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Ch. 1 Ch. 1 Ch. 1 Ch. 1 ---- Introduction to the Law of Attraction (p. 4) Introduction to the Law of Attraction (p. 4) Introduction to the Law of Attraction (p. 4) Introduction to the Law of Attraction (p. 4) � Conscious & Subconscious Mind (4) � Energy (5) � Law of Attraction (6) � Paradigms (7) � Worthiness (8) � Never Give Up (12) � My Story (13) � The Consequences of Doubt (15)

Ch. 2 Ch. 2 Ch. 2 Ch. 2 ---- Step 1: Ask for Step 1: Ask for Step 1: Ask for Step 1: Ask for Your Highest and Best Relationship Your Highest and Best Relationship Your Highest and Best Relationship Your Highest and Best Relationship (p. 15)(p. 15)(p. 15)(p. 15)

Ch. 3 Ch. 3 Ch. 3 Ch. 3 ---- Step 2: Gratitude Now! (p. 18) Step 2: Gratitude Now! (p. 18) Step 2: Gratitude Now! (p. 18) Step 2: Gratitude Now! (p. 18)

Ch. 4 Ch. 4 Ch. 4 Ch. 4 ---- Step 3: Write a Desire Statement (p Step 3: Write a Desire Statement (p Step 3: Write a Desire Statement (p Step 3: Write a Desire Statement (p. 22). 22). 22). 22)

Ch. 5 Ch. 5 Ch. 5 Ch. 5 ---- Step 4: Write a Script (p. 26) Step 4: Write a Script (p. 26) Step 4: Write a Script (p. 26) Step 4: Write a Script (p. 26)

Ch. 6 Ch. 6 Ch. 6 Ch. 6 ---- Step 5: Affirmations (p. 30) Step 5: Affirmations (p. 30) Step 5: Affirmations (p. 30) Step 5: Affirmations (p. 30)

Ch. 7 Ch. 7 Ch. 7 Ch. 7 ---- Step 6: Visualization (p. 36) Step 6: Visualization (p. 36) Step 6: Visualization (p. 36) Step 6: Visualization (p. 36)

Ch.Ch.Ch.Ch. 8 8 8 8 ---- Step 7: Take Action and Let Go (p. 41) Step 7: Take Action and Let Go (p. 41) Step 7: Take Action and Let Go (p. 41) Step 7: Take Action and Let Go (p. 41)

Ch. 9 Ch. 9 Ch. 9 Ch. 9 ---- Recommended Reading and Watching (p. 47) Recommended Reading and Watching (p. 47) Recommended Reading and Watching (p. 47) Recommended Reading and Watching (p. 47)

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"Every "Every "Every "Every passing passing passing passing

moment is a moment is a moment is a moment is a chance to turn chance to turn chance to turn chance to turn it all around."it all around."it all around."it all around." ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

Ch. 1 Ch. 1 Ch. 1 Ch. 1 ---- Introduction to the Law of Attraction Introduction to the Law of Attraction Introduction to the Law of Attraction Introduction to the Law of Attraction Perhaps you’ve heard the buzz about the best-selling book “The Secret” and the

law of attraction. Maybe you’ve even read “The Secret” and wondered exactly how

to make the law of attraction work in your love

life. This ebook will go deeper into the specifics,

giving you explanations on how and why the law

of attraction works.

CONSCIOCONSCIOCONSCIOCONSCIOUS & SUBCONSCIOUS MINDUS & SUBCONSCIOUS MINDUS & SUBCONSCIOUS MINDUS & SUBCONSCIOUS MIND

The first important concept to understand is how

both the conscious and subconscious minds

work. The subconscious mind controls 96 to

98% of our perceptions. It sees all pictures and

patterns. It can’t differentiate between reality and lies. It believes every image it

sees. It knows only one time: now. It doesn’t distinguish between “good” and “bad.”

Lastly, it contains our entire life’s worth of memory.

On the other hand, the conscious mind is responsible for just two percent of the

things that manifest in our lives. It looks for familiar pictures and patterns. It sets

goals and judges the results of

our achievements. It knows past

and future. Unlike the

subconscious mind, which is

responsible for our dreams, the

conscious mind needs 6-8 hours

of sleep per night. Lastly, the

conscious mind can only hold a


“All that we are “All that we are “All that we are “All that we are is the result of is the result of is the result of is the result of what we have what we have what we have what we have thought. The thought. The thought. The thought. The

mind is mind is mind is mind is everything. everything. everything. everything.

What we think, What we think, What we think, What we think, we become.”we become.”we become.”we become.” ---- Maharishi Maharishi Maharishi Maharishi

Mahesh YoMahesh YoMahesh YoMahesh Yogigigigi

thought for 20 seconds at a time.

How is this useful? You can use your conscious

mind to reprogram your subconscious mind. With

its power in creating 96 to 98% of what we draw

into our lives, this reprogramming will allow you

to turn your subconscious mind into your genie in

a bottle. Simply put, the conscious mind provides

all the “food” for the subconscious mind. So, if

you feed your subconscious mind the right

thoughts, you can manifest absolutely anything

into your life.

ENERGYENERGYENERGYENERGY

What does this have to do with finding Mr. or

Ms. Right? Everything in the world is made

up of energy--whether it is a table, a person,

a dog, or even a thought. Not to simplify

quantum physics too much, but, in a nutshell,

like energy attracts like energy. Think of how

a hurricane forms--like a magnet the powerful

force of the hurricane’s energy attracts all of

the wind, pressure, and clouds anywhere

near it.

This knowledge is so overwhelming, it has the

power to change everything in everyone’s life!

If you don’t believe in quantum physics,

consider this quote from Albert Einstein: “Do


“The greatest “The greatest “The greatest “The greatest discovery of my discovery of my discovery of my discovery of my generation is generation is generation is generation is that a human that a human that a human that a human being can alter being can alter being can alter being can alter

his life by his life by his life by his life by altering his altering his altering his altering his attitudes.”attitudes.”attitudes.”attitudes.”

---- William James William James William James William James

you remember how electrical

currents and ‘unseen waves’ were

laughed at? The knowledge about

man is still in its infancy.”

So, if thoughts have energy, and if

like energy attracts like energy,

what does this tell you about your

current situation? If you have consistently had thoughts of loneliness, you’ve only

attracted more loneliness to you. If you’ve worried frequently about breaking up,

you’ve drawn a break-up to you. If you’ve told yourself time and time again, “I’m

never going to meet Mr. Right,” then you’ve ensured that Mr. Right wasn’t going

to cross your path.

LAW OF ATTRACTIONLAW OF ATTRACTIONLAW OF ATTRACTIONLAW OF ATTRACTION

The law of attraction, or the law of vibration as

it is sometimes called, is essentially this

phenomenon in action. You are not the victim

of fate! Everything in your life is the result of

this law--absolutely everything! Another way to

think of the law of attraction is with the old

saying “Birds of a feather flock together.”

In the book Finding Your Soul Mate, Michael

states:

“The Magnetic Universe is the cause of all dual effects we see and experience in our three-dimensional Electric Universe. Your soul mate is attracted to you because you both radiate the same magnetic qualities. Like always seeks like…The one who is like you is naturally attracted to you, and vice versa. This attractive


“Somewhere there's someone “Somewhere there's someone “Somewhere there's someone “Somewhere there's someone who dreams of your smile, who dreams of your smile, who dreams of your smile, who dreams of your smile, And finds in your presence And finds in your presence And finds in your presence And finds in your presence

that life is worth while.that life is worth while.that life is worth while.that life is worth while. So when you are loneSo when you are loneSo when you are loneSo when you are lonely ly ly ly

remember it's true; remember it's true; remember it's true; remember it's true; Somebody somewhere is Somebody somewhere is Somebody somewhere is Somebody somewhere is

thinking of you”thinking of you”thinking of you”thinking of you” ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

force will lead your soul mate to you, or lead you to this person, at some point at time in space, just like grains of sand found their affinity together.”

To change what you are attracting

into your life, you must change your

vibration, your energy. It is

imperative to dwell on what you

want, rather than on what you fear

or what you dislike. Sometimes your

vibration or mindset is referred to

as a “paradigm” (pronounced “pair-

a-dime”).

