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7/11/2014 5 Questions to Ask Before Posting To Social Media | RELEVANT Magazine
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Some guidelines for thinking before you post.
was a freshman in college when Facebook came out and I distinctly
remember thinking, why would I need this? I have AOL Instant
Messenger and MySpace!
Well, times have changed. Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram (and
a slew of other sites Im not cool enough to know about) have simultaneously brought
us closer together and driven us further apart. With the exception of a few universally
offensive statements or pictures, its a rule-free zone where we can interact with
society while accepting minimal personal responsibility for the implications of what
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BY CARA JOYNER
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WHEN WE VIEW SOCIAL MEDIA FROM A LENS OFDISCONTENTMENT, WHATEVER WE FIND WILL BE COLORED WITHBITTERNESS AND UNGRATEFULNESS.
we do.
In absence of guidelines for healthy and polite social media etiquette, we are left to
determine our own boundaries for navigating the seemingly endless opportunities
available to us.
Before we snap one more picture of our hot chocolate topped with a foam leaf, perhaps
we would benefit from a brief pausean extra 30 seconds to ask five simple questions
might suggest its time to unplug, or at least reconsider when and how we use social
media:
1. Am I seeking approval?If youve taken an introductory psychology class, youve probably heard of B.F. Skinner
and operant conditioning. Skinner suggested that we learn behaviors through
reinforcement.
When I seek validation through something I post and that little red flag starts popping
up to notify me of each person giving me attention, its an addictive reward. And it
works. I feel better, so I keep coming back for more. The next time I need to feel
approval, Ill return to the source that poured it out last time, and the cycle of
reinforcement continues.
What are the bigger needs asking to be met here? Maybe its a desire for community.
Perhaps it stems from unresolved conflict with someone I love. Or maybe I just thrive
on pleasing people and hearing their praise. If your interaction with the internet is
driven by a need for approval, consider healthier ways to address this issue and
choose to stop reinforcing the unhealthy ones.
2. Am I boasting?Theres sharing excitement and then theres bragging. Truthfully, we each know
which camp we fall in.
When the Apostle Paul described what it meant to love others, he specifically
mentioned that love does not boast. That post isnt just a picture or just a tweet,
its an opportunity to love others in a way that reflects Jesus. Or its an opportunity to
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show them something quite different, something that looks nothing like Christ.
Examine your motivations and walk away before using social media as the adult
version of show-and-tell.
3. Am I discontent?Are you looking for something better? If so, walk away. Nothing you will read, write
or see is going to solve this one.
Instead, ask yourself why you are discontent and address those needs. When we view
social media from a lens of discontentment, whatever we find will be colored with
bitterness and ungratefulness. Their lives will begin to look brighter than ours, while
our lives will take on a sense of lacking.
Let us not forgettheir world is as ordinary as ours and our life is as exciting as
theirs. Do you believe that in your core? If not, take a break. Deactivate your account
for a couple months. Create space to reevaluate and look for answers in the places
youll actually find them. Stop asking the virtual world to solve dissatisfaction with
the physical one.
4. Is this a moment to protect?When my son crawls into my lap, he doesnt want me to take his picture and shoot it
across Facebook. He doesnt care who else thinks I have a cute kid. He just wants me
to hold him and see him. To feel his soft, chunky arms and to focus on the way his
eyelashes move when he blinks.
When we interrupt lunch with a friend in order to quote her on Twitter, we invite
hundreds of people into a conversation that could have been sacred; and we miss the
sweet memories that may have formed had her words remained simply between the
two of us.
Not every great moment needs to be shared. In fact, some of the best times are most
enjoyed privately. If we suspend the present in an attempt to capture its beauty in
140 characters or less, we sacrifice our experience of the moment itself. We also rob
each other of something that has been lost in our digital agekeeping a handful of
memories between us and those we are closest to, or even just between us and God.
5. Is it kind?Lets return to Paul and his call to love. Love is patient. Love is kind.
Our culture tells us its our right to comment on everything, regardless of whether it
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WE HAVE BEEN GIVEN COVERED SPACE FROM WHICH TO THROWGRENADES, WITHOUT REQUIRING US TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FORTHE WEIGHT OF OUR WORDS.
was addressed to us and without consideration for how it might affect others.
Weve replaced face-to-face confrontation with sharp comments and mocking memes.
We write demeaning tweets addressed to celebrities or openly criticize individuals we
have never met, hiding behind the convenience that they cannot directly defend
themselves and nobody is putting our personal lives on display for public criticism.
We have been given covered space from which to throw grenades, without requiring
us to take responsibility for the weight of our words, their effect on other people and
their reflection on the Church. Jesus said the world would recognize us by our love.
What messages are we sending?
A Better WaySocial Media seems to be built around the idea that it can infiltrate nearly every part
of our lives. And if we let it, thats exactly what will happen. We are the ones who say
when its reach becomes unhealthy.
As children, our parents laid out rules for our protection and as adults we took on the
task of caring for our own well being and personal growth. Its our job to set
boundaries and ask tough questions, tending to the bigger picture of our
relationships and the way our actions reflect Christs love for this world.
Its worth noting that these are questions we ask of ourselves, not criteria for
interpreting and evaluating others. We cannot know their hearts anymore than they
can know ours.
Let us pause and give ourselves an honest moment to reflectbringing discernment,
love and wisdom to each picture and word we share.
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