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How would you like to be able to issue a command without evenneeding to speak the words explicitly instructing a man to do something?

How you like to be able to only just barely even make mention of something, and then instantly have your man take the initiative to do exactly what you desire him to do and possibly even more?

A lot of people would assume that you probably need some kindof psychic power in order to pull off a feat like this, and while their skepticism is understandable, they’re wrong – you don’t even need any kind of supernatural ability to be able to recognize the power of instant, softly-worded and maximally influential commands.

All that you need to do in order to recognize the awesome power that I’m referring to here is to learn how to use suggestive wording.

Suggestive Wording, Simple Psychology

Have you ever been extremely close to doing something, only become less happy about doing it at the last moment because someone insisted on telling you to do it just as you were about to begin?

Why do you think this happens? It’s clearly not related to what the command is instructing you to do, as you were plainly on the way to doing it before the command was ever even mentioned in the first place.

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Where your issue with it really stemmed from all along was the fact that you were commanded.

Even though the action outlined by the command was a mere trifle to you, or even something that you’re legitimately enthusiastic about doing, the fact that you were commanded to do it made you feel as though you were being deprived of something.

That thing at you felt you were being deprived of was your rightto choose. Had you never been given the command to do whatever it is that the person told you to do, you would have happily gone about whatever it was without even a care in the world.

When it comes to the desire for a choice in whether or not we want to do something, guys and girls share something in common – this is extremely applicable to the concept of relationships, and it’s exactly why the art of suggestive words exists as a reliable technique.

If you can get annoyed at a roommate telling you to do some mundane household chore that you were already preparing to get started on, it’s no surprise that a committed relationship is an even more sensitive topic to approach in terms of respectinga person’s autonomy.

No one who has ever been forced or coerced into a relationship has seen that relationship end well, aside from the most outstanding and outlying circumstances.

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If you’re looking to ensure that your man doesn’t want to light himself on fire before committing to you, then your best bet is to ensure that he doesn’t feel like you’re trying to make him want it just as much as you want it.

If you make it seem like you’re forcing him into the deal, you’ll be doing damage to the prognosis of the relationship no matter how he initially feels about it.

He’s certainly not going to start wanting to commit to you any more than he did before if he had any doubts, and if he didn’t have any doubts before, then that may change if he starts to sense that you’re trying to force him into something.

When you try to pressure a man into committing to you, you’re not only just going about things in an ineffective manner – you’re going up against the very law of human psychology itself.

If you try to manipulate him into feeling something for you, then you’re legitimately setting yourself up for failure in a way that completely contradicts the way the human beings are wiredin the very first place.

If you want to make sure that he wants to commit to you for the best possible reasons, then you absolutely must allow him to come to the decision on his own terms.

Even though you may be taking an active hand in the process you aren’t manipulating him into the process by doing things in this manner – if anything, you’re actually respecting his right to

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choose even more.

A Suggestive Super Secret

With suggestive wording, anything that you’d like from your man will become nothing more than a matter of a simple verbaltechnique.

When you master the full power of suggestive wording, you’ll beable to get help from your man with just about anything in the world with minimal effort or friction.

No matter what your particular needs may be, it goes without saying that a technique such as this would be invaluable for justabout any woman in her daily dealings with men.

Now before I bestow upon you the full force of this awesome superpower, I must first issue a fair warning, for the benefit of you and anyone else who may be concerned.

If you use this technique to its fullest potential, then there’s no doubt that you’ll be capable of getting a man to do just about anything in the world that you ask him to – and that’s why I urge you to proceed with extreme caution.

As wonderful and strong as this technique is, there is a great deal of potential for destruction if you abuse it. If you want to ensure that things don’t spiral completely out of control, then before you even think about using it, you’ve first got to ensure that you’re not going to go forward without anything but good intentions – if you do not, then I cannot be held responsible for the consequences.

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Now, if you are ready to commit to using this with nothing but the best of intentions, then I am prepared to pass unto you the secrets of a technique that few woman are ever so lucky to be able to know it exists.

