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A Word in Season
9/11/07
Thank you to so many of you who have expressed your sympathy,
love and support, inresponse to the Separation blog. The many
comments, phone calls, and emails have
been such a blessing. I know that there are many others who have
been there and who arethere right now. NICU here is a busy place
with six bays and 4-6 babies in each
representing all those who are also separated. I have met some
of the other parents whohave endured the separation much longer
than I expect to have to.
After crying on a friends shoulder (via phone) Sunday night and
hubbys the next am I
thought of how to begin resolving the difficulties. Soon I was
able to send hubby the
following email:
I just phoned NICU and they tranferred me to the supervisor. I
was able to share with her myconcerns and she fully agreed with me
that there was no reason I should not have been able tohold my baby
when she was so wide awake yesterday. She said if anything happens
like that Ishould ask to see the charge nurse and probably she
would have overruled my baby's nurse on
the matter, seeing there probably was no physical reason I could
not. :D Believe me, I won't letthat kind of thing pass without
protest again!! Love you, rr/rr
I learned that the last name of the lady that put me in tears
was sword. Now I
understand Luke 2:35, Simeons prophecy to Mary: (Yea, a sword
shall pierce through
thy own soul also,) that the thoughts of many hearts may be
revealed.
My dad always said, after breaking both collar bones in a car
accident, that hospitals are
run for the convenience of the employees and not for the comfort
of the patients. How
unfortunately true that is! It would be so nice if my baby could
have just two different
nurses for each shift. But you know how nursing schedules go,
she has a different onenearly every shift and possibly more than
that. Because she is considered light care she
shares a nurse with another baby as well as code or transport
responsibilities. So ifher nurse is called away one of the others
in the bay, or even from a different bay will dothe feeding. That
makes it rather difficult for the parent to develop a rapport and
settled
routine with one nurses style. (I suppose it is equally hard on
the nurses who never know
what kind of belligerent parents they may have to deal
with!)
It would also be so helpful if upon admittance the parent would
be given papers thatexplain what the policies are and what can be
flexed around their preferences. As it is, I
never know whether a decision is based on nurse preference,
doctors preference/orders,
or hospital policy. I learn about new rules every day that I
didnt know I was breaking!Yesterday they informed me that I should
bring nothing in but the clothes on my back
and should use the lockers in the hall to store my two duffle
bags and junk. I would love
to not drag all this around but I dont have a padlock or any way
to get to town to buyone. Oh there should be one in the gift shop
downstairs. Alas, they had sold the last
one. But the gift shop is run by volunteers. One dear grandma
said I looked like an honest
person so she walked all the way to the auxiliary offices and
convinced someone to give
her one I could borrow! What a jewel!
My cousin encouraged me to try and make the nurses feel
appreciated. If you can get
them on your side they are more willing to bend over backwards
for you. Alas! People
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skills are NOT my talent. I suppose you could call my lack of
them an inherited and
cultivated tendency to evil. My hubby has tried his best to
teach me otherwise but Ive
been an awfully slow learner.
Yesterday things started off pretty good with the afternoon
nurse, and quite well with her
substitute in the same bay. (She was even willing to drag out my
camera for this
photo!)
But by the last feeding I could see I was getting on her nerves.
They always show us toburp our babies in a sitting position. I was
having little luck with that so decided to do it
over my shoulder. Baby and I both immensely enjoyed that
position. But her cords got
tangled off and kept setting off the computer alarms. So the
nurse sort of ran me out ten
minutes early. Oh well. We had fun while it lasted.
My sister-in-law also told me that when the placenta comes out
that is actually a fancy
scientific term for your brain. I totally agree! My head has NOT
been working. Ive been
doing the stupidest things like thinking I forgot my list when
we went shopping. After we
were done I found it in a different pocket. I thought I lost my
precious watch yesterday
but found it under something in the nightstand drawer when I got
home. I made whoknows how many trips up to my room before I had all
my ducks in a row to walk over
to the hospital for the day. As I hustled down the porch steps I
realized I still had myslippers on!! Then I got to the hospital and
realized I had left the milk in the fridge.
I didnt want baby to miss out on the milk so I jogged back to
the hospital for the 9:30 pm
feeding. I hadnt met any of the night nurses since I was
discharged and of course this
was a new one again. She didnt smile a lot and seemed rather
strict. But I had beenthinking and praying and did my best to make
her feel appreciated. It worked!! And the
best part was that however she arranged the cords when she
wrapped baby up didnt set
off any alarms when I put baby on my shoulder. So the evening
closed on a real goodnote.
As I walked back home for the night I could only think of one of
Elder Hs favorite
sayings (my high-school principal):
She drew a circle and left me out
Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.But love and I had the will to
win
We drew a circle and took her in.
And today Im claiming Isaiah 50:4-10:
The Lord GOD hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I
should know how to speak
a word in season to him that is weary: he wakeneth morning by
morning, he wakeneth
mine ear to hear as the learned. The Lord GOD hath opened mine
ear, and I was notrebellious, neither turned away back. I gave my
back to the smiters, and my cheeks to
them that plucked off the hair: I hid not my face from shame and
spitting. For the LordGOD will help me; therefore shall I not be
confounded: therefore have I set my face like
a flint, and I know that I shall not be ashamed. He is near that
justifieth me; who will
contend with me? let us stand together: who is mine adversary?
let him come near to me.Behold, the Lord GOD will help me; who is
he that shall condemn me? lo, they all shall
wax old as a garment; the moth shall eat them up. Who is among
you that feareth the
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LORD, that obeyeth the voice of his servant, that walketh in
darkness, and hath no light?
let him trust in the name of the LORD, and stay upon his
God.
