A Service of Celebration and Thanksgiving for the Life of

Toffe M. “Chip” Hadity

July 8, 1960-January 27, 2020

Saturday February 1, 2020 9:30 a.m.

Grace Episcopal Church Utica, NY

A Service of Celebration and Thanksgiving for the Life of Toffe M. “Chip” Hadity

Organ Prelude

“My South hath a Desire and Longing for the Courts of the Lord” G. Oldroyd

“All my Hope on God is Founded” M. Burkhardt

“O God, our Help in Ages Past” P. Manz

“Our Father, by Whose Name” R. Vaughan Williams

Procession

I am Resurrection and I am Life, says the Lord. Whoever has faith in me shall have life, even though he die. And everyone who has life, and has committed himself to me in faith, shall not die for ever.

As for me, I know that my Redeemer lives and that at the last he will stand upon the earth. After my awaking, he will raise me up; and in my body I shall see God.

I myself shall see, and my eyes behold him who is my friend and not a stranger.

For none of us has life in himself, and none becomes his own master when he dies. For if we have life, we are alive in the Lord, and if we die, we die in the Lord. So, then, whether we live or die, we are the Lord's possession.

Happy from now on are those who die in the Lord! So it is, says the Spirit, for they rest from their labors.

Hymn 690 “Guide Me, O Thou great Jehovah” Cwm Rhondda

Celebrant: The Lord be with you. People: And also with you. Celebrant: Let us pray.

O God of grace and glory, we remember before you this day our brother, Chip. We thank you for giving him to us, his family and friends, to know and to love as a companion on our earthly pilgrimage. In your boundless compassion, console us who mourn. Give us faith to see in death the gate of eternal life, so that in quiet confidence we may continue our course on earth, until, by your call, we are reunited with those who have gone before; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

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The Proclamation of the Word

The First Lesson Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 Sarah Hadity, Daughter

Everything Has Its Time For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to throw away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.

Reader: The Word of the Lord. People: Thanks be to God.

Psalm 23 Anglican chant sung by the choir E. Bairstow The Second Lesson 1 John 4:7-12 Terry Mielnicki, Long time Friend

God Is Love Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love. God’s love was revealed among us in this way: God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins. Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God lives in us, and his love is perfected in us.

Reader: The Word of the Lord. People: Thanks be to God.

Family Remarks Shaun Hadity, Son

John Hadity, Brother

Hymn 711 “Seek Ye First the Kingdom of God” Seek Ye First

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The Holy Gospel John 6:35-40

Reader: The Holy Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ according to John. People: Glory to you, Lord Christ.

Jesus said to them, ‘I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty. But I said to you that you have seen me and yet do not believe. Everything that the Father gives me will come to me, and anyone who comes to me I will never drive away; for I have come down from heaven, not to do my own will, but the will of him who sent me. And this is the will of him who sent me, that I should lose nothing of all that he has given me, but raise it up on the last day. This is indeed the will of my Father, that all who see the Son and believe in him may have eternal life; and I will raise them up on the last day.’

Reader: The Gospel of the Lord. People: Praise to you, Lord Christ.

Homily

The Apostles’ Creed Celebrant: In the assurance of eternal life given at Baptism, let us proclaim our faith and say,

I believe in God, the Father almighty, creator of heaven and earth. I believe in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord. He was conceived by the power of the Holy Spirit and born of the Virgin Mary. He suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was buried. He descended to the dead. On the third day he rose again. He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of the Father. He will come again to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and the life everlasting. Amen.

The Prayers of the People John Hobika, Cousin

Leader: Let us pray. Almighty God, you have knit your chosen people together in one communion, in the mystical body of your Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

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Give to your whole Church in heaven and on earth your light and your peace. People: Hear us, Lord.

Leader: May all who have been baptized into Christ’s death and resurrection die to sin and rise to newness of life, and may we with him pass through the grave and gate of death to our joyful resurrection. People: Hear us, Lord.

Leader: Grant to us who are still in our pilgrimage, and who walk as yet by faith, that your Holy Spirit may lead us in holiness and righteousness all our days. People: Hear us, Lord.

Leader: Grant to your faithful people pardon and peace, that we may be cleansed from all our sins and serve you with a quiet mind. People: Hear us, Lord.

Leader: Grant to all who mourn a sure confidence in your loving care that casting all their sorrow on you, they may know the consolation of your love. People: Hear us, Lord.

Leader: Give courage and faith to those who are bereaved, that they may have strength to meet the days ahead in the comfort of a holy and certain hope, and in the joyful expectation of eternal life with those they love. People: Hear us, Lord.

Leader: Grant us grace to entrust Chip to your never–failing love which sustained him in this life. Receive him into the arms of your mercy, and remember him according to the favor you bear for your people. People: Hear us, Lord.

