. 16.

    • Stories we tell
    • Being RIGHT!
    • Explore beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and behaviours
    • Backdoors and escape routes how/where do we let ourselves off the hook/crucify ourselves?
    • Explore hidden inner criteria what do we check against?
    • If we admit the truth, it means.
    • Its not acceptable for me to be/do (find-out why! Whats under it)

Sneaky wayshow we hide from ourselves Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 17.

  • Gain multiple feedback
  • Imagine what might be happening for other people
  • Read extensively to discover other ideas and approaches you dont have to agree with them, just understand how they might influence others
  • Tool for viewing points (hand-out)

Seeing it all when you are one Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 18. Seeing it all a tool to help you Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan Inner Experience View PointQuestions about your:thoughts, values, beliefs, feelings, how things impact/feel right for me Action View Point Questions about: What can I do/be/say, behaviours and actions you can take Group/Relationship View PointQuestions about shared meaning, cultural values (company or country), relationships, impact on others outside myself Systems View Point Questions about how things work together, interconnections with other things, range of impact ,time and schedules 19.

  • We cannot do everything ourselves (even coaches have coaches)
  • Not everything is coachable (Some things need other types of support or professionals)
  • Know when you to get support outside yourself

Support - knowing when you need it Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 20.

  • 5 consideration of coaching (BSSSS):
    • Basics
      • What coaching is/is not, Process, Tools
    • Self-awareness
        • Cultivate the inner observer
    • Sneaky ways
        • Illusions & self-deception
    • Seeing it allwhen you are one
        • Many perspectives
    • Support
        • Know when you need it

Recap Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching 2011 Renate Donnovan 21.

  • International Coach Federation(http://www.coachfederation.org)
      • You will find a list of accredited schools
  • Books!
    • Transformational Life Coaching: Creating Limitless Opportunities for Yourself & Others.by Cherie Carter-Scott Ph.D.
    • The Power