The Base

The base of this technique circles around the art of suggestion, hence the name. With the art of suggestion, you are essentially dropping a particular idea into a man’s mind with a certain levelof subversion.

With the appropriate degree of subversion, you will be to have your man follow through with your desires while being under the impression that it was entirely his idea from the very beginning.

Having to convince a man to do something will become completely unnecessary when the thing that you want him to do is, in fact, something that he does entirely of his own free will.

All that you have to do is drop the right context markers in casual conversation, and subconsciously, he will pick them up without knowing that you planted them there intentionally. When he picks up on your context markers, he will perceive them as justifying reasons for doing whatever it was that you wanted to lead him down the path towards eventually doing.

The basic idea of this technique is that, with enough practice, you will be able to gently encourage him without ever actually making him feel like you’re trying to influence his choices – it’s

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a simple concept on paper, but when you consider the kind of finesse required to actually pull it off, it’s no wonder why so many women have no idea how to do it without being explicitly instructed.

What you’re looking to achieve here is a certain level of coordination between your man thinking that he chose to do something and also that he should do something – he won’t have the slightest clue that you have influenced him towards believing either of these things.

Now of course, there are more than a couple of ways to actuallyachieve the kind of effect that I’m discussing with you right now– we will only be focusing on the best way to go about what I’mtalking about right now.

For the good of all whom are concerned, we are going to focusing on the technique that is both the most effective, harmless, and completely legal – I do not advocate any woman reading what I have to offer here and deciding that the best course of action is to drug her man with something that gives him retrograde amnesia.

Are you ready? The secret to subversively dropping powerful suggestions into your man’s mind lye in the power of administering high-quality rewards in a tactful, pragmatic and well-timed manner. All that you have to do is get a firm handle on the art of administering the reward immediately before issuing whatever your request is.

In essence, what you should be aiming to do is issuing your reward at almost the same time that you issue your request. Bymaking sure that the request and the reward occur at almost

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the exact same time, you are actually diluting the impression ofthe request itself and masking it in order to make it appear much less like an actual request.

When you set up your request alongside the reward, your man is going to associate the nature of whatever your request is with the positive energy drawn from your reward.

Because the positivity of the reward and the request will be so tightly juxtaposed to one another, your man will subconsciously see that request itself as more of a source of positive energy than he otherwise would.

When you are able to have your man associate the positive stimulus with the request, all on his own, then you can basicallyconsider your work more or less completely done.

Now before I go any further, it is best that I illustrate the full effect of this technique to you in the form of an example that can display exactly what it looks like in action.

Now in order to get most deeply immersed into the context of this example, I need you to imagine that you are in a hypothetical relationship with a man that you have slight worries about potentially cheating on you sometime in the future.

Now, if you want to lessen the chances that your man is going to do some that betrays your trust in the future, you can most definitely use the power of suggestive wording in order to influence him to act more loyally. You could say something to the effect of this:

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“I am so glad to have a man like you in my life who is so loyal and dedicated. I know you’re never ever going to me. I know you are a one woman man. “

Now what do you think just happened right here, with this particular phrase? With the power of suggestion, this phrase establishes a very powerful psychological impact in the form of an expectation.

Notice that at no point in this phrase did you express hope or that he would ever cheat on you, but instead, you asserted a belief that he would never cheat on you.

The power in expressing belief that he would never cheat on you is based in the fact that you made reference to his possession of certain stable, impressive internal traits. Rather than imply that his low likelihood of cheating is based in his simply due to his loyalty to you, with this phrase, you are asserting that his loyalty is an effect of the fact that he is a driven person.

Here’s a fact of life: men love to be considered heroes. No matter how humble they may seem, or self-assured without approval, all men at some level desire a certain degree of validation from the women in their lives in order to make them feel like they are more or less moving on the right track.

When you make a statement that he’s not going to cheat on you because he is a dedicated person, which is a highly heroic trait, it’s going to stroke that primal ego in side of him that wants to be acknowledged as an extremely powerful and dependable kind of person.

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When you make him feel like he’s powerful and dependable, an immediate effect is that it’s going to active his ancient role as a provider.