Celebrant

Lord Jesus Christ, we commend to you our brother, Chip, who was reborn by water and the Spirit in Holy Baptism. Grant that his death may recall to us your victory over death and be an occasion for us to renew our trust in your Father’s love. Give us, we pray, the faith to follow where you have lead the way; and where you live and reign with the Father in the Holy Spirit, to the ages of ages. Amen.

The Peace

Celebrant: The Peace of the Lord be always with you. People: And also with you.

The Celebration of the Holy Communion

Offertory

Offertory Anthem “Give us the Wings of Faith” E. Bullock

Give us the wings of faith to rise within the veil, and see the saints above, how great their joys, how bright their glories be.

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We ask them whence their victory came: they, with united breath, ascribe their conquest to the Lamb, their triumph to his death. They marked the footsteps that he trod, his zeal inspired their breast, and, following their incarnate God, possess the promised rest.

Presentation of Eucharist Gifts Josh Hadity, Nephew

Lexi Hadity, Niece

The Great Thanksgiving Eucharistic Prayer C

Celebrant: The Lord be with you. People: And also with you. Celebrant: Lift up your hearts. People: We lift them to the Lord. Celebrant: Let us give thanks to the Lord our God. People: It is right to give him thanks and praise.

God of all power, Ruler of the Universe, you are worthy of glory and praise. Glory to you for ever and ever.

At your command all things came to be: the vast expanse of interstellar space, galaxies, suns, the planets in their courses, and this fragile earth, our island home. By your will they were created and have their being.

From the primal elements you brought forth the human race, and blessed us with memory, reason, and skill. You made us the rulers of creation. But we turned against you, and betrayed your trust; and we turned against one another. Have mercy, Lord, for we are sinners in your sight.

Again and again, you called us to return. Through prophets and sages you revealed your righteous Law. And in the fullness of time you sent your only Son, born of a woman, to fulfill your Law, to open for us the way of freedom and peace. By his blood, he reconciled us. By his wounds, we are healed.

And therefore we praise you, joining with the heavenly chorus, with prophets, apostles, and martyrs, and with all those in every generation who have looked to you in hope, to proclaim with them your glory, in their unending hymn:

Holy, holy, holy Lord, God of power and might, heaven and earth are full of your glory.

Hosanna in the highest. Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.

Hosanna in the highest. W. Mathias

And so, Father, we who have been redeemed by him, and made a new people by water and the Spirit, now bring before you these gifts. Sanctify them by your Holy Spirit to be the Body and Blood of Jesus Christ our Lord.

On the night he was betrayed he took bread, said the blessing, broke the bread, and gave it to his friends, and said, “Take, eat: This is my Body, which is given for you. Do this for the remembrance of me.”

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After supper, he took the cup of wine, gave thanks, and said, “Drink this, all of you: This is my Blood of the new Covenant, which is shed for you and for many for the forgiveness of sins. Whenever you drink it, do this for the remembrance of me.”

Remembering now his work of redemption, and offering to you this sacrifice of thanksgiving, We celebrate his death and resurrection, as we await the day of his coming.

Lord God of our Ancestors; God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob; Sarah, Rebeka, Rachel, and Leah; God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ: Open our eyes to see your hand at work in the world about us. Deliver us from the presumption of coming to this Table for solace only, and not for strength; for pardon only, and not for renewal. Let the grace of this Holy Communion make us one body, one spirit in Christ, that we may worthily serve the world in his name. Risen Lord, be known to us in the breaking of the Bread.

Accept these prayers and praises, Father, through Jesus Christ our great High Priest, to whom, with you and the Holy Spirit, your Church gives honor, glory, and worship, from generation to generation. The Great Amen M. Robinson

The Lord’s Prayer \ Celebrant: And now, as our Savior Christ has taught us, we are bold to say,

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy Name, Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For Thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen.

The Breaking of the Bread

Celebrant: “I am the bread of life”, says the lord. “Whoever comes to me will never be hungry; “Whoever believes in me will never thirst.” People: Taste and see that the Lord is good; happy are they who trust in him!

O Lamb of God, that takes away the sins of the world, have mercy upon us. O Lamb of God, that takes away the sins of the world, have mercy upon us. O Lamb of God, that takes away the sins of the world, grant us thy peace.

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Celebrant: Look, The Body of Christ is broken Fort the life of the world. Here is Christ coming to us in bread and in wine. The gifts of God for ALL the people of God

All baptized Christians are welcome to receive Holy Communion.

Communion Anthem “The Father’s Love” S. Lole

As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Remain in my love. This is my commandment: that you love one another, as I have loved you. God is love and those who live in love live in God and God lives in them. If you keep my commandments, love one another as I have loved you. Then your joy will be complete.

Celebrant: Let us pray, Almighty God, we thank you that in your great love you have fed us with the spiritual food and drink of the Body and Blood of your Son Jesus Christ, and have given us a foretaste of your heavenly banquet. Grant that this Sacrament may be to us a comfort in affliction, and a pledge of our inheritance in that kingdom where there is no death, neither sorrow nor crying, but the fullness of joy with all your saints; through Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen.

