1. 2 Self and communication 3 Who am I? An exercise: “Who am I?” ■ Ask yourself this question. ■ Answer on a piece of paper. ■ Write as much as possible

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Self and communication

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Who am I?

An exercise: “Who am I?”■Ask yourself this question.

■Answer on a piece of paper.

■Write as much as possible

■Share with the class ( as much as possible)

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“Who am I?”

■ We are a complex person.

■ Difficult to answer accurately or completely.

■ Our life begins and we started to learn who we are, through our interactions with the people around us.

■ Most of us has a constant image of ourselves.

■ The image of ourselves also varies with different situation.

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What is your self-concept?

How has communication affected your self-concept?

Who am I?

Also how does your self-concept affect communication?


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Understanding ourselves

■ Self-concept: perceived self, consists of an organized collection of beliefs and attitudes about self

■ Self-image: mental picture of self

■ Self-esteem: feelings and attitudes toward self

Understanding self-concept

■ Our self concept or self identity is our perceived self, which consists of an organised collection of beliefs and attitudes about self.

■ Who we perceive ourselves to be is determined by our experiences and communication with others.

■ This include the roles and values we have selected for ourselves, and how we believe others see us.

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Understanding self concept

■ Self concept consists of 2 subcomponents, closely related:

1. Self image

The mental picture of self

2. Self-esteem

Our feelings and attitudes towards ourselves including our evaluation of ourselves

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Our interactions

■ How others treat us affect how we view ourselves.

■ Also we can “hide” some parts of ourselves or features to prevent rejection.

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Self-concept as a process

■ Communication is a dynamic process and so is our self-concept.

■ Self perception and the perception of others have of us differ from time to time, from situation to situation and from person to person

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Self-concept is complex because….

■ Self concept is affected by:– How we perceive ourselves– How we perceive others– How others perceive us– How we think others perceive

■ Influenced by our values, attitudes and beliefs etc {culture and gender}

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Development of Self-Concept

■ Sensory awareness

■ Parental feedback

■ Others’ communication


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Development of Self-Concept

■ Values – general, relatively long-lasting ideals that guide our behavior

■ Attitudes – evaluative dispositions, feelings about self, others, ideas, events

■ Beliefs – convictions or confidence in the truth of something

Kinch Model : Self-concept and Communication

Perception of others’

responses(P)

Self-concept (S)

Behaviour (B)

Actual responses of

others (A)

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Self-concept and communication

■ The perception we believe others have on us affect our communication.

■ Our view of ourselves influences how we communicate with others.

■ Communication and self concept are inseparable and both involve process.

■ Consider the personal-social identity continuum

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What is the personal-social identity continuum?

Individual Social

Intrapersonal communication

■ Communication with oneself is the basis of all other communication experiences.

■ We “create” our own “movie of life”

■ Thoughts and words are the tools of creation of our “movie of life”.

■ “Labels” about life comes from inside us.

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Self-sabotage or self-fulfillment

■ “You are what you think”; thoughts are the seeds of actions.

■ The true sabotage lies within communication with oneself, in thoughts and in words

■ Intra personal communication is the communication you have with yourself about yourself and others.

(Perkins, page 2-3)

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Dive into your life: How clean is your lake ?

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(Perkins, 2008, page 6)

Self-fulfilling prophecy and impression management

■ Self-fulfilling prophecy: expectations that help to create the conditions that lead us to act in predictable ways

■ Impression management: creating a positive self-image in order to influence the perceptions of others

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Impression Management

■ The way people perceive us strongly influence their behaviour toward us and thus influence communication.

■ The desire to “look good” to others at first meeting is very strong.

■ The creation of positive image of oneself to influence others is referred to as impression management ( self-presentation)

■ Facework: ways we act to maintain our own presenting image and the images of others

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Understanding the self and others

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Culture, gender and self-concept

■ Does culture and gender influence our self-concept?

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Culture and Self-Concept

■ Individualistic orientation: tendency to stress personal goals and achievements over group goals and achievements

■ Collectivistic orientation: group goals over individual goals

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Can we enhance self-concept?

References:

■ Seiler, W. J and Beall, M. L ( 2008). Communication. Making Connections ( 7th ed). Boston: Pearson

■ Perkins,P. S ( 2008). The Art and Science of Communication. Tools for Effective Communication in the Work Place. New Jersey: Wiley.

■ Hybels, S., and Weaver II, R. L ( 2004). Communcating Effectively ( 7th ed). Boston: Mc Graw Hill

■ Verdeber, R. F. and Verderber, K.S ( 2005).Communicate( 11th ed). CA: Thomson/Wadsworth

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1. 2 Self and communication 3 Who am I? An exercise: “Who am I?” ■ Ask yourself this question. ■ Answer on a piece of paper. ■ Write as much as possible