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Being Aware and Accepting: first part of AmAre
* A – Aware and Accepting* M – Meaningful and Motivated* A – Active and Attentive* R – Resilient and Respectful* E – Eating properly and Exercising
TopicsBeing Aware: definition
Assessing our current situation by being Aware of how we perceive it
Cultivating our Awareness
Introduction: let’s define together Acceptance
Advantages of being Accepting
Cultivating our Acceptance: loving kindness
Introduction: let’s define together Awareness
Being aware is important because:
Through our awareness and actions, we gain the courage to change the things we can change, the serenity to accept the
things we can't change. And the wisdom to know the difference.
Being Aware of:
contextfeelingsintentionshow we see thingsour strengthsvaluesbiases
Being Aware that:
happiness and meaning are not only an end result which shines from far in the future; they are attitudes and choices
Assessing our current situation by being Aware of how we perceive it
To keep in mind
Tools described in this chapter are a way to facilitate happiness and meaning
They are not a crystal ball, nor deterministic
We benefit from the learning process of considering different variables, assessing course of actions and seeing potential results in scenarios
Assessing the present with Awareness
Using the formula
Evaluating the different variables
Calculating the result
Interpreting the result
Being Aware about happiness
Is happiness an inside job?
Instead of a journey to happiness…
… we are living happily our journey
We are living happily our journey
Can we represent happiness?
Using the formula
Evaluating the different variables
Calculating the result
Interpreting the result
Using the formula
Evaluating the different variables
Calculating the result
Interpreting the result
Cultivating our Awareness
When you wake-up in the morning, and before going to sleep, set your alarm clock to sound after 15 minutes. Sit
comfortably, close your eyes or lower your gaze, and be aware of your breathing. Breath in, breath out.
This is a form of meditation you can also do everywhere, for example on the bus. Just be aware that your response-time
may be be slower right after meditation, so ensure you meditate when it is safe to do so.
Introduction: let’s define Acceptance together
A definition of Being Accepting…
… of things we cannot change, which are inevitable. Of how other people are, and
especially how we perceive them.
When not Being Accepting…
Acceptance often facilitates our happiness. When it is not the case, then we can embrace
alternatives to acceptance.
An example of skillfull Acceptance
Situation: person A is acting not respectuflly towards person B
A skillfull acceptance: accept person A with his/her weaknesses, which every person has.
However, do not accept person A’s inappropriate behaviour.
Being Accepting is as easy as…
Think about something you want to let go. Put it in a bubble. The bubble starts to fly
away, until it disappears in the sky.
Being Accepting is the rational choice to implement
The story we tell ourselves, about how we should have done this or that differently, is just holding us back. The past is gone, the
future is not here yet, the present is everything. Let’s accept it all!
Advantages of being Accepting
Accepting the advantages…
Higher level of energy
Lower level of stress
More tenacious on what matters
Accepting other people makes easier for them to accept us
Cultivating our Acceptance: loving kindness
What loving-kindness is:
A form of meditation
It directs love to one person, and one person’s:FriendsAcquaintancesProblematic contacts
Everyone
Loving-kindness: advantages
Increases social connectedness
Reduces pain and anger in people with chronic lower back pain
Boosts positive emotions and well-being in life
Thanks to
www.dgano.com/charity.htm for the beach painting
www.AmAreWay.org
