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family agreement

www.onwardtransitions.com

Onward Transitions guides and supports bright, motivated, emerging adults towards sustainable independent living and the formation of meaningful reciprocal relationships

through engagement with our greater community.

http://www.onwardtransitions.com/


Congratulations on your hard work and your commitment to the process of learning to live independently. We’re excited to have you join us and look forward to working with you and your family on goals that we will establish together as you work towards autonomy and independent living. We're eager to learn more about you, hear your insights into what you have learned from the past and talk about what you know you need to be successful moving forward. This Family Agreement is the plan we will refer back to time and time again so that you know where you stand with your family and with your personal commitments. We use it as a road map to help you build your life while in Portland. Before getting into the details it sometimes is helpful to review the bigger goals. The biggest goal that our members seek is independence. Research on Developmental Relationships from Search Institute and our own experience has proven that by practicing the following traits young adults reach their goals. Each of the following subjects will be rotating themes for our weekly group therapy sessions. Autonomy to Identity Members successfully inherit an increasing amount of responsibility for the planning and management of their lives and strengthen their sense of capability and identity. Determination to Resilience Members delve into and manage the challenges and pressures of the adult world while building healthy coping strategies to thrive and succeed in future trying situations. Organization to Responsibility Members strengthen their ability to structure and follow-through with attending to their major needs and finer details Reflection to Stability Members practice the ability to observe themselves and think about how in turn, others observe them as a means of maintaining intra and interpersonal stability. Balance to Harmony Members practice balance between work and recreation and achieve greater harmony in their lives. Planning to Momentum Members conceptualize long and short-term plans for themselves to help build greater momentum in moving forward with the various aspects of their lives. Connection to Belonging Members build on social practices to strengthen their familial, peer, professional and community connections to foster an enhanced sense of belonging to various “tribes” in their world.

Welcome to Onward Transitions in Portland, Maine.



Onward Transitions works with you and your family to set up an agreement about the type of experience you are looking to have in Portland. Together we will talk about and write down some expectations and responsibilities that we will all share. We will draw from four key objectives (education, work, service, and personal development to help you craft the life you are looking to lead now and in the future. Personal Development is divided into the following categories: Nutrition/cooking Finances Health and wellness-nesting,interpersonal counseling/coaching/mentoring Support groups, clubs, and social groups Other personal responsibilities The following pages will break down each of these objectives into tasks that are measured by the amount of independence you are demonstrating. It does this by looking at a spectrum of dependence-interdependence-independence. Not all of these tasks are meant to necessarily be managed independently, especially in the beginning of your move to Portland. The hope is that, over time, you will address the majority of these tasks more towards the interdependence-independence side of the spectrum. Please do not be overwhelmed by the amount of information on these pages. Some of the tasks may be obvious and you may already be doing them. You, your family and your therapist will discuss each task and alter it so that it is more focused on your needs and particular place in life. Again, it is a road map for achieving your individual goals and we will look at it frequently during your time working with us at Onward Transitions. You will need to add, subtract, modify and maybe pass over some items that you see here. Think of it as a comprehensive worksheet for you to help put together your plan before and after your move to Portland.

We look at performance of tasks across a spectrum

of dependence-interdependence-independence.

How it works



Select a type of study to pursue: college, edX online, tech training, continuing-ed, art, music, instrument, theater, metalwork, dance lessons, etc. Dependence Interdependence Independence Prepare a list of ideas and research Register for class Apply for financial aid, if applicable Order books, materials Make appointments Identify and make an appointment with an advisor Counseling/special services/tutor Figure out transportation/time needed to get to classes Build a schedule in your calendar-enter important dates Obtain syllabi Set phone alarms Track attendance to classes Identify motivating factors for attending classes Identify the consequences of not attending Keep a record of attendance Create a study space at home and outside the home Communicate with professors if late or missing Put email addresses in contacts Check all school emails daily Build a peer network/study group Grant coordinator access to the student portal Keep a record of grades FAMILY NOTES:

Education/Study



Building on your work history, experience, interests, aptitudes, and research, identify the type of work you are looking for and what you are actually qualified for. Dependence Interdependence Independence Research and do inventories on Chromebook-Holland, MAPP, and ONET Research entry-level jobs in the area- Google, Craig’s List, Indeed, Jobs in ME, Idealist, Linked In Connect entry-level jobs to career aspirations Design resume, cover letter and create job search email template Create an online professional profile Social Media Voicemail box Email address Google yourself with staff Do mock interviews as needed Discuss hygiene and attire for interview/dress Body Language Fidget Control Learn to follow up and know post-interview protocol email- write and save a template Address, and stamp an envelope for a hand-written note Learn on-the-job etiquette-personal phone use, texting, substance use, fragrances, jewelry, work ethic, attendance, timeliness, requests for time-off, following schedules, etc. Understand sexual harassment- watch video Manage your work schedule- put in calendar and share with staff Employee rights, minimum wage, benefits Learn how to transition from jobs Giving notice Securing a reference Having another job lined up before quitting a job Learn how to ask for references from a former employer Schedule a work visit with staff- you don't need to acknowledge us... FAMILY NOTES:

