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© 2012, Lynne Henderson
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Compassionate Social Fitness:
Theory and Practice
Compassionate Social Fitness:
Theory and PracticeLynne Henderson
Shyness InstituteApril 14, 2012
Anxiety Disorders Association of America
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OverviewOverviewSocial Fitness Training: Theory and Practice
Stanford/Palo Alto shyness clinic
Compassion Focused Therapy
Adding a compassion focusFor better self-soothingFor shame vulnerable clientsFor therapists who do individual Social Fitness Training
Compassionate Social Fitness TrainingThe case of Jane
BUT! Be prepared……………………………………………….
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Three Vicious CyclesThree Vicious Cycles
Approach
Fear
Negative predictions
Resentment
Anger
Other-blame
Avoidance
Shame
Self-blame
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What is Social Fitness© ?What is Social Fitness© ?
Social Fitness, like physical fitness, is a state of physiological,
behavioral, emotional, and mental conditioning that implies adaptive functioning and a sense
of well being.
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Social Fitness Training©Social Fitness Training©
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Three Virtuous CyclesThree Virtuous Cycles
Acceptance
Accept fear
Act through emotion
Support self
Accept Efforts
Support
Face fear Accept self Accept others
Support others
Accept others’ efforts
Forgiveness
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Compassion Focused Therapy: GilbertCompassion Focused Therapy: Gilbert
In order for us to be reassured by a thought (say) ‘I am lovable’ this thought needs to link with the emotional experience of ‘being lovable’.
If the positive affect system for such linkage is not activated there is little feeling to the thought.
Compassion focused therapy therefore targets the activation of the soothing system
(with permission, Paul Gilbert)
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Types of Affect Regulator SystemsTypes of Affect Regulator Systems
Incentive/resource- focused
Wanting,pursuing, achieving Activating
Non-wanting/Affiliative focused
Safeness-kindnessSoothing
Threat-focused
Protection and
Safety-seeking
Activating/inhibiting
Anger, anxiety, disgustAnger, anxiety, disgust
Drive, excite, vitalityDrive, excite, vitality Content, safe, Content, safe, connectedconnected
(with permission, Paul Gilbert)
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Basic Philosophy:CFTBasic Philosophy:CFTWe all just find ourselves here with a brain, emotions and
sense of (socially made) self we did not choose but have to figure out.
Life involves dealing with tragedies (threats, losses, diseases, decay, death) and people do the best they can.
Much of what goes on in our minds is not of ‘our design’ and not our fault.
We are all in the same boat
De-pathologising and de-labelling – understanding unique coping processes
(with permission, Paul Gilbert)
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The Need for Compassion in Social Fitness Training
The Need for Compassion in Social Fitness Training
For better self-soothing and emotion regulation For shame vulnerable clientsFor working with individual clients who lack group support
To add direct interventions to build compassion for the self and others, to help clients view shyness and shame not as pathology, but as part of human condition
To add to Mindfulness work (MBSR) – Jon Kabat-Zinn
Henderson, L. (2011). Building social confidence using compassion-focused therapy to overcome shyness and social anxiety. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
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Three Compassionate CyclesThree Compassionate Cycles
Acceptance
Accept fear
Act through emotion
Support self
Self-compassion
Compassion
Face fear Accept self Accept others
Support others
Compassion toward others
Forgiveness
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JaneJane
Bright, attractive young woman in mid-twenties, college graduate, living with parents
Severe APD, socially isolated, TV four hours per day, works at home, attends community college
Shy in elementary school, SAD in middle school
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Caring-Compassionate MindCaring-Compassionate Mind
Imagery
Attention Reasoning
Feeling Behaviour
Sensory
Care for well-being
Sensitivity Sympathy
Distress tolerance
EmpathyNon-Judgement
CompassionCompassion
ATTRIBUTES
SKILLS -TRAININGWarmthWarmth
WarmthWarmth
WarmthWarmth
WarmthWarmth(with permission, Paul Gilbert)
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Compassionate Social Fitness
Compassionate Social Fitness
Behavior and cognition: In session exposures with challenging and modifying unhelpful thoughts; behavioral homework, non-verbal communication (SOFTEN; Gabor, 2001)
Mindfulness: Body scan, breath meditation,
Sensory: Building sensory awareness, locating emotions in body
Distress tolerance: Expressing emotions, tolerating discomfort (SUDS 70+)
Attention: Deliberate focusing of attention
Imagery: Safe place, perfect nurturer, compassionate ideal self
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Doing Better; Feeling WorseDoing Better; Feeling WorseShyQ. 1 - 5 M = 4.3 M = 3.5EOS 1 - 7 M = 5.4 M = 3.6
Most Difficult: Giving Talk Pre PostSAQ-Self-blame 1 – 9 M = 9.0 M = 9.0 SAQ-Shame 0 – 4 M = 3.2 M = 3.2
Second most difficult: Conversation with one person SAQ-Self-blame 1 – 9 M = 9.0 M = 5.0 SAQ-Shame 0 – 4 M = 2.4 M = 3.0
Third most difficult: Asking a question in class SAQ-Self-blame 1 – 9 M = 9.0 M = 5.0 SAQ-Shame 0 – 4 M = 2.4 M = 3.0
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Resistance: Fear of Compassion
Resistance: Fear of Compassion
Remember: Compassion focused therapy targets the activation of the soothing system (to gain positive affect) to connect thoughts with the emotional experience referred to by those thoughts.
Compassion can be threatening. Clients can be afraid of compassion toward the self, from others and for others.
Gilbert, P., McEwen, K., Matos, M., & Rivis, A. (2011). Fears of compassion: Development of three self-report measures. Psychology and Psychotherapy: Theory, Research and Practice 84, 239-255.
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Jane: Fear of Compassion/Self
Jane: Fear of Compassion/Self
Expressing kindness, compassion toward self (rated 4; 0-4)
If I really think about being kind and gentle with myself it makes me sad.
I fear that if I start to feel compassion and warmth for myself, I will feel overcome with a sense of loss/grief.
I fear that if I become too compassionate to myself I will lose my self-criticism and my flaws will show.
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Jane: Fear of Compassion/OthersJane: Fear of Compassion/Others
Responding to compassion from others (rated 4; 0-4)
I’m fearful of becoming dependent because they might not always be available or willing to give it.
If people are friendly and kind I worry they will find out something bad about me that will change their mind.
When people are kind and compassionate towards me I feel empty and sad.
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Countering Resistance to Compassion
Countering Resistance to Compassion
Acknowledging strengths:
Empathy toward her dog, the abandoned student, neighbor, her parents (compassionate sacrifice?)
Continuing to build empathy toward her own distress:
Continuing to normalize shame, encourage self-disclosure, active listening, reflecting emotions, writing exercises (Kristen Neff)
Two chair exercises:
Protective self and the hopeful, trusting self
Self critical self and compassionate self-correcting self
Critical self and empathic self (to her own and others’ distress)
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Three Compassionate CyclesThree Compassionate Cycles
Acceptance
Accept fear
Act through emotion
Support self
Self-compassion
Compassion
Face fear Accept self Accept others
Support others
Compassion toward others
Forgiveness