Anthem “God be in my Head” W. Davies

God be in my head, And in my understanding; God be in mine eyes, And in my looking; God be in my mouth, And in my speaking; God be in my heart, And in my thinking; God be at mine, end, And at my departing. The Commendation

Celebrant: Give rest, O Christ, to Your servant, Chip, with Your saints,

People: Where sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life everlasting. Celebrant: You only are immortal, the creator and maker of mankind; and we are mortal, formed of the earth, and to earth shall we return. For so did You ordain when You created me, saying, “You are dust, and to dust you shall return.” All of us go down to the dust; yet even at the grave we make our song: Alleluia, alleluia, alleluia.

People: Give rest, O Christ, to Your servant, Chip, with Your saints, Where sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life everlasting.

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Celebrant: Into your hands, O merciful Savior, we commend Your servant, Chip. Acknowledge, we humbly beseech You, a sheep of Your own fold, a lamb of Your own flock, a sinner of Your own redeeming. Receive him into the arms of Your mercy, into the blessed rest of everlasting peace, and into the glorious company of the saints in light. Amen.

The Blessing

The peace of God, which passes all understanding, keep your hearts and minds in the knowledge and love of God, and of his Son, Jesus Christ our Lord; and the blessing of God Almighty, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, be among you, and remain with you always. Amen. The Dismissal Let us go forth in the name of Christ.

People: Thanks be to God. Anthem “Ubi caritas” M. Duruflé

Where charity and love are, God is there. Love of Christ has gathered us into one. Let us rejoice in Him and be glad. Let us fear, and let us love the living God. And from a sincere heart, let us love one.

For the Committal we will now proceed to

Calvary Cemetery 2407 Oneida St Utica, NY 13501

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Chip, has been a long term member at Grace Church. For decades he shared his voice as a member in our Choir. He also served for almost 40 years as the Verger. This ministry was important to Chip and was a much Appreciated part of testament to his faith, and the Episcopal Church. Verger: Chiefly British. a church official who serves as sacristan, caretaker, usher, and general attendant. The Verger carries the verge or other symbol of office before a bishop, dean, or other dignitary.

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Chip’s Family wish to invite you to attend a gathering at

Elks Lodge 1315 Champlin Ave Utica, NY

6:30 p.m. The Family will provide light refreshments

and welcome any additional food offered for the evening.

the Rev. Christine Williams-Belt Rector at Grace Church

Mr. Bruce Smith Choir Director & Organist

the Rev. Barbara Groves Deacon

Mr. Tom Groves and Mr. Larry Cole Eucharistic Ministers

Mr. Pat Goodenow Crucifer

Mr. Rick Rahn and Mr. Ed Dobyna Acolytes

In lieu of flowers, please consider donations to Grace Church,

6 Elizabeth Street Utica, New York 13501

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Toffe M. “Chip” Hadity II 1960-2019

Chip was born July 8, 1960 in Utica, son of Gail F. Hadity Macner and the late Dr. Toffe M. Hadity. He received his Associates De-gree in Radio/TV from Herkimer County Community College and his Business Degree from SUNY IT. He was employed at various area schools in the IT Departments.

Chip had the most contagious smile and the most unbelievable laugh, commonly referred to as the “Chip laugh,” always lighting up the room no matter where he was.

He was an active member of Grace Episcopal Church, Utica, and its choir, holding other titles throughout the church, as well. He was also a member of the Utica Elks Lodge BPOE # 33 where he proudly served as chaplain.

Chip was an avid sports enthusiast. You could find him rooting for his beloved Mets, Dolphins, Rangers, Knicks, Liverpool FC and Sy-racuse University teams. He especially enjoyed golf and soccer. Chip always loved getting a round of golf in anywhere he could, whether it was a quick 9 or joyous 18. He was a soccer coach and referee for several years. Chip also loved going to Utica College hockey games and Utica City FC games, where he was a season ticket holder of both teams.

He is survived by his children, Shaun Hadity (Nicole Ciaccia) and Sarah Hadity (Cameron Mansfield); his wife Elinor Hadity; his mother, Gail Macner of Florida; his granddaughter, Ava Hadity, his brothers, John Hadity of NYC and Michael Hadity of FL; neph-ew, Joshua Hadity, niece, Alexandria (Lexi) Hadity, a step-sister, Stacey Scotti of Sauquoit, a step-brother, Marc Scotti of Rochester, NY, the Hobika Cousins, the Rider/Rech Cousins and several niec-es and nephews.

He was pre-deceased by his father Toffe and step-mother Joyce Hadity and cousin Eric Rider.

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Psalm 23 The Divine Shepherd

The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want.

He makes me lie down in green pastures;

he leads me beside still waters; he restores my soul.

He leads me in right paths for his name’s sake.

Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I fear no evil;

for you are with me; your rod and your staff—

they comfort me. You prepare a table before me

in the presence of my enemies; you anoint my head with oil;

my cup overflows. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me

all the days of my life, and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord

my whole life long.