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The

"Self Esteem"

8 Week

Confidence Conditioning

Program

By

Bobby Rio

©2011, Bobby Rio



Welcome

Welcome to The "Self Esteem" 8 Week Confidence Conditioning Program.

This has been designed to assist you in reprogramming yourself for total

confidence and success with women. It is based on the premise that every

action you take, every thought you have, creates the blueprint for the life

you live.

People are creatures of habit. Research shows that those who participate in

a daily routine are 3 times as likely to stay on track than those who

participate 6 says a week- and fare 5 times better than those who

participate 3, 4, or 5 days a week. Therefore, for best results, use your

program daily for the entire 8 weeks (56 days). If you miss a day, simply

start again the next day possible.

Be kind to yourself. But strict. A major focus of this program is developing

a strong sense of integrity. You know when you're making excuses.

However, if you're too hard on yourself you might find yourself giving up

out of frustration.

The program is quick and simple and will take you less than 10 minutes a

day. Give yourself a chance.

Each week's daily assignments will coordinate with a weekly video that

should be watching as part of the Self Esteem Blueprint video series.

Preparation

1. I recommend that you make sure you watch each week's video before

following the lessons for each day. The lessons will not make as much

sense or have as much impact if you haven't watched the video for the week.



2. Mark your starting point. Make sure you fill out the "Starting Point"

worksheet. This will allow you to track your progress over the next 2

months.

The more detailed you are when writing your "Starting Point" description,

the more you will be able to judge how fast you are making improvements

in the desired areas.

You will be updating this "Starting Point" every 21 days.



Instructions

Begin each day by opening your workbook and filling in the date. Then

complete the confidence conditioning process for the day. Do this before

anything else in the morning. That way, you can be sure it gets done.

IMPORTANT:

Some of the "action steps" you need take involve your dealings with other

people. If circumstance you prevents you from taking these actions on the

day noted, make sure you complete it by the end of the week.

Some of the daily actions will be the same throughout the entire 8 week

program. Some will be specific to the video you've watched that week.

Since "self esteem" is the result of a compound effect. Each week you will

see repetitions of the previous week's exercises.

Responsibility Exercises

Throughout the entire 8 weeks you will encounter many responsibility

exercises. These are designed to hold you accountable for doing the drills

assigned the day before. A good idea is to create a punishment and reward

system for yourself.

Daily Success Acknowledgement

Like attracts like. Success breeds success. The more you feel successful the

more success will come to you. Each day you will be asked to write down 5

successes that occurred in the previous 24 hours. The success can be major

or minor. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you acknowledge yourself

for whatever you do.

i.e.) "I completed my Confidence Condition exercise"

i.e.) "I approached a random girls and started a conversation"

i.e.) "I mowed the lawn."



1. I take 100% Responsibility for My Life.

2. I am Personally Responsible for Bringing

Women into My Life.

3. I Create My Sex Life. I must Create the

Opportunity and Attraction to Get Women into

my Bed.

4. I Take the Necessary Risks to Continually

Improve My Life



5. I accept myself completely… I deserve

beautiful women, and give myself permission to

have them…

6. I Refuse to Accept Mediocrity And Will Not

Stop Striving Until I Get Exactly What I want.

7. I have Immense Courage. I Overcome any

Fears.

8. I Make No Excuses for My Desires as a Man.

9. Rejection is a Good Thing. The More I Get

Rejected, the More I will Get Laid.

10. I Admire and Model Men Who Are

Successful With Women



Starting Point

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Video 1: I Create My Life

Day 1

Date: ___________

1. Attitude of Confidence Declarations

2. Acknowledge the Payoff You're Getting From Playing "Victim"

Chances are, that in some area of your life you are playing the role of victim. It is important to realize

what your motivation is for doing this. Describe the "payoff" you get for playing the role of being the

victim.

3. The "No Complaint" Challenge

For the remainder of the week, refrain from complaining about anything. And refrain from engaging in

other people's complaints.

4. Acknowledge Your Success.

List at least 5 successes that you enjoyed over the past 24 hours.

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DAY 2

Date: ___________

1. Attitude of Confidence Declaration

2. Notice areas where you are rationalizing

We all find ways to rationalize why we don't have certain things, or avoid doing things we know we

should. Write down the areas you've rationalized. For instance, maybe you've been staying in on Friday

nights and have rationalized its "to save money" when deep down you know you're avoiding the

discomfort of meeting new people.