PARADIGMSPARADIGMSPARADIGMSPARADIGMS

Your paradigm is your

subconscious mind--your

attitudes, beliefs, decisions,

and behaviors. Some

people have an optimistic

paradigm, while others are

pessimistic. Some people

are dreamers, while others

tend to be planners. Your

thoughts control your

paradigm and vibration

(energy), which dictates

what you attract into your

life. Your paradigm drives

all of your behavior, and


“The human “The human “The human “The human heart, at whatever heart, at whatever heart, at whatever heart, at whatever age, opens to the age, opens to the age, opens to the age, opens to the heart that opens heart that opens heart that opens heart that opens

in return.”in return.”in return.”in return.” ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

your behavior drives all of your results. Unless

your paradigm shifts, any law of attraction

changes or improvements that you see in

your life will be temporary at best.

If you want different results from life, you

must change your paradigm. It is imperative

that you do not give any attention to feelings

of lack, loneliness, or unworthiness. When you

catch a negative thought popping into your

head, simply be aware of it, and think

something positive instead. This can require

some genuine hard work for awhile--just like

changing any other bad habit. Once it

becomes routine, you will see amazing results

in your love life and everywhere else.

WORTHINESSWORTHINESSWORTHINESSWORTHINESS

Another important factor that for most

people is unknowingly pushing your ideal

mate away from you is how you feel about

yourself. Sadly, most people believe deep

down inside that real love doesn’t last, that

they don‘t believe in true love any more,

that they don’t deserve a ideal mate, or that

they’re such a crummy person that a happy

marriage will never happen for them.

It can be very challenging to change many


"Don't let the "Don't let the "Don't let the "Don't let the darkness of darkness of darkness of darkness of

the past cover the past cover the past cover the past cover the brightness the brightness the brightness the brightness of the future."of the future."of the future."of the future." ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

of these deeply-ingrained (and often subtle,

hidden) beliefs. Get out of your own way and be

patient with yourself. Give it time. Know that

the universe knows what’s best and will always

send you what you send it, which will be sent to

you at the exact right time. Be patient. Have

faith!

One way you can boost your own self-love and

worthiness is by reminding yourself that

everybody is worthy of having anything they

want! Yes, even you! Even if you’ve done things you’ve regretted in the past, it

doesn’t diminish your worthiness in any way. Everyone has made mistakes, and yet

everyone is still deserving of their highest and best relationship.

Try this activity. Ask yourself what your fears are when it comes to relationships.

Are you afraid of being abandoned? Opening your heart to trust someone? Being

cheated on? Being deceived? Being taken advantage of? Being verbally,

emotionally, or physically abused? Becoming unhappy and then having to break

up with the person? Make a list of these fears--

be specific--then work to mentally recondition

yourself. We will discuss this in greater detail in

some of the upcoming chapters.

Furthermore, know that you don’t need to give,

give, give in a relationship. You don’t need to

barter or settle. Consider some of these

statements from these best-selling and popular

relationship books:


QUOTEQUOTEQUOTEQUOTE SOURCESOURCESOURCESOURCE

QUOTEQUOTEQUOTEQUOTE SOURCESOURCESOURCESOURCE

“It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.”

Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov

“You know you deserve to have a great relationship.”

He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

“The biggest variable between a ‘bitch’ and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.”


“People are inspired to do remarkable things to find and be with the one they love. Big movies are made about it, and every relationship you admire bursts with a greatness that you hope for in your own life. And the more you value yourself, the more chance you’ll have of getting it.”


“He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.”


“You’re worth it.” He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

“Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves.”


“You are good enough to be asked out.” He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

“Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on.”


“Better than nothing is not good enough for you!”


“You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.”


“We are all tired of operating from a place of fear. You want to believe that you are better than all the crap you’ve been taking from all these men all these years. Well, you are.”


“The only way to “The only way to “The only way to “The only way to successfully manifest successfully manifest successfully manifest successfully manifest the life you desire... is the life you desire... is the life you desire... is the life you desire... is to keep trying until to keep trying until to keep trying until to keep trying until you are successful!”you are successful!”you are successful!”you are successful!” ---- Bob Crawford Bob Crawford Bob Crawford Bob Crawford

As you can clearly see, no matter what

source you look at, they all point to the

same basic concept: if you don’t love

yourself the way you’d want your ideal

mate to love you, you will never find

the love you seek.

Try this exercise. Look at yourself in

the mirror. Take a long time to look

yourself over. Stare deeply into your

own eyes. Now say aloud, “I love you.”


QUOTEQUOTEQUOTEQUOTE SOURCESOURCESOURCESOURCE “When a woman is too eager to please, a man doesn’t experience the distance he needs to pursue her.”

Mars and Venus on a Date by John Gray, PhD

“All of the pieces in our lives begin to fit together when our hearts are open…By making sure we keep our soul’s promise, we are able to bring the spiritual into the material world. When we live in love, we bring the kingdom of heaven on earth.”


“Instead of feeling like a victim at the whim of her partner’s changing feelings, a woman can feel self-assured.”


“A woman mistakenly thinks that to be worthy of receiving what she really wants, she must keep giving back what she is receiving.”


“Self-assurance assumes you will always get what you need and you are now in the process of getting it.”


“You are an excellent, foxy human being worthy of love, and the only way you can pursue that idea is by honoring yourself.”


“We don't “We don't “We don't “We don't attract what attract what attract what attract what we want, we we want, we we want, we we want, we attract what attract what attract what attract what we are.”we are.”we are.”we are.”

---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

How does it feel? Can you genuinely tell yourself

this, or did you have to “fake it”? If you said I

love you to yourself any less enthusiastically than

you’d want your ideal mate to say it, then keep

doing this exercise once a week throughout the

time you are actively involved with the steps in this ebook. You will know when

you have internalized true feelings of self-love and worthiness when you can tell

yourself “I love you” without a degree of awkwardness or loathing.

NEVER GIVE UPNEVER GIVE UPNEVER GIVE UPNEVER GIVE UP

It can be daunting to face or accept the challenges needed to ready yourself for

your highest and best relationship.

Never lose sight of your goal, even temporarily. Your success will be determined

by your constant progress toward your own dream. Remember, you can have

whatever you want. You deserve whatever you want. When you follow the steps in

this ebook for a week, then “take a day off,” you are sending out a mixed

message to the universe. Mixed messages can only yield mixed results, at best.

The direction you choose will determine if you

realize your ideal.

If you dedicate yourself body and soul to this goal,

you have nothing to lose. It is free. It won’t make

you break a sweat. There are no negative side

effects. So, here is your challenge…before you even

read about the 7 steps I will outline, commit yourself

to this process for at least 90 days. You must make

this commitment willingly and happily--knowing that,

by making this choice, you are agreeing to accept


your highest and best relationship into

your life. Sixty to 90 days is the bare

minimum time frame needed for your

self-perceptions and paradigm to truly

change.

MY STORYMY STORYMY STORYMY STORY

Four years ago, I was happily engaged, and my future seemed bright. Out of

nowhere, my fiancé and I broke up. I was completely and utterly devastated.

Telling my family and friends the sad news and having to “un-do” wedding plans

was practically unbearable for me. I was living in a hell on earth. I felt empty and

alone. I assumed that because the past was “bad,“ that the future would be too. I

constantly berated myself with thoughts of, “How could this happen to me?” and

“What have I done to deserve this?”

What I am grateful for is that this misery pushed me to begin searching for

answers. I read books. I talked to counselors. I meditated. I did extensive soul

searching. None of this really gave me the information I needed though. I needed

to know why this pattern of heartache

was in my life. Why did it seem like I

was sabotaging myself?

Then I met my mentor. All of the

knowledge and answers I needed were

soon revealed.

The first thing my mentor taught me was that I had issues with worthiness and

trust. I expected the worst and, therefore, that’s exactly what I got! Because I

didn’t trust, of course, I attracted untrustworthy people. It was a vicious cycle that


“I am available to “I am available to “I am available to “I am available to more good than more good than more good than more good than I've ever realized, I've ever realized, I've ever realized, I've ever realized,

imagined or imagined or imagined or imagined or experienced in my experienced in my experienced in my experienced in my

life."life."life."life." ---- The SecretThe SecretThe SecretThe Secret

I was creating without even realizing it.

