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A Mothers Love Knows No BoundariesDear Mayra,

That little thumper seen and heard in the ultrasounds of mothers-to-be is muchmore than a pump for the unborn babys blood. Research by the nonprofit

Institute of HeartMath(IHM sho!s the heart can play an intricate role in ho!

parents interact !ith their children from infancy until they "o out into the !orld.

#s !e remember and honor mothers this holiday, findin"s from IHM research

lend credence to a uni$ersally held notion about a motherandchilds

connection.

#n IHM study sho!ed that !hen a mother placed her attention on her infant,

she became more sensiti$e to the subtle electroma"netic si"nals "eneratedfrom the infants heart. The infants heart si"nal !as clearly detected in the

mothers brain!a$es, a re$elation li%ely to cause parents and care"i$ers to

!onder ho! much they mi"ht be interactin" !ith their children. This and other

findin"s by IHM researchers ha$e contributed "reatly to understandin" the

lan"ua"e of the heart and ho! it can be utili&ed to impro$e parentin" strate"ies.

(Read more about the mother-baby studyin this IHM article.

Mysteries of the HeartIt is not commonly %no!n that a babys heart de$elops and be"ins beatin" inthe fetus before the brain is formed. 'r that the human heart possesses a

comple ener"etic system that processes electroma"netic information that

research sho!s can be detected up to three feet outside the body.

IHMs research sho!s the heart produces )* to +* times more electrical

amplitude than the brain. The heart acts li%e a director, and much of the rest of

the human body follo!s its lead.

The heart puts out a po!erful, rhythmic si"nal that the brain responds to, IHMDirector of Research Dr. Rollin Mcraty has eplained. In a !ay, !e could say

that the heart and brain /tal% to one another, and to"ether they set the rhythms

for the entire ner$ous system and body.

The heart also sends si"nals about ho! !e feel. #s !e eperience emotions

such as happiness, sadness, lo$e and fear, that emotional information is

encoded in si"nals from the heart and pro0ected around us.

1motions sometimes appear to affect our surroundin"s, much li%e in the sayin",2ou could cut the tension in the room !ith a %nife. That sayin" may ha$e its

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roots in the stress si"nals our hearts pro0ect in tense situations. This could

eplain ho!, !hen a child or parent is facin" a challen"e, each is sensiti$e to

!hat the other is feelin". It could also account for !hy mothers alwaysknow

!hen their children are up to some mischief, or !hy !e can detect the

emotional $ibes of people around us, especially those !e lo$e or care about li%efamily or friends.

We Are What We Feel3arents and care"i$ers %no! that bein" upset usually ma%es it harder to thin%

clearly. Thats because !hen !e are anious, afraid, !orried, frustrated or

upset, our heart rhythms are une$en and incoherent. 4e"ati$e emotions

re"ister in the brain and body as stress and create incoherence.

# ne"ati$e emotion immediately tri""ers a chain reaction in the body5constricted blood $essels, hi"her blood pressure, cortical inhibition, immune-

system suppression and compromised hormone balance amon" other effects.

'n the other hand, heartfelt positi$e emotions such as lo$e, care, appreciation

and compassion ha$e the opposite effect. 3ositi$e emotions produce smooth

and coherent heart rhythms, ma%in" it easier to thin% clearly and ma%e "ood

decisions, as !ell as impro$in" health.

6ane 4elson, the bestsellin" author of the PositiveDisciplineboo% series, saysits $ery important for parents to be a!are of ho! the heart is directin" them. I

teach parents ho! to listen to their hearts, 4elson said. 7hen they listen to

their hearts intelli"ence, they ma%e better decisions. 8ie! the free !ebinar

!ith Dr. 6ane 4elson, ulti$atin" 3ositi$e Discipline for hildren.

Meet Claire, a Heart-Intellient !arentlaire 9haffe, a mother of t!o, has tapped into her hearts intelli"ence for a

number of years by practicin" HeartMath techni:ues !ith her family. 9he said

the techni:ues ha$e impro$ed her relationship !ith her children and helped her

stay connected !ith her heart and set a lo$in" eample, e$en in difficult

situations.

7hen Im up a"ainst one of those standoffs !here my children are disa"reein"

!ith me on !hat a healthy snac% !ould be or !hen bedtime is, I use my heart

tools so I dont react from an"er or frustration, 9haffe said.

If a feelin" of frustration comes up, I pause for a moment before I respond, and

I use the #ttitude ;reathin"Tool (eplained belo! that I learned from

HeartMath. I breathe in deeply and slo!ly throu"h the area of my heart, and

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focus on feelin" an attitude of lo$e. Then I breathe out slo!ly a feelin" of deep

care. ;efore I %no! it, the frustration has dissipated and I feel more centered

and balanced. . ;reathe in !hile focusin" on your heart area, ima"inin" you are actually

breathin" throu"h your heart. It may help to place your hand o$er your

heart.

?. 4o! concentrate on a positi$e feelin" or attitude as you breathe out.

@. Aoc% in this ne! feelin" as you continue to breathe it in and out throu"h

your heart area.

#s you become adept at usin" this HeartMath techni:ue, select ne! feelin"s to

help you de-stress !hen ne"ati$e emotions and challen"es arise.

The #ttitude ;reathin" Tool is one of the many free resourcesthe Institute of

HeartMath has a$ailable for parents and care"i$ers. #nother resource parents,

care"i$ers and educators also !ill find useful is the HeartMath My BidsC

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appropriate techni:ues for teachin" children ho! to shift to the :ualities of the

heart and build coherence.

HeartMath has incorporated its more than t!o decades of research into

practical solutions that parents and others can employ as they face todayschallen"es. Thousands of people ha$e used these solutions and the principles

of heart-based li$in" to impro$e their li$es and those of friends and family.