As the provider, he is biologically coded to be a reliable and dependable source of power and protection – the woman who isable to stimulate this ancient reaction within him is the one whohe is most likely to identify as his ideal partner.

Because the expectation is so passively worded, you could consider it a practically invisible expectation.

An invisible expectation will still be felt with the same impact asa blatant expectation, only the difference will be that he won’t have the slightest idea that you meant to plant the expectation in his head from the very beginning.

Now the best way that I can illustrate how this process compelsyour man to act in accordance to your wishes is by breaking it down into a serious of easily-understood stages that make things a lot more clearly understood.

Stage 1: State what you want to have happen in the future, or what you want more of.

It’s exactly what it sounds like. All that you have to do in the very first stage is to state exactly what is that you’d like to happen at some point in time, or just something that you’d like to happen more frequently, and that’s about it.

Before you even try implementing this technique, the very first

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thing that you ought to do is make sure that you put yourself inthe proper mindset to see it through. A simple mind-shifting exercise will make it much easier to implement this technique ina natural manner that doesn’t just give you away before you can actually see it work for you.

So, before you actually try using this technique, what you should do first is actually put yourself in the mindset where you do not feel any doubt that your man would do whatever it is that you want him to do in the future – when you do this, it will be much easier you to remove any doubt that HE has that he would ever do whatever it is that you’d ideally like to see him do for you.

So, to put it simply, you’ve got to make sure that you use certain words or phrases that reflect your confidence. You’ve got to make it so that just by hearing your words, he can pick up on your confidence in his qualities conducive to performing the task that you have in mind for him – it will be almost as if the confidence is contagious, and the words themselves simply inject it.

Now there are certain verbal transitions that can accomplish this reality most effectively. The common components of phrases include, but are not limited to:

-“I know that..”

-“I can see now that..”

-“I trust that…”

-“I am confident that..”

-“I believe that..”

“I feel secure, therefore, in knowing…”

Implementing these particular lead-ins into your sentence

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structure will make it much easier to remove any doubt in his mind that he would ever do what you secretly hope he’ll do as aresult of your suggestive wording.

Stage Two: Transition to the condition, which basically dictates a do or don’t situation.

This part of the game involves the use of certain action statements, which fall along the lines of:

-“You will/wont…”

-“You will/will never…”

-“You would/wouldn’t ever…”

All that you have to do after implementing these action statements is to insert whatever that particular action is that you would want him to see him either do or not do in the future.

Now once you actually preface your desire with one of these transitions, the delivery of the message itself is entirely up to you. You can mix, customize and play around with the delivery as much as you’d like to, but at the end of the day the actual message itself must operate with the same essential core that we’ve been discussing so far.

You have to leave absolutely no room for interpretation when it comes to clarity of your message. There is absolutely no presence of “might not” or “maybe” in the equation. When you are fully utilizing the power of suggestive wording, you are completely removing any trace of the conditional probability from the likelihood of your man doing what you desire – you will aim to guarantee it.

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To put it plainly, you are replacing the notion of what you think your man could do with the suggestion of what he should do. When the suggestion of what your man should do has been implemented with maximum effectiveness, it will have transformed into what your man will do.

With the phrases that I have just prepared for you, you’re goingto indicate to your man a very clear picture that you have of thefuture – essentially, that picture of the future is going to become his idea of the future as well.

It may sound a bit extremely, but you will literally be the foundation for a certain kind of reality that your man will subscribe to. When he accepts that reality that you’ve laid the foundation for that reality that you’ve built, he will find it exceedingly difficult to dismiss it.

The reason that he will find it so difficult to break out of that reality that you’ve created for him will be due to the fact that he will feel, within himself, a very deep-set desire to fulfill the realization of that reality that you’ve created. His desire to become the sort of hero that possess those qualities conducive to doing whatever you expect him to will drive his motivation tosee it through to the very end.

With nothing more than a well-placed compliment, you have basically awoken within him an extremely potent call to action. Compliments that fall along the lines of what we’ve outlined in the very first step will be the central purpose of why he continues to give you more of what you want.