3. Proactive Success

Write down one "Proactive Success" you want to achieve today. It can be anything from approaching a

woman, getting a phone number, going to the gym. Tomorrow you will be held accountable for achieving

this success.



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DAY 3

Date: ___________


2. Responsibility Exercise

Yesterday you wrote down one "proactive" success you were going to achieve. Take responsibility for the

success or failure of that action.

3. Event (E) + Response (R) = Outcome (O)

The basic idea of this formula is that every outcome you experience in life is the result of how you have

responded to an earlier event or events in your life.

Here is an example of how this formula comes into play on a daily basis:

Event: Every Saturday and Sunday you have off from work

Response: You lay on the couch play video games, eat pizza, and drink beer.

Outcome: You are out of shape and have very little social life

Today I just want you to recognize the formula for 3 areas of your life you are struggling with:



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DAY 4

Date: ___________



Yesterday you wrote down your current formula for 3 areas of your life you're struggling with. Today I

want you to write down the NEW Formula signifying a change.

3. Proactive Success

Write down one "Proactive Success" you want to achieve today. It can be anything from approaching a

woman, getting a phone number, going to the gym. Tomorrow you will be held accountable for achieving

this success.



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DAY 5

Date: ___________



Yesterday you wrote down one "proactive" success you were going to achieve. Take responsibility for the

success or failure of that action.

3. The "No Complaint" Challenge

Have you been keeping up with your "no complaint" challenge? Write down any differences you noticed.

If you failed to do this; Take responsibility for your failure.



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DAY 6

Date: ___________


2. Turn "Victim" Mentality into "Driver" Mentality

Write down 5 ways you are going to take responsibility for your life. Ask yourself this question "What Can

I Fix?" And any area that is currently challenging you, affirm your ability to change your circumstance.

For instance: "Women are too hard to read" is changed to "I am going to work on recognizing the signals

women are giving me."

3. Who am I giving power to?

Every time you catch yourself blaming, justifying, or complaining, stop and analyze your statement. And

ask yourself this question: “Who am I giving the power to?



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DAY 7

Date: ___________


2. Write down your purpose for wanting to improve your self esteem

Reminding yourself why you're doing this will help you stay focused over the next 8 weeks.

3. Proactive Habit

Write down one "Proactive Habit" you want to achieve today. It can be anything from waking up earlier,

emailing 5 girls a day, or starting a workout routine. Continue this new habit over the remainder of the

program (preferably past that)



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Video 2: I Play to Win

DAY 8

Date: ___________


2. Write down all the areas you are Playing Not To Lose… rather than Playing to Win

These are all the areas that you not going full force because you're more scared of messing up then you are

of achieving what you want.

3. Write down the 'pay off' you're getting by playing not lose.

Remember everything we do is because we get some reward out of it. If you're avoiding taking the

necessary risks to get what you want. You must be getting some reward out of it. Recognize what it is.



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DAY 9

Date: ___________


2. Reframing Rejection (review video 1 from this week)

What are you going to replace outcome dependency with?

3. Learning from rejection

What did you learn? What skill did you build? What do you still need to work on?



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DAY 10

Date: ___________


2. What have you avoided "asking for"?

The fear of asking hold us back from so much in life. Right down all the things you have avoided asking

for.

3. Proactive Asking

Pick one thing you've avoided asking for, and ask for it in the next hours.



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DAY 11

Date: ___________



Yesterday you wrote down one "proactive" thing you were going to ask for. Take responsibility for the

success or failure of that action. Did you ask for it?

3. Formulate your intent

Your ability to plow on to the end comes from your intent. When it comes to meeting women, what is

your intent? Write down what you want out of your next interaction with a woman.



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DAY 12

Date: ___________


2. What areas in life are you content?

Acknowledge the areas in life you feel content to know you could do something that rather than do it.

3. Bust through your barrier of content

Pick one of the areas where you are content in the knowledge you can do something. And do it. Prove to

yourself that you can really do it. Whether its approaching a woman, writing the first chapter of your

book, or cold calling a customer and making a sale.



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DAY 13

Date: ___________



Yesterday you wrote down one are you were content to get out of your "content phase" and take action.

Take responsibility for the success or failure of that action.