The second thing my mentor showed me was that I concentrated on what I didn’t

want. I was afraid and worried about breaking up, being single again, and feeling

lonely. Once again, my thoughts, like magnets, drew break ups, being single, and

loneliness to me. Additionally, I was attracting other people to me who expected

to be walked out on and abused.

The first thing my mentor advised me to do

was figure out exactly what I wanted. As

long as I just had the attitude that I would

take whatever came along, then that’s what

I’d be settling for. I had some tough

decisions to make: did I want my ex-fiancé

back, or was I looking for a different

person? If I wanted a different person, what

characteristics would that person possess?

Once I figured out exactly what I wanted, I

set out doing the steps set forth here. I

reprogrammed my mind, making that 90

day commitment to myself. Another valuable insight my mentor gave me was

“fake it ’til you make it.” While I had heard this saying before, it had never really

been clear to me until that time. If I “put on a happy face,” or acted happy, it was

easy to become happy. I had to fake “happiness” at first, but even the outward

happiness raised my vibration. This raised vibration made it easy for my inside to

feel genuine happiness shortly thereafter.

The results were literally mind-blowing. It was like I turned into a “chick magnet.” I

had more worthy women to date then I had time to date them. I had to actually


remove myself from dating with this

onslaught of new prospects because I

didn’t feel completely healed yet from

my split with my fiancé. One of the

most important things that this

experience taught me though was the

power of my own thinking, my own

consciousness, my paradigm. My

entire outlook transformed. My confidence and self-esteem sky rocketed. I felt alive

and happy, knowing that my highest and best relationship was a reality.

Once I started dating again after my 6 month respite, I wasn’t devastated by

break-ups because, again, I loved myself and refused to settle. My belief that my

true love was on her way to me was unshakeable.

THE CONSEQUENCES OF DOUBT THE CONSEQUENCES OF DOUBT THE CONSEQUENCES OF DOUBT THE CONSEQUENCES OF DOUBT

Regardless of what lies ahead in this

ebook, you must understand that you

attracted this material to you. You’ve

come this far! It’s no accident. Before

you embark further on this journey,

make the commitment to yourself now

to openly embrace the techniques set

forth here. If you believe this ebook will

help you find your highest and best relationship, then it will. If you doubt that this

ebook will help you, then it won’t. Doubt of any kind--in yourself, in love, in this

ebook--will only push your ideal mate away.

Ch. 2 Ch. 2 Ch. 2 Ch. 2 ---- Step 1: Ask for Your Highest and Best Relationship Step 1: Ask for Your Highest and Best Relationship Step 1: Ask for Your Highest and Best Relationship Step 1: Ask for Your Highest and Best Relationship


"You cannot "You cannot "You cannot "You cannot make someone make someone make someone make someone love you; you love you; you love you; you love you; you can only make can only make can only make can only make

yourself yourself yourself yourself someone who someone who someone who someone who can be loved!"can be loved!"can be loved!"can be loved!" ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

Everyone is familiar with the popular quote from the

Bible: “Ask and ye shall receive.” What does this mean?

Is it real? What about all the times you asked for

something and didn’t get it? Let’s look to the ground-

breaking book Conversations With God by Neale Donald

Walsch. In the book, we are given this guidance on

manifesting things in our lives:

“No prayer--and a prayer is nothing more than a fervent statement of what it so--goes unanswered. Every prayer--every thought, every statement, every feeling--is creative. To the degree that it is fervently held as truth, to that degree will it be made manifest in your experience…Yet what you must know--and here is the secret--is that always it is the thought behind the thought--what might be called the Sponsoring Thought--that is the controlling thought. If, therefore, you beg and supplicate, there seems a much smaller chance that you will experience what you think you are choosing, because the Sponsoring Thought behind every supplication is that you do not have what you wish. That Sponsoring Thought becomes your reality.”

With this knowledge, think back on how you’ve

gone about asking for your highest and best

relationship in the past. You can see how all

creation unfolds. First of all, if you love yourself

and know you are deserving of the best life has

to offer, your Sponsoring Thought will already be

vibrating on the right level. Even if you have high

self-esteem and self-regard, that doesn’t

automatically mean you think you are deserving

of a dream-come-true relationship.

When you ask for your highest and best

relationship, you really aren’t going to “ask” for


“You cannot “You cannot “You cannot “You cannot see anything see anything see anything see anything that you do that you do that you do that you do not first not first not first not first

contemplate contemplate contemplate contemplate as a reality.”as a reality.”as a reality.”as a reality.” ---- Ramtha Ramtha Ramtha Ramtha

anything. You will know. Because you love yourself the

way your ideal mate will love you, and you know you

deserve to be with that ideal mate, the work is already

done.

Here is another way to think about it. In the 1992 NBA

Finals, Michael Jordan scored 35 points in the first half

of Game One against the Portland Trailblazers. Jordan

himself had this to say about his mind-boggling

performance, “The first one [three-pointer] felt so good, I had to take more. I

couldn't miss. The threes were like free throws; they just kept dropping. I didn't

know what was happening. I was in a zone. What can I say? I don't know how to

explain it."

As you “ask” for your highest and best relationship, you will be like Michael

Jordan in “the zone.” You will know that your ideal mate is coming your way--

period. As Jordan said, you don’t even have to know how it could possibly

happen. It doesn’t have to be feasible. Maybe you’re

in prison or on an extended tour of duty on a

men’s-only Navy submarine--it doesn’t matter. You

are in the zone, all the time, knowing, as Jordan

did, that every shot you throw up will swish

beautifully through the net. Just because Jordan

had missed three-pointers in the past, did not

mean he had to miss any in that game. The same

is true for you--your past does not have to equal

your future.

One of the most important things you need to

know to accomplish your goal of finding your


highest and best relationship is how to pray, how to “ask.” Let’s turn again to

Conversations With God.

The book says:

“You will not have that for which you ask, nor can you have anything you want. This is because your very request is a statement of lack, and your saying you want a thing only works to produce that precise experience--wanting--in your reality. The correct prayer is therefore never a prayer of supplication, but a prayer of gratitude. When you thank God in advance for that which you choose to experience in your reality, you, in effect, acknowledge that it is there…in effect. Thankfulness is thus the most powerful statement to God.”

This brings us to Step #2 of our process…gratitude.

Ch. 3 Ch. 3 Ch. 3 Ch. 3 ---- Step 2: Gratitude Now! Step 2: Gratitude Now! Step 2: Gratitude Now! Step 2: Gratitude Now!

Gratitude is the strongest force in the universe! Right now, get out a blank piece

of paper and a pen. Write down as many things as

you can think of that you are thankful for. Maybe

you’re thankful for being in good health, for being

young, for this ebook finding its way to you, for your

great sense of humor, for your warm heart, or for

your awesome job. There are a ton of things to be

grateful for.

As you “ask” for your highest and best relationship,

an attitude of gratitude will instantly raise your

vibration level and help you attract higher and better


“Man did not “Man did not “Man did not “Man did not weave the weave the weave the weave the

web of life, he web of life, he web of life, he web of life, he is merely a is merely a is merely a is merely a strand in it. strand in it. strand in it. strand in it. Whatever he Whatever he Whatever he Whatever he does to the does to the does to the does to the web, he does web, he does web, he does web, he does to himself.”to himself.”to himself.”to himself.” ---- Chief Chief Chief Chief SeattleSeattleSeattleSeattle

people, things, and experiences to you. The next

time you find that impossible parking spot right in

front of the store or all the traffic lights are green

for you, know that gratitude is at work in your life.

Now, you have even more to be thankful for. The

cycle of gratitude will just keep perpetuating itself.

The more gratitude you express, the more rapid

your desire will manifest in your life. Or, think of it

like this, the more grateful you are, the more the

universe will give you to be grateful for.

Always concentrate on what you have. If you

should ever forget some of the numerous gifts in

your life, pull out your handy dandy list. As you

look over the list, close your eyes for a moment

and recall an instance when you experienced that

gift. For example, if you are thankful for your

sense of humor, close your eyes and re-live a

happy memory when you made a big group of

people laugh or when you brought everyone in that office meeting to tears with

your funny impression. Reconnect with the joy of that experience. Emotionalize it.

As you do this, you can say to yourself, “Thank you for this gift of making others

laugh.” Your thank you can be directed to the universe, to God, or to any higher

power you connect with.

