CHANGING WITH RESILIENCY

Becky A. Hauri, Ph.D.Psychologist

Purpose: To increase resiliency and optimism and decrease stress and burnout.

Theoretical OrientationIn this presentation we will examine the work of Dr.

David Hawkins in vibrational frequency code, Dr. Martin Seligman’s theory of learned optimism, and Nan Henderson’s work on resiliency. With the integration of these theoretical orientations to develop new ways of showing up in the world.

Person with a magic wandChange the world

Or change yourself

VibrationsPositive thoughts are high vibration

Negative thoughts are low vibration.

Control the vibration; think the thoughts that you want to create.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Hurricane men on oil rig No man can make it through this. 2 men third kept quiet and prayed to get thro this and see his family again. Sharks were swimming around them. Waves washed over took one man; took the other. The third was picked up two or three days later de-hydrated and not ready sunburned but no serious injuries and lived to see his family.

Both of these men were living in high vibrations.

Can you change the vibration or interaction of what is going on around you?

Absolutely

How can you create high vibrations in your life?

Story of Dr. Martin Seligman famous psychologist.Depression research

Psychologists tend to look for negative.

Other differences exist between pessimists and optimists in terms of explanatory style:Permanence: Optimistic people believe bad events to be

more temporary than permanent and bounce back quickly from failure, whereas others may take longer periods to recover or may never recover. They also believe good things happen for reasons that are permanent, rather than seeing the transient nature of positive events. Optimists point to specific temporary causes for negative events; pessimists point to permanent causes.

Pervasiveness: Optimistic people compartmentalize helplessness, whereas pessimistic people assume that failure in one area of life means failure in life as a whole. Optimistic people also allow good events to brighten every area of their lives rather than just the particular area in which the event occurred.

Personalization: Optimists blame bad events on causes outside of themselves, whereas pessimists blame themselves for events that occur. Optimists are therefore generally more confident. Optimists also quickly internalize positive events while pessimists externalize them.

ABC’s of behavioral therapyAdversity: Someone cuts you off in traffic.Belief: You think, “I can’t believe that idiot was so rude

and selfish!”Consequence: You are overcome with anger, yelling

profanity at the other driver.

Seligman added the D D stands for disputation, which centers around providing

counter-evidence to any of the following: the negative beliefs in general, the causes of the event, or the implications. D also means reminding oneself of any potential usefulness of moving on from the adversity. Disputation for the above traffic example might sound like this: “I am overreacting. I don’t know what situation he is in. Maybe he is on his way to his daughter’s piano recital and is running late. I’m sure I have cut people off before without meaning to, so I should really cut him a break. I am not in a hurry anyway.”

And EOver time, responses like this can change feelings to be

more hopeful and positive. Successful disputation leads to energization, the E in the ABCDE model. One is energized, and should indeed try to actively celebrate, the positive feelings and sense of accomplishment that come from successful disputation of negative beliefs. Disputation and Energization (celebration) are the keys to Seligman's method

Nan Henderson, one of many people who have researched resiliencyResiliency wheel

Magic Wand Important part Are you doing what you love?

Can you endure?

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning