Becoming Your Own Coach!

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Emergence Hypnotherap

yand Coaching

© 2011 Renate Donnovan

Introduction 5 considerations of coaching

(BSSSS): Basics of coaching Self-awareness – how to increase it Sneaky ways – how we hide from

ourselves Seeing it all from a single viewing

point Support - knowing when you need it

Recap Resources

OverviewOverview

Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching


How many coaches are in the room?

How many of you have worked with a coach?

Before we start…Before we start…



What coaching is/is not

Process

Tools

Basics of Coaching



Support the client in: Gaining clarity Gaining insights Seeing the issue in a new way

Taking accurate stock of resources

Explore potential options Move into action Achieve an outcome/goal

Purpose of Coaching





Is NOTNew (been around for decades, we just never called it coaching)

Therapy

Counselling

Consulting

Mentoring

A replacement for professional support

An opportunity to stay the same

IsA partnership dedicated to your success

A specialized conversation

An opportunity to explore yourself and what is getting in your way

A opportunity to overcome challenges with a personalized support system

Coaching is a process that moves us from where we are to where we want to be

Determine where we want to go What does it look like – as much detail as

possible

Clearly assesses where we are (no self-illusion)

Explore the gap between the want and the have

Chart a course to navigate the gapProcessProcess



Coaches use conversations with 4 main phases (may vary with model)

Insight/clarification

Taking stock of resources

Action

Reflection/Evaluation/Realignment

Process – Main PhasesProcess – Main Phases



Inner Observer Powerful Questions

Coach as an Observer/Outside Feedback

Practices/Exercises/Action ItemsPractices/Exercises/Action Items

Depending on the coaching model, Depending on the coaching model, might be othersmight be others

ToolsTools



The part of the mind that can observe us being us

Awareness and willingness to SEE ourselves as we actually are—not as we want to be

Tools -Tools -Inner Observer



The Coach’s primary tool:

Open ended

Speak the unspeakable/ask the unaskable

Begin with “what”

Open and expand thinking

Tools - Tools - Powerful Questions



What am I tolerating?

What am I willing to do/give up/become to have this?

What is most important to me or non-negotiable?

What gives me peace/serenity? (Where is my peace?)

What is the question I need to ask here?

What do I not want to see/admit to myself?

Tools - Tools - Powerful Questions - Examples



Coach will look for, explore and reflect patterns and observations to you

When coaching yourself-find image-makers and role modelsTools - Tools - Coach as an

Observer



May be coach determined OR client determined

Exercises to clarify values Most self-help & personal growth

books have them Practices to build capacities and

muscles

Action items – to do

Tools - Tools - Practices/Exercises/Action Practices/Exercises/Action ItemsItems



Cultivate your Inner Observer Self Observation Exercises Journaling

Explore (make conscious) our inner operating system

Beliefs, values, perceptions Emotions, triggers Actions/non-action

Listen for Stories/inner mythsListen for Stories/inner myths Anytime there is an emotion, excuse or Anytime there is an emotion, excuse or

justification—there is a story!justification—there is a story!

Self-awareness – how to increase it



“The more we know ourselves….”

Stories we tell

Being RIGHT!

Explore beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and behaviours

Backdoors and escape routes –how/where do we let ourselves off the hook/crucify ourselves?

Explore hidden inner criteria – what do we “check against?”

If we admit the truth, it means….

It’s not acceptable for me to be/do… (find-out why! What’s under it)

Sneaky ways – how we hide from ourselves



Gain multiple feedbackGain multiple feedback

Imagine what might be happening for Imagine what might be happening for other peopleother people

Read extensively to discover other ideas Read extensively to discover other ideas and approaches – you don’t have to and approaches – you don’t have to agree with them, just understand how agree with them, just understand how they might influence othersthey might influence others

Tool for viewing points (hand-out)Tool for viewing points (hand-out)

Seeing it all—when you are one



Seeing it all—a tool to help you



Inner Experience View Point

Questions about your: thoughts, values, beliefs, feelings, how things impact/feel right for me

Action View Point

Questions about:What can I do/be/say, behaviours and actions you can take

Group/Relationship View Point

Questions about shared meaning, cultural values (company or country), relationships, impact on others outside myself

Systems View Point

Questions about how things work together, interconnections with other things, range of impact, time and schedules

We cannot do everything ourselves (even coaches have coaches)

Not everything is coachable (Some things need other types of support or professionals)

Know when you to get support outside yourself

Support - knowing when you need it



5 consideration of coaching (BSSSS): Basics

What coaching is/is not, Process, Tools

Self-awareness Cultivate the inner observer

Sneaky ways Illusions & self-deception

Seeing it all—when you are one Many perspectives

Support Know when you need it

Recap



International Coach Federation (http://www.coachfederation.org)

You will find a list of accredited schools

Books! Transformational Life Coaching: Creating

Limitless Opportunities for Yourself & Others. by Cherie Carter-Scott Ph.D. by Cherie Carter-Scott Ph.D.

The Power of Self-Coaching: The Five The Power of Self-Coaching: The Five Essential Steps to Creating the Life you Essential Steps to Creating the Life you Want Want by Joseph J. Luciani by Joseph J. Luciani

The Mindful Coach: Seven Roles for The Mindful Coach: Seven Roles for Facilitating Leader Development Facilitating Leader Development by by Doug Doug SilsbeeSilsbee

Anything written by Marshal Goldsmith

ResourcesResources



Renate is the former coordinator and lead instructor for the College Success Program at Bow Valley College in Calgary, Alberta. She has over 20 years experience as a facilitator and educator in the human potential field. A powerful and inspiring speaker, Renate has worked with individuals and teams in Canada and the United States.

Renate took her first coaching training in the winter of 2003 and has been coaching in some capacity ever since. She is a Certified Executive Coach from Royal Roads University, and active member of the International Coach Federation™ (ICF). She is currently completing an additional certification in Integral Coaching through Integral Coaching Canada™, the only integral coaching program officially recognized by the Integral Institute™.

In addition, she is a Clinical Hypnotherapist certified through the International Medical Dental Hypnotherapy Association™ (IMDHA). Her expertise is in using hypnotherapy for personal and professional development. She firmly believes that top athletes have coaches and hypnotherapists—so should top leaders and professionals.

In 2010, Renate founded Emergence Hypnotherapy and Coaching, an organization dedicated to supporting leaders, companies, teams and individuals develop the mental aptitude they need. A true educator, Renate says she is willing to share everything she ever learned about anything to anyone who can sit still (and stay awake) long enough.

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