There are many, many ways to squeeze gratitude into your life. When you are in

the shower, say 10 things you are thankful. When you fall asleep, sit in traffic, or

ride the elevator, send out a shot of gratitude to the universe. As you verbalize

these things, re-live or recall the experience like it’s happening right at that

moment. The more you connect with, or emotionalize, your gratitude, the more


“You are a “You are a “You are a “You are a creator; you creator; you creator; you creator; you

create with your create with your create with your create with your every thought. every thought. every thought. every thought. You often You often You often You often create by create by create by create by default…”default…”default…”default…” ----Abraham Abraham Abraham Abraham HicksHicksHicksHicks

potent its power is. This potency translates into increasing your vibration and

attraction. Also, always choose to say your thankful statements out loud, rather

than in your head (if appropriate) because this will give your words more passion,

and, thus, more power.

If you merely rattle off ten neutral things you are thankful for and don’t connect

with the things, you might as well be reading

a shopping list to the universe. Know that

conscious awareness of your vibration is called

a feeling. When you actively feel the

thankfulness, that is when you will have the

most power.

Even in bleak situations, you can always raise

a sinking energy level in yourself by focusing

on what you’re grateful for. For example, let’s

say you are waiting in a really long line at

your bank, and you’re in a hurry. As you feel

your energy get stressed, worried, anxious, or

annoyed, take a deep breath and center

yourself by saying a few things in your head

that you’re thankful for, such as:

� “I am so happy and grateful now that I am in a bank with air conditioning.”

� “I am so happy and grateful now that I have money in the bank.”

� “I am so happy and grateful now that my bank has no line.”

� “I am so happy and grateful now that I am alive!”

� “I am so happy and grateful now that life is always good to me.”

� “I am so happy and grateful now that I am receiving all the good I desire.”


By reconnecting with your attitude of gratitude, you will

actively feel happiness replace anxiety and worry. When

you can sense this happen, you know you’ve succeeded

in consciously changing your vibration. Let this serve as

a further reminder to you that you do have the power to

attract your highest and best relationship into your life.

If doing this still does not cleanse your energy, and you

find yourself still holding onto some anger about the

past or present, try this: write down on a piece of paper

what you’re upset about. Then take this piece of paper and burn it. As you watch

the paper and the words disappearing, let this remind you of the impermanence

of feelings--their transient nature. Take a deep breath, and let your anger go.

Release your anger by embracing the present moment. Rather than focusing on

your rear view mirror that’s constantly reminding you of the past, find the power of

focusing on the peace, joy, passion, and happiness of this moment right now.

I would also like you to write on a separate piece of paper the title “Limiting

Beliefs.” Whenever you catch yourself having a limiting thought about yourself, put

it down on this sheet of paper. Each night before

bed, check this list and see how you’re improving in

these areas. You are like the sky, and these limiting

beliefs are like clouds. Likewise, write on an

additional piece of paper “Manifestations.” On this

sheet of paper, note the good things that you’ve

brought into your life each day.

On yet another piece of paper, write the title “Signs

From the Universe.” Here, I want you to record any

signs or indications you get from the universe that


the universe is bringing you more change and goodness as you continue through

this process. The purpose of all these extra lists? You must see what you desire

before it happens, which is the opposite of we have been taught all our lives. This

activity helps undo that teaching.

Consider this analogy…

Ch. 4 Ch. 4 Ch. 4 Ch. 4 ---- Step 3: Writing a Desire Statement Step 3: Writing a Desire Statement Step 3: Writing a Desire Statement Step 3: Writing a Desire Statement

Have you seen the 1987 blockbuster movie La Bamba, starring Lou Diamond

Phillips? This biographical movie outlines the life and death of 1950s rock ’n roll

sensation Ritchie Valens. This movie also shows perfectly how the law of

attraction is at work in the universe. From a young age, Ritchie told everyone that

rock ‘n roll was his life, that he was going to be a rock ‘n roll star, and that

playing his guitar was all that mattered.

He told his mom, his girlfriend, his

brother, “I’m going to be a star,” and he

meant it. He knew it. He carried his

guitar everywhere and never strayed from

his goal.

One night, 16 year-old Ritchie was performing a concert at a local American

Legion Hall. A record producer wandered in, fell in love with Ritchie’s music and

energy (i.e. his “vibration”), and later offered him a recording contract. Ritchie

instantly became the star he always said he would be. He had several hit songs,

like “Come On Let’s Go,” “Donna,” and “La Bamba.” He was inducted into the

Rock ‘N Roll Hall of Fame in 2001.

While you might say Ritchie just had a knack for understanding the ways of the


“If quantum “If quantum “If quantum “If quantum mechanics hasn't mechanics hasn't mechanics hasn't mechanics hasn't

profoundly profoundly profoundly profoundly shocked you, shocked you, shocked you, shocked you, you haven't you haven't you haven't you haven't understood it understood it understood it understood it

yet.”yet.”yet.”yet.” ---- Niels Bohr Niels Bohr Niels Bohr Niels Bohr

universe, the law of attraction also brought

about tragedy in his life. At the same time

Ritchie was drawing stardom to himself, he

was also drawing his untimely death. Ritchie’s

childhood best friend died when two planes

collided in the air and debris from the planes

fell on him. Ritchie constantly had realistic

nightmares about plane crashes and dying

young, which, as you know, is real to the

subconscious mind. It was as if he was

visualizing himself dying in a plane crash,

although it was happening against his will.

Ritchie resisted flying on airplanes, felt intense

trepidation towards flying, and frequently made

off-handed remarks about dying in a plane crash.

On February 3, 1959, Ritchie died in a plane crash with fellow rock stars Buddy

Holly and the Big Bopper. Ritchie was 17 years old. Ritchie “won” a seat on the

airplane via a coin toss. After winning the coin toss, Ritchie noted how weird it

was that he’d won, saying he always lost coin tosses. Why do you think that coin

toss was different? Because what you think, you become--good and bad. It was

Ritchie’s vibration, his energy, the law of attraction. Bruce Lee understood this

when he said, “As you think, so shall you become.”

The law of attraction is very real. Your

subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference

between good/bad, past/future, etc. The

universe, or God, or whatever name you choose

to call it, hears and knows all of your thoughts,

wishes, feelings, and fears. Each one of these


“The “The “The “The significant significant significant significant problems problems problems problems we face we face we face we face

cannot be cannot be cannot be cannot be solved at solved at solved at solved at the same the same the same the same level of level of level of level of

thinking we thinking we thinking we thinking we were at were at were at were at when we when we when we when we created created created created them.”them.”them.”them.” ---- Albert Albert Albert Albert EinsEinsEinsEinsteinteinteintein

radiates with a different energy, a particular “wattage”

of electricity, if you will.

Many people have been taught that God (or the

universe) grants certain prayers or requests and turns

others down. This is not true. God wants what you

want. In the Bible, it says “Ye are gods.” We are

made of the same energy, the same “stuff.“ Anything

God or Jesus can do, you can do. In fact, the word

“desire” literally means “de” (of) “sire” (the father).

Everything in your life is a result of your thinking--

period. But what you may not know is that everything

you desire also desires you. For example, did you

know that we humans are made of hydrogen, oxygen,

carbon, and nitrogen--the same stuff that stars are

made of? Let this remind you of the divine in you, in

everyone, in everything. Let it also show you the

potential of the law of attraction’s power.

If you want to take control of your love life, or your

life in general, it starts with knowing what you want.

As you write your Desire Statement, include the

phrase, “I am so happy and grateful now that I am

with my highest and best relationship.” Always use the present tense. Make sure

to write your Desire Statement by hand, preferably on an unlined piece of blank

paper. This statement should be a statement of gratitude and a description of

what your life is like with your highest and best relationship.

Read this Desire Statement out loud with feeling twice a day--in the morning and


“Every time “Every time “Every time “Every time you date you date you date you date

someone with someone with someone with someone with an issue that an issue that an issue that an issue that you have to you have to you have to you have to

work to ignore, work to ignore, work to ignore, work to ignore, you're you're you're you're

settling.”settling.”settling.”settling.” ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

at night. The purpose of this is to

get used to these ideas, to get

familiar with them. This will help

you reprogram your subconscious

mind. Also, your Desire Statement is

closely related to your Script, which

we will discuss in the next chapter.