3. Where are you holding onto mediocrity?

List all the areas you are holding onto mediocrity



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DAY 14

Date: ___________


2. List what you intend to have

Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life.





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Video 3: The Us Framework

DAY 15

Date: ___________


2. What is your current framework in regards to women?

What do you think you have to do to get them? How do you think they view you? How do you perceive

the kind of guys who get them?

3. Proactive Asking

Pick one thing you've avoided asking for, and ask for it in the next hours.



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DAY 16

Date: ___________



Yesterday you wrote down one "proactive" thing you were going to ask for. Take responsibility for the

success or failure of that action. Did you ask for it?

3. Recognize where you've been programmed

Write down statements you’ve heard, repeated, or thought about. Write down the affect they’ve had on

your life so far. Recognize this isn’t the truth.



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DAY 17

Date: ___________


2. Get Rejected

As we talked about last week, getting over your fear of rejection is crucial for your success. Today I want

you to go out and "get rejected" 2 times. You can simply ask a strange woman for her phone number. The

objective is solely to get rejected. Tomorrow you are going to have to face responsibility for whether or

not you followed through.

3. Your Current Models

Make a List of who do you currently model? What is their “frameworks” about women? How has that

“framework” affected you?



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DAY 18

Date: ___________



Yesterday you were given an exercise to go out and get rejected twice. Did you do this? If not, notice if

you're rationalizing, making excuses, or justifying your decision. Instead, take responsibility. If you did

it, take responsibility for getting outside your comfort zone.

3. Model More Empowering Frameworks

Yesterday you listed the frameworks you currently model. Today I want you to seek out guys with better

frameworks and begin modeling them. List some guys you know who have a more empowering

framework?



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DAY 19

Date: ___________


2. Develop your More Empowering Framework

Find Evidence to Believe it. Actively Think it. How Would You Act if You Had believed this your whole

life?

3. Practice Empathy

Go Back and Re-live Specific situation through other point of view.



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DAY 20

Date: ___________


2. What Specific Incidents Have Shaped Your Framework

List any specific incidents that stand out in your mind? What emotions have you anchored to being

around women?


Include your ideal girlfriend, lifestyle, career, and social life. Be sure to include why you are capable of

achieving these.



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DAY 21

Date: ___________


2. What to Do Right Now

Set a Condition that will ensure you find new models. Set a Condition that will ensure you eliminate

negative frameworks from vocabulary.





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Starting Point (Where are You Now)

Date:

Description:



Video 4: The "I Can" Mentality

DAY 22

Date: ___________


2. Take the Insecurity Test

Close your eyes and imagine: Walking up to a Beautiful Women unprovoked in a Night Club. Picking up

the phone to call a woman for the first time. Walking into your bedroom with a beautiful woman .

Make Note of: Any Anxiety You Felt. What Thoughts Went Through Your Mind? What Situation Was the

Anxiety Most Prominent?


A couple days ago I told you to set conditions to ensure that you develop new frame works and find new

role models. Have you followed through?



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DAY 23

Date: ___________


2. Begin a judgment free week

For the remainder of this week refrain from making any judgments about yourself or other people.

3. Win a Battle

It is important to win small battles to show yourself you can. Today, write down one small battle you're

going to win, and then in the next 24 hours… do whatever it takes to win the battle.



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DAY 24

Date: ___________



Yesterday I told you to go and win a battle. Now it is time to take responsibility for either having taken

the action or not.

3. Meditate

Part of developing self trust is the ability to quiet your mind. For the next 10 minutes practice meditation.

This is simply the act of keeping your mind free of thought. Each time a new thought comes into your

mind, just release it.



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DAY 25

Date: ___________


2. What is your comfort zone?

Write down all of the different areas where you refuse to leave your comfort zone. Acknowledge what

your comfort zone is.

3. Practice Therapeutic recklessness

At some point over the next 24 hours practice purposely being reckless and acting without thought.



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DAY 26

Date: ___________



Yesterday I told you to go and be reckless. Now it is time to take responsibility for either having taken the

action or not.

3. Write down all the lies you tell yourself

We all tell ourselves lies to avoid stepping outside of our comfort zone. Write down the lies you tell

yourself.



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DAY 27

Date: ___________


2. Get Outside Your Comfort Zone

The other day you wrote down all the areas you stay within your comfort zone. Over the next 24 hours

pick one of those areas and venture outside your comfort zone.

