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Week 1 Summary and References Page

Building Authentic Relationships (BARs) with Teens What is an authentic relationship anyways? Does it mean… • You’ll always be “buddy/buddy?” • You’ll never have an impasse/rupture? • You have most things in common?

No! It means the relationship is predictable, non-chaotic, and that you’re viewed as a caring adult

3 Introductory Facilitator Qualities to

Enhance Relationships

1) Authenticity (be you!)

2) Explicit intention to connect (rather than problem solve)

3) Don’t force change (it just doesn’t work)

Important Terms

Relationship: The umbrella term that represents the connection between you and your client/student Rapport: The initial stages of the relationship in which understanding, comfort, and initial trust are built Alliance: The alignment between you/your student/client on why you’re working together (e.g., to reach a goal).

References Himelstein, S. (2013). A mindfulness-based approach to working with high-risk adolescents.

New York, NY: Routledge.

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Deep Listening & INCRA

INCRA: Inherently, Non Clinical Relational Activity

Helps take pressure off youth to “do/say” something and lets you both just relate/connect

Examples (list not exhaustive): What’s best for your specific context?

Playing cards – Board games – Games – Exercise – Sports – Eating – Music – Dance – Walking/hiking – Watching internet clips – etc.

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