A sample Desire Statement might

look like this:

“I am so happy, excited, and grateful now that I am with the man/woman of my

dreams, and we are so happy together. It feels so great, and I am so fulfilled.”

As you write this Desire Statement, and as you read it out loud to yourself twice a

day, remember the certainty that both Ritchie

Valens and Michael Jordan had. If you don’t

believe it, the universe won’t either.

Also, don’t forget that Michael Jordan didn’t even

make his high school basketball team. Ritchie

Valens, at one point, was living and working in the

fields picking fruit. No matter what your

background is, anything is possible for you. Your

dreams are possible. Is it logical or likely for

someone who couldn’t make the high school team

to become one of the best athletes of all time? It

doesn’t matter. You can have the best. You deserve

the best. The only limitation you have is in your

mind.


In Ryan Shupe’s song Dream Big, he sings, “And when you dream, dream big/As

big as the ocean blue.” I want you to dream bigger than you can imagine. In fact,

if you can conceive of how your dream is coming to you, you need to dream

bigger!

Ch. 5 Ch. 5 Ch. 5 Ch. 5 ---- Step 4: Step 4: Step 4: Step 4: Writing a Script Writing a Script Writing a Script Writing a Script

Take some time to consciously think about what your ideal partner is like, what

spending a day with him or her is like, and what spending a night with him or her

is like. How does it feel to wake up next to this person? What do you talk about

with this person over dinner at a restaurant? What is it like to spend the weekend

with this person? How does he or she look? Smell? Feel? Taste?

Here is a list of things to consider about your ideal mate and what life will be like

with that person:

� Age?

� Height? Weight?

� Employment? Career? Job?

� Facial features? Body? Hair?

Eyes?

� How does this person dress?

� How does this person talk?

Act? Think?

� What are this person’s

mannerisms or habits?

� Education background?

� Ethnic or racial background?


“Secret forces are “Secret forces are “Secret forces are “Secret forces are bringing compatible bringing compatible bringing compatible bringing compatible spirits together. If spirits together. If spirits together. If spirits together. If the man permits the man permits the man permits the man permits

himself to be led by himself to be led by himself to be led by himself to be led by this ineffable this ineffable this ineffable this ineffable

attraction, goodattraction, goodattraction, goodattraction, good fortune will come fortune will come fortune will come fortune will come

his way.” his way.” his way.” his way.” ---- I Ching I Ching I Ching I Ching

� What hobbies or pastimes does this

person enjoy?

� Where is this person from? Where

does he or she live?

� What is important to this person?

� What things has this person

experienced?

� Is this person divorced, single, or

widowed?

� Does this person have children? If so,

how many? What age? Boy or girl?

� What is this person’s astrological sign?

� What movies and books does this

person like?

� How does this person react to stress?

� Neat or messy?

� Uptight or relaxed?

� On time or 5 minutes late?

� Serious or funny?

� Goes out or stays in?

� Money saved up or spends it as he or she makes it?

� Home owner or renter?

� Travel or stay local?

� Confident or shy?

� Well-read or not a fan of reading?

� Video games or outdoor activities?

� Internet junkie or computer illiterate?

� Likes to cook or prefers restaurants?

� Car, truck, or motorcycle?

� Beer, wine, or water?


� Salad and tofu or meat and

potatoes?

� Does this person have any

pets…cats, dogs, birds, fish, horses?

� Marriage material or just a life

companion?

� Sex…how often? Sweet or rough?

� Wants to start a family?

You do not need to know all the answers to the above; they are just ideas to help

you think about the qualities your ideal mate has. If, for example, your ideal

mate’s race is not important to you, then focus on the qualities that are crucial.

As you are deciding the qualities of your highest and best relationship, don’t just

consider the person--think about the relationship as well.

� How will you two resolve disputes?

� What do the two of you enjoy doing together?

� How often will you two get together?

� What kind of a listener is this person?

� How does it feel to be around this person?

Once you have thought about these

things and decided what you must have,

what you can’t stand, and what is

unimportant to you, you’re ready to make

your Script. Like your Desire Statement,

your Script should be hand written and

read out loud twice a day with feeling. It

can be as short as a paragraph or as long as a page--whatever feels right for

you.


“You are a “You are a “You are a “You are a creator; you creator; you creator; you creator; you

create with your create with your create with your create with your every thought. every thought. every thought. every thought.

You often create You often create You often create You often create by default…”by default…”by default…”by default…”

---- Abraham Hicks Abraham Hicks Abraham Hicks Abraham Hicks

Your Script is like placing your order at the

restaurant of ideal mates. It is your chance

to pick and choose from all the qualities

and features on the menu and pick the one

you want the most. Make sure, of course,

that your Script mentions your gratitude. As

you create and read your Script, see it in

your head, feel it, internalize it.

In my Script, I was absolutely clear and

descriptive on everything I wanted: a loyal

and supporting wife and best friend, with

three beautiful, healthy children, to travel the

world together, getting along with each other’s family, being able to just relax and

have fun when doing nothing.

Perhaps you're thinking, “Why not just ask the universe for my ideal mate and not

worry about the details?” In Michael's Finding Your Soul Mate, he says:

“Instead of working from structure or specifics that are known in the Electric Universe, you simply center yourself within the God of your being in the Magnetic Universe and call forth your exact equal, someone who is at the same moment what you are in consciousness, except that you want someone of the opposite sex. That person will reflect everything you are. He or she will perfectly mirror all your great strengths or weaknesses and your godly virtues...As you love and appreciate those mirrored qualities in yourself, you are able to love and appreciate them more in others. And when you see a weakness through a soul mate reflection of that weakness, you are finally in a position to acknowledge it and become strong in that area instead. If you are ignorant, meaning you are unaware of any limitations or faults, there is no possibility of re-form. I completely disagree with the concept that ignorance is bliss.”


What Michael's trying to say is

that your highest and best

relationship can not be with

someone who is your “twin,”

energy-wise. Relationships are

about two people complimenting

each other, not mimicking each

other. The reason it is important

to not be complacent and actually figure out the traits of your ideal mate is also

because if you aren't specific with your intentions, the universe will just give you

“whatever.”

For example, when I personally started doing these steps, I attracted a woman

with children into my life. I had not specified in my Script that I wanted someone

who did not already have children. If something like this should happen for you,

simply modify your Script and forge ahead.

Ch. 6 Ch. 6 Ch. 6 Ch. 6 ---- Step 5: Using Affirmations Step 5: Using Affirmations Step 5: Using Affirmations Step 5: Using Affirmations

Most people are familiar with affirmations. They are used around the world in all

different arenas from business to athletics to times of disease and despair.

Another way to think of affirmations is as a way of

praying.

Affirmations are statements people make consciously

to help bring about a change they want in their lives.

An affirmation might be someone getting on the back

of a horse for the first time saying out loud, “I can do

this. I know I can do this.” Affirmations are most


“You did not come into “You did not come into “You did not come into “You did not come into this environment to this environment to this environment to this environment to

create through action. create through action. create through action. create through action. Instead, your action is Instead, your action is Instead, your action is Instead, your action is meant to be a way in meant to be a way in meant to be a way in meant to be a way in which you enjoy wwhich you enjoy wwhich you enjoy wwhich you enjoy what hat hat hat you have created you have created you have created you have created through thought.”through thought.”through thought.”through thought.”

---- Abraham Abraham Abraham Abraham

effective when in the present tense

using “I am” statements.

It is easy to see how affirmations

are powerful tools when you

understand the law of attraction.

Because the law of attraction brings

back to us what we send out to the

universe, and 98% of what we send

out is done subconsciously,

affirmations are a way to take

control of the thoughts and

vibrations we put out there.

However, you must be careful with

how you phrase any affirmations you

make. For example, many

affirmation neophytes make statements like, “I need $10,000,” or “I want to fall in

love.” True to form, these affirmations will bring exactly what you ask them to.

The first one will bring about more need for money, while the second one will

bring about more desire to fall in love.

This passage from Conversations With God provides insights on the correct use

of affirmations:

“Affirmations do not work if they are merely statements of what you want to be true. Affirmations work only when they are statements of something you already know to be true. The best so-called affirmation is a statement of gratitude and appreciation. 'Thank you, God, for bringing me success in my life.' Now, that idea, thought, spoken, and acted upon, produces wonderful results…when it comes from true knowing; not from an attempt to produce results, but from an awareness that results have already been produced.”


