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Anger, Conflict, and Criticism
Management
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AngerConflict Criticism
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Life is Difficult
Thats the Norm!!!
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What is Anger?
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy,
human emotion which allows us to respond and take
action against danger or injustice.
It varies in intensity from mild irritation to fury andrage and is accompanied by physical changes in the
body and energy hormones.
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When an angry episode occurs all of the following
are involved:
Cognition our present thoughts
Emotion the physiological arousal our anger
produces
Communication the way we display our anger
to others
The effect of anger on others fear, hostility
Behaviour the way we act when we are angry
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a.W
e are responsible for our own lifesituation and the choices we make
about responding to it.
b.W
e must manage our expectationsof other people, situations, and
ourselves.
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Anger Defined
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c.
There is no way to work withpeople on conflict free basis
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d.G
ood criticism (descriptive)provides information that can be
put to good use to solve a
problem and not attack a persondirectly. If you know the
difference between descriptive
and judgmental criticism, you can
reduce conflict by
60%-80%.
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e. Anger is the first emotion to beexperienced and the last to be
controlled.
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Myths about Anger
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GIVEN IN THE NOTES
ARE THE
MYTHS OF ANGERAND THEIR
DESCRIPTIVE METHODS
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The fear of conflict
(1) Fear of the unknown
(2) Fear of our own feelings or the feelings
of others
(3) Fear of lack of personal control or
personal skills
(4) Fear that things will get worse(5) Fear of not being liked
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tenderfoot toughie
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Tough vs. Tender
Behaviour
Tough is not mean
&
Tender is not weak.
You have to be able to utilize both styles as
situations dictate.
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Tough meansgoal oriented, forceful, by the
book, logical, bottom line,consistent, focused,
conservative and determined.
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Tough behaviour is appropriate when:
a) Output is critical
b) There can be no debate
c) A non-negotiable deadline exists
d) Resources are limited
e) Ethical, moral, legal values at stake
f) When competition is keen
g) When someone has to take charge
h) A decision has been made and must be carried out
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Tender means
receptive, open minded,
thoughtful, understanding, intouch, tolerant, unselfish,
spontaneous.
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Tender behaviour is appropriate when:
a) Ample time and resources are available
b) Other peoples commitment are at stake
c) Excellence is the only acceptable outcome
d) There is not enough information to make a quality decision
e) There are several acceptable ways to get things done
f) People have hurt feelings over significant issues
g) The situation is complex and understanding will require
substantial effort
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Anger is a habit
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The fact does exist that anger is a habit and
we conceal it well within ourselves. Our
smiles, our false pretences, our pseudo face at
many a time. We do have a
Dr, Jekyll & Mr. Hyde
side to our personas.
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Criticism
Three typical reasons for criticism:
(1) Different values
(2) Envy
(3) Misunderstanding
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The real meaning of criticism
when people criticize, they are really
giving information aboutthemselves, not necessarily you.
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EXAMPLE: Thats an ugly tie,tells us you dont like the tie, not
that it is innately ugly.
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The danger of seeking too much
approval the more you need
approval of other people, the more
you can be manipulated by them.
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How to give criticism without arguing
dont say, I disagree with you. A person is
a result of his / her own thoughts and ideas,
and such a statement will be taken personallyin a negative way.
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A Model For Initiating Confrontation
(1) Right now the situation is that
(2) The problem that this causes is
(3) The concern I have about this is
(4) Id like to seeId like to suggest
(5) Its my understanding that we havenow agreed to
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Ground Rules - Do it
privately, tell me as soon
as it is a problem, uselanguage that I can put to
good use; I have the option
of discussing it now orlater after giving it some
thought.
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SOLVING THE
PROBLEM IS THE
GOALNOT
WINNING!
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Questions
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