3. Meditate






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DAY 28

Date: ___________




achieving these.





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Video 5: No Wiggle Room

DAY 29

Date: ___________


2. Its Decision Making Time

What must you have in your life? What kind of life won't you accept?

3. Create a dream board

Using my dream board in the video as an example, create a board with pictures of the way you want your

life to look. Do this by the end of the week. You will be held responsible.



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DAY 30

Date: ___________


2. Create Your Heroes' Code

Define integrity for yourself. What is your moral code for yourself? How clear are the lines?



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DAY 31

Date: ___________


2. Set Conditions to Create a "Conditioned" Response

Eliminate your wiggle room. Set specific guidelines for what you have to do. Set conditions to make sure

that you do it. Use this idea of "setting conditions" to hold yourself responsible for the remainder of the

workbook.

3. Get Rejected

As we talked about in previous weeks, getting over your fear of rejection is crucial for your success. Today

I want you to go out and "get rejected" 2 times. You can simply ask a strange woman for her phone

number. The objective is solely to get rejected. Tomorrow you are going to have to face responsibility for

whether or not you followed through.



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DAY 32

Date: ___________



Yesterday you were given an exercise to go out and get rejected twice. Did you do this? If not, notice if

you're rationalizing, making excuses, or justifying your decision. Instead, take responsibility. If you did

it, take responsibility for getting outside your comfort zone.


Remeber the above formula from week 1 Today I want you to write down the NEW Formula signifying a

change in an area that you've been to easy on youself.



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DAY 33

Date: ___________


2. Eliminate Crutches/ Burn Ships/ No retreat

Where are you giving yourself an "out." Eliminate means of retreat.

3. Write down all the words and phrases you are going to eliminate from your vocabulary

Write down words like "might" "should" or any other phrases you commonly use to give yourself a means

of retreat.



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DAY 34

Date: ___________



6 days ago you were given an exercise to create a Dream Board. Did you do this? If not, notice if you're

rationalizing, making excuses, or justifying your decision. Instead, take responsibility. If you did it, take

responsibility for taking a step that will get you closer to achieving your goals.

3. Review Your Heroes Code

Look over the hero's code you created a few days ago. Acknowledge if you've been living up to the

guidelines you set for yourself.



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Date: ___________




achieving these.





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Video 6: Sell Yourself

DAY 36

Date: ___________


2. List all the ways you currently avoid "selling" yourself

Do you dress conservative? Not ask girls out? Avoid standing out in a crowd?

3. What are some negative Beliefs that have held you back?

Everyone suffers from holding onto negative beliefs like "Girls only like guys with money" or such like

that. What are some negative beliefs that have held you back?



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DAY 36

Date: ___________


2. Define Your Value

What value do you hold? Why do people benefit from knowing you? Why do you deserve to date beautiful

women?

3. Turn negative beliefs into empowering beliefs

Yesterday I had you list some of your negative beliefs. Take those beliefs and re-write them in an

empowering way. So if your former belief was "Women only like guys with money" you could re-write

that belief to be "Women like the guy who is most fun to be around."



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DAY 37

Date: ___________


2. Exercise for Enthusiasm 1

Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring, dry topic. Watch on either TV, taped lectures,

technical presentations, etc. Really pay attention to how they speak, their tone, their pace, and how much

(or little) energy is conveyed.

3. Exercise for Enthusiasm 2

Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really

pay attention to how they speak, their tone, their pace, and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. Note

how even if the material is something you do NOT care about, that a good speaker can really grab your

attention with their energy and enthusiasm.



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DAY 38

Date: ___________




pick one of those areas and venture outside your comfort zone.

3. Meditate






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DAY 39

Date: ___________


2. Make One Big Improvement Today

Take one step today to improving your appearance. Whether its getting a haircut, buying a fashionable

outfit, or shaving a scruffy beard.


Yesterday I told you to get outside your comfort zone. Now it is time to take responsibility for either

having taken the action or not.



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DAY 40

Date: ___________


2. Promote Yourself on Facebook

Leave a Facebook Status update that promotes your personality. If you don’t have an account set one up

today.

3. Be a good audience

For the Rest of the Week Concentrate on Becoming the Best Audience You can Be



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DAY 41

Date: ___________


2. Make One More Improvement Today

Take one step today to improving your appearance. Whether its getting a haircut, buying a fashionable

outfit, or shaving a scruffy beard. The reason you are making two big improvements this week is because

it will create momentum.