"Tomorrow "Tomorrow "Tomorrow "Tomorrow isn't a isn't a isn't a isn't a

promise, it's promise, it's promise, it's promise, it's a chance."a chance."a chance."a chance." ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

Therefore, the correct phrasing for the two

affirmations mentioned earlier would be:

� Thank you for bringing $10,000 into my life.

� I am so happy and grateful now that I have

$10,000.

� I am so happy and grateful now that $10,000

is coming to me now.

� I am so happy and grateful now that I am

receiving all of the good that I desire.

or

� Thank you for bringing my highest and best relationship to me.

� I am so happy and grateful now with my highest and best relationship.

� I am so happy and grateful now that my highest and best relationship is

coming to me.

� I am so happy and grateful now all things lead to me finding my most

loving and compatible relationship.

When you first start doing affirmations, your mind can

sometimes play tricks on you. You’ll state the

affirmation, and your conscious mind will say, “Ha! Yea,

right. That’s not true.“ You should know, though, that if

you “lie” to yourself long enough, you will start to

believe it. If you still have difficulty saying an affirmation

that you can't bring yourself to “believe” in (“Thank you

for bringing my highest and best relationship to me”)

then say one that you can emotionalize and know to be

true (“I am so happy and grateful now that my highest


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come; never wait come; never wait come; never wait come; never wait for perfection for perfection for perfection for perfection just make it."just make it."just make it."just make it." ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

and best relationship is coming to me”).

Remember, your subconscious mind only knows

now. So, while your conscious mind may be

harder to convince, your affirmations are still

reaching your subconscious mind and doing

their job. Either way you look at it, you can

only win with affirmations!

Sometimes what holds people back from

believing their affirmations is anger. That's OK.

Lots of people have many, many good reasons

to feel angry. However, your anger can get in the way of you attracting your

highest and best relationship. When one feels upset, it blocks complete self-love,

which ultimately blocks you from attracting the highest and best of anything.

Anger will, in one way or another, get in the way of most any aspirations you

might have.

Most often, our anger is based 90% in the past (if not more) and just 10% on the

present circumstance. There are two reasons for this:

� We have not forgiven ourselves, another, or

the universe for a past incident.

� We are focusing on the past rather than

the present--probably because we haven't

truly let it go.

In A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, Eckhart Tolle provides this

insight:

"The most important, the primordial relationship in your life is your relationship with the Now, or rather with whatever form the Now


takes, that is to say, what is or what happens. If your relationship with the Now is dysfunctional, that dysfunction will be reflected in every relationship and every situation you encounter. The ego could be defined simply in this way: a dysfunctional relationship with the present moment. It is at this moment that you can decide what kind of relationship you want to have with the present moment.”

Once you have reached a certain level of consciousness, (and if you are reading this, you almost certainly have), you are able to decide what kind of a relationship you want to have with the present moment. Do I want the present moment to be my friend or my enemy? The present moment is inseparable from life, so you are really deciding what kind of a relationship you want to have with life.”

Not only can you find relief from anger by

focusing on the present moment, but you should

consciously forgive yourself, others, and the

universe for any “wrongdoings” in the past.

Remember that forgiveness is something you give

yourself, something you do for yourself. Think of

the word “for-give”...or giving for yourself. You do

not even need to talk to “wrong-doers” from the

past. Forgiveness is healing for you, and it really

has nothing to do with anyone or anything else.

Forgiveness also brings two additional benefits. The first one is that it helps us

correct our misperceptions of ourselves. This helps us know and genuinely love

who we are, which raises our vibrations and draws higher and better things to us.

The second benefit is that forgiveness expands our ability to love others.

Now that your subconscious mind has been readied for putting affirmations out to

the universe, the fun really begins. The world is your oyster! Some great

affirmations for attracting your highest and best relationship include:


"The hardest "The hardest "The hardest "The hardest part about part about part about part about moving moving moving moving

forward is not forward is not forward is not forward is not looking back!"looking back!"looking back!"looking back!" ----UnknownUnknownUnknownUnknown

� I deserve my highest and best relationship.

� I believe in love.

� Finding my highest and best relationship is

easy.

� I am loved.

� I am well.

� I am powerful and able to create whatever I

choose.

� I value and respect myself.

� I love myself.

� I acknowledge how beautiful I am.

� I am my own power source.

You can also make up your own affirmations. If there are any issues that you

know you have, create affirmations that meet your specific needs. For example, a

friend of mine was divorced at age 25. She was also a huge fan of the show Sex

and the City. On a particular episode of Sex and the City, the characters

Charlotte and Carrie attend a relationship seminar in which affirmations were

recommended. Optimistic Charlotte took to the material and started using the

affirmation, “I believe in love.” My divorced friend recognized this immediately as

the exact affirmation she herself

needed. Whenever she found herself

thinking true relationship happiness

was a myth (which was often), she

repeated “I believe in love” 3-4 times

to herself. After a few weeks, she

noticed that she actually began to

believe that couples could live

happily ever after!


As you think about making your own affirmations, be

very careful about the language you choose.

Remember the subconscious mind reads information

and receives data differently than the conscious mind.

So, if you tell yourself, “Finding my ideal mate is a

trouble-free process,” then what your subconscious

brain picks up is, “Finding my ideal mate is trouble...”

Another example is if you used the affirmation,

“Trusting men gives me no hassle,” then what your

subconscious mind hears is, “Trusting...men...hassle...”

Always use positive words without negations (isn't, not, doesn't, etc.) The two most

powerful words to the universe and to your subconscious mind are “I am.” This

words can not be misunderstood, misconstrued, or back fire in any way (unless

misused!). The most potent affirmation you can use is any that begins with these

words, like, “I am happy with my highest and best relationship,” “I am loved,” or “I

am my own power source.” Also, instead of phrases like “trouble-free,” use “easy.”

Instead of phrases like “no hassle,” use “smooth.”

Ch. 7 Ch. 7 Ch. 7 Ch. 7 ---- Step 6: Visualization Step 6: Visualization Step 6: Visualization Step 6: Visualization

A friend of mine was a successful Track and Field athlete throughout her school

years. She broke numerous records and won many awards, including being a two-

time NCAA All-American. I once asked her how she accomplished all of this. She

said the secret to her success was visualization. As she got down into the starting

blocks before a race, she saw herself crossing the finishing line first. As she

prepared to start her High Jump approach, she ran through her entire approach

in her head and saw herself clearing the bar effortlessly and easily.


“You'll never “You'll never “You'll never “You'll never leave where leave where leave where leave where you are, until you are, until you are, until you are, until you decide you decide you decide you decide where you where you where you where you would rather would rather would rather would rather

be."be."be."be." ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

If you can't see what you want in your own head,

how can you expect it to materialize? As you

know already, all creation starts with our

subconscious thinking. Visualization is simply the

visual equivalent of an affirmation. The two rely

on the same concepts and principles to bring

about what you want in life. Visualizations, like

affirmations, help to convince our powerful

subconscious minds that what we dream of is real.

Visualizations give those dreams tactile qualities

and make them palpable.

Furthermore, visualizing encourages people to

figure out some of the details they may have

missed in the affirmations, Script, or Desire Statement they created. Visualizing is

where all of the pieces of the puzzle come together. It's your “test drive” so to

speak. For example, for myself, I visualized being at the altar at the church

looking into my bride's beautiful, loving face. I imagined how strong my love would

feel towards her, the pure joy I'd feel as I said my vows and slipped her ring on

her finger, and all of these emotions mirrored back at me on her face. Now I’m in

that wonderful relationship.

Have you ever noticed that what you

see on TV or read right before bed

will frequently turn up in your dreams?

The subconscious mind is most

impressionable and receptive right

before bed. This is because our

conscious minds are about to shut

down, and the subconscious is about


“All matter originates “All matter originates “All matter originates “All matter originates and exists only by virtue and exists only by virtue and exists only by virtue and exists only by virtue of a force… We must of a force… We must of a force… We must of a force… We must

assume behind this force assume behind this force assume behind this force assume behind this force the existence of a the existence of a the existence of a the existence of a

conscious and iconscious and iconscious and iconscious and intelligent ntelligent ntelligent ntelligent Mind. This Mind is the Mind. This Mind is the Mind. This Mind is the Mind. This Mind is the matrix of all matter.”matrix of all matter.”matrix of all matter.”matrix of all matter.” ---- Max Planck, Nobel Max Planck, Nobel Max Planck, Nobel Max Planck, Nobel

PrizePrizePrizePrize----winning Father of winning Father of winning Father of winning Father of Quantum TheoryQuantum TheoryQuantum TheoryQuantum Theory

to take over. We can sort of

“program” or leave an impression

on our subconscious minds by

feeding it what we want it to focus

on right before sleeping. This is

the time I recommend you do

your visualizing, affirmations, or

out loud reading.