Work/Professional/Vocational



Connect to a passion, a mission, and a cause you believe in and commit to service to a local or greater community. Research volunteer and service opportunities with staff. To clarify, these are examples and suggestions, not requirements. Meet-ups have many opportunities! The Arts Political Social Causes Education Immigration Animal welfare Portland Trails Association LGBTQA Activism Hour Exchange Portland Church/Religious organizations Dependence Interdependence Independence Identify how your choice of service connects with personal goals Effective altruism Supporting a community important to you A resume boost or learning opportunity Make contact with top choices Call, email, send resume or meet the person Make appointments for interviews, orientation, Demonstrate commitment, attendance, initiative, professionalism Schedule an observation/experience with the staff FAMILY NOTES:

Service/Volunteer



Complete a health and wellness survey with Dawn and discuss allergies, preferences, medical issues, wellness history, sleep patterns, hygiene schedule and current level of physical activity. Dependence Interdependence Independence Discuss fitness plan and join Planet Fitness with staff Get a gym membership, yoga studio, circus, cross fit, personal trainer, etc. Discuss Hygiene Sleep Hygiene Avoid screens before bed Avoid caffeine before bed Establish a healthy routine Set system for waking up in AM if needed- phone, alarm clock, peer system Discuss a reason to get up in the AM Identify healthy stress reduction techniques- yoga, mindfulness, exercise... Medical Where to go in case of emergency If transferring, schedule doctor, 6-month dentist, specialist appointments Review and understand the benefits of health and dental insurance Set up an online insurance portal Medications- review and design system Develop a system for dispensing to be reviewed on apartment visits What meds and dosage, time of day What are the interactions, side effects Review the implications of substance use with the therapist Manage prescriptions- Number of pills left Number of refills left The phone number for refills Prescriptions transferred to the local pharmacy Money for copay NOTES:

Personal Development,

Responsibility and Growth

Health and Wellness



Dependence Interdependence Independence Schedule bi-weekly apartment visit with PH staff and get housewarming kit Develop a doorway system- keys, glasses, mail, trash day, shopping bag, grocery list, Trash/recycling- purchase containers and purple bags Parking- Snow bans, plowing- where to park- snow removal? Security and Maintenance- add contacts to phone Add your Landlord into contacts in your phone Extra keys and lock up system Review 911 procedure Identify emergency exit/fire escape Understand fire extinguisher Change batteries in smoke detector on Daylight Savings Manage a grease fire- baking soda in the fridge Turn off the water- washer, toilet, sink Plunge toilet Dryer lint trap Replace and change a lightbulb Lighting Snow removal, salt walkways Travel plan- built up mail Laundry system- lessons as needed in apt Organization and cleanliness Designate quiet clean space for study/reflection Prepare for weather emergencies Download the Weather app on your phone Pick up your storm kit from Pine House Prepare to have water on hand Check texts from school/work for cancellations Set up City of Portland text alerts for parking bans Learn how to end a lease and vacate an apartment Notify landlord one month prior Clean sufficiently for return of deposit Return keys for deposit FAMILY NOTES:

Nesting- establishing your own home



Dependence Interdependence Independence Set up Onward Transitions Google channel with a pseudonym for members and staff Communicate daily for meal and social event planning Respond regularly and in a timely manner to staff members Communicate regularly with parents Text frequency Call frequency Visit home Thank you notes- address and stamp envelope Siblings-establish system- FB, text, call, email Correspondence skill set Regular and special events Holidays, birthdays, deaths Discuss systems for communication for the following: Friends Extended family Acquaintances Co-workers Social media connections Professionals Check/respond to emails regularly Check/respond to voicemail regularly Internet etiquette and usage Roommate etiquette Dating etiquette and skill set Respect/responsibility Consent Social media Social situations, table manners, Overnight etiquette Empathy Conflict resolution Breakups FAMILY NOTES:

