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Gospel-Centered Gospel-Centered Parenting (Part 1)Parenting (Part 1)

Colossians 3:20-21 & Exodus 20:12Colossians 3:20-21 & Exodus 20:12

Gospel-Centered ParentingGospel-Centered Parenting• 20 20 Children, be obedient to Children, be obedient to

your parents in all things, for your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the this is well-pleasing to the Lord. Lord. 21 21 Fathers, do not Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart. that they will not lose heart. (Colossians 3:20-21)(Colossians 3:20-21)

God’s Blueprint for FamiliesGod’s Blueprint for Families1.1. WivesWives: graciously yield to your : graciously yield to your

husband’s leadership husband’s leadership (Eph. 5:22-24)(Eph. 5:22-24)

2.2. HusbandsHusbands: selflessly and sacrificially : selflessly and sacrificially love your wives love your wives (Eph. 5:25-33)(Eph. 5:25-33)

3.3. ChildrenChildren: honor your parents and obey : honor your parents and obey them with a good attitude them with a good attitude (Eph. 6:1-3)(Eph. 6:1-3)

4.4. ParentsParents: don’t provoke or exasperate : don’t provoke or exasperate your children; but nurture them in the your children; but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord discipline and instruction of the Lord (Eph. 6:4)(Eph. 6:4)

God’s Blueprint for ParentsGod’s Blueprint for Parents1.1. Model Jesus Christ to your children Model Jesus Christ to your children

(1 Cor. 11:1; Eph. 5:1; 1 Pet 1:16, 2:21)(1 Cor. 11:1; Eph. 5:1; 1 Pet 1:16, 2:21)

2.2. Teach them the Word of God Teach them the Word of God (Deut. 6; (Deut. 6; Proverbs)Proverbs)

3.3. Love and discipline your children Love and discipline your children (Titus 2; (Titus 2; Eph. 6:4)Eph. 6:4)

4.4. Train your children to honor and obey you Train your children to honor and obey you (Ex. 20:12; Eph. 6:1-3)(Ex. 20:12; Eph. 6:1-3)

5.5. Seek to lead them to faith in Jesus Christ Seek to lead them to faith in Jesus Christ for salvation for salvation (2 Tim. 3)(2 Tim. 3)

God’s Blueprint for ChildrenGod’s Blueprint for Children1.1. Honor your mother and father Honor your mother and father

(Ex. 20:12; Lev. 19:3)(Ex. 20:12; Lev. 19:3)

2.2. Obey your parentsObey your parents (Col. 3:20; Eph. 6:1-2)(Col. 3:20; Eph. 6:1-2)

• Foolishness is bound up in the Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of heart of a child; the rod of discipline will remove it far from discipline will remove it far from him. (Proverbs 22:15)him. (Proverbs 22:15)

The 5The 5thth Commandment Commandment • ““Honor your father and your Honor your father and your

mother, that your days may be mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the prolonged in the land which the LORD your God gives you.” LORD your God gives you.” (Exodus 20:12)(Exodus 20:12)

1. The Weighty Principle1. The Weighty Principle• You who fear the LORD, praise You who fear the LORD, praise

Him; all you descendants of Jacob, Him; all you descendants of Jacob, glorifyglorify [ [kaved, kaved, ] Him, and ] Him, and stand in awe of Him, all you stand in awe of Him, all you descendants of Israel. (Psalm descendants of Israel. (Psalm 22:23)22:23)

1. The Weighty Principle1. The Weighty Principle• ““Every one of you shall reverence Every one of you shall reverence

his mother and his father…I am the his mother and his father…I am the LORD your God.” (Leviticus 19:3)LORD your God.” (Leviticus 19:3)

• 1 1 Then the LORD spoke to Moses, Then the LORD spoke to Moses, saying: saying: 2 2 “Speak to all the congregation of “Speak to all the congregation of the sons of Israel and say to them, the sons of Israel and say to them, ‘You shall be holy, for ‘You shall be holy, for I the LORD your God am holy.’” I the LORD your God am holy.’” (Leviticus 19:1-2)(Leviticus 19:1-2)

1. The Weighty Principle1. The Weighty Principle• ““Honor your father and your Honor your father and your

mother, that your days may be mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the prolonged in the land which the LORD your God gives you.” LORD your God gives you.” (Exodus 20:12)(Exodus 20:12)