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Step Three: Explain why you need this, by rewarding himprematurely

Now when you’ve come to this step, it is finally time to add in a reward statement in order cement the entire process to your liking.

This cementing and rewarding statement is premature, and for good reason – essentially, you’re just providing a little bit more of incentive for him to go through with what you’d like him to do by giving him an early reward to whet his appetite.

The best part is that you don’t need to spend a dime or move a muscle to issue this premature reward that I’m talking about. The premature incentive here can be supplied with little more than just a bit of reverse psychology. All that you have to do is reverse whatever you said in the first step, combine it with steptwo, and your work is done.

He’s going to perceive this statement as something that you’d like to see further from him, but at the same time, he’s going torationalize it and comply because of how third step clarifies the reasoning behind it all.

So for example, in very first step, let’s just assume that you made a point of complimenting your man on just how honest you believe he is – after that, all you would need to do is say something to the effect of this: “This makes me feel secure in knowing that you trust me enough to be honest with me, and I really appreciate that.”

Now as soon as you’ve said that, you will be able to see how

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well the reverse psychology comes into play as a result. The reverse psychology will have manifested at the part in which you expressed gratitude for the fact that your man trusts you enough to be completely honest with you.

Now by stating that your man has a stable degree of trust in you to be honest with you at all times, you have established theexpectation that he is going to continue to be honest with you indefinitely into the future.

It all gets tied together by the simple fact that you say that youappreciate him for being the way that he is. A simple expression of appreciation may seem fairly mild, but when it comes to this tactic, it is a virtual superpower in the art of strategic suggestion and mind shifting.

Now here are some other examples of the reverse psychology statement, including but not limited to…

· “Because you’re not like other guys.”

· “Because I know you’d never disappoint me.”

· “I just hope things don’t go sour between us, because I’d really miss this about you.”

· “I trust that I am in good hands now, because you really know how to treat me like a lady.”

· “I am really looking forward to more of this now, because I just can’t get over how alive this makes me feel.”

· Etc…

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So you see, simply implying the absence of the opposite of what you want can easily be enough to lay the groundwork for exactly what you do want to happen in the grand scheme of things.

Now be sure to remember, you don’t necessarily have to tie in astrong thankful statement every single time that you enact the third step. It can be enough to simply state what you want to happen more often, or relate to the lack of something that you don’t want to happen, to serve as something rewarding for yourman.

What you’re basically doing with this technique is providing confirmation that your man is doing exactly what you’d like himto already.

When you provide the positive stimulus of the compliment along with the indication that it’s related to a continuing behavior he exhibits, the mission is complete.

You will essentially be conditioning him to associate the continuance of that behavior he’s exhibiting with the preservation of that rewarding feeling he has inside.

No matter what the context of your desire actually is, you must make sure that you do not forget to ensure that you indicate exactly what it is that you want now (or don’t want) in relation

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to your original statement in Step 1.

After you’ve referenced what you want or don’t want to happen at the current point in time, your next move should be to make sure that you tie in the expectations that you have for what occurs in the future – when you do this, you will have successfully prematurely rewarded your man by essentially thanking him for repeating his behavior.

Have you ever seen this classic comedy skit that involves a dollar bill tied to a string? Every time someone comes along to grab the dollar, whoever has the end of the string will pull it andmove it away from them.

Now if you’re familiar with the trick, then you know that the kicker to the whole joke that the dollar bill itself isn’t actually real – the people falling for the trick, however, have absolutely no idea of the fact that they’re being duped from the very beginning. Without even being the slightest bit aware, they continue on chasing that dollar bill until giving up in embarrassment.

This technique takes a page from that old trick, only it’s significantly less cruel and not at all meant to make sport out ofembarrassing or exhausting you man. All that you’re going to be doing is taking a page out of the part of the technique that has to do with the motivation aspect.

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Also, unlike the dollar bill trick, there is a very real reward to behad if the man remains persistently motivated in chasing after it– more than one reward in fact, as you will continually reward him by stroking his ego and making him feel validated as a strong and capable man that can be looked up to.