The more often you visualize and

say affirmations, the quicker your

dreams will materialize. I

recommend, in addition to giving

special attention to night-time

visualizations, that you also

visualize your highest and best

relationship at least two other

times during the day. Like your

first-person, “I am” affirmations, do your visualizations the same way (in the first

person)—as if the activity is happening through your own eyes, not from outside

of you like a movie. The key is to feel the visualization in the here and now.

Emotionalize it as you think of it, giving it power and a stronger vibration.

Remember, you are rewarded with results in your life via what you practice in

private.

In addition to this type of eyes-closed visualizing, you should also create a Vision

Board. In the 2008 Beijing Summer Olympics, US gymnast Raj Bhavsar used

this tactic to help him make the Olympic team. Bhavsar just barely missed

qualifying for the team in 2004, and he set out to do everything in his power to

make it happen for the 2008 Olympics. Just when Bhavsar thought he was


“Napoleon Hill said, “Napoleon Hill said, “Napoleon Hill said, “Napoleon Hill said, ‘There is a ‘There is a ‘There is a ‘There is a

difference between difference between difference between difference between wishing for a thing wishing for a thing wishing for a thing wishing for a thing and being ready to and being ready to and being ready to and being ready to receive it.’ No one is receive it.’ No one is receive it.’ No one is receive it.’ No one is ready for a thready for a thready for a thready for a thing ing ing ing until they believe until they believe until they believe until they believe they can acquire it. they can acquire it. they can acquire it. they can acquire it. Before anything Before anything Before anything Before anything can come to us, we can come to us, we can come to us, we can come to us, we have to envision it have to envision it have to envision it have to envision it and believe that it is and believe that it is and believe that it is and believe that it is

ours.”ours.”ours.”ours.” ---- Darren Meade Darren Meade Darren Meade Darren Meade

going to face the same fate as he had

in 2004, another gymnast was removed

from the team just a few days before

the games, and Bhavsar assumed his

position. “As soon as I heard the words,

my immediate reaction was, 'Oh my

God, it paid off.' Sometimes we never

know if all of our struggles, and all of

our blood, sweat, and tears is going to

pay off,” said Bhavsar.

One of the things Bhavsar did to

achieve this goal was to make a Vision

Board on the wall over his bed.

NBCOlympics.Com reported that,

“Bhavsar spent two years in what he

called personal turmoil, reading every

self-help book and 'turning over every

stone' to find a way to put his

disappointment in perspective. He says

that Jack Canfield's The Success

Principles is the book he lives by...” And

what is Chapter 11 of Jack Canfield's

book called? “See What You Want, Get

What You See.” That's what you'll do too—make a Vision Board so you can see

what you want then get it!

Raj Bhavsar's Vision Board that hung over his bed where he could see it and be

reminded of it constantly read like this:


“Your mind is a “Your mind is a “Your mind is a “Your mind is a powerful magnet powerful magnet powerful magnet powerful magnet that will attract to that will attract to that will attract to that will attract to you the things you you the things you you the things you you the things you identify yourself identify yourself identify yourself identify yourself with. If you have with. If you have with. If you have with. If you have sad thoughts, you sad thoughts, you sad thoughts, you sad thoughts, you

wiwiwiwill attract ll attract ll attract ll attract tragedies.”tragedies.”tragedies.”tragedies.” ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

� “2008 US Olympic Trials Is A Great

and Successful Competition for Raj

Bhavsar” with pictures of Bhavsar

competing and winning. This posting was

done up like a newspaper article that

Bhavsar might've seen after making the

Olympic team.

� “Hit 12 for 12 Routines at Olympic

Trials. 100% Hit Rate. Solid. I HAVE THE

TALENT. I TRUST ALL MY HARD

WORK. I AM AN OLYMPIC MEDALIST.”

� A meditating picture that read, “My

order for the Universe...” This picture was

connected by strings to numerous

encircling images (Olympic logo, his

sponsor's logo, a picture of him raising

his arms over his head in victory, etc).

� A cluster of Olympic trials graphics, reading, “YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

BELIEVE,” with these specific goals written: 1. Hit 12 for 12. 2. Win All-Around.

3. Top 3 on 3 events. 4. Score 181.00. 5. Have fun.

As you probably know, Raj Bhavsar not only made the

Olympic team, but he won an Olympic medal—and

accomplished his highest vision for himself. He said,

“Rather than feeling like a victim, I became the driver

of the chariot.”

Bhavsar's story provides the perfect example of how to

use a Vision Board, what to put on it, how to word

things and use appropriate photo imagery, and where to


"The more "The more "The more "The more you fight you fight you fight you fight waiting, the waiting, the waiting, the waiting, the more waiting more waiting more waiting more waiting you will have you will have you will have you will have to fight."to fight."to fight."to fight."


put it. As Bhavsar demonstrates for you, you must

concentrate on what you want everyday. Your Vision

Board should contain pictures of what you visualize

about and written copies of affirmations you use, as

well as any other relevant visual material. If you

don't want to use any pictures with ex-girlfriends or

boyfriends, print out some of the pictures in this

ebook. You can also use pictures where you are in

a happy couple with your X cut out and replaced

with a picture from a magazine.

Ch. 8 Ch. 8 Ch. 8 Ch. 8 ---- Step 7: T Step 7: T Step 7: T Step 7: Take Action & Let Goake Action & Let Goake Action & Let Goake Action & Let Go

This is the part of the process of attracting your highest and best relationship

that involves having faith. And, in this case, faith has two parts: living the life you

want and letting the universe take care of the rest. Or you can think of it like this:

fake it 'til you make it and knowing that a watched pot never boils. Let me

explain.

People create on three levels: thought, word, and

deed. Thought is the lowest level of creation,

while deed (or action) is the highest level. For

example, let's say I want to become more

generous. I would begin by thinking of myself as

a more giving and generous person. I would then

tell someone (myself or another) that I'm

generous. And, then for the real magic, I would

do something that demonstrated generosity like

giving money to a homeless person or


“All speech, action, “All speech, action, “All speech, action, “All speech, action, and behavior are and behavior are and behavior are and behavior are fluctuations of fluctuations of fluctuations of fluctuations of

consciousness. All consciousness. All consciousness. All consciousness. All life emerges from, life emerges from, life emerges from, life emerges from, and is sustained in, and is sustained in, and is sustained in, and is sustained in, consciousness. consciousness. consciousness. consciousness. The The The The whole universe is the whole universe is the whole universe is the whole universe is the

expression of expression of expression of expression of consciousness. The consciousness. The consciousness. The consciousness. The

reality of the reality of the reality of the reality of the universe is one universe is one universe is one universe is one

unbounded ocean of unbounded ocean of unbounded ocean of unbounded ocean of consciousness in consciousness in consciousness in consciousness in

motion.”motion.”motion.”motion.” ---- Maharishi Mahesh Maharishi Mahesh Maharishi Mahesh Maharishi Mahesh

volunteering.

So, for example, if I want to become more lovable (i.e. attracting my highest and

best relationship), I might choose to do activities, say things, and think things

demonstrating how loving I am...maybe this means spoiling myself with a

massage, babysitting my niece and

feeling my love in caring for her, buying

a dog and taking care of it, or not

saying self-denigrating comments any

more.

Another way to think about it is by

asking yourself what would you be like

or act like if you were in your highest

and best relationship. Would you be

smiling right now? Would you be

looking forward to what the day holds?

Would you have plans on Friday night?

Would you be sitting at home waiting

for the phone to ring? Would you be

lounging around in bed until noon?

Remember, you attract like energy. So,

unless you act, think, and talk the way

you would in your ideal relationship, you

simply won't draw it to you.