1. The Weighty Principle1. The Weighty Principle• 2020 My son, observe the My son, observe the

commandment of your father and commandment of your father and do not forsake the teaching of do not forsake the teaching of your mother… your mother… 2323 for the for the commandment is like a lamp, commandment is like a lamp, instruction is like a light, and instruction is like a light, and corrective discipline is the road corrective discipline is the road that leads to life… (Proverbs that leads to life… (Proverbs 6:20, 23)6:20, 23)

1. The Weighty Principle1. The Weighty Principle• 28 28 And just as they did not see fit to And just as they did not see fit to

acknowledge God any longer, God acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are mind, to do those things which are not proper, not proper, 29 29 being filled with all being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips, gossips, 30 30 slanderers, haters of slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, inventors of evil, disobedient to disobedient to parentsparents, (Romans 1:28-30), (Romans 1:28-30)

1. The Weighty Principle1. The Weighty Principle• 31 31 without understanding, without understanding,

untrustworthy, unloving, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful; unmerciful; 32 32 and although they and although they know the ordinance of God, that know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice approval to those who practice them. (Romans 1:31-32)them. (Romans 1:31-32)

2. The Parent’s Weighty Position2. The Parent’s Weighty Position• “‘“‘A son honors [A son honors [kavedkaved] his father, ] his father,

and a servant his master. Then if I and a servant his master. Then if I am a father, where is My honor? am a father, where is My honor? And if I am a master, where is My And if I am a master, where is My respect?’ says the LORD of respect?’ says the LORD of hosts…” (Malachi 1:6)hosts…” (Malachi 1:6)

• ““You shall rise up before the You shall rise up before the grayheaded and honor the aged, grayheaded and honor the aged, and you shall revere your God; I and you shall revere your God; I am the LORD.” (Leviticus 19:32)am the LORD.” (Leviticus 19:32)

2. The Parent’s Weighty Position2. The Parent’s Weighty Position• Children, be obedient to your Children, be obedient to your

parents in all things, for this is parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. well-pleasing to the Lord. (Colossians 3:20)(Colossians 3:20)

3. The Wonderful Promise3. The Wonderful Promise• ““Honor your father and your Honor your father and your

mother, that your days may be mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the prolonged in the land which the LORD your God gives you.” LORD your God gives you.” (Exodus 20:12)(Exodus 20:12)

3. The Wonderful Promise3. The Wonderful Promise• 1 1 Children, obey your parents in Children, obey your parents in

the Lord, for this is right. the Lord, for this is right. 2 2 HONOR HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment (which is the first commandment with a promise), with a promise), 3 3 SO THAT IT MAY SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH. (Ephesians 6:1-3)EARTH. (Ephesians 6:1-3)

4. The Weighty Penalty4. The Weighty Penalty• The eye that mocks a father and The eye that mocks a father and

scorns a mother, the ravens of the scorns a mother, the ravens of the valley will pick it out, and the valley will pick it out, and the young eagles will eat it. young eagles will eat it. (Proverbs 30:17)(Proverbs 30:17)

• 15 15 “He who strikes his father or his “He who strikes his father or his mother shall surely be put to mother shall surely be put to death… death… 17 17 He who curses his father He who curses his father or his mother shall surely be put or his mother shall surely be put to death.” (Exodus 21:15, 17) to death.” (Exodus 21:15, 17)

4. The Weighty Penalty4. The Weighty Penalty• 8 8 “You shall keep My statutes and “You shall keep My statutes and

practice them; I am the LORD who practice them; I am the LORD who sanctifies you. sanctifies you. 9 9 If there is anyone If there is anyone who curses his father or his who curses his father or his mother, he shall surely be put to mother, he shall surely be put to death; he has cursed his father or death; he has cursed his father or his mother, his bloodguiltiness is his mother, his bloodguiltiness is upon him.” upon him.” (Leviticus 20:8-9)(Leviticus 20:8-9)