To illustrate it most clearly, it’s like instead of just luring the man to the goal with paper money, you are instead actually luring him to the goal with an entire bank account filled with tons of paper money bills. Because he sees the larger picture, his willingness to go through with what you’ve laid before him will skyrocket to unprecedented levels.

Putting all three stages together

At the end of the day, all three stages can be combined into a finalizing statement that can be summarized into something as simple as this:

I ____ (stage 1) that you ___ (stage 2), because (stage 3).

I’ve put together some examples here in order illustrate what this template can appear like when you put all of the elements together into actual, applicable phrases:

“I know that I can trust you now, because you’re not like otherguys.”

“ I just hope things don’t go sour between us, because I love the way you do this for me.”

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“I know you’d never disappoint me.”

“I know that I can expect to see more of this in the future, andI appreciate that.”

“I know you won’t disappoint me, after this, because now I can trust you.”

“I trust that I am in good hands now, because you really know how to treat a lady.”

“I’m looking forward to more of that from you now, because you really make me feel alive.”

“I finally feel secure, and I understand now that you would never hurt me.” Etc…

Making These Steps Work:

So, in order to tie together the first two steps of this technique, together into one process, you ultimate end up with something like this:

1. A rewarding statement, which basically clarifies exactly what it is you’re rewarding and why you’re rewarding it in the very first place

2. A cementing statement, with serves to further solidify theimportance of the first statement by clarifying a future expectation that you have. This future expectation comes with the option of premature appreciation, which will even more tightly cement whatever idea it is that you happen to have in

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mind.

Now when you put it all together, what you come out with will wind up looking a little something like this:

1. “When you talk nicely to me, I really enjoy it, because it makes me feel respected. I know that you are trying your best, and I look forward to more of that in the future.”

Or

2. “I really love it when you go out of your way to help me out with the little things. It helps me to feel less stressed out, and shows me that you take responsibility in the relationship. I nowknow that I can trust you to know when I need a little extra help, and I appreciate that.”

Now in the first example, saying that you love the fact that he talks nicely to you is the rewarding statement. The clarification is that it lets you know that he’s trying his to make her feel respected is the rewarding statement.

The cementing statement is when you would say that you look forward to him continuing to do the best that he can make you feel respected by speaking to you with the manner of a gentleman.

In the second example, saying that you love the way that he goes out of his way to help you with the little things is the initialrewarding statement.

The second sentence of the second example clarifies why you love how he goes out of his way to help you, which in this

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context, is because it indicates to you that he’s taking responsibility in the relationship. The cementing statement hereis that it you trust him to always be there for extra help in the future, whenever you need it.

Some other examples that you just may find suitable for your personal situation are:

“I can’t believe how kind you’ve been to me lately. It just reallyshows how much you truly care for me, and I trust that I am in good hands now. Thank you.”

This is statement is a bit more concise than the others, but it manages to create the same web of effects that we can observewith any sufficient use of the suggestive wording technique.

In this example, the rewarding statement can be observed in how you complement him on his kindness. The clarification of exactly why you’re grateful for his kindness is shown in how youindicated that his kindness is a sign of care.

When you say that you’re in good hands, it implies that he is fully capable of being there for you from now on, more than anyone else ever will be – this cements the rewarding statement completely.

“I really enjoy it when you take time out of your day to listen tome, even if you are tired. I really feel understood when you do this, and I know you’d never disappoint me because of this.”

In this statement, the rewarding statement is that you enjoy the way that he takes time out of his day, despite how exhausted he may be from his prior engagements.

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You clarify exactly why that makes you happy when you say that it makes you feel incredibly understood.

By saying that you know that he’ll never disappoint you, you make it abundantly clear that you want things to be a long termengagement and successfully cement the rewarding statement with good form.

“I find comfort in the fact that you are so loyal to me. It helps me to know that you’re not like other guys, and that you’d never cheat on me. I really appreciate that, about you.”

This is yet another very simple but highly effective way to utilize the power of suggestive wording. Saying that you find comfort in how loyal he is to you is the rewarding statement, and your clarify exactly how it’s a rewarding statement when you indicate that it lets you know that he’s not another typical player just out to fool you.