If you find it too awkward to live the life

you want, you have another option: fake

it ‘til you make it. As was mentioned in

the Affirmations chapter, if you “lie” to


yourself long enough, you will start to believe it. The same thing is true with

actions. If you don't have anything to do on Friday night, go out alone to a movie,

to a park, to the mall, anything. If you can't look forward to what the day holds,

tell yourself and others how much you're looking forward to the weekend or that

day off. Schedule a manicure or drop by the batting cages...schedule something

you will look forward to. If you don't feel like smiling, take a deep breath, tell

yourself, “I am happy,” and smile anyway...for no reason, right now even.

A few other tips for acting out or living your

highest and best are to follow your passion,

your enthusiasm. Do things you enjoy—like

writing, building something, reading, playing an

instrument, cooking, exercising, or doing a

certain hobby. Enthusiasm is a special feeling

that will start showing up everyday once you

retrain your mind. So, when we surround

ourselves with passionate and enthusiastic

energy, it instantly raises our vibration from

“whatever” to “happy.” This is the space you

want to be in to attract that ideal mate. Fall in love with your dream everyday, as

if it were your first taste of love.

Another tip is to focus on your goal everyday. If you can be passionate or

enthusiastic about nothing else, at least be passionate about your dream.

Focusing on your vision of your ideal relationship should be uplifting and

exhilarating. If it feels like a chore, then your approach is off somewhere. Retrace

your steps...do you have unresolved anger? Do you have worthiness issues?

Thinking of the joy your highest and best relationship holds should always be

enough to put a hopeful, knowing smile on your face and raise your vibration.


“You never lose by “You never lose by “You never lose by “You never lose by loving. You always loving. You always loving. You always loving. You always lose by holding lose by holding lose by holding lose by holding

back.”back.”back.”back.” ---- Unknown Unknown Unknown Unknown

Just like surrounding yourself with passion and

enthusiasm, you also need to listen to your gut

feelings, your inclinations. Gut feelings, like passion

and enthusiasm, are the universe's way of pointing

you in the right direction, which is truly divine. So, if

your gut feeling or inclination is to join Match.Com or

eHarmony, then do it. If your gut tells you to go talk

to that girl or to lock eyes with that guy, then go for

it. As your vibration raises and the universe attempts

to bring forth what you've called for, these gut

feelings and inclinations will be stronger if you listen

to them. The universe will lead you where you want to be, if you let it. Take

action when action is necessary.

It is important to understand the difference between being a “dreamer” and an

“achiever.” A dreamer is someone who allows themselves to be carried away by a

dream, to escape into their visions. An achiever focuses on their dreams just as

much as a dreamer does, but an achiever takes action to accomplish their

dreams. An achiever knows that their dreams are reachable and possible.

To attract your highest and best

relationship, you must be an achiever.

An achiever doesn't give up. An achiever

never quits. An achiever stays driven and

focused, determined and faithful,

dedicated and optimistic.

The second part of this chapter (“Take

Action and Let Go”) was described

above as letting the universe take care


“Your lover “Your lover “Your lover “Your lover should not should not should not should not

complete you, but complete you, but complete you, but complete you, but compliment you.”compliment you.”compliment you.”compliment you.”


of the details and knowing that a watched pot never boils. Letting go is where all

the magic happens. When you let go, you are OK getting what you want, and you

are OK not getting it. You know you don't need any material thing in life to

complete you. Letting go doesn't mean you do nothing, but instead you act on

your impulses and engage opportunities. By doing so, you will be brought what

you want.

In other words, letting go is like placing your

order at a restaurant and sitting patiently at your

table, enjoying life and the ambiance as you wait,

knowing that the exact meal you chose—the

perfect meal for you—is on its way to you. There

is no need to peek in the kitchen, ask the waiter,

or get up and leave after you've waited for 10

minutes. You simply let go (i.e. relax, knowing

everything is in perfect order).

While your order at a restaurant is expected to take 5-15 minutes depending on

the situation. The ideal relationship order that you've placed with the universe will

probably take a minimum of 60-90 days to materialize: however, it can also

happen instantaneously. There is an

incubation period for everything in the

universe to manifest. If you were pregnant

and your baby hadn’t materialized after a

few weeks, you wouldn’t be stomping around

wondering where your baby was. “Checking

up” on your order with the universe only

pushes it further away from you because it’s

saying you’re not happy with now. Have true

faith that the universe always knows the


right time. Your job during the gestation

period is simply to follow the steps set forth

in this ebook. Doing so will bring you

dramatic results almost instantaneously. You

will continue to notice big changes during

the gestation period.

If you decide to take an additional break to

heal from a past relationship as I did (or for

some other reason), the universe will still be

responding to affirmations, visualizations,

and positive thinking, but it may be less

dramatic than it was during the original

gestation period. Don't lose hope or think

that the process has stopped working—don't worry, nothing is wrong. You've

simply adjusted to the changes and internalized them, or climatized to them, if

you will.

On one final note, I provide to you this pearl. A truly loving relationship requires

maturity and generosity. These qualities, both on the giving and receiving end, will

make us better—together or alone. We will continue to expand our ability to love

by practicing generosity and by forgiving those who hurt us. You simply can't be

jaded and expect to find love...your heart must be open.

I leave you with this passage from Finding Your Soul Mate:

“What you give of yourself or of your substance you never lose! While what you hold tightly to yourself, time will inevitably take sorrowfully away from you. In that light then, a gift of a much needed, or simply appreciated smile, a nod of greeting, a pat on the back, a word of encouragement, or physical 'things' like food, shelter, or a glorious bouquet of flowers when given with unconditional love, expecting nothing in return, is a truly loving gift,


because your living essence is in it! It blesses, uplifts and balances all concerned. “Not only is it wonderfully divine to 'gift' this truly pure and unconditional love to others, but you must also learn to 'gift it' freely to yourself. The same immutable law applies here. You always get what you give! When you gift yourself with love it means that you now have overflow love to re-give to others. Self-love comes from self-respect. Give honor, respect and acts of high character to others and you immediately begin to find and love these divine qualities in yourself. Once these qualities are your major style of expression, you will automatically gift others with these grand essences simply through your brightly lighted presence with them.”

Ch. 9 Ch. 9 Ch. 9 Ch. 9 ---- Recomme Recomme Recomme Recommended Reading & Trainingnded Reading & Trainingnded Reading & Trainingnded Reading & Training

If you want to work directly with me in creating your highest and best

relationship, you can contact me at http://avosscoaching.com/ or e-mail me at

[email protected] and/or call me at 602-904-3366.

The coaching programs I offer include:


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2. Your Personal Life Coach

3. Think and Grow Rich Program

4. Creative Visualizations

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Foundation For Success Foundation For Success Foundation For Success Foundation For Success

� Learn to calm the ego, fears, doubts and

worries

� See problems more clearly and find

peaceful resolutions

� Develop communication skills

� Straighten faith and trust in yourself

Powerful Life Transitions Powerful Life Transitions Powerful Life Transitions Powerful Life Transitions

� Make the most out of a life transition (career, relationship, health, spiritual)

� Learn the lessons that you can move on and not have to repeat the same

situations over and over

� Face each challenge as an opportunity

� Open to greater possibilities for your life


I also offer free 30 minute consultations. Are you…

� Lacking focus, direction or purpose?

� Struggling with ineffective thinking and actions?

� Feeling un-inspired or depleted of motivation?

� Feeling overwhelmed?

� Settling for less that your potential?

� Paralyzed by doubt or fear?

Find Out How You Can:

� Create a clear direction for your life

� Stop repeating the thinking and behavior patterns that limit your success

� Create a healthy, balanced life with true inner peace

� Improve self-confidence and self-esteem

� Communicate effectively and compassionately for better relationships

� Empower your life and create an extraordinary life for yourself

For additional reading on the topics in this ebook, look into these books:

� Conversations With God, Neale Donald Walsch

� Finding Your Soul Mate, Michael

� He's Just Not That Into You, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

� Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to

Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship, John Gray

� Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray

� A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, Eckhart Tolle


� The Secret, Rhonda Byrne

� The Success Principles, Jack Canfield

� What The Bleep Do We Know? (video and book), William Arntz, Betsey

Chasse, and Mark Vicente (directors)

� Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl—A Woman's Guide to

Holding Her Own in a Relationships , Sherry Argov

� Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart,

Sherry Argov


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