Avoidant Vulnerable to depreciation, rejection, socially inept

incompetent

They are critical demeaning, superior

I will get hurt

If they know the real me, they will reject me.

I can’t tolerate unpleasant feelings

Avoid evaluative situations.

Avoid new people/ situations.

Avoid unpleasant feelings.

avoidance

Social vulnerability, self-consciousness, avoidance, inhibition

self-assertion,

gregariousness

Dependent Needy, weak, helpless, incompetent

Idealized, nurturing, supportive, competent

I am helpless!

I need people to survive; I can’t do it on my own. By myself, I’m nothing

Cultivate dependent relationships. Be subservient, needy.

attachment

Help-seeking,

Clinging

Self-sufficiency,

mobility

Obsessive

compulsive

Responsible, accountable, fastidious, competent

Task-oriented

Irresponsible,, casual, sloppy, incompetent, self-indulegent, lazy

I must not err!

I know what is best. Details are crucial! People should do better!

If I don’t succeed, I’m nothing!

Perfectionism. Apply rules, evaluate. Control, criticize, punish!. Obey ‘shoulds’.

Control, responsibility, systematization

Spontaneity, playfulness

paranoid Righteous, innocent, noble, vulnerable

Interfering, malicious, discriminatory. Abusive motives

People are dangerous. I must always be on guard. I cannot trust others.

Wariness. Accuse. Counter-attack. Be wary. Assume hidden motives

Vigilance, mistrust, suspicion

Serenity, trust, acceptance

Anti-social A loner. Its mine to take!

Vulnerable, weak Others are to be taken. I’m entitled to break the rules. If I need it, it mine!

Attack, rob, lie, coerce, charm, manipulate, hurt if necessary!

Combativeness,

Exploitativeness, predation, impulsiveness

Reflectiveness, control, systematization

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Narcis-

sistic

Unique, misunderstood, under-appreciated, deserve special rules/consideration. Superior. Must show others, I’m best

admirers, inferior, worshipers or jealous

I am special. I am above the rules. Others should notice my superiority, specialness. Others are here for my benefit

Self-aggrandizement. Use others, manipulate, compete, demand ‘perfect mirroring’.

Selfishness, competitive-ness

Sharing

Group identification

His-

trionic

Glamorous, impressive, interesting

Seducible, receptive, admirers

I need to impress

Without attention, I am nothing. I can go by my feelings.

People should notice and appreciate me.

Dramatics, histrionics, charm, temper tantrums, crying, suicide gestures, seductive, be bright engaging, self-absorbed

Exhibitionism, expressiveness,

impressionistic

Reflectiveness, control, quietude,solace

Schi-zoid

Self-sufficient. Loner. different

Intrusive, bothersome, meddling

I need plenty of space. Others are unrewarding. Relationships are messy/painful. Contact=pain

Isolation. Stay away. Autonomy, isolation

Intimacy. reciprocity

Bor-derline

Vulnerable to re-jection, betrayal. Deprived of support. Powerless. Out of control. Bad , empty, defective, unlovable

Idealized, powerful, loving

Perfect, all good

Devalued rejecting, betraying, abandoning all bad

I need someone to rely on. If I get too close I’ll disappear. Others will leave me. I can’t control myself. I deserve to be hurt. Feelings are too painful.

Split! Relieve tension thru self-destruction/mutilation.. Swing from idealization to devalue. Protest, threaten, become punitive if I sense rejection. Feel rage/emptiness

Sense of doom, desperation, emptiness, unworthiness, tension, effort, impulsiveness

Serenity, self-acceptance, balance, tolerance for ambivalence

Schizo-typal

Unreal, detached, loner, conspicuous

Suoernaturally gifted

Untrustworthy, malevolent

Primary process, odd, magical

superstitious, better to be alone

Stay to self. Beware, vigilant for supernatural, evil forces

Odd thinking. unconventional

Normal social skils. Desire for intimacy

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