Now when you say that you know that he’s never going to cheaton you in the future, the technique is complete.

You are cementing the rewarding statement by making a declarative statement about the existence of a long-term arrangement between the two of you, and one in which he will continue to exhibit the full extent of his loyalty.

Putting it All Together

So at this point, you should have a fairly solid picture of just what a rewarding statement and a cementing statement look like when they’re put into action.

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Successful suggestive wording is nothing more than a sincere rewarding statement that precedes an equally honest cementing statement that lays the foundation for a long-term continuance of whatever prompted the rewarding statement.

Now it’s important that I do acknowledge the truth that, unlike what a lot of people may interpret as the truth, relationships are in fact not a matter of constant give and take transactions. A relationship should not be determined by keeping score of who gets what and who does what – that’s just asking for trouble that you don’t want.

At the same time, if you want to make sure that your relationship isn’t set up for failure from the very beginning, then you’ll be doing yourself a gigantic favor by refraining from ignoring the fact that both you and your man do in fact have legitimate needs that have to be met in order for the relationship to function properly.

Essentially, what we’re looking to do here is strike a clean balance between that which we can do for our men and that which we can do for ourselves – amazing, the use of some simple suggestive wording does in fact have the power to make both of those things achievable simultaneously.

Remember, so long as the average man wants to be looked at as a hero in eyes of the woman that he calls his partner, makinghim feel like a hero will legitimately be its own reward.

A man is constantly wrestling with his own perception of his position in male hierarchy compared to the rest of his peers. Hequietly fears that they may be deemed worthier than he

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himself, and so as a result, hearing that he is valued as being a cut above the norm is like opium in the way that it strokes his ego.

At the same time, naturally, his persistence in continuing to do the things that make you call him heroic will naturally benefit you in the process as well. A woman who neglects the fact that her man should be working to support her in some way, shape or form is usually the kind that winds up with all kinds of suppressed stress issues.

A lot of couples are made up of two people who every much have the best intentions for meeting one another’s needs, but somewhere down the line, they end up coming up at a loss for how to meet one another’s needs without pressuring one another into it or not saying anything at all and just hoping for things to happen automatically.

By using suggestive wording, you are basically ensuring that you don’t encounter these pitfalls that can take even the most affectionate relationships to the ground for no other reason than a lack of ideas for how to communicate in a more cohesivemanner.

The best way to ensure that this process goes smoothly is to make sure that when you make these reward statements and cementing statements, you are actually saying things that have a kernel of truth to them.

Trust me, if you try to force something that doesn’t have a legitimate foundation to it based in reality, then it will show.

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Furthermore, if you really even have to make up positive thingsto say about him in the very first place, then should you even be bothering with trying to set something up with him?

This technique is powerful, but if you don’t use it on a man thatyou already know brings something to the table, you’re wastingyour time.

As a critical precedent, you should first make sure that you’re exercising this technique in a situation in which you already have indicators that there could be a positive result – for instance, knowing that the guy you’re trying this out on isn’t already married with three kids before you even start taking him seriously.

Okay, I’m being a bit facetious, but the point still stands. If you aren’t one hundred percent positive that there is a legitimate future with the man that you’re dealing with, then it isn’t yet time to start using the power of suggestive words on him.

Remember, above all things, we want to make sure that we are exhibiting respect for the man’s ability to actually choose to go through with the commitment in the end.

If you aren’t yet sure of the probability that your man would actually choose to be with you if given the chance, then this technique is not going to make him want to do it.

You should be searching for indicators of interest before you even start to use this technique. Using it on a man that you’ve only just met is not only unwarranted, but could very well wind

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up being dangerous – this is why the technique’s examples are mostly provided in the context of a couple that has already been together for a time.

If you have sufficient reason to believe that your man would choose to be with you, based on his behavior, then you’re in theright place to start.

You know that the answer isn’t to make him consciously feel like you’re going to pressure him, but rather to illustrate to him what the value of the relationship could be through high-qualityreward statements and cementing statements.

If your intuition was correct and your intentions are pure, then the power of suggestion will present your man with that ultimate verification he needs to go through with fully committing to you!

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