4. The Weighty Penalty4. The Weighty Penalty• 18 18 “If any man has a stubborn and “If any man has a stubborn and

rebellious son who will not obey his father rebellious son who will not obey his father or his mother, and when they chastise him, or his mother, and when they chastise him, he will not even listen to them, he will not even listen to them, 19 19 then his then his father and mother shall seize him, and father and mother shall seize him, and bring him out to the elders of his city at bring him out to the elders of his city at the gateway of his hometown. the gateway of his hometown. 20 20 They shall They shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This son of say to the elders of his city, ‘This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious, he will not ours is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey us, he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ obey us, he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ 21 21

Then all the men of his city shall stone him Then all the men of his city shall stone him to death; so you shall remove the evil from to death; so you shall remove the evil from your midst, and all Israel will hear of it and your midst, and all Israel will hear of it and fear.” (Deuteronomy 21:18-21)fear.” (Deuteronomy 21:18-21)

Putting it into PracticePutting it into Practice• Let your father and your mother Let your father and your mother

be glad, and let her rejoice who be glad, and let her rejoice who gave birth to you. (Proverbs gave birth to you. (Proverbs 23:25)23:25)

• A wise son accepts his father’s A wise son accepts his father’s discipline, but a scoffer does not discipline, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. listen to rebuke. (Proverbs 13:1)(Proverbs 13:1)

5. The Perpetual Principle5. The Perpetual Principle• Listen to your father who begot Listen to your father who begot

you, and do not despise your you, and do not despise your mother when she is old. (Proverbs mother when she is old. (Proverbs 23:22)23:22)

• A wise son makes a father glad, A wise son makes a father glad, but a foolish man despises his but a foolish man despises his mother. (Proverbs 15:20)mother. (Proverbs 15:20)

5. The Perpetual Principle5. The Perpetual Principle• A good man leaves an inheritance A good man leaves an inheritance

to his children’s children. to his children’s children. (Proverbs 13:22)(Proverbs 13:22)

• … … children are not responsible to children are not responsible to save up for their parents, but save up for their parents, but parents for their children. (2 parents for their children. (2 Corinthians 12:14)Corinthians 12:14)

5. The Perpetual Principle5. The Perpetual Principle• 3 3 Honor widows who are widows Honor widows who are widows

indeed; indeed; 4 4 but if any widow has but if any widow has children or grandchildren, they children or grandchildren, they must first learn to practice piety must first learn to practice piety in regard to their own family and in regard to their own family and to make some return to their to make some return to their parents; for this is acceptable in parents; for this is acceptable in the sight of God... (1 Timothy 5:3-the sight of God... (1 Timothy 5:3-4)4)

5. The Perpetual Principle5. The Perpetual Principle• 8 8 But if anyone does not provide for But if anyone does not provide for

his own, and especially for those of his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an faith and is worse than an unbeliever…unbeliever…16 16 If any woman who is If any woman who is a believer has dependent widows, a believer has dependent widows, she must assist themshe must assist them and the and the church must not be burdened, so church must not be burdened, so that it may assist those who are that it may assist those who are widows indeed. widows indeed. (1 Timothy 5:8, 16)(1 Timothy 5:8, 16)

5. The Perpetual Principle5. The Perpetual Principle• 1 1 Then some Pharisees and scribes came Then some Pharisees and scribes came

to Jesus from Jerusalem and said, to Jesus from Jerusalem and said, 2 2

“Why do Your disciples break the “Why do Your disciples break the tradition of the elders? For they do not tradition of the elders? For they do not wash their hands when they eat bread.” wash their hands when they eat bread.” 3 3 And He said to them, “Why do you And He said to them, “Why do you yourselves transgress the yourselves transgress the commandment of God for the sake of commandment of God for the sake of your tradition? your tradition? 4 4 For God said, ‘HONOR For God said, ‘HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER,’ and, ‘HE YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER,’ and, ‘HE WHO SPEAKS EVIL OF FATHER OR WHO SPEAKS EVIL OF FATHER OR MOTHER IS TO BE PUT TO DEATH.’ MOTHER IS TO BE PUT TO DEATH.’ (Matthew 15:1-4)(Matthew 15:1-4)