Interpersonal



Dependence Interdependence Independence Receive Arrival Survival Kit from Pine House Food safety and storage- complete online Serve Safe certificate Schedule food and appliance safety training with staff in your apartment Demonstrate the following in your own apartment and at Pine House: Turn on the stove, oven, and a timer. Load and run the dishwasher 1st lesson! Cook chicken to temp (with food thermometer) Discuss specific nutrition goals with Dawn Do an honest self-assessment of culinary skills Demonstrate how to read nutrition labels in ingredient lists Receive first NAB allowance of $30 Plan meal and shop with Dawn Participate in Pine House food labs with Dawn Assist with meal prep and clean up at Pine House Prepare for Sunday food plan/snacks/storm days with Dawn Attend nutritional counseling appointments with Dawn Appropriately manage caffeine and sugar intake Host meals at home for guests- discuss arrangements in advance “What can they bring?” Show awareness of allergies of guests Prepare an appropriate amount for the size of the group Clean up properly after the meal NOTES:

Nutrition and Cooking



Dependence Interdependence Independence Discuss financial planning goals with family and your therapist Decide on the family budget and weekly allowance Discuss what takes priority in the budget Utilities- Understand due dates and payment methods: Rent Renter’s Insurance Electric Phone Transportation- bus pass, travel Car/ insurance and maintenance Wifi/cable Heat Credit cards Groceries- Sundays, staples, and snacks Entertainment Health, beauty, personal care Monthly fitness fees Pet care Open joint or individual bank account Establish a budget spreadsheet with staff Establish a savings plan and share Demonstrate successful management of budget weekly with staff Participate in financial planning workshops at PH Set up an online bank account Bill system- lockbox- filing Filing taxes and tax forms Discuss a financial plan for the week, month and longer term NOTES:

Finances

No adult can be independent without mastering the art of financial balancing and budgeting.



Dependence Interdependence Independence Do transition work with prior treaters and Darrell prior to admission Develop an answer to “why are you in Portland?” Schedule, attend and participate in weekly sessions: Individual group family Budgeting and Finances Health/Wellness/Nutrition Career Exploration Experiential Learning Rock Climbing/tennis/Planet Fitness or other Study halls as scheduled Seek out and be receptive to guidance from PH staff Communicate regularly with pH staff and your designated daily contact Be on time for apartment visits Be on time for work visits

Counseling/Coaching

Success at the Onward Transitions (and life in general) depends upon relationships.

Support GroupsIdentify the type of support group Research availability, meeting times, feasibility Plan when/if to have OT staff attend with you Consider leadership role in group Articulate how this group helps fulfill goals Demonstrate participation

Clubs and Social GroupsIdentify the type of social group you are looking for Find social connections to these groups Articulate how they help fulfill goals and how benefit future Actively participate and communicate



Dependence Interdependence Independence Load OT contact information your phone Locate local pharmacy, walk-in clinic, hospital Locate the transportation stations- bus and train to Boston Cab/Uber/Lyft protocol Backup of all passwords, bills, accounts Civic/ Resident responsibilities Maine license Voter registration Car registration Post office- buy stamps Passport Identify church, synagogue, or spiritual connection, if appropriate Recreation Balancing work and recreation by budgeting Screen time management Demonstrate dependability and follow through in all appointments and commitments Self Advocacy Pet care Public Persona Personal Car - Spare key stored safely Insurance card in the car Review car accident report process Car maintenance- oil change, windshield fluid, Annual car inspection Regular tune-ups, tire rotations, maintenance Become familiar with the navigation of the city of Portland Winter driving kit- Winter driving lessons Identify designated parking for parking bans Learn how to pay a parking ticket- on time- online Discuss how to retrieve a car when towed Discuss enrolling AAA FAMILY NOTES:

Other Personal Responsibilities


Onward Transitions PO Box 738

Portland, ME 04104 207-203-1142


Tracy Bailey Co-Founder and Executive Director 207-712-1181 [email protected] Darrell Fraize, M.Ed, LCPC, LADC Co-founder and Chief Clinician 603-452-8225 [email protected] Andy Derstine, Clinical Director 207-588-1972 [email protected] Austin Mehlhorn Program Director 207-588-1965 [email protected] Office 207-203-1142 Company Fax number: 207-221-6283 The on-call number for the administrator on duty- not for critical emergencies- Members please call 911 207-588-1039 For medical emergencies call 911 Maine Medical Center 22 Bramhall St. Portland, ME 04101 207-662-0111 Brighton FirstCare 335 Brighton Ave. Portland, ME 04102 207-662-8111 Please do not mail any items to 594 Congress St. The mailbox is not secure. All packages should be mailed to the Pine House. Please address regular mail to Onward Transitions PO Box 738 Portland, ME 04104

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