3. Discover your passions

Part of your ability to sell yourself is to know what you're really passionate about. Make a list of the things

in life that you feel passion for.



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DAY 42

Date: ___________




achieving these.





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Date:

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Video 7: Getting into Flow

DAY 43

Date: ___________


2. Describe a time you were in "flow"

What were Commonalities to Events? Were you Around Certain People? What Was Your Specific

Thought Process Like? What was the Goal You Were After? What was the Level of Challenge You were

Facing?


Remeber the above formula from week 1 Today I want you to write down the NEW Formula signifying a

change in an area that you've been to easy on youself.



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DAY 44

Date: ___________


2. Set an inspiring goal for the week

Jot down a goal that you could realistically achieve this week that would inspire you. And then achieve

that goal. You will be held responsible.

3. Conversation Flow

In the next conversation you are in, attempt to figure out what the other person's goal is within the

conversation and help them achieve it. Re-watch the video if you need to be refreshed what this means.



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DAY 45

Date: ___________


2. What are you grateful for?

List all of the things in your life that you are grateful for.

3. Meditate






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DAY 46

Date: ___________


2. Exercise for Flow

Make a Conscious Effort to Practice One Simple Activity in Complete Immersion. Simply Enjoy the

Experience of the Activity. (ie. Washing Your Car, Jogging, Cleaning Your Room, ect)

3. Meditate






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DAY 47

Date: ___________


2. Try Something New

Pick one thing you’ve never done, or don’t do enough, and put your complete energy this week in

attempting it. Close off distractions, excuses, or frustrations about it.

3. Practice Empathy

Go Back and Re-live Specific situation through other point of view. The ability to empathize with people

is a skill worth continued practice.



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DAY 48

Date: ___________



In the beginning of the week I told you to get go after one goal. Now it is time to take responsibility for

either having taken the action or not.

3. Conversation Flow

In the next conversation you are in, attempt to figure out what the other person's goal is within the

conversation and help them achieve it. Re-watch the video if you need to be refreshed what this means.



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DAY 49

Date: ___________




achieving these.





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Video 8: The Attitude

DAY 50

Date: ___________


2. List where you might be presenting "nice guy" behaviors

Be honest with yourself, are you doing things you don't want to do in hopes it will make a woman like

you?

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DAY 51

Date: ___________


2. List areas where you are presenting a scarcity mindset

Be honest with yourself, what areas are you living with a scarcity mindset.



pick one of those areas and venture outside your comfort zone. You will be held responsible



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DAY 52

Date: ___________


2. List all the areas where you have handed over your power to a woman

Be honest with yourself. Where have you given away your power to a woman.


Yesterday I told you to pick one area and get outside of your comfort zone. Now it is time to take

responsibility for either having taken the action or not.



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DAY 53

Date: ___________


2. Anti Nice Guy Exercise

Go Out Tonight and Act Solely With Your Best Interest in Mind. Talk About What YOU Want to Talk

About. And Practice Obliviousness to What She Might Be Thinking

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DAY 54

Date: ___________


2. What are you grateful for?

List all of the things in your life that you are grateful for.

3. Anti Scarcity Exercise

Cut Off All Ties With Women Who Treat You Badly. If You’re holding onto a “Crush” release her from

your mind. Approach a Woman with the firm belief that it is a Numbers Game.



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DAY 55

Date: ___________



Over the past couple days I gave two exercises, one for Anti-Nice Guy and one for Scarcity. Now it is time

to take responsibility for either having taken the action or not.

3. Take the Power Back Exercise

Begin using the word “Lets” and start taking control in every interaction you are in with a female.



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DAY 56

Date: ___________




achieving these.

3. Write down everything you've learned over the past 56 days




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Completing Your 8 Week Program

Over the past 8 weeks or the duration of the program…

1. Describe your progress in terms of feeling and acting more confident in

various situations.

2. Describe your progress in terms of opportunities that came your way

because you stepped outside your comfort zone.

3. Describe your progress in terms of enjoying socializing more.

4. Describe your progress in terms of "how you feel about yourself."



5. Describe your progress in terms of "how you feel about life"

6. Describe your progress in terms of how you relate to others.

7. What did you learn about yourself?

8. What will you do now to keep your momentum?



Well done! Go reward yourself!


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