5. The Perpetual Principle5. The Perpetual Principle• 5 5 But you say, ‘Whoever says to his father But you say, ‘Whoever says to his father

or mother, “Whatever I have that would or mother, “Whatever I have that would help you has been given to God,” help you has been given to God,” 6 6 he is he is not to honor his father or his mother.’ And not to honor his father or his mother.’ And by this you invalidated the word of God for by this you invalidated the word of God for the sake of your tradition. the sake of your tradition. 7 7 You hypocrites, rightly did Isaiah You hypocrites, rightly did Isaiah prophesy of you: prophesy of you: 8 8 ‘THIS PEOPLE HONORS ‘THIS PEOPLE HONORS ME WITH THEIR LIPS, BUT THEIR HEART IS ME WITH THEIR LIPS, BUT THEIR HEART IS FAR AWAY FROM ME. FAR AWAY FROM ME. 9 9 ‘BUT IN VAIN DO ‘BUT IN VAIN DO THEY WORSHIP ME, TEACHING AS THEY WORSHIP ME, TEACHING AS DOCTRINES THE PRECEPTS OF MEN.’” DOCTRINES THE PRECEPTS OF MEN.’” (Matthew 15:5-9)(Matthew 15:5-9)

Exceptions to the Rule?Exceptions to the Rule?• Children, be obedient to your Children, be obedient to your

parents in all things, for this is parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing to the Lord. well-pleasing to the Lord. (Colossians 3:20)(Colossians 3:20)

• ““We must obey God rather than We must obey God rather than men.” men.” (Acts 5:29)(Acts 5:29)

Exceptions to the Rule?Exceptions to the Rule?• 5 5 “…Why then will you sin against “…Why then will you sin against

innocent blood by putting David to innocent blood by putting David to death without a cause?” death without a cause?” 6 6 Saul Saul listened to the voice of Jonathan, listened to the voice of Jonathan, and Saul vowed, “As the LORD lives, and Saul vowed, “As the LORD lives, he shall not be put to death.” he shall not be put to death.” (1 Samuel 19:5-6)(1 Samuel 19:5-6)

• ““He who loves father or mother He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of more than Me is not worthy of Me…” (Matthew 10:37)Me…” (Matthew 10:37)

Exceptions to the Rule?Exceptions to the Rule?• The 5The 5thth commandment requires commandment requires

that I show honor, love, and that I show honor, love, and faithfulness to my father and faithfulness to my father and mother and to all who are set in mother and to all who are set in authority over me; that I submit authority over me; that I submit myself with respectful obedience myself with respectful obedience to all their careful instruction and to all their careful instruction and discipline; and that I also bear discipline; and that I also bear patiently with their failures, since patiently with their failures, since it is God’s will to govern us by it is God’s will to govern us by their hand.” (Answer 104) their hand.” (Answer 104)

Jesus, the obedient SonJesus, the obedient Son• 51 51 And He went down with them And He went down with them

and came to Nazareth, and He and came to Nazareth, and He continued in subjection to themcontinued in subjection to them; ; and His mother treasured all and His mother treasured all these things in her heart. these things in her heart. 52 52 And And Jesus kept increasing in wisdom Jesus kept increasing in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and stature, and in favor with God and men. (Luke 2:51-52)and men. (Luke 2:51-52)

Jesus honored His motherJesus honored His mother• 25 25 …But standing by the cross of …But standing by the cross of

Jesus were His mother, and His Jesus were His mother, and His mother’s sister, Mary the wife of mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. 26 26 When When Jesus then saw His mother, and the Jesus then saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing disciple whom He loved standing nearby, He said to His mother, nearby, He said to His mother, “Woman, behold, your son!” “Woman, behold, your son!” 27 27 Then He said to the disciple, Then He said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother!” From that “Behold, your mother!” From that hour the disciple took her into his hour the disciple took her into his own household. (John 19:25-27)own household. (John 19:25-27)

Jesus redeems our disobedienceJesus redeems our disobedience• Christ redeemed us from the Christ redeemed us from the

curse of the Law, having become a curse of the Law, having become a curse for us—for it is written, curse for us—for it is written, “CURSED IS EVERYONE WHO “CURSED IS EVERYONE WHO HANGS ON A TREE.” (Galatians HANGS ON A TREE.” (Galatians 3:13)3:13)

Gospel-Centered Gospel-Centered Parenting (Part 1)Parenting (Part 1)

Colossians 3:20-21 & Exodus 20:12Colossians 3:20-21 & Exodus 20:12